This particular headache happened awhile ago, I'm much better at the vetting process nowadays then I used to be.
Basically remembering to mention that I'm bi before activities happen.
EDITED to add alt text (I've only done this a few times (in particular for art I've done) so I'm not too good at it with memes)
35 Comments
OmegaMouse@pawb.social · 57 pts · 281d
Why are people so obsessed with creating categories and boxes? Just have sex with people you like lol
Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 34 pts · 281d
Sas@beehaw.org · 17 pts · 281d
In general: Because the current status quo is that people assume straight as the default thus we show pride in our sexuality and label it so the following generation knows that it's ok the not be straight.
In the context of this meme: gold star gays are weird enough to not consider people gay if they had straight sex in the past even if they realized that they don't like straight relationships/sex for themselves. So I pay them no mind.
OmegaMouse@pawb.social · 3 pts · 280d
Yeah I guess it's the difference between inclusive categories ("me and my friends are gay yippeee") and exclusive ("you have to have had only sex with guys")
I'm all for labelling if it's for pride :3
cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 280d
That would be queer and not lgbt. Can't be done, woukd never get funding. Sorry.
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 279d
I'M TRYING GODDAMNIT
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 31 pts · 281d
There's also platinum star gay people, who never went through the birth canal.
Also, OP, you might wanna ad alt text.
infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net · 11 pts · 281d
Jotaro Joestar was apparently a C-section.
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 281d
I added alt text, how would you say I did? I've only ever done that for art I've done so it's odd to have done it with memes and I'm open to improving on my alt-text-game.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 281d
Pretty great, even just adding it is awesome :)
Though I'd just say Spiderman says (text...) rather than having the text on them, it's more concise.
Best is if it fits within 250 characters and focuses on what's relevant in the depiction, in order to understand the image.
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 281d
Happy to hear that I did a good job on it :)
And thanks for the suggestions!
yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.de · 8 pts · 280d
There should be super-platinum star gay people who were birthed by a trans man.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 280d
Without going through a birth canal either. I think that that's gotta be an achievement.
cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 280d
Onlu for gay men, but yes.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 280d
Don't you temporarily need to go off T if you undergo pregnancy as a trans man? Is there then still no chance for having girls?
cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 279d
No clue, and trans women exist
infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net · 29 pts · 281d
Yeah it seems like there's a shocking amount of "telling people their preferences" in the LGBT community. I had a girlfriend who insisted I wasn't straight just because she had a penis. As if her getting bottom surgery would have retroactively certified me as straight again.
Like anyone who tells people something that only that person can know for themself, it's usually more about their need to be comfortable within some unresolved dissonance they have, rather than wanting to help resolve something for you.
missfrizzle@discuss.tchncs.de · 10 pts · 280d
that's a super weird take for her. like pre-op Blaire White or smth
JackbyDev@programming.dev · 25 pts · 280d
It recently occurred to me that I identify as bi but everyone I've dated has been nonbinary. So I've never been with a man or woman lol.
kartoffelsaft@programming.dev · 22 pts · 281d
I swear, a lot of gay dudes just don't have "bisexual" in their vocabulary. Like they don't stop to think that maybe "hey, any straight guys around here like the thought of making another man cum?" reads like "hey bachelors, hows the wife doin?" to anyone who knows what words mean?
Like, I can get there being some fetishization/roleplay around "converting" a straight guy gay. But that's never the angle. They just use the word straight like they know everyone on earth wants to suck their dick.
turdcollector69@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 280d
There's crazy pressure to conform.
It really is like: "If you can't be straight then be gay but you can never ever cross the lines or be ambiguous."
It's such a stupid and self-limiting way of thinking
Gladaed@feddit.org · 13 pts · 281d
What is a golden star gay?
ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml · 32 pts · 281d
A gay who sold 500,000 copies
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 29 pts · 281d
A "gold star gay" is
aguywho has never had sex with a woman.EDIT: Specifically a gay guy who has never had sex with a woman.
ragingHungryPanda@piefed.keyboardvagabond.com · 21 pts · 281d
I love that correction. I didn't even consider it until I saw it 😂
SchadeMarmelade@feddit.org · 4 pts · 281d
Thanks for the clarification, I guess I won't be able to call me a gold star😔
GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca · 8 pts · 281d
I dated a bi girl. I didn't particularly care who she was sleeping with before or after me, so long as she wasn't sleeping with anyone else while she was with me.
krooklochurm@lemmy.ca · 8 pts · 281d
I've dated monogamous bi women and I've dated poly bi women.
Strong preference for the poly bi women.
GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 281d
It's not my thing, cool if that works for you.
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 279d
Besides the obvious ethical issues of somebody polyam dating somebody monog, why do you have a preference?
krooklochurm@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 279d
You don't have to be poly or monogamous. It isn't an either or thing. I've found contentment pursuing a poly life and I've found contentment pursuing a monogamous one.
The idea that you just are one or the other is pretty stupid. There are positives and drawbacks to both.
I liked the poly women more because there was way, way more group sex. And less insecurity around group sex in general. They were more self actualized about what they liked in women and less insecure about discussing it. More confident sexually. Just my own experience obviously.
cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 279d
What about this is nsfw?
I'd say 'unless you work as a nun' but ive met a couple pretty saucy nuns.
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 278d
I figured I'd cover my bases as the text of the meme refers to sex acts and I'd rather not have the mods DMing me again :/
cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 278d
Thats really shitty on their part!
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 277d
shurg Their house their rules
snoons@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 281d
Common LG
BTQ+L.