Yup, just got my dual diagnosis at 40. In the US you couldn't even have a dual diagnosis until like 10 years ago. It doesn't change my day to day much but it does make me feel better about failing when trying ADHD coping mechanics that just aren't made for me. Now I can look for specific strategies.
I was going to comment that. People. Sensory things. Etc. I have strictly add now. AdHd as a kid. I'm really gregarious, outgoing, often the life of the party.
Yeah my checklist goes "When did I last have water? When did I last eat? When did I last use the bathroom? When did I last sleep?" Then if those are met, we get more specific. Like "Am I upset about mother or husband or twin or cat? Am I upset about some specific news? Some general news? The general world?"
If it's none of these, it might be worth getting a blood test.
I recently learned I had a severe vitamin D deficiency that had probably been going on for years. Started taking supplements and it's astounding how many of my physical and emotional issues suddenly cleared up.
I've got shame for years. But sometimes I draw something nice. I've actually seen some of my stuff reposted as memes, and that feels like the opposite of shame, whatever that is.
Anyway you don't do it for the art or whatever. You do it because it's good for you.
Creative isn't just traditional art and drawing, there's no way you've tried everything creative and everything makes you feel shame after. Poetry, writing, painting miniatures, origami, flower decorating, 3d modeling, programing, crocheting, macrame, pixel art, bead art, stained glass, mozaic, and so much more. I know "don't worry about the end result" doesn't lessen the feeling of shame, but instead focus on something super simple and approachable for a beginner to accomplish in whatever creative endeavor you engage in. Start small, build from there.
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sploosh@lemmy.world · 37 pts · 91d
Bad sounds? Clothes giving you anxiety? That's a 'tism.
ickplant@lemmy.world · 35 pts · 91d
Well, AuDHD is much more common than we realize, so yes.
kieron115@startrek.website · 8 pts · 91d
Yup, just got my dual diagnosis at 40. In the US you couldn't even have a dual diagnosis until like 10 years ago. It doesn't change my day to day much but it does make me feel better about failing when trying ADHD coping mechanics that just aren't made for me. Now I can look for specific strategies.
idiomaddict@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 91d
In addition to the prevalence of AuDHD, sensory processing issues are also a symptom of and sensory processing disorder is comorbid with ADHD.
flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 8 pts · 91d
Some things are symptoms of both autism and ADHD.
They are not only restricted to autism.
These comments bother me as much as the ones that say "everyone has that problem" because it is very difficult to carve out a single place for ADHD.
elucubra@sopuli.xyz · 2 pts · 90d
I was going to comment that. People. Sensory things. Etc. I have strictly add now. AdHd as a kid. I'm really gregarious, outgoing, often the life of the party.
Uebercomplicated@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 90d
Interestingly also a possible symptom of dyslexia. Dyslexia and autism habe a weird amount of overlap of you're "very" dyslexic.
RandomStickman@fedia.io · 30 pts · 91d
I'm in this picture and I don't like it
grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 9 pts · 91d
I think you look great
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works · 24 pts · 91d
You should put water and food at the top of the list because they're the most quickly fixed as well as the sneakiest.
RebekahWSD@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 91d
Yeah my checklist goes "When did I last have water? When did I last eat? When did I last use the bathroom? When did I last sleep?" Then if those are met, we get more specific. Like "Am I upset about mother or husband or twin or cat? Am I upset about some specific news? Some general news? The general world?"
WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today · 18 pts · 91d
"People" would be at the top of my list.
I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 91d
If it's none of these, it might be worth getting a blood test.
I recently learned I had a severe vitamin D deficiency that had probably been going on for years. Started taking supplements and it's astounding how many of my physical and emotional issues suddenly cleared up.
alexquiniou@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 90d
How exactly it affect your mood ?
I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 90d
Pretty heavy depression centered on a feeling of hopelessness
stoly@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 91d
I wish I could do creative. That sounds fun
moakley@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 91d
Even if you can't do it you just do it anyway. Make something genuinely terrible. It's good for you.
stoly@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 91d
I usually feel shame that stays with me for weeks or months.
deathmetaldawgy@lemmy.ml · 9 pts · 91d
That’s good because good artists (me) also feel this way (I am not a good artist)
SidewaysHighways@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 91d
me! (not me 😓)
moakley@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 90d
I've got shame for years. But sometimes I draw something nice. I've actually seen some of my stuff reposted as memes, and that feels like the opposite of shame, whatever that is.
Anyway you don't do it for the art or whatever. You do it because it's good for you.
grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 5 pts · 91d
Just make some marks using whatever tools you have. They don't even have to be visually appealing marks
Mesophar@pawb.social · 3 pts · 90d
Creative isn't just traditional art and drawing, there's no way you've tried everything creative and everything makes you feel shame after. Poetry, writing, painting miniatures, origami, flower decorating, 3d modeling, programing, crocheting, macrame, pixel art, bead art, stained glass, mozaic, and so much more. I know "don't worry about the end result" doesn't lessen the feeling of shame, but instead focus on something super simple and approachable for a beginner to accomplish in whatever creative endeavor you engage in. Start small, build from there.
jh29a@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 90d
It might be conceptually sad to some people, but programming something that I don't need works for me
SarahValentine@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 15 pts · 91d
MsFlammkuchen@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 91d
The tune from the bus goes round and round, ...
SarahValentine@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 91d
Honestly, in this case I was thinking of I'm Standing Outside A Broken Phone Booth With Money In My Hand.
pineapple@lemmy.ml · 14 pts · 91d
Missing didn't get enough sleep.
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 91d
Same as nervous nervous nervous nervous for me, typically.
qevlarr@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 90d
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 10 pts · 91d
Sat there in a club for nearly two hours last night before realising I was incredibly thirsty, then downed two bottles of water.
LGTM@discuss.tchncs.de · 9 pts · 91d
Wow, it'd probably be healthier to acknowledge that some of these might be why I'm not feeling great instead of buzzing around angry all the time
Timecircleline@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 91d
Add in hormonal fluctuations and I'm in this post and don't like it.
Rolive@discuss.tchncs.de · 5 pts · 90d
Everything except not eating. I'm as food motivated as the average Labrador.
BenLeMan@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 90d
And when you're highly sensitive to boot, things like smells or a bad vibe between the people in the room can be extremely stressful as well.
lengau@midwest.social · 2 pts · 90d
Two more for me:
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 90d
Try being a truck driver...
crashex@crazypeople.online · 2 pts · 90d
Or maybe don't.