Body positivity

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IlmariGanander@lemmy.wtf · 70 pts · 160d (8 replies)

You know, I just realized how dumb it is that I grew up on TNG and yet have never written a bald dude into my sci-fi.

I need to stop sucking and do that.

The_Picard_Maneuver@piefed.world · 74 pts · 160d (2 replies)

Make it so.

Cort@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 160d (1 reply)

You could also make it Sisko.

Anti_Iridium@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 160d

GaMEChld@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 160d (1 reply)

Never beat yourself up for not realizing something sooner. The conditions that were required for understanding happened at the exact time they were supposed to.

TaterTot@piefed.social · 5 pts · 160d

Or, in lieu of that, at their earliest possible convenience.

ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 160d (1 reply)

It's that Picard-being-bald thing: it's not that they won't have a cure for baldness in the 25th century, it's that humanity will be long extinct by then.

MousePotatoDoesStuff@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 160d

That's not where I thought this was going to go :(

TheFrirish@tarte.nuage-libre.fr · 1 pts · 160d

I think it's good though because in a way it means that to you see those guys are just as regular people.

NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world · 49 pts · 160d (2 replies)

It’s so much easier being bald than it is being balding.

I got lucky, though, and look way better bald than I ever did with hair, even before I started balding. Should have been buzzing it my whole life.

Dagamant@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 160d (1 reply)

I’m right there with you. I had long hair for so long, cut it for a job and realized I was going bald. Ended up shaving it while depressed and immediately felt better after seeing the result. Kept it shaved since and no longer worry about it.

NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 159d

That’s my story exactly. Also, that last bit, that’s an under discussed element of it, you don’t worry about your hair anymore, at all. Ever. It’s literally not a thing anymore. I never realized how much I thought and stressed about my hair until I didn’t at all think or stress about it.

YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 42 pts · 160d (9 replies)

Started losing mine in college with a big widow's peak. I tried to avoid it by going Mohawk for a year or two before it connected leaving me with essentially a crazy clown tuft. But the bullet around 25 and haven't looked back. It's nice in hot weather though.

musubibreakfast@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 160d (8 replies)

You should've just gone full clown. Paint that tuft green and go full crusty

YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 5 pts · 160d (7 replies)

I was thinking killer klowns from outer space like the guy on the right.

musubibreakfast@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 160d (2 replies)

Bruh, you'd be swimming in poon.

WizardofFrobozz@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 159d (1 reply)

Insane clown pussy

YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 158d

Sorry for coming back days later, but this shit deserves recognition!

GraniteM@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 159d (3 replies)

I know that carpet!

YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 159d (2 replies)

Por favor

Please elaborate.

GraniteM@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 158d (1 reply)

It's the famously-hideous Marriott carpet from the Marriott Marquis in Atlanta. It grew in popularity amongst attendees of Dragon Con, to the point that carpet camo cosplays emerged:

The carpet was replaced in 2016, but the pattern remains embedded in the Dragon Con memetic memory, and the Cult of the Carpet lives on.

YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 158d

That is really cool to learn. Thanks for informing me homie!

Dadifer@lemmy.world · 37 pts · 160d (1 reply)
Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone · 28 pts · 160d

For whatever reason it doesn’t load for me without erasing everything after the .png: https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/onepunchman/images/f/ff/Saitama_Manga_Profile.png

Ummdustry@sh.itjust.works · 24 pts · 160d (4 replies)

Wouldn't the actual body positive thing be to just be cool with thinning hair?

azertyfun@sh.itjust.works · 30 pts · 160d

Thinning hair is fine and mocking someone for it is mean and unhelpful, and body positivity is being cool if someone decides to stick with it. However it's not contradictory to say "given your situation you would look better bald tho".

A white lie is good when it's about something one can't (easily) change or when criticism is uncalled for. This is the opposite situation where the criticism is called for and the straightforward advice to go for it is cheap&easy to implement.

In fact if someone is actively seeking advice, I would argue that unconditionally saying "you look great don't change anything" is a form of toxic positivity.

Town@lemmy.zip · 23 pts · 160d (1 reply)

It's complicated.

Society generally treats you better when buzzed compared to overly thinning, especially when dating. Ultimately it's a personal choice, but most guys are happy with the results and wish they did it sooner.

0x0@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 160d

You can always do a comb-over if you really wanna go for style.

Zomg@piefed.world · 4 pts · 159d

Part of why it's important for people is their feeling of agency in their appearance.

The body positivity comes from the acceptance and welcome for what is seen as a very difficult hurdle for men to grasp and accept. R/Bald does that without ridicule or judgement.

Am bald btw.

merc@sh.itjust.works · 23 pts · 160d (12 replies)

What I wonder is how that subreddit would respond if someone with good hair, or even just decent hair posted. Do they ever respond "no bro, you have good hair!" I would bet that it becomes a "when you have a hammer, every problem looks like a nail" type situation.

The_Picard_Maneuver@piefed.world · 17 pts · 160d (5 replies)

Surely it's happened. A lot of dudes with perfectly good hair are anxious about balding.

Inkstainthebat@pawb.social · 8 pts · 160d (3 replies)

Hello it's me, I'm paranoid and anxious

Rusty@lemmy.ca · 8 pts · 160d (2 replies)

kieron115@startrek.website · 7 pts · 160d (1 reply)

Not sure if this is a joke or not, but I recently learned that the same hormones that affect beard growth also contribute to baldness!

DaPorkchop_@lemmy.ml · 7 pts · 159d

Having recently started estrogen, I can confirm that my beard growth has slowed dramatically and my once receding hairline is gradually filling itself back in.

merc@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 160d

I bet someone with good hair has asked, but I wonder what they replied.

spionspion@lemmy.ml · 8 pts · 160d (2 replies)

Ive seen this. They respond truthfully.

merc@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 160d (1 reply)

As in, "your hair is fine, don't do it"?

mereo@piefed.ca · 6 pts · 160d

Yes.

GaMEChld@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 160d (2 replies)

While I'm sure despite the wholesome community image, some people reacting with envy is understandable. But that's on them not you. Everyone is in charge of their own feelings. Regulating them and reconciling them with your free will and actions you take... That's life!

🥸

merc@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 160d (1 reply)

It's not necessarily envy. It just could be that they get caught up in the idea that everyone looks better bald.

GaMEChld@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 160d

Fair point!

ruuster13@lemmy.zip · 21 pts · 160d (11 replies)

Is that One-punch-man and Foot-sole-face-man?

meejle@piefed.world · 26 pts · 160d (10 replies)

It's AI slop

robert.meyer86@piefed.social · 24 pts · 160d (9 replies)
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usrtrv@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 160d (8 replies)

~~It doesn't even look like AI to me, looks like a very simple edit. ~~ I stand corrected

pipe01@programming.dev · 11 pts · 160d (7 replies)

Look at them side by side, the faces are completely different

usrtrv@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 160d (6 replies)

Oh, you're right. AI slop it is.

robert.meyer86@piefed.social · 2 pts · 160d (5 replies)
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PapaStevesy@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 160d

The nature of its creation.

Doomsider@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 160d (10 replies)

I can't wait for the cure for baldness and seeing the "bald" culture fight back against it.

favoredponcho@lemmy.zip · 11 pts · 160d (7 replies)
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Doomsider@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 160d (4 replies)

I think that is more like a surgical procedure to move your existing hair around than a genuine cure, but you do have a point.

If it becomes dirt cheap to get the surgery done would "baldness" culture start fighting back? Hairless positivity, you don't need a scalpel to change who you are, Rogaine is no gain, toupee no way, chants for no transplants, 10's dig bald men, etc.

w24@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 160d

Could also say "no hair, don't care" 👴

ltxrtquq@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 159d (2 replies)

Lasik surgery exists and isn't all that expensive, but you still see plenty of people with glasses.

SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 159d

That's an imperfect fix iirc. It has risks and side effects and it's one of those things where you can only do it once or something.

Doomsider@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 159d

Oh yes, I am definitely being silly

moondoggie@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 160d (1 reply)

I need hair, not feathers.

favoredponcho@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 160d
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BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 160d (1 reply)

Like all the "body positivity" people that were celebrating that fat people could still be fit and beautiful, and then the minute Ozempic hits the world, they all dropped half their body weight. Not so militant about being fat any more, eh?

MasterNerd@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 159d

I've always been conflicted about the body positivity movement. There is a lot if truth that people on the thicker side can actually be a healthy weight, but at the same time, telling obese people that they are fine as they are is like trying to normalize smoking.

What I do think is important is that someone's self-worth should never be tied to their weight. You're not a worse person than anyone else just because you're overweight, and no one should be treated badly because if it.

Overall, I think it's a mixed bag, but with more positives than negatives overall

brown567@sh.itjust.works · 15 pts · 160d (7 replies)

I just started losing a spot on the crown of my head this year!

Wife says it's still not my time, but she'll let me know when the razor must fall XD

prex@aussie.zone · 11 pts · 160d (4 replies)

Counterpoint:

brown567@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 159d (3 replies)

I'd let my hairline go as far as it wants, I'm talking about the monk patch XD

Also, what movie is that from?

kelseybcool@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 159d (2 replies)

Die Hard

e: the Christmas classic. We watch it every year.

faythofdragons@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 159d

Best Christmas movie ever made.

brown567@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 159d

I've been meaning to watch that! Somehow I've never gotten around to it

kofe@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 159d

My dad used to ask me to scratch his bald spot when I was like gradeschool age. 25+ years later, he's still just that small spot in the back. My mom cuts his hair now, keeps it fairly short but I don't think it's even that noticeable now that it's all gray

Zomg@piefed.world · 3 pts · 159d

For me it was when wind started becoming my enemy lol

MousePotatoDoesStuff@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 160d (3 replies)

Your username and pfp remind me about how Jean-Luc Picard is the number one reason I don't worry about balding.

"What if you go bald-" "Oh, like that one Starfleet captain I really like?"

The_Picard_Maneuver@piefed.world · 7 pts · 159d (1 reply)

Yeah "You mean like my idol??"

TastyWheat@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 159d

lime@feddit.nu · 2 pts · 159d

when mine started visibly going by 23, i thought that at least it outlasted sir patrick's by a year.

favoredponcho@lemmy.zip · 13 pts · 160d (3 replies)
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InfiniteStruggle@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 160d (2 replies)

Depends on the shape of your head though. I got a close shave when I was a kid but my head was shaped weird. Friends didn't let me forget it either.

favoredponcho@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 160d (1 reply)
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brown567@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 160d

*Typing*

"Hehe! Oof"

rcbrk@lemmy.ml · 11 pts · 159d (1 reply)

photo of bill bailey

lime@feddit.nu · 3 pts · 159d

bill is a role model both for hair and for humanity.

m3t00@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 159d (2 replies)

GalacticGrapefruit@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 159d

Honestly, good for him. Hope he enjoyed the sun.

lime@feddit.nu · 5 pts · 159d

where did you get a picture of me

chiliedogg@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 159d

My Dad likes to say that God made 2 kinds of heads:

Those he loved and those he covered up.

m3t00@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 159d

theory; balding evolved because hair is a liability in a fight.

melsaskca@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 160d (5 replies)

The baldies will always be superior to the shavies. They know who they are and do not need to "craft" themselves by looking like Mister Clean. Hunter S. Thompson knew.

Zomg@piefed.world · 3 pts · 159d (4 replies)

Hey now, I'd consider shavies as just closeted baldies lol. Just give them time.

chiliedogg@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 159d (2 replies)

I wish. I'm in my 40s and the hair hasn't thinned a bit, I vastly prefer a shaved head, and my hair grows stupidly fast.

Zomg@piefed.world · 1 pts · 159d (1 reply)

I'm sure someone wishes they could trade follicles with you lol

chiliedogg@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 159d

I seriously grow hair like 3-4 times faster than anyone else in my family. I can shave my head and then have bangs giving my eyes in like 2 months.

On the plus side, I can go from clean-shaven to a decent-enough beard in under a week. On the downside, if I do shave my beard in the morning, it looks like it forgot to shave by the time I leave work.

JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 158d

Might as well remove all the hair if ~90% of it is missing anyway. Or similarly, do something like my dad, who gets his hair cut really short so the bald spot is visible, but doesn't look weird.

rabber@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 160d (8 replies)

If my hair ever falls out I'll just get a transplant. Fuck going bald

The_Picard_Maneuver@piefed.world · 12 pts · 160d (6 replies)

I'm thinking the other way: if it ever happens to me, I'll just embrace the baldness. But I imagine it's a lot easier to say that now than it would be at the time.

iga_no_ika@sh.itjust.works · 13 pts · 160d (3 replies)

As someone who did just that, it’s all about perspective: balding is a condition; bald is a choice.

kazerniel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 159d (2 replies)

This! I'd much prefer to have a full head of hair, but since that's not an option, I prefer to be bald rather than visibly balding 🤷

(And getting surgery for this would feel excessive. Not to mention the transplanted hair would just start balding too because of the same hormones that caused balding in the first place, so it's just putting off the inevitable.)

rabber@lemmy.ca · 0 pts · 159d (1 reply)

After a transplant you usually have to take meds. Done quite a bit of research...very low risk of side effects. Most common is dick problems but I'm loaded up with SSRIs and it still works so I doubt I would have that side effect. The prescription is not free and I think is like 60 bucks a month the last I looked.

If you are starting to bald, and don't want to, the easiest option is to get on meds to keep what you already have. If you get side effects then you are SOL i suppose.

You can also do pretty good by changing your diet. Food that promotes circulation. I can cite a youtuber that got his hairline back by eating a fuck ton of watermelon. And I eat a fuck ton of watermelon anyway, maybe that's why my hairline is still my childhood hairline at age 32. Dad was balding at 25. Poor diet and too many trucker hats.

Transplant costs like 10k CAD in Turkey. Not an insurmountable amount of money IMO. The worst part is your nasty looking head for like a year after the procedure. After the transplant, all that hair will fall out again, and then you have to wait for it to grow back. The process can be quite humiliating as you can imagine as guys are expected to man up and shave their heads, not pay to win like this.

I dunno, I really like having long hair, I take immense pride in having nicer hair than most ladies and I enjoy taking care of it and seeing how long it can grow. I always wondered what a shower feels like with a bald head though! I have never had short hair in my entire life.

Now I want to do some gatekeeping. If you want to play in a metal band on stage, you need long hair, or you have no business being there. Haha.

kazerniel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 159d

If you are starting to bald, and don’t want to, the easiest option is to get on meds to keep what you already have. If you get side effects then you are SOL i suppose.

Yeah, at the first sign of hair loss I started on Minoxidil, and stayed on it for like a decade until my hair loss got very noticeable even with that 😅 (Also didn't help that I was balding from the front, and from what I've read, Minoxidil is not really effective against that.) I had varying lengths of hair over the years, but grew it out to ponytail length during Covid, as a last hurrah before I knew I would have to say goodbye to it.

Transplant costs like 10k CAD in Turkey. Not an insurmountable amount of money IMO.

For me that would be multiple times my current savings 😅 But anyway, surgery just feels so invasive for essentially a cosmetic issue. I know many people don't feel this way, and more power to yous! But I'd rather just make my peace with it, it feels better for my mental health on the long run than anxiously trying and trying to ward it off.

I knew it was coming, looking at my older male relatives on both branches, and in my case it was ultimately something I chose, as I'm transgender, so I knew what I was signing up to when I started testosterone. That sense of it being my decision probably helped me to be able to accept it.

Now I've been fully shaven for about 6 months, and I like the sensation when it's all freshly shaved and smooth :) Took me a few months to not do a double take when I saw recent photos of myself, as I still had my old look ingrained in my memory. By now I'm shaven even in my dreams :D

I always wondered what a shower feels like with a bald head though!

Idk, it just feels like any other skin :) When I went from ~15cm to buzzcut (a year before shaving it altogether), for the first few days I constantly had the sensation as if my hair was wet, bc my head skin felt colder than my body, and in my mind that had a strong association with post-shower wet hair :)

Now I want to do some gatekeeping. If you want to play in a metal band on stage, you need long hair, or you have no business being there. Haha.

Haha agreed, headbanging needs long hair!

Zomg@piefed.world · 4 pts · 159d

Biggest hangup I think for men is "what if I have a weird shaped head" or something that looks strange to them. If I knew how I looked bald before I shaved it all, I would have done it sooner.

rabber@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 160d

I've had long hair like a sindardin elf my entire life. This would be traumatic af to me. I'll just pay to win. Lol

DrPop@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 160d

Have long hair and about to be 35. It's it stays going I'm going to be like my dad and Shane it off.

arcine@jlai.lu · 5 pts · 159d
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Tollana1234567@lemmy.today · 3 pts · 160d

is it really, some of them are not even balding significantly, and is asking a"sub" just to get a kick out of it.