Ironically, that's a super Buddhist statement. The idea that you would go do a Buddhist meditation with the expectation of gaining something from it is antithetical to what Buddhism is about. I'm not a Buddhist, I don't meditate, but I remember going to a session with my significant other and a bunch of people were like, "how many sessions of this do I have to do before I start getting the effects (depression getting better, anger issues, etc)." They completely missed the point that the whole thing is about self-reflection, or as you said, a breathing exercise.
If you're a mindful and competent person then you probably aren't gaining much from guided meditation. If you're struggling with some stuff then taking 30 min of dedicated time to work through it is probably a good thing. If you're a certain type of Neurodivergent and have trouble focusing, then it's probably something you could do every day.
More importantly, if you're a 3rd century AD monk who has a ton of time on their hands, it's probably not a bad way to spend your time (other spiritual/religious groups would do the same praying)
I don't hate on people wanting to believe in something, but people need to stop believing in scams in general. If you wanna believe in Jesus Christ, that's fine, just don't think you're obligated to give your money to a church that says it's helping the poor when 90% of donations go to keeping the building and pastor in good condition. The fucking gall of a pastor driving a Lexus and having a boat while even a single member of the church is poor is a fucking spit in the face.
Wow, totally not where I was expecting that response to go. Super cool, you basically had the pagan version of a christian to non-christian realization. Wild!
The "for the record" was just to refresh what #2 was since you didn't quote it yourself.
this isn’t really about me, it’s about the general public.... That doesn’t change the fact that they ARE shit candidates. They were then and they are now.
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt here because that's a valid stance (your opinion vs the apparent public opinion) and I'll agree that they are bad candidates. However, by that logic I would argue that #2 isn't the answer then because as you said both are bad candidates and surely Trump is not a better candidate than Hillary or Harris? Would you agree with that?
I love this comment. On one hand I don't hate the idea that this exists and it's an obscure aesthetic thing. If someone wants to make super fancy cocktails then fine, whatever. On the other hand,
“Shut up and drink your whisk(e)y neat like God and the Irish meant it to be consumed. The water is already in it.”
Isn't that a bit hyperbolic? We've had two women run, neither of them were perfect, nor even great, but both of them lost to Donald Trump. It feels a bit weird to say that we haven't had the opportunity to find out if women can win the presidency when the examples are two seasoned politicians vs a self admitted sex offender, convicted rapist, and Israel supporter (instead of just an Israel denialist).
At this point we know that people of color can win, Obama did it, but the last two times a woman ran for President they lost to the same terrible person. At a certain point you have to ask,
1.) is it because they are a woman,
2.) Is it because they're a bad candidate,
3.) Is the system so gerrymandered that they can't win, or
4.) is there something wrong with the left in which they can't get there shit together and push through a candidate that is at least better than the opposition?
The fact that we're honestly looking at a potential 3rd Trump term, or the slightly more palatable option of JD Vance, vs literally anyone else is mind boggling and to me it points to #4. I don't care who it is on the opposing ticket, AOC, Harris, or the fucking Cookie Monster from Sesame Street. The Democrats aren't doing much to improve the country, but at least they aren't actively trying to ruin it.
When it comes to % tips, back in the day the base number was 15%, I personally feel like that isn't enough today. I start with 20% and then deduct for poor service (EDIT: it takes some pretty poor service for me to deduct at all, I would say 95% of the time I leave a 20% tip), I never leave zero tip, but I will leave a bad tip, and if I keep having bad service I just won't come back. I would say my floor for a % tip is 10%. If service is so bad that I wouldn't leave even that, then I have and will stand up and leave early. This is the kind of situation where I ordered a soda, 30 minutes passed, and the waiter never came back. Hey, I'm out, here is $5 for the soda and I'm probably never coming back here.
As to when I % tip, my personal rule is that it's only for seated service which I qualify as the following: Someone seats me, someone comes to the table and takes my order, someone comes to the table to refill drinks and bring my food, and someone comes to clean the table when I leave. If any of these is not happening then I probably am not going to % tip. Did I have to order from a counter, did I have to go get my food, did I have to fill my own drink, did I have to dispose of the waste myself? There are certainly exceptions to this rationale, but I would say 90% of the time it works.
Some area for nuance is fair. If I sat myself, ordered from a counter but a lady brought it out to me, and she filled up my drink, but I threw the tray contents away I might leave her a few bucks if I have cash, but won't feel like I have to. Another good rule is that if you have to pay before the service is completed then I'm not tipping 99% of the time.
hairdresser or anywhere else like that, when the prompt for a tip comes up,
Hairdressers are a bit special and depend on the type. If you're a white man going for a 15 min buzz cut and paid $20, no tip. If you are a black woman with 2 feet of hand braided hair and you are getting your hair done every 3 weeks (unbraid, cut, wash, dry, maybe color?, condition, rebraid), that hair styling is like 4+ hours of work, their fee is probably $300+ and you will probably tip them $50+ easily.
the staff will click “no tip” for you before even handing you the machine.
Hehehehe, in the US sometimes those fuckers will push the 25% before handing it to you. I get feeling bad, but it's important to set rules for what you think is fair and then follow them, even if that means telling them to take the check back and put in a different %. I'll go one better, back in college a group of friends went out and due to our party size the establishment automatically added a 15% tip. One of my friends laughed and told the waiter to take his check back and to redo the tip, the waiter was at first like, "Sorry sir, but our policy is to add 15% to all groups of 8 or more" but my friend said, "No, you were a great waiter and I want to tip you 20%, but you didn't give me any place to do that on this bill."
European wait staff like being payed a living wage without relying on tips. And you can feel the difference. They’re not nearly as stressed out as servers in the US, and the interactions feel more genuine because they don’t need to kowtow or be obsequious.
I think this is a great point and hits on part of the problem. American service staff is a career of delusion, similar to construction. On paper they see they can make X amount of money, but they never do, they don't think they need benefits because they're young and healthy, and they think they will be as fit as they are in their 20's forever but they won't. Construction and service alike are exploitative and they aren't in a healthy place, but withholding tips from the worker doesn't fix that situation and just hurts the employee.
I would say that experiences vary greatly and there are plenty of discerning people who appreciate great coffee. Local coffee shops in the US are plentiful, but we perhaps get a bad reputation because of McDonalds and Starbucks. There is something to be said for just wanting a coffee or espresso right now quickly without too much regard for quality or price, that's where McDonalds and Starbucks reign. Personally, I never order from either because their coffee and espresso is bad IMO. Now, my local coffee joint (which is a local place that operates out of a shack with a drive through) makes great coffee and I always give them a dollar or two.
Oh I understand, but the no tax on tips thing did go through. Through 2028 you can deduct up to $25k in tips. You still have to pay payroll taxes, but you will get them back when you do your taxes.
It's a bit of hyperbole, but it's not too far off of the truth. In the past you only paid taxes on tips you claimed, so if you got all your tips in cash you perhaps didn't claim them all (or maybe just enough to hit the minimum wage). If you got tips on credit or debit card then they were automatically counted. Last year they passed a rule that goes through 2028 in which you can deduct up to $25k of tips from your income. You still have to pay payroll taxes on those tips, but come tax time you can deduct up to $25k and get those taxes back. So if you made $60k including tips, maybe $10k of those tips were in cash, you can deduct $25k for tips and then the standard deduction is another $16k and you don't claim the $10k in cash. $60k - $25k - $16k - $10k = $9k in taxable income.
100% agree and that's why people do give the barista a dollar or two. If your drink was $5 then 20% works out to be about a dollar, but it's different from servers who get 20% on $40. At least in the US, if you frequent somewhere, especially if you are a recognized regular, then you should tip because people will remember it.
Functionally no, there are a handful of restaurants in places like NYC and LA that have tried it, but part of the problem is that the servers want tips as well (you're gonna have a hard time getting rid of something which the people being affected want).
I said this elsewhere, but any job can ask for tips but that doesn't mean they're making the $2 minimum wage. The cashier at McDonalds and the Barista at Starbucks are making minimum wage. In most cities those positions are making more than minimum wage because of market competition (Ziprecruiter says that the average McDonalds employee in Atlanta makes $12/hour, not that that's a living wage either).
People who are making the $2 minimum wage generally make a lot more than that, and more than the McDonalds or Starbucks employee, because of tips. Tips are generally tax free, the positions are low skill, and if you don't like this type of work or pay you'll generally leave pretty quickly so the position is self selecting.
Here's the math for two situations:
1.) You're a bartender at a lunch pub with 12 spots at your bar, your shift is 10 am - 5 pm, you open at 11 and you'll have on average 50% of the spots taken every 30 min. 7hr x 12 spots x 50% x 2 per hour = 72 customers. The average order will be between $15 - $30 with tip being $2.25 - $4.50 or $3.375 average. So 72 customers x $3.375 + $2 x 7 hours = $257/day x 5 days = $1,285 per week on average. Of that, you only pay taxes on $70 worth.
2.) You're a waiter at an Outback Steakhouse, you have 5 tables, your shift is from 3 pm - 10 pm, you're only really getting business from ~4 - 10 pm. During those hours your tables are 3/4 full and flipping every 45 minutes. 5 tables x 6 hours x 0.75 amount full x 3/2 flip rate = 33.75 customers. On average they are spending $50 - $100 each with tips of $7.50 - $15, average $11.25. So 33.75 customers x $11.25 + 7 hrs x $2/hr = $393.68/day x 5 days = $1968.40 per week on average. Again, you're only paying taxes on $70 worth.
Now, here's the catch, this is an average and assumes the location is very successful. You might instead have a Tuesday where it's raining and you made $60 because no one came in, but then Friday the football game is on and you made $500. Maybe this restaurant isn't pulling in customers so you're not getting that kind of traffic. On paper the job can look very appealing, but in practice it typically falls short of those numbers.
Hold up, you're missing some nuance and it's gonna make Europeans in here believe it's true. In the US, any job can collect tips, it's literally free extra money for no extra work so that's why you see the tip option everywhere. That said, not all positions which collect tips get the service industry $2 minimum wage.
Most positions such as barista, hair stylist, etc get paid minimum wage plus they get whatever tips you give pay them. These positions typically get minimum wage because, despite there being a tip option, most people don't tip significantly (hair stylist might depending on the type, but their base fees are already very high). Think of these as your $1 tip category, it's people who you aren't socially obligated to tip, don't expect a tip, get paid at least minimum wage regardless of your tip, and contribute to tip fatigue.
The other tip group are full tip positions, such as waiter or bartender. These positions get $2 an hour unless they fail to get enough tips on average to meet the $7 minimum wage. Realistically, if they aren't getting at least $7 minimum in tips then they are going to leave or get fired long term. These positions you are socially obligated to tip and they expect a tip. Strangely enough, some of the biggest proponents for this tipping position are the people that work in this field, career waiters and bartenders, because despite the very low potential income it also has a fairly high potential income for a low skill job depending on a lot of different factors. This is your percentage tip category.
The $1 tip category won't go away, no matter how annoying it is, because it's literally free money and no one expects you to do it (and if they do feel free to laugh in their face and never give them business again). The % tip category also probably won't go away because it allows the business to shift costs to the customer and the people in the career support it.
You might wonder why people in the % tip category would support it, it's because it's a low technical skill job (hard work only), a lot of the tips are tax free, people who don't like it leave the career, and it often attracts certain types of people (perhaps neurodivergent is the right word, but I really mean the type of people who don't want a 9-5 Mon-Fri job).
As a non-expert, I switched to Linux Mint and have had zero issues. If you have any questions let me know.
Ironically, that's a super Buddhist statement. The idea that you would go do a Buddhist meditation with the expectation of gaining something from it is antithetical to what Buddhism is about. I'm not a Buddhist, I don't meditate, but I remember going to a session with my significant other and a bunch of people were like, "how many sessions of this do I have to do before I start getting the effects (depression getting better, anger issues, etc)." They completely missed the point that the whole thing is about self-reflection, or as you said, a breathing exercise.
If you're a mindful and competent person then you probably aren't gaining much from guided meditation. If you're struggling with some stuff then taking 30 min of dedicated time to work through it is probably a good thing. If you're a certain type of Neurodivergent and have trouble focusing, then it's probably something you could do every day.
More importantly, if you're a 3rd century AD monk who has a ton of time on their hands, it's probably not a bad way to spend your time (other spiritual/religious groups would do the same praying)
Preach!
I don't hate on people wanting to believe in something, but people need to stop believing in scams in general. If you wanna believe in Jesus Christ, that's fine, just don't think you're obligated to give your money to a church that says it's helping the poor when 90% of donations go to keeping the building and pastor in good condition. The fucking gall of a pastor driving a Lexus and having a boat while even a single member of the church is poor is a fucking spit in the face.
Wow, totally not where I was expecting that response to go. Super cool, you basically had the pagan version of a christian to non-christian realization. Wild!
Freshmen year of college is all about maximizing the amount of free stuff you can get, especially food.
Unfortunately we don't need demons, humans are bad enough as is.
Genuine question, no judgement, but why did you spell it Magick in this instance?
The "for the record" was just to refresh what #2 was since you didn't quote it yourself.
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt here because that's a valid stance (your opinion vs the apparent public opinion) and I'll agree that they are bad candidates. However, by that logic I would argue that #2 isn't the answer then because as you said both are bad candidates and surely Trump is not a better candidate than Hillary or Harris? Would you agree with that?
I love this comment. On one hand I don't hate the idea that this exists and it's an obscure aesthetic thing. If someone wants to make super fancy cocktails then fine, whatever. On the other hand,
Love it
Isn't that a bit hyperbolic? We've had two women run, neither of them were perfect, nor even great, but both of them lost to Donald Trump. It feels a bit weird to say that we haven't had the opportunity to find out if women can win the presidency when the examples are two seasoned politicians vs a self admitted sex offender, convicted rapist, and Israel supporter (instead of just an Israel denialist).
At this point we know that people of color can win, Obama did it, but the last two times a woman ran for President they lost to the same terrible person. At a certain point you have to ask,
The fact that we're honestly looking at a potential 3rd Trump term, or the slightly more palatable option of JD Vance, vs literally anyone else is mind boggling and to me it points to #4. I don't care who it is on the opposing ticket, AOC, Harris, or the fucking Cookie Monster from Sesame Street. The Democrats aren't doing much to improve the country, but at least they aren't actively trying to ruin it.
Staff are paid though? I think I'm having trouble with understanding what your specific complaint is? Are you from the US?
When it comes to % tips, back in the day the base number was 15%, I personally feel like that isn't enough today. I start with 20% and then deduct for poor service (EDIT: it takes some pretty poor service for me to deduct at all, I would say 95% of the time I leave a 20% tip), I never leave zero tip, but I will leave a bad tip, and if I keep having bad service I just won't come back. I would say my floor for a % tip is 10%. If service is so bad that I wouldn't leave even that, then I have and will stand up and leave early. This is the kind of situation where I ordered a soda, 30 minutes passed, and the waiter never came back. Hey, I'm out, here is $5 for the soda and I'm probably never coming back here.
As to when I % tip, my personal rule is that it's only for seated service which I qualify as the following: Someone seats me, someone comes to the table and takes my order, someone comes to the table to refill drinks and bring my food, and someone comes to clean the table when I leave. If any of these is not happening then I probably am not going to % tip. Did I have to order from a counter, did I have to go get my food, did I have to fill my own drink, did I have to dispose of the waste myself? There are certainly exceptions to this rationale, but I would say 90% of the time it works.
Some area for nuance is fair. If I sat myself, ordered from a counter but a lady brought it out to me, and she filled up my drink, but I threw the tray contents away I might leave her a few bucks if I have cash, but won't feel like I have to. Another good rule is that if you have to pay before the service is completed then I'm not tipping 99% of the time.
Hairdressers are a bit special and depend on the type. If you're a white man going for a 15 min buzz cut and paid $20, no tip. If you are a black woman with 2 feet of hand braided hair and you are getting your hair done every 3 weeks (unbraid, cut, wash, dry, maybe color?, condition, rebraid), that hair styling is like 4+ hours of work, their fee is probably $300+ and you will probably tip them $50+ easily.
Hehehehe, in the US sometimes those fuckers will push the 25% before handing it to you. I get feeling bad, but it's important to set rules for what you think is fair and then follow them, even if that means telling them to take the check back and put in a different %. I'll go one better, back in college a group of friends went out and due to our party size the establishment automatically added a 15% tip. One of my friends laughed and told the waiter to take his check back and to redo the tip, the waiter was at first like, "Sorry sir, but our policy is to add 15% to all groups of 8 or more" but my friend said, "No, you were a great waiter and I want to tip you 20%, but you didn't give me any place to do that on this bill."
I think this is a great point and hits on part of the problem. American service staff is a career of delusion, similar to construction. On paper they see they can make X amount of money, but they never do, they don't think they need benefits because they're young and healthy, and they think they will be as fit as they are in their 20's forever but they won't. Construction and service alike are exploitative and they aren't in a healthy place, but withholding tips from the worker doesn't fix that situation and just hurts the employee.
I would say that experiences vary greatly and there are plenty of discerning people who appreciate great coffee. Local coffee shops in the US are plentiful, but we perhaps get a bad reputation because of McDonalds and Starbucks. There is something to be said for just wanting a coffee or espresso right now quickly without too much regard for quality or price, that's where McDonalds and Starbucks reign. Personally, I never order from either because their coffee and espresso is bad IMO. Now, my local coffee joint (which is a local place that operates out of a shack with a drive through) makes great coffee and I always give them a dollar or two.
Oh I understand, but the no tax on tips thing did go through. Through 2028 you can deduct up to $25k in tips. You still have to pay payroll taxes, but you will get them back when you do your taxes.
It's a bit of hyperbole, but it's not too far off of the truth. In the past you only paid taxes on tips you claimed, so if you got all your tips in cash you perhaps didn't claim them all (or maybe just enough to hit the minimum wage). If you got tips on credit or debit card then they were automatically counted. Last year they passed a rule that goes through 2028 in which you can deduct up to $25k of tips from your income. You still have to pay payroll taxes on those tips, but come tax time you can deduct up to $25k and get those taxes back. So if you made $60k including tips, maybe $10k of those tips were in cash, you can deduct $25k for tips and then the standard deduction is another $16k and you don't claim the $10k in cash. $60k - $25k - $16k - $10k = $9k in taxable income.
100% agree and that's why people do give the barista a dollar or two. If your drink was $5 then 20% works out to be about a dollar, but it's different from servers who get 20% on $40. At least in the US, if you frequent somewhere, especially if you are a recognized regular, then you should tip because people will remember it.
Functionally no, there are a handful of restaurants in places like NYC and LA that have tried it, but part of the problem is that the servers want tips as well (you're gonna have a hard time getting rid of something which the people being affected want).
I said this elsewhere, but any job can ask for tips but that doesn't mean they're making the $2 minimum wage. The cashier at McDonalds and the Barista at Starbucks are making minimum wage. In most cities those positions are making more than minimum wage because of market competition (Ziprecruiter says that the average McDonalds employee in Atlanta makes $12/hour, not that that's a living wage either).
People who are making the $2 minimum wage generally make a lot more than that, and more than the McDonalds or Starbucks employee, because of tips. Tips are generally tax free, the positions are low skill, and if you don't like this type of work or pay you'll generally leave pretty quickly so the position is self selecting.
Here's the math for two situations: 1.) You're a bartender at a lunch pub with 12 spots at your bar, your shift is 10 am - 5 pm, you open at 11 and you'll have on average 50% of the spots taken every 30 min. 7hr x 12 spots x 50% x 2 per hour = 72 customers. The average order will be between $15 - $30 with tip being $2.25 - $4.50 or $3.375 average. So 72 customers x $3.375 + $2 x 7 hours = $257/day x 5 days = $1,285 per week on average. Of that, you only pay taxes on $70 worth.
2.) You're a waiter at an Outback Steakhouse, you have 5 tables, your shift is from 3 pm - 10 pm, you're only really getting business from ~4 - 10 pm. During those hours your tables are 3/4 full and flipping every 45 minutes. 5 tables x 6 hours x 0.75 amount full x 3/2 flip rate = 33.75 customers. On average they are spending $50 - $100 each with tips of $7.50 - $15, average $11.25. So 33.75 customers x $11.25 + 7 hrs x $2/hr = $393.68/day x 5 days = $1968.40 per week on average. Again, you're only paying taxes on $70 worth.
Now, here's the catch, this is an average and assumes the location is very successful. You might instead have a Tuesday where it's raining and you made $60 because no one came in, but then Friday the football game is on and you made $500. Maybe this restaurant isn't pulling in customers so you're not getting that kind of traffic. On paper the job can look very appealing, but in practice it typically falls short of those numbers.
Nice "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" impression. What's next, the homeless should just stop being homeless?
Hold up, you're missing some nuance and it's gonna make Europeans in here believe it's true. In the US, any job can collect tips, it's literally free extra money for no extra work so that's why you see the tip option everywhere. That said, not all positions which collect tips get the service industry $2 minimum wage.
Most positions such as barista, hair stylist, etc get paid minimum wage plus they get whatever tips you give pay them. These positions typically get minimum wage because, despite there being a tip option, most people don't tip significantly (hair stylist might depending on the type, but their base fees are already very high). Think of these as your $1 tip category, it's people who you aren't socially obligated to tip, don't expect a tip, get paid at least minimum wage regardless of your tip, and contribute to tip fatigue.
The other tip group are full tip positions, such as waiter or bartender. These positions get $2 an hour unless they fail to get enough tips on average to meet the $7 minimum wage. Realistically, if they aren't getting at least $7 minimum in tips then they are going to leave or get fired long term. These positions you are socially obligated to tip and they expect a tip. Strangely enough, some of the biggest proponents for this tipping position are the people that work in this field, career waiters and bartenders, because despite the very low potential income it also has a fairly high potential income for a low skill job depending on a lot of different factors. This is your percentage tip category.
The $1 tip category won't go away, no matter how annoying it is, because it's literally free money and no one expects you to do it (and if they do feel free to laugh in their face and never give them business again). The % tip category also probably won't go away because it allows the business to shift costs to the customer and the people in the career support it.
You might wonder why people in the % tip category would support it, it's because it's a low technical skill job (hard work only), a lot of the tips are tax free, people who don't like it leave the career, and it often attracts certain types of people (perhaps neurodivergent is the right word, but I really mean the type of people who don't want a 9-5 Mon-Fri job).