I am pan, and have been with all sorts of people, and I have this one ancient, infallible technique that always guarantees a good time:
Listening
I'm dead serious. It works wonders across the entire board, regardless of gender, sexuality, body type, ability, or equipment configuration. Whoever your partner is, communication is your most valuable tool. Whether verbal or non-verbal, listening to what your partner has to say about what they want and how they feel will always tell you what to do.
As someone with less experience I experience that is exactly what I would have expected to be most important but I would have also thought that it is so trivial that it probably doesn't need to be said.
I would have also thought that it is so trivial that it probably doesn't need to be said.
In my experience, the majority of people I know who were in relationships don't get it. So many times, their problems could be resolved by simple communication. Sadly, no matter how hard I try to ram it in their heads, they still don't get it.
Do the dishes and other chores. If she's not relaxed and thinking of all the other shit in her life that she has to do shortly after she won't enjoy it
My favorite, (and theirs :3) is combining toys and body. Whether it be a vibrator and your hand or a vibrator and penetration, that double combo makes for some intense times.
Well communication and asking what they prefer listening to their responses etc BUT getting good with my mouth has gotten me amazing reactions and awe whether it is a dick or a tit I am sucking on.
I give them full control and power. I am the opposite in public life, which is interesting I suppose. I tend to seek out those who want such things. That and going back in for round 2 before I leave.
46 Comments
throbbing_banjo@lemmy.world · 77 pts · 102d
First, I put on my wizard hat...
MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca · 20 pts · 102d
I was there Gandalf, 3000 years ago...
hemmes@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 102d
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
thurstylark@lemmy.today · 51 pts · 102d
I am pan, and have been with all sorts of people, and I have this one ancient, infallible technique that always guarantees a good time:
Listening
I'm dead serious. It works wonders across the entire board, regardless of gender, sexuality, body type, ability, or equipment configuration. Whoever your partner is, communication is your most valuable tool. Whether verbal or non-verbal, listening to what your partner has to say about what they want and how they feel will always tell you what to do.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 24 pts · 102d
Ziglin@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 102d
As someone with less experience I experience that is exactly what I would have expected to be most important but I would have also thought that it is so trivial that it probably doesn't need to be said.
Confee@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 102d
In my experience, the majority of people I know who were in relationships don't get it. So many times, their problems could be resolved by simple communication. Sadly, no matter how hard I try to ram it in their heads, they still don't get it.
Bwaz@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 102d
Maybe not. The basic idea, not obvious to all, is that this is something you do WITH a partner, not a performance you put on for them.
AskewLord@piefed.social · 1 pts · 102d
except when the person lies
Gnugit@aussie.zone · 40 pts · 102d
Cook dinner, wash the dishes and help with the laundry.
Billy_fuccboi@lemmy.world · 28 pts · 102d
And eat pussy
kureta@lemmy.ml · 15 pts · 102d
remon@ani.social · 6 pts · 102d
Damn, the housing crises is really bad ... do you at least have a separate room for the toilet?
Gnugit@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 102d
That depends on how spicy we feel.
enphurgen@lemmy.world · 28 pts · 102d
Can we not turn into reddit please? Just fucking talk to your partner
Confee@fedinsfw.app · 14 pts · 102d
I'm fine with it. Asking questions is a good way to get ideas you may have never thought of yourself.
happydoors@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 101d
No, there is a simple answer for sex and relationships out there. There’s gotta be. I JUST NEED TO FIND IT. LOUD NOISES.
87Six@lemmy.zip · 16 pts · 101d
Do the dishes and other chores. If she's not relaxed and thinking of all the other shit in her life that she has to do shortly after she won't enjoy it
Never had sex in my life tho so idk
kalpol@lemmy.ca · 10 pts · 101d
You're not wrong though
bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de · 16 pts · 102d
!askfedinsfw@fedinsfw.app
AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space · 12 pts · 102d
“after me and the missus do it, I wipe my dick on the curtains, and she hits the roof”
hanrahan@slrpnk.net · 11 pts · 101d
speak eloquently about the existential threat of climate change,.
Lemminary@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 101d
*boing* Go on...
Tedesche@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 101d
Right as they’re about to climax, I do my Donald Duck impression.
guy@piefed.social · 9 pts · 102d
I touch the parts they enjoy and listen to their response for how the touching should be. 9/10 success rate
melsaskca@lemmy.ca · 8 pts · 102d
Two minutes of wild missionary then BOOM!...Johnny Carson. /s
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 101d
I like to turn on Johnny to set the mood, actually.
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 102d
BilboBargains@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 101d
I like to rip one out that lifts the bed clothes
AskewLord@piefed.social · 5 pts · 102d
just tell her what a good girl she is.
mech@feddit.org · 5 pts · 101d
You gotta keep up 88 thrusts per minute for at least 2 minutes, then roll over and fall asleep.
Yes, women too.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 101d
Doing this generates 1.21 jizzywatts.
mech@feddit.org · 1 pts · 101d
Great Scock!
Confee@fedinsfw.app · 5 pts · 102d
My favorite, (and theirs :3) is combining toys and body. Whether it be a vibrator and your hand or a vibrator and penetration, that double combo makes for some intense times.
HeyMrDeadMan@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 102d
🤟
Don't forget to use your thumb, too.
Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 102d
Cunnilingus also, somehow, taking 'no' for an answer.
BreadOven@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 101d
First put the beads in... Then
Widdershins@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 101d
I've always wanted to rip them out like I'm starting a lawnmower.
WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 101d
Well communication and asking what they prefer listening to their responses etc BUT getting good with my mouth has gotten me amazing reactions and awe whether it is a dick or a tit I am sucking on.
SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 102d
I give them full control and power. I am the opposite in public life, which is interesting I suppose. I tend to seek out those who want such things. That and going back in for round 2 before I leave.
Skullgrid@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 102d
ghen@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 101d
I got number two in spades but my wife hates it.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 101d
Not everybody is into poop.
Skullgrid@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 101d
did you know that you can stop once she runs out of vaginal fluid? It's true!
BreadOven@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 101d
First put the beads in then..... Let 'ER RIP!
bcgm3@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 101d
They take one look at me, and they're stark raving mad.
kat_angstrom@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 102d
Not Wheelbarrow