If your local town zoning forbids you from building detached accessory buildings accessory dwelling units for having your nephew live in, change the fucking zoning. Community is facilitated by convenience, and living within a stone's throw from loved ones is great way to build community.
That is happening in some places. Accessory dwelling units (the term of art in planning and zoning worlds) are being allowed more and more. Things change slowly in the urban planning and zoning world, though.
The greatest joy that money can't replicate is a big potluck dinner at someone's home with friends. No expectations, no food judgment, just a chance to hang out and not be expected to spend $100 at a restaurant you don't like.
Yes! I'm not crazy. All the liberal spaces have been slowly disappearing and it feels like they're being taken over every time under the guise of capitalism. I'm not one to call a conspiracy, but...
Aww, I didn't know that about OKC. I met my wife on there in 2015, married in 2017, and had our first kid in 2019. Of all the dating sites, it was the best for weeding out what I wanted in a partner. I hate capitalism even more now.
What exactly am I supposed to do? Capitalism has killed any public spaces where capitalism isnt the primary purpose. This is a societal problem caused by capitalism and cannot be fixed on an individual level.
This is the difference between the individual and the systemic. Sure, the system is putting pressures that make the past of least resistance to be friendless and alone. But you have the power to fight that, and if you want your life to be better, you absolutely must. I believe in you
I believe capitalism is the problem, and should be replaced by a retroactively-estimating value-production reward-system. Only the economy is overhauled, not society.
Because you're making the claim that capitalism inherently leads to loneliness.
If there are capitalist societies that aren't lonely then that would indicate that capitalism does not inherently lead to loneliness, or that there are other factors that can address loneliness that are more powerful than capitalism.
It is by design, but unless you wanna rot in your basement until you expire, it's up to you to defy the pushes of the system to complacency. Going out and making some friends with a common interest immediately improves your life.
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Liz@midwest.social · 25 pts · 359d
If your local town zoning forbids you from building
detached accessory buildingsaccessory dwelling units for having your nephew live in, change the fucking zoning. Community is facilitated by convenience, and living within a stone's throw from loved ones is great way to build community.porksnort@slrpnk.net · 5 pts · 358d
That is happening in some places. Accessory dwelling units (the term of art in planning and zoning worlds) are being allowed more and more. Things change slowly in the urban planning and zoning world, though.
hansolo@lemmy.today · 22 pts · 358d
The greatest joy that money can't replicate is a big potluck dinner at someone's home with friends. No expectations, no food judgment, just a chance to hang out and not be expected to spend $100 at a restaurant you don't like.
Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 359d
Consider the destruction of OkCupid as an attack against its liberal-skewed user base.
https://lemmy.world/post/24108120
Quora's enshittification has that vibe too.
Twitter.
Lemminary@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 358d
Yes! I'm not crazy. All the liberal spaces have been slowly disappearing and it feels like they're being taken over every time under the guise of capitalism. I'm not one to call a conspiracy, but...
zarkanian@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 355d
You don't need a conspiracy when everybody's working from the same playbook.
regedit@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 358d
Aww, I didn't know that about OKC. I met my wife on there in 2015, married in 2017, and had our first kid in 2019. Of all the dating sites, it was the best for weeding out what I wanted in a partner. I hate capitalism even more now.
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de · 3 pts · 358d
It's still better than the alternatives. But it got massively enshittified over the years
masterspace@lemmy.ca · 10 pts · 359d
Capitalism is part of it. Spending too much time on the internet and social media is a hell of a lot more of it.
kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 30 pts · 359d
What exactly am I supposed to do? Capitalism has killed any public spaces where capitalism isnt the primary purpose. This is a societal problem caused by capitalism and cannot be fixed on an individual level.
masterspace@lemmy.ca · -7 pts · 359d
False. You can call your friend and go to the park.
kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 15 pts · 359d
I have no friends
xylol@leminal.space · 8 pts · 359d
Join a community
masterspace@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 358d
That's because you spend too much time on the internet.
Join a club, sport, organization, hobby, volunteer, etc. You'll make friends when you don't spend all your time doom scrolling.
ProgrammingSocks@pawb.social · 2 pts · 358d
This is the difference between the individual and the systemic. Sure, the system is putting pressures that make the past of least resistance to be friendless and alone. But you have the power to fight that, and if you want your life to be better, you absolutely must. I believe in you
Velypso@sh.itjust.works · -3 pts · 358d
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Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 358d
Capitalism bastardised the internet to be like this. There was a communal web in the making.
https://www.quora.com/Who-invented-the-modern-computer-look-and-feel/answer/Harri-K-Hiltunen
masterspace@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 358d
Yeah, but describing the problem as a problem of capitalism makes it sound inescapable and unfixable without a complete overhaul of society.
In reality you just need to get off social media and stop scrolling.
Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 358d
I believe capitalism is the problem, and should be replaced by a retroactively-estimating value-production reward-system. Only the economy is overhauled, not society.
masterspace@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 358d
Yes, but social media is the problem in your life that you can change today. Capitalism is a system that will take, at minimum, years to replace.
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone · -1 pts · 358d
I don't use social media (aside from lemmy). I can assure you that the problem is inescapable and unfixable without a complete overhaul of society.
The problem is capitalism.
masterspace@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 358d
Glad to know you have personal experience in every capitalist society on earth. /s
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 358d
Is that something someone needs in order to criticize it? Why?
masterspace@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 358d
Because you're making the claim that capitalism inherently leads to loneliness.
If there are capitalist societies that aren't lonely then that would indicate that capitalism does not inherently lead to loneliness, or that there are other factors that can address loneliness that are more powerful than capitalism.
OccamsRazer@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 356d
I have no issues with human connection, but I am also subject to capitalism.
ProgrammingSocks@pawb.social · 2 pts · 358d
It is by design, but unless you wanna rot in your basement until you expire, it's up to you to defy the pushes of the system to complacency. Going out and making some friends with a common interest immediately improves your life.