The faster you get back to the true you, the happier you'll be for the rest of your life.
Unfortunately, I don't think there's any way around this. I believe it's a natural part of growing up. We strive to fit in as part of learning who we aren't. I believe the more social experiences you have during your formative years, and in your early twenties, the faster you can figure out who you aren't as a way to help discover who you are.
I always thought it was one or the other aswell, until I found my people. No judgement, no jerks, just an amazing friend group. you will find your people.
This is great. I turned 40 this year and for the past year or so I'd just been telling my oldest to embrace his "weird". He's always been an "old soul", and he's got such a unique personality, I don't want the world taking that from him.
Unfortunately he is getting picked on for all of it. Not wanting to eat meat. Absolutely loving our pet chickens (layers). Not believing in God (he has been getting so much shit from 3 other kids).
It's not that easy. Playing video games and watching anime in a dark room all day is rough on my hips and shoulders now. But at least I don't have to wear pants.
I learned how to conform hard, I was bullied a lot in middle and high school, and I spent college and the years after doing my best to fit into my social circles so I wouldn’t be bullied again. I’m about to turn 30, and I’m so ready to drop all the masks I learned to wear.
21 Comments
brap@lemmy.world · 36 pts · 295d
Tf you mean money and driving? Where’s my god damned money?
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz · 8 pts · 295d
Can't even afford to drive
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world · 30 pts · 295d
The faster you get back to the true you, the happier you'll be for the rest of your life.
Unfortunately, I don't think there's any way around this. I believe it's a natural part of growing up. We strive to fit in as part of learning who we aren't. I believe the more social experiences you have during your formative years, and in your early twenties, the faster you can figure out who you aren't as a way to help discover who you are.
bleistift2@sopuli.xyz · 25 pts · 295d
Life really is much easier when you’re not judged by a horde of jerks anymore.
natecox@programming.dev · 13 pts · 295d
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz · 5 pts · 295d
When you reject their opinions
TheColonel@reddthat.com · 6 pts · 295d
And/or separate yourself from them.
absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz · 0 pts · 295d
“Choose not to be harmed—and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed—and you haven’t been.“ Marcus Aurelius
Basically if you let them live in your head, then they are "the jerks". Once you transcend their bullshit, you are free.
natecox@programming.dev · 1 pts · 295d
bizarroland@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 295d
The only tradeoff is I kind of wish I had friends. I'm tired of being a fucking lone.
corodius@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 295d
I always thought it was one or the other aswell, until I found my people. No judgement, no jerks, just an amazing friend group. you will find your people.
edgemaster72@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 295d
JasonDJ@lemmy.zip · 15 pts · 295d
This is great. I turned 40 this year and for the past year or so I'd just been telling my oldest to embrace his "weird". He's always been an "old soul", and he's got such a unique personality, I don't want the world taking that from him.
Unfortunately he is getting picked on for all of it. Not wanting to eat meat. Absolutely loving our pet chickens (layers). Not believing in God (he has been getting so much shit from 3 other kids).
At least the teacher has his back.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net · 7 pts · 295d
I was picked on a lot. Now I have a cudgel at the ready for those who try and step on anyone I mentor or my kids.
You're more patient than I would be in that situation.
Omega_Jimes@lemmy.ca · 9 pts · 295d
I keep telling people in their twenties not to even entertain the idea of growing up. You get bored of it fast.
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 9 pts · 295d
I wish I had money...
Sabata11792@ani.social · 5 pts · 295d
It's not that easy. Playing video games and watching anime in a dark room all day is rough on my hips and shoulders now. But at least I don't have to wear pants.
compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 295d
I learned how to conform hard, I was bullied a lot in middle and high school, and I spent college and the years after doing my best to fit into my social circles so I wouldn’t be bullied again. I’m about to turn 30, and I’m so ready to drop all the masks I learned to wear.
Phegan@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 295d
P1k1e@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 295d
One more year, so far transformation going smooth
Valmond@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 295d
@50 Why on earth should I work at some kind of jub at all?
Oh yeah, food and convenience :-/
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz · 2 pts · 295d
Really? I was already unlearning the shit school tell you by the end of my 20s.
tomiant@piefed.social · 1 pts · 295d
meirl
falseWhite@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 295d
zout@fedia.io · 1 pts · 295d
We get it, it just gets old.
sparkles@piefed.zip · 1 pts · 295d