lady_maria

u/lady_maria@lemmy.world
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on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 4 pts · 189d

What an incredible game. I went in totally blind so I had no idea what to expect. I definitely did NOT expect to love the actual card game itself as much as I did. It opened my mind up to trying other card games.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 3 pts · 189d

Yeah I was similarly VERY skeptical by the premise but was pleasantly surprised when I discovered what was actually going on.

misc tips:

Make sure to turn your graphic T-shirts/hoodies/whatever inside out; zip up all the zippers; button all buttons.

If you have a dryer, don't forget to empty the lint tray.

on a drawing I made · c/pics · 2 pts · 203d

That looks amazing! Is it in graphite? Pen? It's hard to tell. Lol

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/memes · 29 pts · 330d

my interpretation, at least:

the trap is the government (the US' in this example, perhaps) promising freedom of speech/unlawful search and seizure; but then terrorizing and inflicting violence upon those whose opinions they disagree with, but much more regularly and openly.

Those trapped think they are protected from such retaliation because they have ignored/permitted/trivialized the systemic violence against marginalized groups that has been prevalent for centuries. They ignore the signs of their country's propensity for fascism, and its intentional increase of brazenly hateful rhetoric and policies.

But they are by no means exempt, and many won't realize that until it's too late.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 1 pts · 1y

Your question is a little unclear.

If you're talking about a debate, or needing to approach someone about something, it's best to go in as prepared as possible and address any new arguments as they come.

However, the other person has to feel like they're being heard, understood, and (often) validated in some form—even if it's not completely genuine—if there is ever a chance of getting them to change their mind.

If this is a personal (or professional) conflict, though, be careful. To some people, it doesn't matter what you say or how you say it, even if they're in the wrong.

on TSSD · c/adhd · 25 pts · 1y

you forgot these hits:

  • Oops! I Did it Again??? (running into things so often that you're constantly finding bruises you don't remember getting)
  • Analysis Paralysis
  • Justice Sensitivity (it totally helps to live in a fascist state)
  • Having Mental Breakdowns Over Trivialities Disorder✨️
    • Hard mode: surprise, PMS too! fuck you loser lol

yeah, you're the asshole. Kind of. Though in the grand scheme of things, there are farrrrrrrr worse things you could've done.

The following is going to sound harsh. It may or may not be true; I don't know you, you're young (or at least I really hope so), and everyone has the ability to change, anyway. But I think it might be helpful for me to explain the impression that you MAY have given her.

You asking her out before actually getting to know her (presumably, since you just met) communicates to her that you didn't care to. That you are more interested in what you can get from her than in her as a person. That you jumped to considering a romantic relationship before even considering a friendship. And that you're primarily seeking sex and/or relief from your lonliness, not spending time with her because you genuinely like her and want to know more about her.

I understand the loneliness, truly. I know it's really really fucking painful. But please hang in there. This will get way easier over time, as long as you're honest, gracious, and accountable to yourself and others.

There are so many lessons we all have to learn one way or another. Don't be hard on yourself.