Hot take, Google+ was onto something with their "circles" thing. Basically you could choose the visibility of every post and comment you made to be limited to a subset of your contacts
The core issue with Google+ wasn't the platform, it was that Giogle started becoming a spyware comany and rewuired real IDs and forced thst shit on everyone.
Facebook also allows this to an extent. Or at least it did 5 years ago when I last used facebook. You did have to manually choose who could see the post everytime though. Not nearly as convenient.
i had a friend who accidentally got his posts set to only post to me. and i would reliably comment on everything because we were besties. apparently it really got to his mental health.
Google+ started well enough, but when only google using nerds were the only ones using it using it( as it was designed by those people), they decided to make it worse and force it on everyone.
If you're doing bendy sex positions and your partner farts and you can't both have a laugh about it and continue with the bendy sex then your relationship needs an upgrade.
But if the fart smells like 10,000 rotten eggs from the swamps of dagobah and the stench persists for hours and will not go away then I think the mood is ruined.
What is the point of this reply? Lol everyone takes shits too but I don't want my grandma to hear all about a nasty smelling pure liquid shit I took the day before yesterday or something... Just because everyone does something doesn't mean you want everyone to know all about it...
Sure. But to an extent. I am definitely glad I didn't grow up in a single room house on the prairie falling asleep with my parents making my younger siblings on the bed next to me.
People here don't know prudence and decorum, probably because they don't have normal relationships with their families or even people in general. And it's not social media, it's the people themselves. I was a (very horny) child when Facebook came out and even I wasn't doing all of that. 🤷
I agree with you definitions and reasoning, I disagree that prudence and decorum don't serve in some circles.
Prudence and decorum just change to fit the context of the circle. For those who have little to lose but their own life, prudence may take the form of kindness and charity. Decorum is just upholding a tradition within a circle, and traditions form at every level of society to keep what works moving forward.
I would argue that prudence and decorum are good tools to have no matter what circle you move in, you just have to adapt the tools for the job :/
Agreed, and these might be expressions of kindness, respect, and other genuine virtues.
For example, prudence can mean wisdom, care warranted and given, or simply an instance of thoughtful behavior.
Likewise decorum can refer to respectful behavior, honor deserved and given, even a gesture of good faith participation in what others value simply because you recognize it its important to them, part of them, and you want them to know they’re accepted.
But just speaking directly, I’m not sure OP was demonstrating a lack of any of the above simply by the mildly lewd joke. Even of her grandmother was scandalized (pretty sure she wasn’t) it’d only be indecorous/unthoughful/unseemly/unkind if that was her intent.
Given that perspective, and noting (edit: the original commenter’s) authoritative grasp of normal family and interpersonal relationships, I figured (edit: the original commenter was) lamenting that kids these days fail to accommodate the conservative mores of their elders with the level of dedication and precision that we achieved at their age. Forgive my misunderstanding.
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floquant@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 121 pts · 107d
Hot take, Google+ was onto something with their "circles" thing. Basically you could choose the visibility of every post and comment you made to be limited to a subset of your contacts
Hadriscus@jlai.lu · 85 pts · 107d
That was indeed a great idea wrapped in, well, Google
floquant@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 24 pts · 107d
Corporate social media is always destined to enshittification and being a tool of surveillance capitalism, being Google's just speedran it.
RamenJunkie@midwest.social · 19 pts · 107d
The core issue with Google+ wasn't the platform, it was that Giogle started becoming a spyware comany and rewuired real IDs and forced thst shit on everyone.
Omnipitaph@reddthat.com · 14 pts · 107d
Facebook also allows this to an extent. Or at least it did 5 years ago when I last used facebook. You did have to manually choose who could see the post everytime though. Not nearly as convenient.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 25 pts · 107d
Yeah It'd take forever to click "All like-minded hoes in the world EXCEPT family members"
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 107d
i had a friend who accidentally got his posts set to only post to me. and i would reliably comment on everything because we were besties. apparently it really got to his mental health.
zod000@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 9 pts · 107d
Google+ started well enough, but when only google using nerds were the only ones using it using it( as it was designed by those people), they decided to make it worse and force it on everyone.
spicehoarder@lemmy.zip · 9 pts · 107d
Facebook is like an MMO chatroom. I prefer the small servers.
nightlily@leminal.space · 2 pts · 107d
And educational on basic set theory.
Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 107d
MadhuGururajan@programming.dev · 1 pts · 107d
I don't recall, wasn't google+ the new product to come out of orkut? Or was orkut bought out by google when google+ didn't "perform as expected"
GraniteM@lemmy.world · 76 pts · 107d
If you're doing bendy sex positions and your partner farts and you can't both have a laugh about it and continue with the bendy sex then your relationship needs an upgrade.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 51 pts · 107d
But if the fart smells like 10,000 rotten eggs from the swamps of dagobah and the stench persists for hours and will not go away then I think the mood is ruined.
kevincox@lemmy.ml · 35 pts · 107d
Let's take a little recess and circle back.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 107d
Sorry but I would completely lose attraction to the Dagobah farter. Not gonna circle back.
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 18 pts · 107d
I would prematurely ejaculate as soon as the smell hit my nose.
SethTaylor@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 107d
A username well-earned
fibojoly@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 107d
Mister Stoker sir ?!
Soulg@ani.social · 8 pts · 107d
Sorry that human bodies are gross lmao
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 107d
after this many protestations this sounds like self hatred
FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 107d
Then you're obviously not worthy
toynbee@piefed.social · 7 pts · 107d
I get that reference.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 107d
have you not heard of candles?
Jax@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 107d
Then it smells ass, and candles.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 107d
I've done extensive research on this. The fire burns the chemicals what carry the ass esters to the nose
tomenzgg@midwest.social · 31 pts · 107d
Damage@feddit.it · 36 pts · 107d
Everyone has sex, get over your puritanism
troglodytis@lemmy.world · 31 pts · 107d
Nah, granny agrees, she ain't hating
piccolo@sh.itjust.works · 28 pts · 107d
Everyone does? What is your source for a bold claim?
ayyy@sh.itjust.works · 25 pts · 107d
Your mom
Hadriscus@jlai.lu · 9 pts · 107d
can confirm
TachyonTele@piefed.social · 4 pts · 107d
Yup, i was there too
Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 107d
ayyy!
MadhuGururajan@programming.dev · 4 pts · 107d
You wouldn't understand, Namekians puke out their young after all.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 107d
cucumbers aren't people
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 107d
some people have multiple. i keep mine over in that cabinet full of jars
troglodytis@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 107d
Pickles!
Mog_fanatic@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 107d
What is the point of this reply? Lol everyone takes shits too but I don't want my grandma to hear all about a nasty smelling pure liquid shit I took the day before yesterday or something... Just because everyone does something doesn't mean you want everyone to know all about it...
hanrahan@slrpnk.net · 6 pts · 107d
well, give me her contact and I'll send her pics of mine seeing your too lousy to share with her, and I'll ask her to rate my turd!
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 107d
what is wrong with you gran is the first person i send the photo to
Mog_fanatic@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 107d
Ah damn maybe my nana has been having mad fomo over my shits for years and I didn't even know
tomenzgg@midwest.social · 5 pts · 107d
I take pictures to send weekly and she comments on how well it looks like I've been eating; it's really helped us stay in touch.
wheezy@lemmy.ml · 6 pts · 107d
Sure. But to an extent. I am definitely glad I didn't grow up in a single room house on the prairie falling asleep with my parents making my younger siblings on the bed next to me.
MrShankles@reddthat.com · 5 pts · 107d
Granny just doesn't approve of farting during sex... cause she's a puritan prude and never experienced that level of relief
wheezy@lemmy.ml · 5 pts · 107d
You'd like my granny. She be farting all the time with no shame.
FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 107d
We all like your granny
lost_faith@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 107d
walks around sounding like a 2-stroke engine
VinegarChunks@lemmus.org · 2 pts · 106d
However, absolutely no one addresses their granddaughter by the name “granddaughter”
BrazenSigilos@ttrpg.network · 25 pts · 107d
I don't see the issue. Her grandma is being loving and supportive, and it's not like grandma doesn't know what sex is.
RamenJunkie@midwest.social · 24 pts · 107d
GRANDPARENTS HAVE NOT AND DO NOT HAVE SEX THEY ARE PURE.
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social · 7 pts · 107d
They had 12 immaculate conceptions to make the aunties and uncles as their parents before them
chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 107d
The issue here is that the screenshot cuts off grandma’s comment. Bet she had some great advice about farting during sex!
Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works · 12 pts · 107d
Doing it cuz I want you to fart.
tacosanonymous@mander.xyz · 12 pts · 107d
Gam gam can prolly relate.
VicksVaporBBQrub@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 107d
Growing-up on a farm she'll know which vegetables blow the biggest beefers.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 107d
People here don't know prudence and decorum, probably because they don't have normal relationships with their families or even people in general. And it's not social media, it's the people themselves. I was a (very horny) child when Facebook came out and even I wasn't doing all of that. 🤷
Septimaeus@infosec.pub · 7 pts · 107d
To know whether any act of prudence or decorum is a feather in one’s cap is first to answer to what end and on whose behalf.
::: spoiler Examples:
Both are often invoked in the context of potential loss to those who have the most to lose.
Self preservation is prudent. Prudence avoids loss of face …of social standing …of strategic advantage, and so forth.
Decorum avoids offending traditional sensibilities …protects what is sacred …retains political capital …maintains institutional legitimacy.
So both tend to be elevated as lofty virtues by those with power and authority to lose. :::
Anyway I used to think similarly. What disabused me of my regard for such ideals was living among those who prudence and decorum never served.
Omnipitaph@reddthat.com · 3 pts · 106d
I agree with you definitions and reasoning, I disagree that prudence and decorum don't serve in some circles.
Prudence and decorum just change to fit the context of the circle. For those who have little to lose but their own life, prudence may take the form of kindness and charity. Decorum is just upholding a tradition within a circle, and traditions form at every level of society to keep what works moving forward.
I would argue that prudence and decorum are good tools to have no matter what circle you move in, you just have to adapt the tools for the job :/
Septimaeus@infosec.pub · 1 pts · 106d
Agreed, and these might be expressions of kindness, respect, and other genuine virtues.
For example, prudence can mean wisdom, care warranted and given, or simply an instance of thoughtful behavior.
Likewise decorum can refer to respectful behavior, honor deserved and given, even a gesture of good faith participation in what others value simply because you recognize it its important to them, part of them, and you want them to know they’re accepted.
But just speaking directly, I’m not sure OP was demonstrating a lack of any of the above simply by the mildly lewd joke. Even of her grandmother was scandalized (pretty sure she wasn’t) it’d only be indecorous/unthoughful/unseemly/unkind if that was her intent.
Given that perspective, and noting (edit: the original commenter’s) authoritative grasp of normal family and interpersonal relationships, I figured (edit: the original commenter was) lamenting that kids these days fail to accommodate the conservative mores of their elders with the level of dedication and precision that we achieved at their age. Forgive my misunderstanding.
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 107d
Grandma got freaky, it's probably why there is a granddaughter.