I didn't do the fist thing. I rolled in one of those "next customer" counter things instead and every time I was interrupted hit a button. That was fun!
It wasn't a meeting. It was a presentation. I think it hit 26 before someone figured out what I was doing (I didn't tell them what I was doing) and they started listening instead of talking.
Yes. I did this at a less formal meeting, not with a fist but a middle finger. When I keep count it just gets depressing.
One time I was supposed to argue a position when the guy cut me off before I could get a single sentence in, multiple times, then asked why I hadn't prepared any statements.
After decades of being interrupted and talked over, it beat me down to the point I had to take it constructively & accept my role in conversations. Best to keep my mouth shut unless directly addressed. 🤷🏼♀️
I confess I'm a woman who became interested in the community "Dull Men's Club" because sometimes people just wanna post mundane photos & talk about mundane things, but for some reason it's a "men's club" so I'd lurk without posting or commenting. Then a few weeks later I found the "Dullsters" community which is probably a better fit. 😄
I think that's a reasonable approach! This community specifically asks men not to comment or post so it'd be great if they decided to listen like that instead!
Seems logical since only obnoxious people disregard rules in life. And unfortunate they're the ones we hear the most because they're the ones who make themselves heard.
What happens to men who post here has been well documented. There have been hundreds of good peer reviewed studies with large sample sizes that all show exactly what happens. This is not an area that needs further study.
The upvotes we see on this shit show how many guys let us and our comm live rent free in their heads. Rather chivalrous in the current economic climate
Blahaj blocks downvotes. Many of the regulars here cannot downvote, or see downvote counts. I don't think downvotes particularly meaningful here for that reason.
37 Comments
hayvan@piefed.world · 114 pts · 91d
I thought she chaired Magic the Gathering at work. Either way, good for her!
Hellstormy@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 15 pts · 91d
What is a mtg?
Quadrexium@sopuli.xyz · 22 pts · 91d
meeting? probably
Hellstormy@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 8 pts · 91d
Ahhh, I thought it was the abbreviation for some kind of special meeting
axexrx@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 91d
To Be fair, Comander does tend to lead to people talking over eachother.
Tiresia@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 91d
They're actually playing with 5th edition rules.
harmbugler@piefed.social · 2 pts · 91d
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 45 pts · 91d
I didn't do the fist thing. I rolled in one of those "next customer" counter things instead and every time I was interrupted hit a button. That was fun!
hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 91d
Out of interest, what was the count at the end of the meeting?
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 30 pts · 91d
It wasn't a meeting. It was a presentation. I think it hit 26 before someone figured out what I was doing (I didn't tell them what I was doing) and they started listening instead of talking.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 11 pts · 91d
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 6 pts · 90d
I was asked very nicely by my boss not to do that again, though. 🤣
Taleya@aussie.zone · 32 pts · 91d
I just talk over the top of them. They get wonderfully pissed off when I do
lemmy_get_my_coat@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 91d
You're talking about the men, right?
Taleya@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 91d
What an odd question to ask in context.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 30 pts · 91d
I just talked through them instead. "Did I stutter?"
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 90d
Even that's no excuse
Wren@lemmy.today · 24 pts · 91d
Yes. I did this at a less formal meeting, not with a fist but a middle finger. When I keep count it just gets depressing.
One time I was supposed to argue a position when the guy cut me off before I could get a single sentence in, multiple times, then asked why I hadn't prepared any statements.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 13 pts · 91d
After decades of being interrupted and talked over, it beat me down to the point I had to take it constructively & accept my role in conversations. Best to keep my mouth shut unless directly addressed. 🤷🏼♀️
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 11 pts · 91d
Skyrmir@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 91d
Only speak one sentence at a time, and repeat the experiment.
growsomethinggood@reddthat.com · 47 pts · 91d
And we see no irony in going into a women-only community, making assumptions about how a woman speaks, and telling her to try talking less?
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 11 pts · 91d
I confess I'm a woman who became interested in the community "Dull Men's Club" because sometimes people just wanna post mundane photos & talk about mundane things, but for some reason it's a "men's club" so I'd lurk without posting or commenting. Then a few weeks later I found the "Dullsters" community which is probably a better fit. 😄
growsomethinggood@reddthat.com · 7 pts · 91d
I think that's a reasonable approach! This community specifically asks men not to comment or post so it'd be great if they decided to listen like that instead!
Wren@lemmy.today · 11 pts · 91d
It's unfortunate we only see the obnoxious dudes. I bet there are wonderful people listening on the sidelines, respecting our space.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 91d
Seems logical since only obnoxious people disregard rules in life. And unfortunate they're the ones we hear the most because they're the ones who make themselves heard.
trolololol@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 91d
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Skyrmir@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 91d
Science knows no bounds.
hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 91d
What happens to men who post here has been well documented. There have been hundreds of good peer reviewed studies with large sample sizes that all show exactly what happens. This is not an area that needs further study.
Wren@lemmy.today · 28 pts · 91d
Oh hey, another dude barging into a women's space to tell us to shut up. Did you not like the picture because you're in it?
Taleya@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 91d
The upvotes we see on this shit show how many guys let us and our comm live rent free in their heads. Rather chivalrous in the current economic climate
Wren@lemmy.today · 9 pts · 91d
No kidding, probably the same ones who call us misandrist. I'm surprised to not see many downvotes on them.
hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 91d
Blahaj blocks downvotes. Many of the regulars here cannot downvote, or see downvote counts. I don't think downvotes particularly meaningful here for that reason.
Wren@lemmy.today · 5 pts · 91d
That's fair. My downvotes are rare and meaningful to me.
ValiantDust@feddit.org · 11 pts · 91d
Okay.
ValiantDust@feddit.org · 11 pts · 91d
You mean like this?
ValiantDust@feddit.org · 12 pts · 91d
I think this would make a meeting very tedious.
ValiantDust@feddit.org · 14 pts · 91d
Imagine someone explaining a complex topic in single sentences with pauses in between.
ValiantDust@feddit.org · 14 pts · 91d
Is that what you meant?
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 90d
It would be more revealing to repeat the experiment with an equally verbose man.