Philosophical question: is oral sex considered a kink? For that matter, are all sex acts considered kinks? Or is there some line between kinks and..... Whatever you would call the other stuff ("regular" sex?)
Yes. "Regular sex" is the kind where people just assume what the other wants, where they don't talk about it and where they don't agree about consent before and do what both think is "common practice".
Kinky sex is where you find out what both like, whatever it is, what's ok for both (consent) and where you have fun and do what the fuck you both like, not thinking about what the fuck someone else might think.
That's interesting. I would have said kink is more about the activity being done than the conversation and lead up to it. I mean the conversation is obviously important but I wouldn't have thought part of the definition
Should I have added a sarcasm marker? I experience it regularly that people involved in kink care about consent - and a lot of vanilla people don't. Which is awful.
Yes, you always need consent.
It was a bit of bitterness and attempt at sarcasm that so many people do not talk about consent - and I know from kink even that can be fun and sexy. (Also in vanilla).
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lowleveldata@programming.dev · 15 pts · 12d
In tentacle monster we trust
homes@piefed.world · 6 pts · 12d
I don't think that's related to this post, and I'd like to hear more...
lowleveldata@programming.dev · 8 pts · 12d
Tongues are short tentacles
homes@piefed.world · 4 pts · 12d
GO ON
HeHoXa@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 10d
There was another high scoring post recently where someone folded a dollar bill to spell "HENTAI"
This was a new religion born
MantisToboggon@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 12d
Not if they are being licked by a cat.
wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world · -11 pts · 11d
Me, a furry: I disagree.
(felines, in my experience, are pretty freaky, and I absolutely love it. bring that muzzle over here for daddy, give me a taste of what's to come~)
LePoisson@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 11d
wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 11d
:3
HeHoXa@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 11d
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 9 pts · 11d
Nah. I had My genitals surgically removed. They're probably decomposing in a biomedical landfill right now, so I don't care if they're licked.
botbot@feddit.org · 4 pts · 11d
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 1 pts · 11d
You clicked on the genital licking post. You have no one to blame for this but yourself. 😂
huppakee@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 11d
Didn't you get new ones?
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 2 pts · 11d
Nah, I don't want any
huppakee@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 11d
Fine by me
homes@piefed.world · 7 pts · 12d
I do not agree, but I do not kink-shame
Edit: I definitely misread the post ‘licked’ as ‘kicked’—- oops!
danciestlobster@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 11d
Philosophical question: is oral sex considered a kink? For that matter, are all sex acts considered kinks? Or is there some line between kinks and..... Whatever you would call the other stuff ("regular" sex?)
froh42@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 11d
Yes. "Regular sex" is the kind where people just assume what the other wants, where they don't talk about it and where they don't agree about consent before and do what both think is "common practice".
Kinky sex is where you find out what both like, whatever it is, what's ok for both (consent) and where you have fun and do what the fuck you both like, not thinking about what the fuck someone else might think.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 11d
I don't agree. Consent isn't a kink. It's a baseline bare minimum.
Without it, anything you do IS rape.
Kinky sex does require communication. From there you can go anywhere you both want.
But even standard vanilla no frills sex ALSO requires consent.
danciestlobster@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 11d
That's interesting. I would have said kink is more about the activity being done than the conversation and lead up to it. I mean the conversation is obviously important but I wouldn't have thought part of the definition
froh42@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 11d
Kink is stuff "out of the percieved norm", so it has developed a culture of finding consent, that - sadly! - a lot of "normal people" don't have.
I want this always.
(And I've probably confused the person following up to my comment with my attempt of sarcasm)
froh42@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 11d
Should I have added a sarcasm marker? I experience it regularly that people involved in kink care about consent - and a lot of vanilla people don't. Which is awful.
Yes, you always need consent.
It was a bit of bitterness and attempt at sarcasm that so many people do not talk about consent - and I know from kink even that can be fun and sexy. (Also in vanilla).
homes@piefed.world · 1 pts · 11d
lol, I misread ‘licked’ as ‘kicked’— oops!
Malyca@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 10d
Asexual and I disagree
remon@ani.social · 1 pts · 11d
Eh, it's alright.
lohky@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 11d