It should be mandatory

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Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world · 130 pts · 310d (5 replies)

Uninvite the bride.

Kirp123@lemmy.world · 40 pts · 310d

That was my first thought too. Uninviting the groom also works.

Oh, you can un-invite one of the in-laws for some amazing chaos too.

stupidcasey@lemmy.world · 33 pts · 310d (1 reply)

Uninvite the groom take his place.

Melochar@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 310d

I too choose this guy's wife!

omgboom@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 25 pts · 310d

Uninvite the priest, I'm running this thing now

illi@piefed.social · 18 pts · 310d

You usually invite guests to the wedding, so I'd assume bride and groom would be safe under this logic.

The parents however....

JeSuisUnHombre@lemmy.zip · 54 pts · 310d (4 replies)

If a person gets minus'd, does that apply to her plus one? Or can the plus one attend without her?

KazuchijouNo@lemy.lol · 35 pts · 310d (3 replies)

And if two people uninvite each other, does that remove their uninvite-privilege, thus making the uninvite invalid and creating a paradox? Or would they have to fight for it over a lava pit or a chasm with either swords or massive cotton swabs?

Archer@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 310d

Well guess who just got promoted to activity planning!

Rooster326@programming.dev · 9 pts · 310d

It's FIFO. So whoever was uninvited first would lose their privileges.

That's why it's so important to RSVP immediately!

Omgpwnies@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 310d

-1 * -1 = 1

ergo, they become each other's plus-ones

MimicJar@lemmy.world · 46 pts · 310d

I'll be choosing myself as the minus one, I'd love to come but rules are rules, have a lovely evening.

PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca · 32 pts · 309d (4 replies)

If two people uninvite each other, it's gonna cause a paradox, and the whole wedding will overflow the stack

BambiDiego@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 308d

That's how you get the $NaN glitch in your bank account, but also for some reason Keanu Reeves is the officiant while holding akimbo pistols, and everyone's outfit includes a green sweater

PuddleOfKittens@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 309d (1 reply)

How would removing both cause a paradox? Removing a guest doesn't remove their Plus One, so why should removing the guest remove their Minus One?

PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 309d

People who aren't guests shouldn't be able to affect the guest list, so removing a guest would remove their plus/minus one

MeThisGuy@feddit.nl · 2 pts · 309d

so a kind of stack overflow?

FoolishSage@lemmy.world · 26 pts · 310d (2 replies)

Ngl, I'd un-invite someone from the wedding party just to sow chaos.

PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org · 35 pts · 310d (1 reply)

Dear Mr. Holloway.

I will be attending your wedding. I choose you as my Minus One. Please do not show up.

Bless,
PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S

tetris11@feddit.uk · 2 pts · 310d

4 funerals and a wedding

SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world · 25 pts · 310d (14 replies)

Okay but a minus one can be counter acted by a plus one right?

jaybone@lemmy.zip · 7 pts · 310d (1 reply)

What is this math you speak of?

SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 309d

It’s maffs bruv

notarobot@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 310d (7 replies)

Y es, un the sense that if you are invited, someone uninvites you, then you can plus one yourself.

But if you bring a plus one they can me minus one'd and you can't do anything to prevent it.

ironhydroxide@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 310d (4 replies)

Hmmm this is actually pretty genius.

If you think someone might not want you, but you really want to be there, plus one yourself.

But if two or more people minus one you, then you're still not going.

notarobot@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 310d (3 replies)

Holly shit I do not know how you managed to read my message. I had auto correct set to Spanish.

I was picturing something realtime. You get an app where you can type your +1 and you get a list of all the guests. You tap someone you get to -1 them. At any point you might get a notification hat you have been -1'd and you can go +1 yourself and bring no one. If you are not +1ing your self then your +1 can get -1'd in which case you can't invite someone else (I'd love to make it so that you can change your +1 to someone else but then the other person might change their -1 to the new person and it turn into a cycle, or -1 are permanent and prone to abuse)

As a fun option you can sell your -1 if you don't plan on using it

Samskara@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 308d (2 replies)

This would be better done without interaction, but blind voting.

Otherwise there’s no incentive to vote first. You want to save the +1 for yourself as long as possible. Which means nobody will RSVP or bring a +1.

notarobot@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 308d (1 reply)

I can't believe you went through all my poorly written bran issues.

You are right. It should not be real time

Samskara@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 308d

Doesn’t need to be real time, just secret. You send a reply to the host with your wishes until a specified deadline. The host then opens all envelopes at once and figures out the guest list. Like an election.

tetris11@feddit.uk · 4 pts · 310d (1 reply)

someone uninvites you, then you can plus one yourself.

No, self-votes should not count because then everyone will just self-vote and no actual consensus building is taking place.

If you get downvoted, hope that you have at least one friend who cares about you being there

notarobot@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 310d

If you self vote, you don't get to bring anyone. Even with self voting you can get -1'd twice. Otherwise you can +1 your date, the you get -1'd and your date goes alone. Which has a high likelihood of meaning that they won't go either

Lyra_Lycan@lemmy.blahaj.zone · -5 pts · 310d (3 replies)

Based on the progression of BIDMAS/PEMDAS, addition always is first, followed by subtraction.

Hawke@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 310d (1 reply)

Incorrect.

Addition and subtraction are equal priority, left-to-right.

sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 310d

Nah, convert all subtractions to adding negatives and compute concurrently.

SmartmanApps@programming.dev · 2 pts · 307d

Based on the progression of BIDMAS/PEMDAS, addition always is first, followed by subtraction.

Addition and Subtraction in any order actually. The mnemonics are just a way to remember the rules - like a mental checklist - they aren't the rules themselves

zaphod@sopuli.xyz · 18 pts · 310d (1 reply)

Can I uninvite myself?

dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 310d

no questions asked

Yes.

InputZero@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 310d (11 replies)

Can I uninvite the whole wedding and save $25,000? No, it's expected of me to spend that money.

AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 309d (2 replies)

Just uninvite the bride.

__nobodynowhere@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 309d (1 reply)

samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 308d

Janeway: Wife bad!

Statick@programming.dev · 7 pts · 309d (1 reply)

Eloping was one of the best decisions my wife and I ever made. We still spent a bunch, but it was for the two week vacation that went along with the elopement instead of 3-4x that for a single day.

PKscope@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 309d

This is what we plan to do. Makes no sense to throw all that money away for a silly ceremony where you're bound by what everyone else expects of you. We'd rather do something special for ourselves.

varyingExpertise@feddit.org · 6 pts · 310d (5 replies)

If it's expected, you have a circle of friends that do not really align with your idea of a good life. Sounds harsh, but please, I've been to fun weddings that were had at maybe 3k€ and nobody left hungry or thirsty and the close family guests from far away were even booked rooms nearby.

qarbone@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 310d (4 replies)

I won't say that's impossible but claims like that need a year, country, and count of guests.

varyingExpertise@feddit.org · 4 pts · 309d (3 replies)

2011-ish, Bavaria, 30-ish guests.

qarbone@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 309d (2 replies)

Ok, I can see that pricepoint with those metrics.

In my wedding culture (African), a small wedding has 60 guests, and a respectable one cracks 100. If you're doing that anywhere in the West, you're racking up a charge even if you're trying to be frugal.

But it also doesn't feel good for many people to have to scrimp and save on one of the few big social events of adult life, besides the funeral.

Samskara@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 308d (1 reply)

Don’t Wedding guests give money as gift?

qarbone@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 308d

Yeah, but it's like a 30% rebate unless you've got rich and generous guests.

And most venues won't accept an IOU for after your wedding guests make you good for it.

chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 14 pts · 310d

If "come alone" is one of the options, does that imply that in order to uninvite someone you have to yourself avoid attending?

Evotech@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 310d (1 reply)

List of people

Everyone gets two votes. Can vote people up or down

Everyone with negative votes can't join

Neverclear@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 309d

I saw that Black Mirror episode... No, thank you.

peteypete420@sh.itjust.works · 12 pts · 309d (2 replies)

Even one of the engaged?

samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 308d

you can uninvite one person of your choosing

According to the terms, yes. Shoulda said "guest."

explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 309d

Prevents objections

stupidcasey@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 310d (2 replies)

Every single person uninvites uncle Steve.

snooggums@piefed.world · 6 pts · 310d (1 reply)

uncle Steve ends up attending because of a buffer overflow

tetris11@feddit.uk · 2 pts · 310d

*underflow

and he has to give the best man speech because of his explosive popularity

No_Money_Just_Change@feddit.org · 8 pts · 310d

I plus one myself for an extra life

TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com · 5 pts · 308d (2 replies)

un-invite the bride

is the bride a guest ? i guest not.

Allero@lemmy.today · 5 pts · 308d

No one said you can only uninvite guests

Sculptor9157@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 308d

Oh, well, imagine...

spicehoarder@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 309d (1 reply)

Quick someone share this with the math people on here. There has to be some sort of incredible theorem here

MeThisGuy@feddit.nl · 6 pts · 309d

I uninvited the bride. problem solved