Even as an Enby, I feel like I don’t want to intrude.
Thanks for being sensitive to kluczyczka, but I also wanted to point out that enbies who feel they belong in a women's community are explicitly welcome here - don't exclude yourself from the women's space just because you're an enby if you otherwise feel you belong.
Growing up "male" and still being broadly seen that way, I really enjoy reading the conversations in this space. It helps me connect more deeply to the rest of me that was denied for so long.
I'm happy learning from this community, if I offered a perspective it'd be from that history which is frankly from a male experience. Plenty of places to get those online without me bringing that here.
This might change in time I guess. Still a messy process for me!
hey, i am happy about your affirmation of my idea .. but would you mind not calling me 'guy'? i am surprised myself about how deep that hit, knowing that there is a gender neutral nuance to it ... but plz don't.
I was surprised by my own hesitation when I wrote it and did ponder alternatives, wish I'd gone with one of them now.
All the vaguely gender neutral casual terms for strangers all feel like they have a gendered flavour to them for me.. Dude, Bro, Fella... Do you have a preferred term for situations like this?
I'm just gonna edit it to use your name. That's what I'd do IRL.
fwiw, the sensitivity folks have for this varies ... I myself was very sensitive to otherwise neutral terms like "guys" or "dude" early in transition mostly because I couldn't distinguish when someone was misgendering me or not ... but once I started to pass and my trans status became secret, "guys" no longer bothered me because it was so unlikely to be misgendering.
So it's good to be sensitive when people give you feedback, but just know it's not like there is a single rule that will work for everyone.
I use "comrade" myself. Albeit in its Chinese formulation: 同志. (See, while it's unbearably stuffy in modern China, 同志 is also the term used in the LGBTQ+ community in China to refer to each other which is a really spiffy subversion of authority that I adore to pieces.)
Omg every woman in the world would want to be your friend! It would be amazing. I'd choose learning any language i wanted, it'd be cool but I fucking hate learning languages so I'm not doing it
My Dad is a mechanic, he taught my brother, they fine tune race cars together. I, being afab, although deeply interested, wasn't included. There's a tafe course near me, that does the basics, if you want to go into an apprenticeship, I desperately want to go. I already have my electrotechnology cert 2. I couldn't pursue it as a career, the electrician thing, because I have kids and no one to watch them. It was so weird being the only woman among men in the elctro course. I loved the learning, though.
Sewing. I can hand stitch things but I’m pretty slow. I’d love to be able to create or alter my clothes a lot faster and with a sewing machine.
I love cutting out graphics from old tshirts and sewing them onto blank shirts from the craft store. I have a Yoshi image that I’ve been sewing from shirt to shirt for about 20 years. I still get compliments when I wear it. I want to do that, but faster.
I think I’d choose sewing too. I did get a machine and I’ve made a couple of things. But a lot of patterns feel like stereo instructions. I did recently purchase a book with some patterns and instructions on tailoring. I’ve read a good deal of it. But yet to have time to begin pattern work.
I had a book called Generation T that was a lot of using existing shirts to change a look, which is what I really like to do vs following a pattern. There was also a couple in the early 2000s who do a lot of DIY videos and encouraged people who use what they already had to create new things. I can’t remember their channels name right now, but they were around for a while.
My MIL has offered to get me a sewing machine, but I need to focus on it first. Too many hobbies 😁
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phr@discuss.tchncs.de · 12 pts · 202d
play the piano. i feel like music is my biggest gap in "basic human activities".
is dating a hobby? asking for a friend.
essell@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 201d
Comment removed. I posted in haste without noticing which community I'm in. Even as an Enby, I feel like I don't want to intrude. Apologies!
foxglove@lazysoci.al MOD · 4 pts · 201d
Thanks for being sensitive to kluczyczka, but I also wanted to point out that enbies who feel they belong in a women's community are explicitly welcome here - don't exclude yourself from the women's space just because you're an enby if you otherwise feel you belong.
essell@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 201d
Thank you for the warmth and welcoming.
Growing up "male" and still being broadly seen that way, I really enjoy reading the conversations in this space. It helps me connect more deeply to the rest of me that was denied for so long.
I'm happy learning from this community, if I offered a perspective it'd be from that history which is frankly from a male experience. Plenty of places to get those online without me bringing that here.
This might change in time I guess. Still a messy process for me!
foxglove@lazysoci.al · 3 pts · 201d
sure, and it's totally up to you, just wanted to make the policy explicit so you didn't gatekeep yourself unnecessarily
thanks for being so considerate 💖
essell@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 201d
❤️
phr@discuss.tchncs.de · 2 pts · 201d
hey, i am happy about your affirmation of my idea .. but would you mind not calling me 'guy'? i am surprised myself about how deep that hit, knowing that there is a gender neutral nuance to it ... but plz don't.
essell@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 201d
Sorry about that, totally won't do it again.
I was surprised by my own hesitation when I wrote it and did ponder alternatives, wish I'd gone with one of them now.
All the vaguely gender neutral casual terms for strangers all feel like they have a gendered flavour to them for me.. Dude, Bro, Fella... Do you have a preferred term for situations like this?
I'm just gonna edit it to use your name. That's what I'd do IRL.
Sorry again
dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 201d
fwiw, the sensitivity folks have for this varies ... I myself was very sensitive to otherwise neutral terms like "guys" or "dude" early in transition mostly because I couldn't distinguish when someone was misgendering me or not ... but once I started to pass and my trans status became secret, "guys" no longer bothered me because it was so unlikely to be misgendering.
So it's good to be sensitive when people give you feedback, but just know it's not like there is a single rule that will work for everyone.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 3 pts · 201d
I use "comrade" myself. Albeit in its Chinese formulation: 同志. (See, while it's unbearably stuffy in modern China, 同志 is also the term used in the LGBTQ+ community in China to refer to each other which is a really spiffy subversion of authority that I adore to pieces.)
phr@discuss.tchncs.de · 2 pts · 201d
"her" would be fine, or "person", or "you".
tyvm! 💖
xpey@piefed.social · 1 pts · 201d
Tim Minchin mentioned!!
oxysis@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 202d
Car repairs, seems fun but if I could instantly master it? Oooo I would be doing so many things with that power.
What would you pick?
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 201d
Omg every woman in the world would want to be your friend! It would be amazing. I'd choose learning any language i wanted, it'd be cool but I fucking hate learning languages so I'm not doing it
oxysis@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 201d
Oooo picking up another language would be a great one!!!
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 201d
oxysis@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 201d
Yeah from what I’ve learned new cars are a disaster to deal with
LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 199d
My Dad is a mechanic, he taught my brother, they fine tune race cars together. I, being afab, although deeply interested, wasn't included. There's a tafe course near me, that does the basics, if you want to go into an apprenticeship, I desperately want to go. I already have my electrotechnology cert 2. I couldn't pursue it as a career, the electrician thing, because I have kids and no one to watch them. It was so weird being the only woman among men in the elctro course. I loved the learning, though.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 9 pts · 202d
Pickpocketing! It's not like I want to use it, it's just that I'll never be able to learn it through practice without jail time.
proudblond@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 202d
Woodworking
GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 201d
A physical activiyy, like rock climbing or fencing or lifting weights. Instantly being in peak shape would be nice!
Oh! Or 3d modeling, that'd be sick!
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 201d
cactusfangs@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 201d
Fluently knowing multiple languages.
putitoutwithyourbootsted@piefed.social · 5 pts · 201d
Painting, watercolor or some such.
HowlsSophie@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 201d
Definitely piano. Recently started lessons and can't wait to play more of my favorite songs.
m4xie@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 201d
Graphic design or 3D computer modeling, because they are closer to the base of my hobby pyramid
dkppunk@piefed.social · 4 pts · 201d
Sewing. I can hand stitch things but I’m pretty slow. I’d love to be able to create or alter my clothes a lot faster and with a sewing machine.
I love cutting out graphics from old tshirts and sewing them onto blank shirts from the craft store. I have a Yoshi image that I’ve been sewing from shirt to shirt for about 20 years. I still get compliments when I wear it. I want to do that, but faster.
Cort@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 201d
Practice makes perfect. Keep an eye on Craigslist and marketplace for a used machine.
dkppunk@piefed.social · 1 pts · 200d
It’s probably more I don’t have the attention span to sit and practice, so I want to instantly learn it
gingersaffronapricat@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 201d
I think I’d choose sewing too. I did get a machine and I’ve made a couple of things. But a lot of patterns feel like stereo instructions. I did recently purchase a book with some patterns and instructions on tailoring. I’ve read a good deal of it. But yet to have time to begin pattern work.
dkppunk@piefed.social · 2 pts · 200d
I had a book called Generation T that was a lot of using existing shirts to change a look, which is what I really like to do vs following a pattern. There was also a couple in the early 2000s who do a lot of DIY videos and encouraged people who use what they already had to create new things. I can’t remember their channels name right now, but they were around for a while.
My MIL has offered to get me a sewing machine, but I need to focus on it first. Too many hobbies 😁
gingersaffronapricat@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 200d
Cool resource! Thanks! I feel that. So many cool things to learn and try. So few hours in a day.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 2 pts · 201d
My woodwinds.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 196d
Whatever is a hobby I'd love that would make me enough money to live independently with good job security and build a good future with my partner.