When we got kids my wife and I couldn't find the time anymore to engage in kinky activities with each other. So she started looking on a BDSM site for extramarital partners. I wasn't that interested in the beginning so I didn't do the same.
But after she told me about some of her adventures (and also all the idiots who messaged her), I got curious and created an account without her knowledge. Created a silly Lego figurine as my avatar. And as my first order of business decided to hit up my wife.
All it took was one message to get her hooked. Always nice to get your rizz confirmed. Especially with the person you love the most.
I'm a cis het white guy, so luckily I didn't have to suffer any abuse. The "worst" was just not getting a reply. ¯\(ツ)/¯
The worst date I went on was with this girl in a wheelchair. I knew her before from kinky events and was fascinated by her artistic and kinky mind and how she combined that with her disability. So I was pleasantly surprised when we matched so we decided to go on a date in a bondage club.
Tying someone up or getting tied up is usually a quick and easy way to find what chemistry exists between two people. For us it was none. Absolutely nothing. I felt nothing and she probably as well because she was mostly on her phone when we weren't tying.
We are still on friendly terms. But I think I'm pretty lucky that this is the worst I can come up with.
Had that. Did a kinky week where I went to some kind of kinky event every day of the week. Munches, parties, rope training. Every day had something. I was pretty exhausted by the end.
Unless you are extroverted they can be a sad and lonely affair. Go with a friend you're sexually active with.
Much better to ease into are munches. Lets you see the people in a normal setting. Give it time, get to know people, make friends. When you then go to a club it's more like going to a normal party.
!lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world actually has quite a few good horny memes. And let's not forget the patron saints of horny shitposts @violet08_@lemmy.world and @TaylorSwiftsHemorrhoid@lemmy.world
There did exist some scrapers but they are fighting to keep those off the site. The first hurdle is that you need an account with a phone number to see anything on there. Makes it easier to ban anyone caught scraping or trying to do other shady shit.
Fetlife isn't a dating site. Sure, you can try using it like one. Just like you could try using Facebook like one. Or Lemmy. But just because it's sex positive doesn't mean it is for hookups. Like you noticed they are deliberately limiting people's ability to use it like a dating site.
Dating sites (especially the fetish ones) attract creeps and bots and Fetlife already has plenty of those. Managing it like a dating site would just make that so much worse.
If you are desperate to meet someone go to the events listed in your area. But again, if you go there with the intention of immediately hooking up you're going to be severely disappointed.
If you want to be derogatory towards Fetlife call it a porn site. Because that is the main reason people pay for it. To get access to videos.
RIP
When we got kids my wife and I couldn't find the time anymore to engage in kinky activities with each other. So she started looking on a BDSM site for extramarital partners. I wasn't that interested in the beginning so I didn't do the same.
But after she told me about some of her adventures (and also all the idiots who messaged her), I got curious and created an account without her knowledge. Created a silly Lego figurine as my avatar. And as my first order of business decided to hit up my wife.
All it took was one message to get her hooked. Always nice to get your rizz confirmed. Especially with the person you love the most.
I'm a cis het white guy, so luckily I didn't have to suffer any abuse. The "worst" was just not getting a reply. ¯\(ツ)/¯
The worst date I went on was with this girl in a wheelchair. I knew her before from kinky events and was fascinated by her artistic and kinky mind and how she combined that with her disability. So I was pleasantly surprised when we matched so we decided to go on a date in a bondage club.
Tying someone up or getting tied up is usually a quick and easy way to find what chemistry exists between two people. For us it was none. Absolutely nothing. I felt nothing and she probably as well because she was mostly on her phone when we weren't tying.
We are still on friendly terms. But I think I'm pretty lucky that this is the worst I can come up with.
I really like the exit interviews in kink.com videos where they talk about what fhey liked more or less. I think Ersties has something similar.
Time to find out if Piefed supports SVG.
Had that. Did a kinky week where I went to some kind of kinky event every day of the week. Munches, parties, rope training. Every day had something. I was pretty exhausted by the end.
Unless you are extroverted they can be a sad and lonely affair. Go with a friend you're sexually active with.
Much better to ease into are munches. Lets you see the people in a normal setting. Give it time, get to know people, make friends. When you then go to a club it's more like going to a normal party.
Ugh, I always forget that meaning. I hate it. Deleting.
Love your username!
Restrain her knees! Her legs will be all over the place!
You offering?
My boss hates Queen.
What could be less safe for work than imploring someone to stop with their work?
Just follow your instincts!
Manring on the dick!
I wish I knew.
One of my subs started working for Subway. She quickly got tired of people in the community ordering the Sub of the Day, hurr hurr, from her.
!lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world actually has quite a few good horny memes. And let's not forget the patron saints of horny shitposts @violet08_@lemmy.world and @TaylorSwiftsHemorrhoid@lemmy.world
There did exist some scrapers but they are fighting to keep those off the site. The first hurdle is that you need an account with a phone number to see anything on there. Makes it easier to ban anyone caught scraping or trying to do other shady shit.
Fetlife isn't a dating site. Sure, you can try using it like one. Just like you could try using Facebook like one. Or Lemmy. But just because it's sex positive doesn't mean it is for hookups. Like you noticed they are deliberately limiting people's ability to use it like a dating site.
Dating sites (especially the fetish ones) attract creeps and bots and Fetlife already has plenty of those. Managing it like a dating site would just make that so much worse.
If you are desperate to meet someone go to the events listed in your area. But again, if you go there with the intention of immediately hooking up you're going to be severely disappointed.
If you want to be derogatory towards Fetlife call it a porn site. Because that is the main reason people pay for it. To get access to videos.