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I think you are misapplying the principle of "words are how you use them" here; "his husband" is used not-infrequently and is grammatically valid to any English speaker. There is nothing to correct in the original text.

What this is using, however, is statistical frequency of use, which is a different thing altogether. And you know what relies on statistical frequency of language like this? LLMs.

English is full of words and phrases that have secondary meanings, and even obscure or contextual meanings that are real and correct! We cannot cede less popular language choices to AI spellcheck or we lose our own voices and experiences. Acknowledging that gay people exist is a tiny microcosm of this, but it's important in many other ways too.

No one needs to justify their existence. Existence is valuable in and of itself, not derived from what you can do or be or experience.

"In the same way that your heart feels and your mind thinks, you, mortal beings, are the instrument by which the universe cares. If you choose to care, then the universe cares. If you don’t, it doesn't."

on Rule · c/onehundredninetysix · 7 pts · 22d

Also it aired at the same time as the 2020 US presidential election, so the meme wires got crossed and people were using it to announce electoral results too, transforming it into a news announcement meme generally

The framing on this issue has been a little weird, so to be clear, Seattle is a great place for trans people to relocate if out of the country isn't an option. The resources to make a move to Seattle accessable to lower income trans people is what is at stake here! So the state of emergency opening up funds would be really crucial to the small network of trans nonprofits who are spread thin. In the meantime, donating money or time to these nonprofits goes a long way!

on Big difference... · c/womensstuff · 2 pts · 31d

Not uncontroversial in some spaces, but I have heard some trans masc folks describe that intersection as transandrophobia to distinguish it from misandry.

on understand thy enemy · c/lemmyshitpost · 26 pts · 64d

Once upon a time when the internet was small and niche, this may have been true. Now, it's a firehose of information that is constantly available in your pocket. It's healthy to curate that space to reflect your interests in your precious little time on earth. If you want to pop your bubble so badly, go out and talk to people! Make real connections instead of falling for engagement bait online that only leaves you frustrated and isolated.

You're not incorrect to feel that way, but for context, this is a republican primary. The only people voting for this are the ones without enough shame to have changed their party affiliation in the past 1-10 years, so there's definitely a sampling bias in these specific results. We won't know what the rest of the voters want until November.

on Anyone found similar? · c/womensstuff · 7 pts · 69d

I think that's a reasonable approach! This community specifically asks men not to comment or post so it'd be great if they decided to listen like that instead!

on Anyone found similar? · c/womensstuff · 47 pts · 69d

And we see no irony in going into a women-only community, making assumptions about how a woman speaks, and telling her to try talking less?

I think you are willfully misinterpreting me if you think I'm implying that. Radfem is specifically used by TERFs, yes. Terrible people appropriate neutral or positive terms to make themselves sound better all the time. Understanding specific contexts where those appropriations are used to signal bad faith usage is important so you don't end up platforming TERFs and Nazis, reasonable enough?

Sure, but that's how they choose to label themselves. Like the same way Nazis weren't socialist but they stuck it in their name (and then persecuted the socialists). Being suspicious of people using the label "radfem" is normal since anyone who is actually radical about feminism in a non-transphobic way would use a different label to avoid association with TERFs.

Besides disagreeing with the conclusion, I'm deeply suspicious of accounts with "radfem" in the name since that's what TERFs like to call themselves.

The one thing they don't tell you is that you don't have to do everything at once, come out to everyone at the same time, etc. Do what feels right for you! There's not a wrong answer unless it's something that doesn't work for you for whatever reason.

You can change your online persona well before your irl. You can have a handful of besties who use your name and pronouns before everyone else. You can come out and ask everyone to respect your new name and never even go on hormones; you can use the mood boost from starting HRT to propel you forward socially!

No one's journey is identical, and that's okay. Don't feel bad for taking the time you need, but don't delay something wonderful for the sake of other people either. You've got this!