I remember a friend of mine told me that the goto backhanded compliment gay men have for women is "she's really pretty," as in, "I can't think of other redeeming qualities she has" lol
I've seen a lot of mutual aid requests on the Mastodon instance I'm on (kolektiva.social), including many trans women, it would be good to help support some gals there if you're able
Not impossible to get by, but a lot more difficult in the modern world. I used a dumb phone for a little while a few years ago and I just ended up carrying a smartphone w/o a SIM to tether when needed bc of how much infrastructure assumes you have a smartphone nowadays (in the US at least). It's infuriating - not impossible, but a lot more difficult than it used to be.
When I moved from the Midwest to Washington state I remember looking at the mountains from the parking lit at work and being in awe. My coworker who grew up there was just like "I guess I'm just used to it, I forget that they're there."
I think people can used to a lot. Even in my current city I've gotten used to the skyscrapers and have to remind myself to appreciate them occasionally. For reference my hometown doesn't have a building taller than 3 stories.
Back when my dreams were more vivid, yes I regularly dreamed of my body matching my gender. I remember waking up as a young kid and being depressed when I realized that it was a dream. So before, during, and this far (15+ years) into my transition I would say yes. My dreams nowadays are way more nebulous than they used to be, but I do occasionally have dreams where I feel more in line with my body, I don't remember specifics though just that I feel far more at peace with it.
Kinda depends imo. Would it be helpful to be able to use them as a reference/let them be called when applying to future jobs? You most likely want to give them the notice, especially if the current place is a stepping stone in your career or you have been at the current job for a while. Have you been there 2 months getting the brunt of abuse and not getting anything other than a paycheck? Call it a wash and leave it off the resume, fuck them.
As much as I wish we could treat companies as poorly as they treat us, the reality is that we all have lives to live and it can fuck our personal lives to live our values 100% of the time, as much as it sucks to navigate our system. That's why unions are strong, we have strength in numbers. When we're acting individually though, they hold the power.
So if you need to job hop realistically it's probably better for your prospects to play it safe and do the "proper" thing. Making a stance by setting your future prospects on fire is a dangerous move to you personally that probably won't further the cause toward an equitable workplace. Being able to leave a bad work environment for a better one (possibly unionized even), is the better choice, and if playing the employer's game is the best way to get to greener pastures then I would give notice and all that junk.
Even if you have the next job lined up, you still have to think about how it will look to the new employer if they know your current job and see that you aren't giving notice. They might not take that well and recind the offer (which may be illegal depending, but when has that stopped a company from doing something). It's a stupid game that we shouldn't have to play, but I think you should always weigh your options so you don't mess up your own livelihood. No sense in being a martyr if it won't help the cause.
I was going to say it's definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I've often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like "mom" and "mama" or "dad" and "papa".
With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I've met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still "dad" to her kids because her role as a dad didn't invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I've known nonbinary folk who have kept "mom" or "dad" after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like "babi"). I've also heard people just using a diminutive of they're name, like rather than the kid saying "my parent, Sam" it becomes "my Sammy".
The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!
Yeah, it'll give me one of these screens with most mullvad servers. I don't really interact on reddit anymore so I refuse to log in even with a throwaway (on my phone at least). Maybe there's something to it, maybe it's my own silly little battle against rude web design 😅
I just got Mullvad again and the main site I get flagged on is reddit. Which I wouldn't care but the state of search is so abysmal that I still regularly have to query reddit to find what I'm actually looking for (for some types of info anyway). It's fine though, there's some mullvad servers that haven't been flagged yet so I just server hop as needed. Less convenient, but not terrible
Thought this was a transition timeline for a split second
I mean, if you don't id as a woman then there's no reverse about it, that's just going to be gender dysphoria lol
I remember a friend of mine told me that the goto backhanded compliment gay men have for women is "she's really pretty," as in, "I can't think of other redeeming qualities she has" lol
I've seen a lot of mutual aid requests on the Mastodon instance I'm on (kolektiva.social), including many trans women, it would be good to help support some gals there if you're able
Not impossible to get by, but a lot more difficult in the modern world. I used a dumb phone for a little while a few years ago and I just ended up carrying a smartphone w/o a SIM to tether when needed bc of how much infrastructure assumes you have a smartphone nowadays (in the US at least). It's infuriating - not impossible, but a lot more difficult than it used to be.
When I moved from the Midwest to Washington state I remember looking at the mountains from the parking lit at work and being in awe. My coworker who grew up there was just like "I guess I'm just used to it, I forget that they're there."
I think people can used to a lot. Even in my current city I've gotten used to the skyscrapers and have to remind myself to appreciate them occasionally. For reference my hometown doesn't have a building taller than 3 stories.
Back when my dreams were more vivid, yes I regularly dreamed of my body matching my gender. I remember waking up as a young kid and being depressed when I realized that it was a dream. So before, during, and this far (15+ years) into my transition I would say yes. My dreams nowadays are way more nebulous than they used to be, but I do occasionally have dreams where I feel more in line with my body, I don't remember specifics though just that I feel far more at peace with it.
Kinda depends imo. Would it be helpful to be able to use them as a reference/let them be called when applying to future jobs? You most likely want to give them the notice, especially if the current place is a stepping stone in your career or you have been at the current job for a while. Have you been there 2 months getting the brunt of abuse and not getting anything other than a paycheck? Call it a wash and leave it off the resume, fuck them.
As much as I wish we could treat companies as poorly as they treat us, the reality is that we all have lives to live and it can fuck our personal lives to live our values 100% of the time, as much as it sucks to navigate our system. That's why unions are strong, we have strength in numbers. When we're acting individually though, they hold the power.
So if you need to job hop realistically it's probably better for your prospects to play it safe and do the "proper" thing. Making a stance by setting your future prospects on fire is a dangerous move to you personally that probably won't further the cause toward an equitable workplace. Being able to leave a bad work environment for a better one (possibly unionized even), is the better choice, and if playing the employer's game is the best way to get to greener pastures then I would give notice and all that junk.
Even if you have the next job lined up, you still have to think about how it will look to the new employer if they know your current job and see that you aren't giving notice. They might not take that well and recind the offer (which may be illegal depending, but when has that stopped a company from doing something). It's a stupid game that we shouldn't have to play, but I think you should always weigh your options so you don't mess up your own livelihood. No sense in being a martyr if it won't help the cause.
Gamers have risen up
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Pilot the EVA, kitty, or puppy will have to do it again
Gargle my dick and balls I'm working at Greyhound
Unfortunately a three bedroom still costs $2000, I don't understand it either
Only one party does that lol
I was going to say it's definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I've often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like "mom" and "mama" or "dad" and "papa".
With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I've met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still "dad" to her kids because her role as a dad didn't invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I've known nonbinary folk who have kept "mom" or "dad" after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like "babi"). I've also heard people just using a diminutive of they're name, like rather than the kid saying "my parent, Sam" it becomes "my Sammy".
The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!
Interesting, I'll have to try that out!
Yeah, it'll give me one of these screens with most mullvad servers. I don't really interact on reddit anymore so I refuse to log in even with a throwaway (on my phone at least). Maybe there's something to it, maybe it's my own silly little battle against rude web design 😅
Need some R&R, so I'm using my PTO to take a grippy sock vacation 😌
I just got Mullvad again and the main site I get flagged on is reddit. Which I wouldn't care but the state of search is so abysmal that I still regularly have to query reddit to find what I'm actually looking for (for some types of info anyway). It's fine though, there's some mullvad servers that haven't been flagged yet so I just server hop as needed. Less convenient, but not terrible
Hold onto it, farthings are already gone, so once they get rid of pennies you'll have to "upgrade" to a Dime Nickel :P