I get that alot. Apparently I look cold and disinterested in people. But actually love chatting with people around me. Seems my RBF makes me not very sympathico.
Relatable. I am not particularly nice or kind, but I do definetely look way grumpier than I actually am.
I often get asked by cashier what's wrong while I'm buying groceries.
I have a friend who recently moved from the poorer side of the town I live in to the richer. (I've always lived in the latter, richer area.) And he was talking about how striking it was to him that on the richer side, strangers would go way out of their way to avoid interacting or making eye contact or anything, but the moment you forced the issue and start actually talking to them, they're the nicest people ever. The other side of town, interaction wasn't avoided the same way, and they wouldn't necessarily be quite as nice in their interactions.
More like "nice-in-quotation-marks". Maybe "polite" would have been a better word. They smile bigger -- exaggerated and insincere. They try to satisfy whatever you're wanting so they can conclude the interaction as quickly as possible. They keep an air of superior self-righteousness while being nice... defensively.
Mind you, I do even put "polite" in quotes on purpose. The more stuck-up folks can very "politely" cut you straight off at the knees in a way that preserves some semblance of plausible deniability where poorer folks (on average, very much a generalization) may be more real/authentic in general and can be more direct about calling you an asshole.
Mind you, this friend of mine who made this observation didn't say any of what I said in this comment. That's just my own editorializing.
Yes, did you not go to American public school? Poor people are both lazy, and secretly rich because of how hard they work to game the system. You know, the system that literally doesn't exist.
Well I don't consider myself one of the nicest motherfuckers on the planet, my niece's bestie did give me a shirt with a 🙂 on it as a gift while telling me this.
I still hold a fuzzy version of an early childhood memory where I was tagging along with... some guardian in the mall and bored and generally causing chaos (running around playing) waiting for them to finish.
At one point I bumped into some clean cut lookin' frat dude who immediately made some angry comment that nearly started a fight with my guardian
Later I had a much bigger bump with someone and was horrified as I looked up to see the biggest piercest leatherest tattooest looking guy who knelt down and asked in the kindest voice mankind has yet produced, "Hey, you okey buddy? Your toy fell, here ya go!"
Anyone ive met who knows the darker sides of reality most, is basically like this. Once they trust you, they're usually pretty great, they're just very, very cautious with their kindness and do not assume good intentions from the world around them.
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Nomad@infosec.pub · 38 pts · 63d
I get that alot. Apparently I look cold and disinterested in people. But actually love chatting with people around me. Seems my RBF makes me not very sympathico.
BreadOven@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 63d
Your round bottomed flask?
SmackemWittadic@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 63d
Actually, it's their Reserve Bank of Fiji. Times have been tough recently
BreadOven@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 63d
Oh. My mistake, sorry. Hopefully things get better soon.
Nomad@infosec.pub · 2 pts · 63d
There is no gravity in space and even if, just need to keep the storage full. Water is recycled anyways.
BreadOven@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 63d
Excuse me? What? Haha.
AcesFullOfKings@feddit.uk · 33 pts · 63d
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world · 30 pts · 63d
.......whats wrong with that?
Lupo@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 63d
I was raised like this and I turned out fine!
Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 63d
I love it when twins nickname their siblings "Spare parts"
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 63d
It's like pokemon!
Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works · 24 pts · 63d
To be fair it makes sense. If you’re nice, you can rely on that instead of putting in the effort of looking nice.
If you’re a terrible person, then a nice mask would probably help you far more than the above scenario.
WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today · 23 pts · 63d
I must not be that nice, then - I avoid eye contact as much as possible.
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 63d
Relatable. I am not particularly nice or kind, but I do definetely look way grumpier than I actually am.
I often get asked by cashier what's wrong while I'm buying groceries.
TootSweet@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 63d
I have a friend who recently moved from the poorer side of the town I live in to the richer. (I've always lived in the latter, richer area.) And he was talking about how striking it was to him that on the richer side, strangers would go way out of their way to avoid interacting or making eye contact or anything, but the moment you forced the issue and start actually talking to them, they're the nicest people ever. The other side of town, interaction wasn't avoided the same way, and they wouldn't necessarily be quite as nice in their interactions.
Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 63d
You seem to be saying that rich people are nicer than poor people.
TootSweet@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 62d
More like "nice-in-quotation-marks". Maybe "polite" would have been a better word. They smile bigger -- exaggerated and insincere. They try to satisfy whatever you're wanting so they can conclude the interaction as quickly as possible. They keep an air of superior self-righteousness while being nice... defensively.
Mind you, I do even put "polite" in quotes on purpose. The more stuck-up folks can very "politely" cut you straight off at the knees in a way that preserves some semblance of plausible deniability where poorer folks (on average, very much a generalization) may be more real/authentic in general and can be more direct about calling you an asshole.
Mind you, this friend of mine who made this observation didn't say any of what I said in this comment. That's just my own editorializing.
fartographer@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 62d
Yes, did you not go to American public school? Poor people are both lazy, and secretly rich because of how hard they work to game the system. You know, the system that literally doesn't exist.
RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 63d
I have Resting Lurch Face.
fartographer@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 62d
You rang?
Neomega@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 63d
Well I don't consider myself one of the nicest motherfuckers on the planet, my niece's bestie did give me a shirt with a 🙂 on it as a gift while telling me this.
diffaldo@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 63d
isnt it nice when people see the goodness inside you ❤️
HeHoXa@lemmy.zip · 12 pts · 62d
I still hold a fuzzy version of an early childhood memory where I was tagging along with... some guardian in the mall and bored and generally causing chaos (running around playing) waiting for them to finish.
At one point I bumped into some clean cut lookin' frat dude who immediately made some angry comment that nearly started a fight with my guardian
Later I had a much bigger bump with someone and was horrified as I looked up to see the biggest piercest leatherest tattooest looking guy who knelt down and asked in the kindest voice mankind has yet produced, "Hey, you okey buddy? Your toy fell, here ya go!"
It was probably a good experience for young heho
pewgar_seemsimandroid@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 61d
i misread "frat" as "fat" and can't stop thinking about a "fat frat" person
yakko@feddit.uk · 12 pts · 63d
Sorry
Anivia@feddit.org · 11 pts · 63d
Life as a gymbro. 😔 Everyone assumes we're arrogant meatheads, but I swear most of us are really wholesome
minorkeys@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 62d
Anyone ive met who knows the darker sides of reality most, is basically like this. Once they trust you, they're usually pretty great, they're just very, very cautious with their kindness and do not assume good intentions from the world around them.
jobbies@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 63d
How the fuck did you get my picture.
zephiriz@lemmy.ml · 7 pts · 63d
So many people confuse my apathy for anger. I'm not mad I just really don't care about insert thing.
sixtoe@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 63d
It me
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 63d
Jackhammer_Joe@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 62d
Hey, that's Loise