How to protect your sexuality in Brazil

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irate944@piefed.social · 160 pts · 134d (20 replies)

Me: There's no way that's true

Me, after web searching: Huh...

Context: They have a betting game called "Jogo do bicho" (Animal game, direct translation). Number 24 corresponds to deer, which is "veado" in portuguese - which is very similar to"viado", which is a slur for gay people persons.

I still doubt these candles are popular though.

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 107 pts · 134d (8 replies)
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irate944@piefed.social · 36 pts · 134d (1 reply)

Thanks for the explanation mate, that makes a lot more sense.

I'm portuguese and I always thought that veado was the word, just that "e" was "stressed" to sound like "i". I didn't know until today that there were actually two words

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 24 pts · 134d
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brown567@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 133d (1 reply)

The linguist in me now feels the same way about Brazilian profanity that the engineer in me feels about fighter jets

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 3 pts · 133d
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hraegsvelmir@ani.social · -10 pts · 134d (3 replies)

It's only the same if you ignore Portuguese pronunciation, though, this is still some rightwing snowflake shit. Veado and viado will only sound the same if you speak some ignorant, backwater version of Brazilian Portuguese, so I'm not sure what you're talking about.

Viado e veado não soam igual, mano, esse é coisa de homens frágeis, eu não sei de que você tá falando. Deixe essa porra pros Bolsonaristas. Nem os tugas falam assim.

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 13 pts · 134d
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obbeel@lemmy.eco.br · 10 pts · 134d (1 reply)

Viado es veado. Fuck this

Even if it sounded different it wouldn't make a difference, because language is flexible and undefined, or are we going to take classes on how to talk "e" or "i" as well? I'm certain we need more of those 🙄

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DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world · 44 pts · 134d (4 replies)

They're popular enough for them to have been mass-produced, as opposed to, say, just writing the text on the cake with frosting.

ascend@lemmy.radio · 15 pts · 134d (3 replies)

Kind of funny someone is so self conscious about looking "weak" or whatever has a birthday cake with candles

obbeel@lemmy.eco.br · 5 pts · 134d (2 replies)

Yes. He is a respected male now. He is 23+1, watch out! No one will mess with him as he sexuality is assured (sorry if I'm being too intense about this, I'm brazilian. I've noticed it doesn't make sense to people of other countries in the other commentary)

musubibreakfast@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 134d (1 reply)

Brazil is a weird place.

obbeel@lemmy.eco.br · 3 pts · 134d

Carnival makes up for it. There's more beauty to it than it seems at first glance.

Some introverts might think: "It's just an even larger assembly of people", but people are allowed to be weird and graceful.

Hudell@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 10 pts · 134d (1 reply)

That's not the reason though. 24 (vinte e quatro) is the gay number because it sounds like "vim de quatro" which means something like "I came on all 4s"

obbeel@lemmy.eco.br · 1 pts · 134d

True

marcos@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 134d

It's a very popular joke. I have no idea how many people take it seriously, since those would probably not say they do.

I imagine most people that buy a candle like that do it for somebody else's birthday to imply the other person is gay.

protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 133d (1 reply)

as a Brazillian, I have never seen the correlation of the number 24 with "gayness"

aguasemgas@lemmy.eco.br · 2 pts · 133d

É literalmente uma idiotice que tem aqui em Salvador (Não sei se surgiu aqui), vinte e quatro / vim de quatro

It's literally an idiocy that has here in Salvador (I don't know if it came from here), twenty-four / I came from four

hayvan@piefed.world · 2 pts · 134d

It's probably more of a joke.

Gork@sopuli.xyz · 97 pts · 134d

Straight men have a 23+1 hr schedule every day. The extra hour is for secret gay time.

HertzDentalBar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 75 pts · 134d (2 replies)

Just going to say that looks way more gay than the number 24....

The more you try to avoid looking gay, the more gay you look. It's funny coming from a place as gay as Brazil.

melfie@lemmy.zip · 11 pts · 134d (1 reply)

If you’re not gay, you must prove it by wearing a birthday tiara and listening to nothing but Judy Garland the whole day.

HertzDentalBar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 133d

Science be damned but this may actually be the one thing that CAN turn someone gay.

Like just thinking about it makes me happy.

potatoguy@mbin.potato-guy.space · 34 pts · 134d

Can confirm, I was gay that year.

W3dd1e@lemmy.zip · 34 pts · 134d (3 replies)

Aside from the homophobia, they still get birthday cakes with candles that say their age when they are 24?

nodiratime@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 133d

Only if you are gay.

/s in case someone misses the "homophobic-phobic" joke.

brotundspiele@sh.itjust.works · 8 pts · 133d

What else should they get? Birthday cakes with candles that say someone else's age? That wouldn't make any sense.

HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 133d

are you kidding? gran was a party animal. if she got them why wouldn't I?

BandanaBug@piefed.social · 29 pts · 134d (5 replies)

Don't put the word anus after it then!

The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 134d (3 replies)

I was going to say, if Portuguese is like Spanish, it's "anus" without the tilde over the n, right?

idiomaddict@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 134d (1 reply)

Portuguese doesn’t really have a tilde, but that’s what the h following an n (or an L) is there to indicate

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 1 pts · 133d
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lvxferre@mander.xyz · 2 pts · 133d
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Linnce@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 134d

They didn't though. Anos = years. Ânus = anus.

Bazell@lemmy.zip · 28 pts · 134d (21 replies)

Can someone share some lore what is the connection between being gay and 24 in Brazil?

Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works · 76 pts · 134d (19 replies)

There's an illegal gambling game that has been extremely popular for decades called the animal game (jogo do bicho), in which each number represents an animal. 24 is the deer (veado). There's also a derogatory word for gay men, viado. The two words sound the same. So 24 is "the deer's number" but it sounds like "the fag's number".

Viado comes from desviado, which means someone who was driven off the proper path. It's just a matter of homophony (and homophobia).

grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 18 pts · 134d (3 replies)

Wow it's like a homophobic lasagna. My heart goes out to you, gay Brazilians

webp@mander.xyz · 3 pts · 134d (2 replies)

This suggests widespread homophobia if enough of them could combine their brainpower to form these few thoughts

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 2 pts · 133d
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grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 134d

Luckily for us there's nothing gayer than working together, so we should be safe

HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 133d

_stranger_@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 133d

homophonophobia?!

fxdave@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 134d

It'd be also good to mention that Illuminati confirmed

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 2 pts · 133d (11 replies)
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Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 132d (10 replies)

The explanation may be as simple as that the word works better as an expletive by keeping the stressed syllable. All the examples you gave are "friendly" clippings but "viado" is derogatory.

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 2 pts · 132d (9 replies)
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Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 132d (6 replies)

Good argument. But then where do you think viado comes from?

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 2 pts · 132d (5 replies)
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Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 131d

Convincente. Dei uma pesquisada e me deparei com esse texto aqui, que atribui a origem do termo a um homem específico, um socialite português que vivia em Niterói, dono da marca Cigarros Veado e notório por suas escapadas com homens. O jornalista que inxestigou o assunto descartou as hipóteses do desviado/transviado.

Realmente o mistério é mais difícil de solucionar do que parece à primeira vista.

Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 132d (1 reply)

There are other exceptions, though. Take the nickname for Fernanda, Nanda [nɜ᷈dɐ]

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 2 pts · 132d
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lvxferre@mander.xyz · 27 pts · 134d
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kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 134d (6 replies)

If they are worried about seeming gay, why are they decorating their cake with 23+1 sparkly magic Spanish anuses? Seems preeeetty gay....

For those confused, in Portuguese (which they speak in Brazil), "ano" is year. But in Spanish "año" is year, and "ano" is anus. Also the blue seems speckled or glittery (unclear in the picture) and it says in the corner that it has a magic wick.

Linnce@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 134d

That's part of the joke. This isn't really taken seriously here, you'd probably buy this for your friend to tease him in a friendly manner.

Ajen@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 134d

Seems like a joke.

(in Portuguese) what kind of cake do you want for your birthday?

IDGAF just don't write "24" on it

ok.... Happy birthday, enjoy your 23+1 anuses, you [insert homophobic slur here]

Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 134d (3 replies)

Doesn’t that say magico, not mango?

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 134d (2 replies)

You're right. I didnt zoom in enough apparently. I've corrected my mistake. Says "com pavio magico", meaning "with magic wick". Not helping the case honestly.

Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 134d (1 reply)

A magic wick is just one that lights up again after you blow out the candle so you have to blow again, which is also pretty gay.

kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 134d

"Keep blowing"

Evotech@lemmy.world · 22 pts · 133d (6 replies)

Having candles on your birthday cakes at all is pretty gay at that age

brotundspiele@sh.itjust.works · 14 pts · 133d (1 reply)

You don't have candles on your birthday cake just because you're grown up? What a sad life.

No homo, but I love to blow a big candle on my b-day.

Tikiporch@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 133d

Big candle sounds like a plausible euphemism like bull or twink.

agent_nycto@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 132d

I've never seen a sentence use the same dumb logic it criticizes so succinctly before

jaemo@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 133d (2 replies)

It is an most joyful occasion for gaiety...

Evotech@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 132d (1 reply)

It’s a joke

jaemo@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 132d

Yep thanks, picked up on that, so was my reply. Whoosh, I guess.

ramenshaman@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 134d (1 reply)

TIL my birthday is gay

Blum0108@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 134d

Every birthday can be gay if you're gay enough

aeronmelon@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 134d (1 reply)

I am ashamed to be a member of a race that cannot have a floor 13 in a building in some countries, or a floor 4 (or floor with the number 4) in others just because of an outdated superstition.

But this somehow feels even dumber.

Linnce@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 134d

This is not taken seriously, it's a joke. You would only buy a candle like this to joke with your friends. I've never even seen a candle like that. No one actually thinks a number is gay, you just joke about it when it comes up.

Source: I'm Brazilian.

winkledinkle@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 134d

So if you want to look extra gay, your candle says 24+/-x to get your age.

socsa@piefed.social · 15 pts · 134d (1 reply)

That's pretty gay

grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 0 pts · 134d

Yeah sounds pretty gay (derogatory) to care that much about being seen as gay (celebratory)

someguy3@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 134d (2 replies)

That's a lot of candle for something that's going to burn for less than a minute.

Sculptor9157@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 134d (1 reply)

That's what she said?

yermaw@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 134d

thagoat@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 14 pts · 134d (13 replies)

Is it because of Jeff Gordon? Is that why 24 is gay?

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 34 pts · 134d (10 replies)
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DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 134d (5 replies)

That's quite the leap. Must be a very well-known game, with a board that never changes.

Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone · 11 pts · 134d (2 replies)

It’s an incredibly culturally impactful game, including in slang: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jogo_do_bicho#Cultural_impact

PartyAt15thAndSummit@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 134d (1 reply)

Oh. Thanks. I never knew any of this. Also, TIL that the last name of one of my favorite authors, Paulo Coelho, means "rabbit."

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WalleyeWarrior@midwest.social · 10 pts · 134d

I have Salvadorian in-laws that play a similar looking game called "loteria" which is similar to bingo and played at family gatherings. I assume most Central/South American countries have a similar game.

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 7 pts · 134d
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Akasazh@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 134d (2 replies)

A friend of mine one introduced his girlfriend to a Colombian friend. He was quite surprised.

He name was Marieke, he heard maricon (pronounced quite similar) that's a Latin slur for gay too.

Thanks for filling in the etymology!

hraegsvelmir@ani.social · -2 pts · 134d (1 reply)

At best, it sounds vaguely like marica, which is another common slur, but just like my reply ti some dumbass claiming veado and viado are the same in Portuguese, you would have to have some sort of developmental disorder to think Marieke and marica sound the same, or completely ignore Spanish orthography.

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 1 pts · 134d
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rockerface@lemmy.cafe · 4 pts · 134d

Oh deer

The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 134d

I looked it up, and allegedly it comes from a well known gambling game about animals, in which 24 is a deer, and "deer" sounds similar to a slur.

JusticeForPorygon@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 134d

Until I'm corrected I'm gonna assume this is why

hperrin@lemmy.ca · 14 pts · 134d (1 reply)

I don’t know if it’s the same in Portuguese, but in Spanish, “anos” (without the ñ) means anuses. So… 23 + 1 anuses. Sounds pretty gay.

lvxferre@mander.xyz · 8 pts · 134d
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spicehoarder@lemmy.zip · 12 pts · 133d

23 + 1 assholes, totally not gay /s

FreddiesLantern@leminal.space · 11 pts · 133d

“No homo but happy birthday! Anyway which one of you fellas is up for some hotdogs and whipped cream?”

NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 10 pts · 133d

Funny, because straight men worry about whether they might be or might be perceived as being gay all the time.

obbeel@lemmy.eco.br · 9 pts · 134d

Oh yes, my sexuality is protected 🫦

expatriado@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 134d

til "years" in Portuguese is spelled like "anus" in Spanish

Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 134d (2 replies)

I dunno. That one looks a little phallic, could still be a little gay. Why not do 22+2 just to be completely safe? This isn't something you want to mess around with.

HertzDentalBar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 134d

Anos is close enough to anus, clearly this candle is a secret invite to a 23 person gay orgy, the +1 is the lucky birthday boy.

Phil_in_here@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 134d

"+"? What are they doing, crossing dicks?

diabetic_porcupine@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 134d

samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 133d

kbobabob@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 134d

Nevermind the pretty pink cake for a good little boy this goes on.

Uranus_Hz@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 134d

The US equivalent is 67

Kolanaki@pawb.social · 3 pts · 134d (4 replies)

Why is 24 gay? 🤨

And isn't "anos" actually "anus?" Años is "years old." If it's different in Portugese, that is one hell of a coincidence. lol

T4V0@lemmy.pt · 6 pts · 134d

Anos in portuguese means years, while ânus means anus. Portuguese doesn't have a tilde over the n, only vowels can have accents in portuguese.

And 24 has a gay connotation due a false homonym in a Brazilian illegal betting game named "bicho" (animal), the number 24 belongs to a "veado" (deer), which sounds like "viado".

The word "viado" is a gay slur originating from the word "transviado" (literally means straying from a path), and the original word isn't as popular, though.

Hudell@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 134d (2 replies)

24 is "vinte e quatro" and it sounds similar to "vim de quatro" which can be interpreted as "I came on all 4s"

Kolanaki@pawb.social · 3 pts · 134d

That sounds hot.

Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 134d

It's because of jogo do bicho but I like your headcanon better.

Dojan@pawb.social · 3 pts · 134d (2 replies)

But they’re happy with an anos on their cake.

Linnce@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 134d (1 reply)

Anos = years in Portuguese

Dojan@pawb.social · 0 pts · 133d

Thank you, I am aware.

ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 134d

I'm just jealous 23+1 year old men get their birthday celebrated there.

Blackmist@feddit.uk · 3 pts · 133d

Now over to Colin Poppshed at the Gay Desk

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OMdPj3HXMgQ

Bloomcole@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 134d

They protect it 23+1/7

MrKoyun@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 134d (1 reply)

and we're the "snowflakes"

minorkeys@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 134d

You're all worthlessly unique.

5715@feddit.org · 2 pts · 134d

Is gay porn considered horror for heteros?