That was far and away my favorite part of playing in a band. Shows are exhilarating and all don't get me wrong, but just a regular opportunity to jam with other people is fricking amazing. Good call!
Heatedly debate with them from a place of bad faith about events and concepts that are not actionable and we have no control whatsoever about, getting extremely winded up and emotional during the entire process, speaking louder than what's socially acceptable, using very cheap half baked arguments and ultimately appealing to made-up authority figures if they corner me, until they admit I'm right, even if just out of sheer exhaustion or sarcastic condescension.
Me? Dance dance revolution. It's so much more fun with a partner, not exclusively but in part because you feel less dorky with someone else doing it with you. If I had more stamina hubs and I would play for hours.
Mostly for goofing around haha, it's just fun to do. I can't play nearly as well as I did when I was fifteen and a dude, so I'm pretty sure I'd die in any sort of competition.
They give one example and explain the nuances of it but its really can be any sort of dancing or adult sports or board game nights or movement arts like taichi, judo, jiu jitsu, or climbing gyms for practicing bouldering, could be volunteering in some cases or LARPing, any sort of rexourring outdoor group that is physically away from devices and is pro social in a way that is low stakes where everyone has their attention on something else so the shy people have a easier time to get in
I've been figuring out lately that I'd probably like dancing if I wasn't so sheltered growing up. I know what what you mean about the movement flow state from doing stuff like cutting wood, I think there is something good about learning to cultivate flow state anytime too which is a bit difficult to explain but it just makes everything better.
What sort of stuff do you reccomend for dancing? I think to start out with it for me it would probably be easier to find solo stuff I can learn but partner dances seem pretty appealing for a lot of reasons.
That is exactly what I was thinking about contra, it seems like the kind of thing where the reward and structure is best for beginners looking to learn broadly by trying everything but not as much as something to just go do often because the skill tree hits a wall quickly.
If I've learned anything its that I can learn everything, I think I'd be decent at dancing because I do things which I think might be dance-like in the kitchen where I turn parts of my body just a little bit more here and there to get the most reach and dexterity out of various parts, I'm not crazy flexible but I think I can go a bit more than most and I'm rather tall and lanky so everything feels better to just be moving often.
I think I got the favorite music part down, but ill have to consider what of the music I like is danceable, that's a good tip I hadn't considered, pretty much I'll find a way to enjoy anything but I do have things I like more than others but its very all over the place.
Like alt timelines, butterfly effect, philosophy (especially ontology), space travel, aliens, fermi paradox, time dialation, black holes, you know, all the very werid stuff...
But unfortunately, people IRL seems to not like to talk about these things...
The other thing is just... I guess exchange life stories...
Just one person? And aside from pleasantly passing the time with random chatter...
Squash.
Loved playing squash with someone of similar ability, just socially keeping score in a endless game until we're too tired to play.
Thinking of nothing else for a time, focused on the game.
Sadly my health hasn't been up to that for a while now... But that was great.
As a group activity. Table-top RPG with long-running worlds.
Usually D&D but even system-less story-teller games. Whether running the game or playing it.
Role-playing with an experienced and familiar group of friends that can flip instantly in and out of character to chat about the game as much as play it - that's great fun. We could do that all day (and in some instances most of the night)...
We call this type 2 fun. It might not the most fun at the time but once you're off the hill and having a pint you say it was the best time ever, because you survived.
Also allows to I've climbing and skiing.
I challenge you to ride a mountain bike down a muddy hill, brakes on full lock, tyres skidding, while you barely manage to keep it upright and not have the most fun of your life! Yeah there are definitely parts that fall into that category of 'fun now that we're home' but a lot is primary fun.
I don't know where you live but the Scottish Highlands can produce some seriously "fuck this" weather. When you're still hours away from home and the sleet and winds pick up, your soaked to the bone and hands too cold to pull the brakes, you look back on it with more fondness than you felt at the time.
OK that definitely sounds not fun. I'm in Aotearoa New Zealand which doesn't get that bad. Even in the middle of winter, in the northern bike parks, it's pretty ridable without risk of hypothermia. I hope I do get the chance to ride over there one day though
Don't get me wrong, we have good days too but the weather can change in a heartbeat here. It's what catches most people out, especially on the mountain, too many people head out thinking it's a nice day then the weather changes, cold wet and zero visibility. Easy to get tired, lost and confused and needing to call mountain rescue only too find out they were only 10 minutes away from the car park.
I remember biking years ago in Wanaka and climbing at hang dog in golden bay on the south island. Beautiful place, can't wait to go back, take my kids. It's just so far away.
I've never rode in the south island, would love to but accomodation etc is so expensive. South island is definitely the more picturesque place, it would be a wonderful place to live
Back when I was young me and the missus spent months in a shitty van traveling around. Back then you could rock up outside the airport and find a van with the keys and paperwork and a note saying to take it as the previous owner had left.
Either having a deep conversation or sharing an activity that we're both passionate about. Things involving genitals don't make it to that list in my case anyway. I count those as chores.
I'm super bad at yappery most of the time, but when you have someone cool to yap with and are comfortable enough it can be super engaging. That's totally fair!
86 Comments
blarghly@lemmy.world · 84 pts · 126d
Touch their genitals!
tacosanonymous@mander.xyz · 26 pts · 126d
With my mouth.
khanh@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 125d
millions or even billions of answer choices and you somehow chose the only incorrect one
IAmYouButYouDontKnowYet@reddthat.com · 40 pts · 126d
Stuff that involves their genitals.
AmidFuror@fedia.io · 1 pts · 125d
Had to check the comments to make sure my answer wasn't already given.
CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world · 32 pts · 126d
Laugh
At their genitals
actionjbone@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 126d
Play games
With their genitals
navigator@piefed.zip · 27 pts · 126d
Playing music (jamming or performing) together. Nothing beats getting into a groove with fellow musicians.
toomanypancakes@piefed.world · 8 pts · 126d
That was far and away my favorite part of playing in a band. Shows are exhilarating and all don't get me wrong, but just a regular opportunity to jam with other people is fricking amazing. Good call!
Scubus@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 125d
Yes, the groove of other musicians genitals.
Maiq@piefed.social · 22 pts · 126d
Eat pancakes.
nocturne@slrpnk.net · 9 pts · 126d
But not too many pancakes.
actionjbone@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 126d
Why not?
SpikesOtherDog@ani.social · 13 pts · 126d
Then you have eaten too much, and then it's not fun any more.
nocturne@slrpnk.net · 6 pts · 126d
At least get their permission first.
Pudutr0n@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 126d
That's a good one.
protist@retrofed.com · 4 pts · 126d
This has to be a euphemism for something sexual
Maiq@piefed.social · 5 pts · 126d
What's wrong with sharing a few good ol flapjacks with friends?
socsa@piefed.social · 2 pts · 125d
Usually Jack isn't flappy for very long.
Mac@mander.xyz · 20 pts · 126d
Fall asleep cuddling
M137@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 125d
How is this not at the top?
Pudutr0n@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 126d
Heatedly debate with them from a place of bad faith about events and concepts that are not actionable and we have no control whatsoever about, getting extremely winded up and emotional during the entire process, speaking louder than what's socially acceptable, using very cheap half baked arguments and ultimately appealing to made-up authority figures if they corner me, until they admit I'm right, even if just out of sheer exhaustion or sarcastic condescension.
Hey, I'll take what I can get.
hbu?
toomanypancakes@piefed.world · 6 pts · 126d
Me? Dance dance revolution. It's so much more fun with a partner, not exclusively but in part because you feel less dorky with someone else doing it with you. If I had more stamina hubs and I would play for hours.
Pudutr0n@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 126d
I hear it's very cathartic. Is it mostly for goofing around or do you get competitive?
toomanypancakes@piefed.world · 4 pts · 126d
Mostly for goofing around haha, it's just fun to do. I can't play nearly as well as I did when I was fifteen and a dude, so I'm pretty sure I'd die in any sort of competition.
Pudutr0n@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 126d
Sounds great. Hope you get to do it again soon.
mech@feddit.org · 4 pts · 126d
Hi mom
TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 126d
Gotta work on that cardio
CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 126d
Found my narcissistic spouse’s account!
Pudutr0n@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 126d
I hope you mean ex-spouse. If not, good luck. <3
CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 124d
😔 I wish
z3rOR0ne@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 125d
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 13 pts · 126d
MoonWalker1999@piefed.social · 13 pts · 126d
I like it when they give me money
Pudutr0n@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 126d
I like it when they give me money too! What kind of money is your favorite to receive? I like it when it's in pixel format when they have a lot of 0s.
Malfeasant@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 125d
Can it still involve their genitals?
HubertManne@piefed.social · 12 pts · 126d
rpgs
fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 126d
Yeah but getting new rockets is super costly and hard to do. Stupid NFA getting in the way of my morning desk pop.
confuser@lemmy.zip · 10 pts · 125d
Hey I just got a RSS feed post about this topic
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/Mqg2bqFw8k79sW7C2/you-should-try-contra-dancing
They give one example and explain the nuances of it but its really can be any sort of dancing or adult sports or board game nights or movement arts like taichi, judo, jiu jitsu, or climbing gyms for practicing bouldering, could be volunteering in some cases or LARPing, any sort of rexourring outdoor group that is physically away from devices and is pro social in a way that is low stakes where everyone has their attention on something else so the shy people have a easier time to get in
alternategait@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 125d
confuser@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 125d
I've been figuring out lately that I'd probably like dancing if I wasn't so sheltered growing up. I know what what you mean about the movement flow state from doing stuff like cutting wood, I think there is something good about learning to cultivate flow state anytime too which is a bit difficult to explain but it just makes everything better.
What sort of stuff do you reccomend for dancing? I think to start out with it for me it would probably be easier to find solo stuff I can learn but partner dances seem pretty appealing for a lot of reasons.
alternategait@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 125d
confuser@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 125d
That is exactly what I was thinking about contra, it seems like the kind of thing where the reward and structure is best for beginners looking to learn broadly by trying everything but not as much as something to just go do often because the skill tree hits a wall quickly.
If I've learned anything its that I can learn everything, I think I'd be decent at dancing because I do things which I think might be dance-like in the kitchen where I turn parts of my body just a little bit more here and there to get the most reach and dexterity out of various parts, I'm not crazy flexible but I think I can go a bit more than most and I'm rather tall and lanky so everything feels better to just be moving often.
I think I got the favorite music part down, but ill have to consider what of the music I like is danceable, that's a good tip I hadn't considered, pretty much I'll find a way to enjoy anything but I do have things I like more than others but its very all over the place.
alternategait@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 125d
confuser@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 125d
Yeah I'm just saying difficulty is not an issue
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 126d
I really wanna just talk fringe topics...
Like alt timelines, butterfly effect, philosophy (especially ontology), space travel, aliens, fermi paradox, time dialation, black holes, you know, all the very werid stuff...
But unfortunately, people IRL seems to not like to talk about these things...
The other thing is just... I guess exchange life stories...
Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 126d
My dude you just need better people. My spouse and I gab about stuff like this all the time.
taldennz@lemmy.nz · 10 pts · 126d
Just one person? And aside from pleasantly passing the time with random chatter...
Squash.
Loved playing squash with someone of similar ability, just socially keeping score in a endless game until we're too tired to play.
Thinking of nothing else for a time, focused on the game.
Sadly my health hasn't been up to that for a while now... But that was great.
As a group activity. Table-top RPG with long-running worlds.
Usually D&D but even system-less story-teller games. Whether running the game or playing it.
Role-playing with an experienced and familiar group of friends that can flip instantly in and out of character to chat about the game as much as play it - that's great fun. We could do that all day (and in some instances most of the night)...
janus2@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 126d
go explorin. downtown, in the neighborhood, new building. just lookin around with a pal. good times
socsa@piefed.social · 8 pts · 125d
Is the anus a genital?
finalarbiter@piefed.social · 7 pts · 126d
Either going for food or playing board/video games together!
ace_garp@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 126d
Board games!
Inis, Innovation, Bruges, El Grande, Finca, Jaipur, or Targi is an excellent time with other people.
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 126d
How you doin'? 😉
MuttMutt@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 126d
SCUBA diving. The best part about it is peeing on your buddy....
But seriously having someone to talk with after a dive where you have seen something amazing is a great thing.
Vandals_handle@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 125d
MuttMutt@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 125d
ROFLMMFAO
Modest_Toxic@feddit.uk · 7 pts · 126d
Talk about cats
luthis@lemmy.nz · 7 pts · 126d
Mountain biking in the rain. Biking is fun in general, but in the cold rain and mud, it's a mission you're on together.
sicarius@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 125d
We call this type 2 fun. It might not the most fun at the time but once you're off the hill and having a pint you say it was the best time ever, because you survived.
Also allows to I've climbing and skiing.
luthis@lemmy.nz · 4 pts · 125d
I challenge you to ride a mountain bike down a muddy hill, brakes on full lock, tyres skidding, while you barely manage to keep it upright and not have the most fun of your life! Yeah there are definitely parts that fall into that category of 'fun now that we're home' but a lot is primary fun.
sicarius@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 125d
I don't know where you live but the Scottish Highlands can produce some seriously "fuck this" weather. When you're still hours away from home and the sleet and winds pick up, your soaked to the bone and hands too cold to pull the brakes, you look back on it with more fondness than you felt at the time.
luthis@lemmy.nz · 2 pts · 125d
OK that definitely sounds not fun. I'm in Aotearoa New Zealand which doesn't get that bad. Even in the middle of winter, in the northern bike parks, it's pretty ridable without risk of hypothermia. I hope I do get the chance to ride over there one day though
sicarius@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 124d
Don't get me wrong, we have good days too but the weather can change in a heartbeat here. It's what catches most people out, especially on the mountain, too many people head out thinking it's a nice day then the weather changes, cold wet and zero visibility. Easy to get tired, lost and confused and needing to call mountain rescue only too find out they were only 10 minutes away from the car park.
I remember biking years ago in Wanaka and climbing at hang dog in golden bay on the south island. Beautiful place, can't wait to go back, take my kids. It's just so far away.
luthis@lemmy.nz · 2 pts · 124d
I've never rode in the south island, would love to but accomodation etc is so expensive. South island is definitely the more picturesque place, it would be a wonderful place to live
sicarius@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 123d
Back when I was young me and the missus spent months in a shitty van traveling around. Back then you could rock up outside the airport and find a van with the keys and paperwork and a note saying to take it as the previous owner had left.
grandel@lemmy.ml · 7 pts · 126d
Gamimg
Iconoclast@feddit.uk · 6 pts · 126d
Either having a deep conversation or sharing an activity that we're both passionate about. Things involving genitals don't make it to that list in my case anyway. I count those as chores.
Simon_Shitewood@lemmy.ml · 6 pts · 125d
TTRPGs and occasionally a lil' crime.
Broadfern@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 126d
Yap
toomanypancakes@piefed.world · 6 pts · 126d
I'm super bad at yappery most of the time, but when you have someone cool to yap with and are comfortable enough it can be super engaging. That's totally fair!
rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 125d
My wife and I began having a great conversation on our first date, and ten years later it's still ongoing.
djdarren@piefed.social · 5 pts · 125d
Drive down to a beach nearby and sit in the car with a bag of chips, watching people walk by with their Very Good Dogs. My wife and I love it.
YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 5 pts · 125d
Talk.
RBWells@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 126d
Dance.
RodgeGrabTheCat@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 125d
Having a good meal.
rammer@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 125d
A succulent Chinese meal?
RodgeGrabTheCat@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 125d
Sometimes. A sometimes my family wants fish n chips. I'll make a clubhouse.
ickplant@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 126d
Bar trivia or other kinds of trivia. It’s fun!
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 125d
My best mate and I love to play co-op games over Discord.
seerdomin1983@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 125d
Sharing snacks eg nachos, chips and dip
MrShankles@reddthat.com · 3 pts · 126d
Fish Pool Picnic Loaf
There's many other things that don't immediately involve any genitals... but, the night is young. May you find the right love, in all the right places
rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 125d
I always hated when the school cafeteria served us fish pool picnic loaf.
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 126d
Games
Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 125d
I LOVE buying my husband gifts. Especially small treats. :3
maltasoron@sopuli.xyz · 3 pts · 125d
Football
tastetheplague@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 125d
Avoid them.
django@discuss.tchncs.de · 2 pts · 126d
Choking each other.
khanh@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 125d
kinky.
87Six@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 126d
A massage
HowlsSophie@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 126d
Video games and talking about music, movies, and TV shows.