Sonder - the profound feeling of realizing that everyone, including strangers passing in the street, has a life as complex as one's own, which they are constantly living despite one's personal lack of awareness of it.
Or Main Character Syndrome, which is the other side of things. The default is somewhere in the middle, varying with the individual. It's probably harder to not see yourself as central most of the time (but not necessarily Main Character), simply because of being trapped in that viewpoint.
I still clearly remember others' embarrassing, cringey moments from my high school years, and I'm in my 40s now. I shudder thinking about who still remembers the embarrassing things I said/did way back in my childhood.
There was a kid in middle school same year as me. Can't remember his real name. He got caught paddling the school canoe in the little boys room. Like three times. Everyone called him "Sticky" after that. He dropped out, tried to convince his family to move. His brother was cool tho.
I feel 3rd party embarassement (I am embarassed seeing someone else do something cringey) more than 1st party (feeling embarassed by my own cringe) so I know this ain't true. I think about how embarassing YOU are all the time.
As a child, told my mom I'd didn't like Laverne and Shirley because I was embarrassed for them, for their antics. Apparently I had loads of empathy, then and now. Doesn't mean I haven't done evil shit! The evil shit is what makes me feel awful. I can hadle being embarrassed. All I can do is try to put more good in the world than evil.
As you get older, something else happens. The people that were present at that cringy moment of yours die off. You may find yourself the only living person witness to the event. It helps. Not as much as it should but it does help.
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Rhaedas@fedia.io · 54 pts · 341d
Sonder - the profound feeling of realizing that everyone, including strangers passing in the street, has a life as complex as one's own, which they are constantly living despite one's personal lack of awareness of it.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 58 pts · 341d
The inverse:
Rhaedas@fedia.io · 18 pts · 341d
Or Main Character Syndrome, which is the other side of things. The default is somewhere in the middle, varying with the individual. It's probably harder to not see yourself as central most of the time (but not necessarily Main Character), simply because of being trapped in that viewpoint.
Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 341d
Some days this idea feels less true than others.
TachyonTele@piefed.social · 5 pts · 341d
Great band name
GargleBlaster@feddit.org · 9 pts · 341d
It's a bit long, don't you think?
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 341d
Don't be hatin' on STPFORTEISPITSHALACAONWTACLDOPLOAOI!
onslaught545@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 341d
I admire your dedication to the bit
StarMerchant938@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 341d
lemmyknow@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 341d
San Holo - All The Highs (Official Music Video)
Xerxis@lemmy.ca · 33 pts · 341d
What if you actually can distinctly remember other people's embarassing moments?
Ghyste@sh.itjust.works · 13 pts · 341d
Does it help?
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 341d
Gives me the occasional giggle, also the occasional pang of sympathy as I recognize more of the shit they were going through day to day.
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz · 2 pts · 340d
It can give you a reality check. You might've done cringe shit but so have others so it's not as big of a deal
cobysev@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 341d
I still clearly remember others' embarrassing, cringey moments from my high school years, and I'm in my 40s now. I shudder thinking about who still remembers the embarrassing things I said/did way back in my childhood.
Klear@quokk.au · 2 pts · 340d
Probably because you're friends with this embarassing excuse for a person.
Aquaphobi@lemmy.zip · 17 pts · 341d
I knew a guy who got caught masturbating in his car in a public parking lot
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 341d
There was a kid in middle school same year as me. Can't remember his real name. He got caught paddling the school canoe in the little boys room. Like three times. Everyone called him "Sticky" after that. He dropped out, tried to convince his family to move. His brother was cool tho.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 341d
This guy has me dead to rights.
If you need me, I'll be in the closet crying.
lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 341d
I know what you did last summer
and it was pretty embarrassing
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 11 pts · 341d
I feel 3rd party embarassement (I am embarassed seeing someone else do something cringey) more than 1st party (feeling embarassed by my own cringe) so I know this ain't true. I think about how embarassing YOU are all the time.
shalafi@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 341d
As a child, told my mom I'd didn't like Laverne and Shirley because I was embarrassed for them, for their antics. Apparently I had loads of empathy, then and now. Doesn't mean I haven't done evil shit! The evil shit is what makes me feel awful. I can hadle being embarrassed. All I can do is try to put more good in the world than evil.
partial_accumen@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 341d
As you get older, something else happens. The people that were present at that cringy moment of yours die off. You may find yourself the only living person witness to the event. It helps. Not as much as it should but it does help.
psx_crab@lemmy.zip · 7 pts · 341d
I know it's an embarrassing moment, but damn, you don't have to kill them off 💀
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net · 4 pts · 341d
Nah, we all still remember how Caligula tried to pick a fight with Poseidon and how cringe that was
Klear@quokk.au · 2 pts · 340d
You can also speed this process up if you want to!
shalafi@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 341d
If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.
About the only embarrassing moments I can recall of other people's actions, they didn't know, at the time, that they should have been embarrassed.
asteriskeverything@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 341d
I definitely have some other people's cringe moments living rent free in my mind for years
Randomgal@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 341d
I fucking do. Now what?
TachyonTele@piefed.social · 5 pts · 341d
I like turtles.
I can accept that now.
jawa22@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 341d
Jonathan the zombie‽
dumbass@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 340d
If I worries about every single cringe thing I've ever done, I'd be in constant agony.
Netrunner@programming.dev · 3 pts · 340d
This meme is definitely not true.
UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 340d
I wish it was, sorry.
dragonfucker@lemmy.nz · 1 pts · 341d
Donald Trump pooped his pants on live TV and drag remembered
Lumidaub@feddit.org · 1 pts · 341d
This but unironically.