persona_non_gravitas

u/persona_non_gravitas@piefed.social
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Yeah. I didn't think a diagnosis would change as much as it did; I knew I was a scatterbrained introvert, thought I'd made peace with it and found ways to cope. But suddenly with the ADHD+ASD diagnoses, I began to really notice the things that annoyed/drained me. Or, allowed myself to notice.

I don't think I'm less sociable or more exhausted, per se. I just gave myself permission to function on my terms, which includes (but is not limited to) getting irritated by things that I used to not admit to myself irritated me, be a little bit less of a people-pleaser, not ashamed of my excitability, and admit exhaustion in the face of things that "shouldn't" be so exhausting.

In retrospect, it's insane that many people have internalised that medical permission is needed to admit they function better in a personalized (physical/social/cognitive/etc) environment.

Agreed in principle, however in practice great wealth/income inequalities tend to compound.

Wealth and political spending bleeds into decision-making, leading to policies that benefit the wealthy at the expense of the less so.

"Excess wealth" tend to disappear from 'Main Street' and the kind of normal circulation that directly generates +life_quality, into Wall Street circlejerks.

"Excess wealth" also tends to seek safe harbor in concrete assets. Every investor tilts eg. the supply and demand of housing a bit more into the demand side, which leads to rising costs for people wanting to buy a house to own, since the supply of good lots can't increase as much.

Depends entirely on how complicated your income/expenditure is. This year was the first time in 10 years or more that I needed to add to my pre-filled tax notice (major reno, deductions worth it). I may have missed out on a few hundred € of deductions in that time, but my simple life has always been listed immediately correct: Income from work done in the country, benefits, voluntary retirement insurance, stocks&funds wins, losses, dividends. Finland.

So we agree?

Pure, refined NaCl tastes the same as pure, refined NaCl with that amount of iodine added.

Smoked salt tastes the same as smoked salt with that amount of iodine added (if such exists?)

Fleur de sel would taste the same as fleur de sel with that amount of iodine added, if someone would make such a thing.

?

I prefer lovage salt to pure salt for lots of purposes too, that's got nothing to do with anything iodine.

on oh no · c/science_memes · 2 pts · 134d

I'm not defending AI consciousness/sentience (however we define them), but IMHO your arguments aren't particularly relevant/convincing. Why couldn't consciousness exist in brief flashes? Isn't the "would it even be the same consciousness" same as any sci-fi "clone with identical memories" thought experiment: if a LLM were conscious then each conversation history would be a "self". And yes, it would be in some vague state of death/hibernation/non-existance when not propmpted.

Necessary background: When we started dating, both the husband and me were homebodies. As the years have gone by, I've developed a taste for going out and experiencing stuff, especially music stuff, that doesn't even match his taste. Nonetheless I tend to ask him to come along, and he categorigally says no.

He gave me the gift of coming with me to one event of my choosing, per month, for a year. ❤ It was wonderful.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 24 pts · 159d

I'm still acquaintances with someone I now know killed one of their parents. Was told by someone else and confirmed on my own, he hasn't mentioned it.

I hope I haven't let it impact our relationship. I don't wholly know the context and he served his time, should be allowed a fresh start without it being dug up again and again.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 23 pts · 203d

"What are you looking for in a relationship/partner" and "how do you feel about having children" are, like, the top two questions people (should) want to know on a first date. Framing them as "tests" rather than "basic stuff the people need to naturally agree on for a relationship to work" is rather gross.

I'd add general lifestyle/attitude towards money and saving, and political engagement in the "may get arrested for civil disobedience for a cause" sense.

on Car dependency ≠ Freedom · c/fuckcars · 5 pts · 206d

I like being free to cheap out on transportation and then be able to splurge elsewhere (in my case, fancy tea and opera).

Someone else of my income would prefer the convenience and cost of their own car, and then skip the other luxuries.

Either way, having the option = more freedom.

on Graphene vs /e/ os · c/privacy · 3 pts · 208d

Is it only Graphene? I vaguely recall having had it on DivestOS (RIP), which was a Lineage fork.

Edit: Any app, duh, yes, silly me. Don't remember if it was possible for all of them.

on Graphene vs /e/ os · c/privacy · 17 pts · 208d

IMHO if you only care about Google sucking your data and not other privacy/security, the most important question isn't between OSes as much as it's between:

  1. No Google apps (GAPPS); honestly good ol' LineageOS is just fine. If you don't install Google spyware you don't have Google spyware, just the connectivity check and dns. Which you can probably change. Major con, many applications installed from Play store (through Aurora store, apk, whatever) and practically all notifications you'd receive from them stop working.

  2. MicroG; open source GAPPS replacement that tries to send as little data as possible to Google, while keeping Play store apps & push notifications working. /e/, iodé, Lineage for MicroG, Lineage but add microG manually during installation, formerly CalyxOS...

  3. Add GAPPS but try to handicap it somehow (incl. GrapheneOS work profile isolation); I don't remember if it's eg. possible to block them from accessing the Internet on non-GrapheneOS phones, by app permissions or eg. NetGuard?

If we're taking into account other privacy and security, then GrapheneOS by a mile.

I blame that the world, especially work, is more unforgiving of ADHD traits. Scatterbrained-ness isn't as much of a deal in agriculture (where you usually can course-correct in time, I'd imagine) or monotonous factory repetition (of course it probably really sucks for ADHD-Hs for... well... monotonous repetition), but definitely is in an office environment. Also so many things now prey on your attention in constantly developing ways (all the ads trying to sell you things, just about every online service, streaming services, social media) that it scrambles even NT peoples' brains, so of course it only makes it harder for ADHDers.