The honest one. And if that doesn't go down well, get the hell out of there. Just being asked is already a massive red flag and I doubt things would be lasting much longer from my side of things.

VirtualOdour@sh.itjust.works · 18 pts · 2y (1 reply)

Yeah, I don't think being asked is a problem in the context of conversation but if it's a trap kinda question then you need to be talking about her insecurity not her hot friends

intensely_human@lemm.ee · 4 pts · 2y

Actually you just need to be giving completely honest answers. If she can just handle them without issue then she doesn’t have much insecurity, just curiosity.

AlecSadler@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 2y

Seriously. My wife asks me if random people are objectively attractive or hot or whatever all the time, it's basically just conversation fluff. It doesn't matter how I answer because she isn't jealous or anything, again, just conversation fluff.

Well, sometimes it matters if I say, "no that person is really weird looking" and she's like, "whaaaat why?". But then it's just funny.

southsamurai@sh.itjust.works · 38 pts · 2y (7 replies)

"Not as hot as you, obviously."

0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works · 17 pts · 2y (4 replies)

Her friend is Megan Fox...

Lemminary@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 2y

*clears throat* I said not as cute as her.

livus@kbin.social · 12 pts · 2y

That's when you throw in "I mean I can see why you'd think so if you like that sort of thing".

Vespair@lemm.ee · 11 pts · 2y (1 reply)

My friend, have you seen Megan Fox lately?

It might be time to update your reference for hotness

0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 2y

Yeah 😬... I'd say I have to... thanks for the update.

ivanafterall@kbin.social · 11 pts · 2y (1 reply)

Careful how you deliver that "obviously."

elxeno@lemm.ee · 2 pts · 2y

obviously

Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca · 32 pts · 2y (5 replies)

I'd say not to waste your time on girls who play these kinds of games. That's a weird question to ask your S.O. no matter how you swing it.

EvolvedTurtle@lemmy.world · 22 pts · 2y (3 replies)

Not always My gf is bi and will actively send me pictures of models of characters calling them hot and asking if I think they are It's pretty nice to have a gf that you can actively call people hot too

Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 2y (1 reply)

I suppose I didn't consider swinging it from that angle.

radicalautonomy@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 2y

You could swing it into a reflex angle by considering that such a question is quite normal in polyamory (not ~~throuples~~ triads specifically). I tend to date women who are bi or pan, and we'll regularly bring up people we find attractive. Hell, I had a partner go up to a bartender to give her number to her once while we were out on a date. It made me smile to see her shoot her shot like that!

Sombyr@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 2y

I'm bi and every relationship I've had was like this. Drooling over people and characters together is just something I like to do in relationships. It's a fun bonding activity. Plus it's weirdly good for my self confidence for somebody to be drooling over somebody else who even I know is hot as fuck but they still clearly want to be with me more.

MentallyExhausted@reddthat.com · 6 pts · 2y

In my unfortunate experience, chicks who are jealous and play these games will also cheat on you.

Hikermick@lemmy.world · 26 pts · 2y (1 reply)

My wife asked me if I thought an actress on television was pretty, I simply told her they don't put ugly people on tv

0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 2y

Also safe AF 👍.

From my experince, any answer that doesn't directly confirm or deny is a safe answer.

NorthWestWind@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 2y (4 replies)

Use Kelvin and everything is hot

0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 2y (2 replies)

Extremely!

Hupf@feddit.de · 16 pts · 2y (1 reply)