part of me doesn't like telling people how big, because i want them to want to fuck me for me. but its big, and i find it really funny being bigger than people who care way too much about that.
Stupid question: are we talking about the penis of a transman? Is it actually generally bigger than the average cisman’s? I just assumed the surgery could not achieve that, but I don’t actually know anything about the surgery.
Phalloplasty followed by medical tattooing can result in some spectacularly realistic (and decently sized) penii.
The sugery is brutal though, don't go looking this up if you're not ready to see extreme gore.
In summary though, flesh is taken from the forearm or the back of the thigh and grafted over (usually) a flexible rod (the other option is a flaccid inflatable, with the pump concealed in a bollock) on the mons pubis, to create the penis.
Optionally plumbing can slso be linked up, so one can stand to piss, and balls can be inserted. Along with all that, surgically closing the vulva/vaginal canal is also an option too.
I spent way too much time looking into this at one point. Things may have changed a bit since then when it come to phallo, but I doubt much.
i have so many questions, like, some of my favorite memories are being traumatized walking in on my mother watching the public access surgery show. i want to talk shop with one of the surgeons basically some of the tools they can use are really cool. not osteo though, they just use hammers.
I know there are lots of different scenarios, but isn’t the meme referring to someone who has undergone phalloplasty, which I assume is most commonly someone assigned female at birth?
taking you at your word that you're being genuine, this meme is referring to the common situation where a cis man is fetishizing a trans woman while assuming she still has her default hardware (i.e. hasn't had bottom surgery) and asking inappropriate questions to her ("how big is it")
you may direct further questions to me via DM; asking these questions in the context of this meme seems to be being received poorly, for understandable reasons, even if your intentions are genuinely to understand
I’m just really sick of hearing cis people ask about trans people’s dicks. I’d almost rather if you asked chat gpt and got a hallucination. It does not matter if you are able to visualize what a trans persons dick looks like. There is just no way you’d ever need that information.
iirc, penile inversion vaginoplasty (which i think is the most common technique of vaginoplasty?) takes penile tissue to create a neovagina. so, the more penile tissue you have, the better your results are likely to be.
Can phallo create a foreskin? If so, I wonder if there's ever been a peculiar Jewish trans man who got phallo, got it with a foreskin, and then went through with circumcision. Just the right Venn diagram of trans status and idiosyncratic religious beliefs.
Oh sure its none on my business at all which is why I never ask. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't wonder or I wouldn't look if offered.
I feel like the only time it would be my business at all is if they were a romantic partner but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have to wonder if that were the case.
Probably, everyone is weird. But why should you care? Maybe you're ACE, maybe you just don't give a fuck, maybe a billion other reasons. None of it matters if you are happy.
I think about a lot of physical traits I find hot in women, but unless I'm prompted, I just don't consider genitals. It's not like I'd see them until we're already dtf
I used to game with this tgirl a lot. We were really close and the amount of people that would ask me about what was in her pants was annoying. Like no one would ask her directly, it was always me. I think people sometimes assumed we were together even though she had zero interest in me but that makes it even weirder.
It's always disheartening to hear what these creeps say behind our backs. Still, I'd rather hear about it than be kept in the dark. Thank you for sharing.
::: spoiler fun naughty story
i was in rehab with this guy who told us about a sexy encounter he had with a woman, pretty sure drugs were involved, said he reached around the front side of her and felt her dick and it made him nut instantly, it was a really wholesome rehab moment, i still think about it
:::
"It" in this case being an actual human being. If he wanted to masturbate to the vague concept of a woman with a penis he could give her any size dick he fancies without being creepy and transphobic to real people.
Big difference between being asked if you want to do something and saying no as opposed to volunteering that you don't want to do something when nobody asked.
I'm cishet myself, mom and friend of trans people. And the answer is yes. But also, be careful because sometimes you don't know when "we" includes one of "them." I happen to agree anyway, but many don't.
Note the red cap. Hateful chasers arent to be empathized with. Racists often find people of color attractive sexually. The amount of slave owners that sexually abused slaves is innumerable.
Someone telling me they want to jack off whole thinking about me, especially someone I don't know well, is nasty. Not in any way positive or complimentary.
Chasers don't deserve any positive interaction.
I also don't see any hostile reply, just someone trying to backdpeddal after their comment wasn't as funny when other people see it.
The comic is a joke is making fun of chasers. It's fine to make fun of chasers and laugh about the awful experiences we have.
The person replied with a yourjokebutworse and people got mad because the delivery was so bad and there were no /j or /s indicators to make it clear it was even trying to be a joke.
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applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 118 pts · 70d
part of me doesn't like telling people how big, because i want them to want to fuck me for me. but its big, and i find it really funny being bigger than people who care way too much about that.
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 51 pts · 70d
En Garde!
Kellenved@sh.itjust.works · 30 pts · 70d
I see your schwartz is as big as mine!
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 70d
Now let's see how you handle it!
tuxiqae@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 70d
Un grande¡
youcantreadthis@quokk.au · 39 pts · 70d
How about wanting to fuck you because my mommy never loved me is that okay
pootzapie@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 70d
This text should be on a shirt lol, awesome
SeeSmudges@quokk.au · 4 pts · 70d
i feel like it should be on the back of that "google boobs trust me" shirt
PearOfJudes@lemmy.ml · 7 pts · 70d
I mean you did comment this on the internet but good job you’re nonchalant and chill about it etc
wabasso@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 70d
Stupid question: are we talking about the penis of a transman? Is it actually generally bigger than the average cisman’s? I just assumed the surgery could not achieve that, but I don’t actually know anything about the surgery.
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 13 pts · 70d
no im trans femme
unknown@piefed.social · 13 pts · 70d
Phalloplasty followed by medical tattooing can result in some spectacularly realistic (and decently sized) penii.
The sugery is brutal though, don't go looking this up if you're not ready to see extreme gore.
In summary though, flesh is taken from the forearm or the back of the thigh and grafted over (usually) a flexible rod (the other option is a flaccid inflatable, with the pump concealed in a bollock) on the mons pubis, to create the penis. Optionally plumbing can slso be linked up, so one can stand to piss, and balls can be inserted. Along with all that, surgically closing the vulva/vaginal canal is also an option too.
I spent way too much time looking into this at one point. Things may have changed a bit since then when it come to phallo, but I doubt much.
SeeSmudges@quokk.au · 5 pts · 70d
i have so many questions, like, some of my favorite memories are being traumatized walking in on my mother watching the public access surgery show. i want to talk shop with one of the surgeons basically some of the tools they can use are really cool. not osteo though, they just use hammers.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 69d
omg that's awesome, they're doing whack-it-into-a-dick?
SeeSmudges@quokk.au · 1 pts · 69d
Along with half the teenage population yeah
wabasso@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 69d
Thanks so much for your reply!
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 70d
Trans woman
wabasso@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 69d
I know there are lots of different scenarios, but isn’t the meme referring to someone who has undergone phalloplasty, which I assume is most commonly someone assigned female at birth?
fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 69d
taking you at your word that you're being genuine, this meme is referring to the common situation where a cis man is fetishizing a trans woman while assuming she still has her default hardware (i.e. hasn't had bottom surgery) and asking inappropriate questions to her ("how big is it")
you may direct further questions to me via DM; asking these questions in the context of this meme seems to be being received poorly, for understandable reasons, even if your intentions are genuinely to understand
sureshot0@discuss.online · 0 pts · 70d
You're literally doing the thing in the meme right now. I can't believe you're getting replies.
wabasso@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 69d
I hope I haven’t offended anyone. I’m coming from a place of wanting to learn. I support trans rights.
sureshot0@discuss.online · 3 pts · 69d
I’m just really sick of hearing cis people ask about trans people’s dicks. I’d almost rather if you asked chat gpt and got a hallucination. It does not matter if you are able to visualize what a trans persons dick looks like. There is just no way you’d ever need that information.
carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 36 pts · 70d
i never gave a shit about my dick size (perhaps a sign?) but apparently vaginoplasty works better the bigger it is :/
TheTux@lemmy.ml · 25 pts · 70d
Source? Because big if true
carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 23 pts · 70d
iirc, penile inversion vaginoplasty (which i think is the most common technique of vaginoplasty?) takes penile tissue to create a neovagina. so, the more penile tissue you have, the better your results are likely to be.
Gaja0@lemmy.zip · 12 pts · 70d
I feel the same way about circumcision as I do about surgery, sounds owchie owwie.
SeeSmudges@quokk.au · 4 pts · 70d
i mean, they have managed to figure out the owchie owwie part. they don't do that anymore, but they know how to.
isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 67d
Can phallo create a foreskin? If so, I wonder if there's ever been a peculiar Jewish trans man who got phallo, got it with a foreskin, and then went through with circumcision. Just the right Venn diagram of trans status and idiosyncratic religious beliefs.
TheFresh16@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 69d
diabetic_porcupine@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 70d
Huge even
Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works · 33 pts · 70d
Conservatives are obsessed about what's in other people's pants.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 26 pts · 70d
They're so sexually repressed they take it out on everybody else. If they were allowed to be kinky without shame, we wouldn't be here
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 70d
NGL I always wonder how big it is too, it wouldn't make any difference if I wanted to fuck you or not, but I still wonder.
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 70d
Around 20cm
SolacefromSilence@fedia.io · 55 pts · 70d
Americans: Alright, keep your secrets
riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 70d
shewhgzgcgfgcua
the question wasn't even directed at u!!!
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 70d
Yes, but there might be lesbian size queens reading.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 70d
::: spoiler I'm totally not interested or anything!!!!
:::
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 70d
🫦
riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 70d
🥺
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 70d
It wasn't but I also wanted to know how big theirs was so they saved me the trouble of asking.
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 70d
😘
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 70d
Be still my beating heart.
Warl0k3@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 70d
I'm disappointed you didn't take this opportunity to express its size as 2 dickimeters.
Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 70d
🤦
Anivia@feddit.org · 2 pts · 69d
It's 20 cockimeters
VaalaVasaVarde@sopuli.xyz · 9 pts · 70d
When I wonder stuff like that I end up saying "You know what, it's their business if they cut it or kept it"
Ziglin@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 70d
It would be hilarious to cut it off and keep it in a "pickle jar".
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 70d
Not gunna lie that would get my attention. Wanna see my dick? Pulls out a pickle jar.
LMFAO
ThunderQueen@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 70d
ThunderQueen@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 70d
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 70d
Oh sure its none on my business at all which is why I never ask. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't wonder or I wouldn't look if offered.
I feel like the only time it would be my business at all is if they were a romantic partner but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have to wonder if that were the case.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 70d
I honestly don't wonder, even if I'm interested in somebody. Am I weird?
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 69d
Probably, everyone is weird. But why should you care? Maybe you're ACE, maybe you just don't give a fuck, maybe a billion other reasons. None of it matters if you are happy.
(I hope you are happy)
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 69d
I think about a lot of physical traits I find hot in women, but unless I'm prompted, I just don't consider genitals. It's not like I'd see them until we're already dtf
Sivecano@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 69d
Agreeed. Like, at that point it's just a logistics issue.
sureshot0@discuss.online · 14 pts · 70d
Inaccurate, they usually say something way more gross, usually something that is very revealing about only them
GhostFace@lemmy.today · 8 pts · 69d
I used to game with this tgirl a lot. We were really close and the amount of people that would ask me about what was in her pants was annoying. Like no one would ask her directly, it was always me. I think people sometimes assumed we were together even though she had zero interest in me but that makes it even weirder.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 69d
It's always disheartening to hear what these creeps say behind our backs. Still, I'd rather hear about it than be kept in the dark. Thank you for sharing.
GhostFace@lemmy.today · 4 pts · 69d
It happened enough times that she told me I didn't have to bother her with it anymore.
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 70d
You know what they say about big hands.
sureshot0@discuss.online · 9 pts · 70d
That people with big hands have massive tits?
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 70d
I like this more :3
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 70d
so my tits are gonna get even bigger? 🥹
mrmisses@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 69d
no, that they have 4 tits. how else do you think they are all drinking?
amelore@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 69d
big gloves?
WhyDoYouThinkThat@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 69d
::: spoiler fun naughty story i was in rehab with this guy who told us about a sexy encounter he had with a woman, pretty sure drugs were involved, said he reached around the front side of her and felt her dick and it made him nut instantly, it was a really wholesome rehab moment, i still think about it :::
LovableSidekick@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 70d
How average is not giving a fuck?
youcantreadthis@quokk.au · -29 pts · 70d
stray@pawb.social · 15 pts · 70d
"It" in this case being an actual human being. If he wanted to masturbate to the vague concept of a woman with a penis he could give her any size dick he fancies without being creepy and transphobic to real people.
youcantreadthis@quokk.au · 1 pts · 70d
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 15 pts · 70d
Big difference between being asked if you want to do something and saying no as opposed to volunteering that you don't want to do something when nobody asked.
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works · 14 pts · 70d
Another part of maturity is letting others live their lives without confronting them on the street like that moron.
(Or at the bathroom door. Trans people aren't out there with signs protesting cishets, calling them disgusting, or beating them up for existing.)
youcantreadthis@quokk.au · 3 pts · 70d
Can we admit privately that they're disgusting and their culture is a fucking Miyazaki swamp even if we're too polite to say
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 70d
I'm cishet myself, mom and friend of trans people. And the answer is yes. But also, be careful because sometimes you don't know when "we" includes one of "them." I happen to agree anyway, but many don't.
youcantreadthis@quokk.au · 1 pts · 69d
If I'm not careful I only hurt straight cis persons feelings and that is no great thing
belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org · 10 pts · 70d
Note the red cap. Hateful chasers arent to be empathized with. Racists often find people of color attractive sexually. The amount of slave owners that sexually abused slaves is innumerable.
Sexual attraction isn't a default compliment
youcantreadthis@quokk.au · -1 pts · 70d
Its a bit saying he'saying he's gonna jack off about you later tho
belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org · 8 pts · 70d
Yes.... thats not a compliment in itself when they are being transphobic
youcantreadthis@quokk.au · 0 pts · 70d
You're reply hostile to the idea of a joke at the expense of chuds
EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 70d
Where joke
No really, please explain the joke.
Someone telling me they want to jack off whole thinking about me, especially someone I don't know well, is nasty. Not in any way positive or complimentary.
Chasers don't deserve any positive interaction.
I also don't see any hostile reply, just someone trying to backdpeddal after their comment wasn't as funny when other people see it.
belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org · 2 pts · 70d
This isnt a joke comic. This is the trans experience
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com · 1 pts · 70d
The comic is a joke is making fun of chasers. It's fine to make fun of chasers and laugh about the awful experiences we have.
The person replied with a yourjokebutworse and people got mad because the delivery was so bad and there were no /j or /s indicators to make it clear it was even trying to be a joke.
GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 70d
No offense but I think the joke itself was a little clunky and awkwardly delivered. It just didn't really land well for some people.