There seems to be a bit of a distinction between the sycophantic behaviour of chat gpt and a praiser. I really can't remember exactly what would be different as I don't interact with cGPT and it's been a while since I've gotten to be in a relationship that got that deep.
Yeah I didn't really think it through at any more than a superficial level, I was just in it for the lols.
I can't say I use genAI tools unless I'm having a really hard time with either a foreign piece of code, or an academic text that I'm just not grasping and need a reworded form of to help it sink in.
As for a relationship, my experience is that the further in you get, the less "praise" you get, and the more "direct developmental feedback" is the common line taken. Back in the dating days, an irritating quirk or annoying facet might have been warmly addressed with "hey it's cool that you're passionate about that game, have you not tried shouting at the TV though? It's not helpful for you or the gameplay"... now it's just "stop being a cunt" or "have you tried being less shit?"
I've baked into the settings for chat gpt to NOT compliment our praise me for anything. It'll still tell me I'm correct if I ask, but I rarely ask, because if you have to ask....
I just told it to talk like Foghorn Leghorn. It doesn't bother me nearly as much when instead of "you're absolutely right!" It says "well now boy, I say boy, you're sharp as a tack! I was more mixed up than a haybale in a tornado! That's a joke, son! Now pay attention, boy, cause here's the real solution!"
How do you get those to stay? One of my biggest complaints about that clanker is the fucker can't remember basic directives for very long, and I'm constantly telling it to stay in the language I'm using instead of fucking off and doing whatever else it feels like doing.
You can't give it custom instructions in the personalisation settings.
Mine are:
Use an encouraging tone. Avoid praise. Take a forward-thinking view. Tell it like it is; don't sugar-coat responses. Use quick and clever humor when appropriate. Swearing is caring.
I got the whole afternoon for myself. My romantic prospects have dried out so having these conversations with strangers is refreshing. No kinkshaming on my side.
Me too, if it is for a trivial task I might even suspect that they are toying with me in some way. Kind of funny, that almost everyone is somehow screwed in one way or another.
Proactively communicating your needs and preferences makes things a bit better for everyone, and takes an immense amount of vulnerability to do so. Good girl xx
Somehow I ended up hating praise... and numb to criticism too. If anyone has an opinion on me, keep it to yourself cause I don't want to hear it. And don't talk about me behind my back either. In fact, close your eyes and plug your ears when I'm around cause I'm tired of your perception too.
As a relatively intelligent autistic, I got into many cycles of pity and praise (pity (for being a worthless minority), praise (being smart and/or an intellectual) and pity when they inevitably figure out I can't take as much stress as a naurotypical).
Don't praise me, it will just pressure me into overworking and being tired and overwhelmed.
Being a minority is painful.
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Gonzako@lemmy.world · 79 pts · 225d
Who's a good girl?
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk · 43 pts · 225d
Fucking hell, speaking with ChatGPT would leave you* like Randy Marsh.
"You've made great progress on this, here is how to take it further"
"I appreciate your input, it helps me understand better"
"You're very welcome! Don't worry, your kindness and humor have secured you a VIP spot in the Al utopia."
*edit: not you you, but you as in the OP in the screen grab. But maybe you you, I don't know it's 2026 do what you like really
Gonzako@lemmy.world · 29 pts · 225d
There seems to be a bit of a distinction between the sycophantic behaviour of chat gpt and a praiser. I really can't remember exactly what would be different as I don't interact with cGPT and it's been a while since I've gotten to be in a relationship that got that deep.
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk · 16 pts · 225d
Yeah I didn't really think it through at any more than a superficial level, I was just in it for the lols.
I can't say I use genAI tools unless I'm having a really hard time with either a foreign piece of code, or an academic text that I'm just not grasping and need a reworded form of to help it sink in.
As for a relationship, my experience is that the further in you get, the less "praise" you get, and the more "direct developmental feedback" is the common line taken. Back in the dating days, an irritating quirk or annoying facet might have been warmly addressed with "hey it's cool that you're passionate about that game, have you not tried shouting at the TV though? It's not helpful for you or the gameplay"... now it's just "stop being a cunt" or "have you tried being less shit?"
pfr@piefed.social · 5 pts · 225d
I've baked into the settings for chat gpt to NOT compliment our praise me for anything. It'll still tell me I'm correct if I ask, but I rarely ask, because if you have to ask....
Gonzako@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 225d
Oh, gotcha! For me it's something I caught up because my cuties loved it and it meshed really well in the D/s dynamic we had going on.
I'm certain I'd enjoy some praise and attention too but I still haven't really gotten into a relationship where that happens
GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 225d
I just told it to talk like Foghorn Leghorn. It doesn't bother me nearly as much when instead of "you're absolutely right!" It says "well now boy, I say boy, you're sharp as a tack! I was more mixed up than a haybale in a tornado! That's a joke, son! Now pay attention, boy, cause here's the real solution!"
Passerby6497@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 225d
How do you get those to stay? One of my biggest complaints about that clanker is the fucker can't remember basic directives for very long, and I'm constantly telling it to stay in the language I'm using instead of fucking off and doing whatever else it feels like doing.
pfr@piefed.social · 2 pts · 225d
You can't give it custom instructions in the personalisation settings.
Mine are:
Use an encouraging tone. Avoid praise. Take a forward-thinking view. Tell it like it is; don't sugar-coat responses. Use quick and clever humor when appropriate. Swearing is caring.
hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 225d
Or install cargo-mommy if that's your thing, and then you can avoid AI too
kotauskas@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 225d
le rant has arrived
not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 28 pts · 225d
🥹🥹
WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 11 pts · 225d
Me me! Is it me? Please! Me!
Gonzako@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 225d
That's a good girl!
purplerabbit@piefed.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 225d
aa 🫣😳🐇
Mim@lemmy.zip · 47 pts · 225d
Good girl!
not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 22 pts · 225d
🥹🥹🥹🥹
lasta@piefed.world · 24 pts · 225d
Not the worst outcome, considering the other kinks you could have been dealt.
vzqq@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 33 pts · 225d
FWIW it’s usually in addition to, not instead of.
Gonzako@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 225d
Anything interesting on your side?
GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 225d
Might be easier to list the interesting kinks that aren't on my side.
Gonzako@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 225d
I got the whole afternoon for myself. My romantic prospects have dried out so having these conversations with strangers is refreshing. No kinkshaming on my side.
jaybone@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 225d
Feet
thethrilloftime69@feddit.online · 11 pts · 225d
That's funny, it annoys me when people praise me when I feel like I don't deserve it. Actions speak louder than words.
NerdsGonnaNerd@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 224d
Me too, if it is for a trivial task I might even suspect that they are toying with me in some way. Kind of funny, that almost everyone is somehow screwed in one way or another.
kittenzrulz123@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 10 pts · 225d
Its not an addiction, I just need to be called good girl one more time :3
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net · 10 pts · 225d
Proactively communicating your needs and preferences makes things a bit better for everyone, and takes an immense amount of vulnerability to do so. Good girl xx
kittenzrulz123@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 224d
Mroooow :3
Hackworth@piefed.ca · 8 pts · 225d
I eventually ran out of energy for the requisite hyper-aware perception management.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 8 pts · 225d
It's something! I only got chronic illnesses (possibly psychosomatic). I hope your life is as kinky as you want it to be.
derry@midwest.social · 6 pts · 225d
We'll that explains a lot. And cheaper than group therapy.
endless_nameless@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 225d
Somehow I ended up hating praise... and numb to criticism too. If anyone has an opinion on me, keep it to yourself cause I don't want to hear it. And don't talk about me behind my back either. In fact, close your eyes and plug your ears when I'm around cause I'm tired of your perception too.
Denvil@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 225d
Would have have brought
JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz · 2 pts · 224d
As a relatively intelligent autistic, I got into many cycles of pity and praise (pity (for being a worthless minority), praise (being smart and/or an intellectual) and pity when they inevitably figure out I can't take as much stress as a naurotypical).
Don't praise me, it will just pressure me into overworking and being tired and overwhelmed. Being a minority is painful.
pirc_lover@feddit.uk · 2 pts · 225d
Just wanna be told I’m a good boy and doing a good job T.T
selokichtli@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 225d
I feel the same all the time. Only without the "gifted" part.
Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 225d
I feel seen