Fresh water, like, from a fridge. I'm autistic and if the water is not fresh enough, I find it really hard to drink.
Otherwise, I guess my Hormone Replacement Therapy is a luxury? I can't live without it. My anxious brain often think about what would happen if my government was to "change", if I was locked up somewhere against my will, or the societal system we live in was to completely collapse,and how I could lose my treatments from that. It's very scary.
Hey Omega i hear you totally and you're not scared of your shadow, it's a valid fear. Remember no politics in this community though. And that we have your back 100%
I do think it's important not to flood this space with news and fear and so it's a good rule to not allow people to shoehorn politics into everything. Obviously sometimes it's integral to the topic at hand and it will come up - no one should have to hide who they are.
(In this case I don't think bringing up fears about losing our rights is uncalled for or off topic - it's a reality women face all across the world, whether it's reproductive rights or the right to take hrt. I'm just saying the comm's rule as a whole has merit.)
a bidet. i cant shit in public toilets anymore. it just feels so gross not being able to clean myself properly. at this point it doesnt feel like a luxury at all, it feels like a necessity. its still technically a luxury because they arent available anywhere in public and some rental agreements specifically forbid them, which feels like a crime against humanity.
they dont want people touching the plumbing because of the remote risk of water damage. i lived in student housing at university in a shared unit once, the kind where a maintenance person has access to the space sometimes. i had installed a bidet in the toilet because duh, and they actually removed it and tossed it without saying anything... like its literally not hurting anything but the arbitrary rules say no so fuck me i guess. its just punitive patronizing ass covering of the worst variety. lots of rentals have stipulations that youre not allowed to make improvements at all, but also that if you break the rules and do make improvements youre not allowed to remove them and theyre the property of the landlord... those people are fucking skum sucking leeches who only care about themselves.
Ah. I appreciate the explanation. I understand why they may have a blanket rule against such things (I disagree with it, but that's a separate issue), but the fact that they just threw away your property enrages me...
I tried to skimp and bought a big bag of coffee at “premium warehouse store”. The flavor was unpleasant and weak. I had to use idk. 50% more coffee to get something with flavor. Back the nice beans first me.
If your UK based id suggest Rave, a bit mainstream but fair price, good range, fast delivery. I have tried a good 15 around the UK. I also use Iron & Fire, and Recent beans semi regular.
Maybe a small taster pack, or if you are grabbing a big bag, each coffee have their 'contributing flavors' for example cherry or walnut etc. I personally like the south American blends, I drink mine as latte or cappuccino and a med strength.
Its a good idea to check if they have a grinder first.
They have a little handle on and it pours from both sides. For me I know my shot is right by the measure. If there's too much/too little my machine or my beans are out of whack.
There are lots of cheap glasses but i have had these for about 7-8 years and they are solid, the glass is heavy and the handle helps with no burnt fingers, and just the right size for 2 shots. Bought mine from a coffee roasters and has been so worth it.
Where I am, there are a couple of coffee places that partner with smaller growers and have really good product. It’s a but pricey for me for a daily coffee. But it is what I would get for a gift. For my daily, I’ll see what the local food coop has that’s fair trade.
Coffee comes in various roasts - basically the level of toasted the beans are. Maybe ask your friend for advice on choosing a good roast level of coffee for you. Then use that information to choose the best roast for your friend.
Private house. Simply the ability to get outdoors at any time i want. In an appartment its an entire journey instead: dress up appropriately, lock the door, get down on stairs or elevator. It is too invonvenient for a two minute outdoor break.
I have neighbors. Whoever built my house is a genius because almost none of them look at a neighbors house (the utility room can see one of their walls). Its one of the oddest but underrated luxuries of my adult life.
For the same reason, a balcony. I haven’t moved in yet, but my next apartment has one and I’m so excited. I’ve had one before and it was lovely. This will be the first time I’ve had one without roommates (except for my husband), and it has dividers on both sides and faces a forest. I’m so looking forward to naked coffee on the balcony in the morning.
HRT isn't a luxury, but a necessity I'd never give up. If not that, I'd want a uterus, but if also not that... enough money to cover my needs, some fun, and to build up a financial & medication support network for all gals and queers!
40 Comments
BarnWolf@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 43d
Central A/C.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 43d
Am sweating in 30 degrees heat so totally relate
purplerabbit@piefed.blahaj.zone · 18 pts · 43d
Fresh water, like, from a fridge. I'm autistic and if the water is not fresh enough, I find it really hard to drink.
Otherwise, I guess my Hormone Replacement Therapy is a luxury? I can't live without it. My anxious brain often think about what would happen if my government was to "change", if I was locked up somewhere against my will, or the societal system we live in was to completely collapse,and how I could lose my treatments from that. It's very scary.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 16 pts · 43d
AFAIC your HRT is not a "luxury" any more than any other medical necessity.
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 42d
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 43d
Hey Omega i hear you totally and you're not scared of your shadow, it's a valid fear. Remember no politics in this community though. And that we have your back 100%
purplerabbit@piefed.blahaj.zone · 21 pts · 43d
it's not my fault if my very existence is a political issue, it's kind of hard to avoid when talking about my womanhood :(
TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 42d
I'm sorry lady butterfly is being silly, everything is political :p
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 42d
I do think it's important not to flood this space with news and fear and so it's a good rule to not allow people to shoehorn politics into everything. Obviously sometimes it's integral to the topic at hand and it will come up - no one should have to hide who they are.
(In this case I don't think bringing up fears about losing our rights is uncalled for or off topic - it's a reality women face all across the world, whether it's reproductive rights or the right to take hrt. I'm just saying the comm's rule as a whole has merit.)
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 16 pts · 43d
a bidet. i cant shit in public toilets anymore. it just feels so gross not being able to clean myself properly. at this point it doesnt feel like a luxury at all, it feels like a necessity. its still technically a luxury because they arent available anywhere in public and some rental agreements specifically forbid them, which feels like a crime against humanity.
neo2478@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 43d
This so much!!!
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 42d
WHAT?! Why??
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 42d
they dont want people touching the plumbing because of the remote risk of water damage. i lived in student housing at university in a shared unit once, the kind where a maintenance person has access to the space sometimes. i had installed a bidet in the toilet because duh, and they actually removed it and tossed it without saying anything... like its literally not hurting anything but the arbitrary rules say no so fuck me i guess. its just punitive patronizing ass covering of the worst variety. lots of rentals have stipulations that youre not allowed to make improvements at all, but also that if you break the rules and do make improvements youre not allowed to remove them and theyre the property of the landlord... those people are fucking skum sucking leeches who only care about themselves.
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 42d
Ah. I appreciate the explanation. I understand why they may have a blanket rule against such things (I disagree with it, but that's a separate issue), but the fact that they just threw away your property enrages me...
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 16 pts · 43d
Cherry@piefed.social · 14 pts · 43d
Quality coffee beans
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 2 pts · 43d
Before I moved here this is what I would have gone with. But now it's definitely tea for me.
Don't get me wrong. I adore my SOE "Yunnan Red Wine Sun-Dried" beans. But I can live without if I have to. I can't do the same with tea anymore.
gingersaffronapricat@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 43d
I tried to skimp and bought a big bag of coffee at “premium warehouse store”. The flavor was unpleasant and weak. I had to use idk. 50% more coffee to get something with flavor. Back the nice beans first me.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 43d
I want to get a present for someone who loves coffee esp from coffee beans. Any tips?
Cherry@piefed.social · 4 pts · 43d
If your UK based id suggest Rave, a bit mainstream but fair price, good range, fast delivery. I have tried a good 15 around the UK. I also use Iron & Fire, and Recent beans semi regular.
Maybe a small taster pack, or if you are grabbing a big bag, each coffee have their 'contributing flavors' for example cherry or walnut etc. I personally like the south American blends, I drink mine as latte or cappuccino and a med strength.
Its a good idea to check if they have a grinder first.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 42d
No he deffo does. And I'm uk so that's perfect thanks 😊
Cherry@piefed.social · 2 pts · 42d
There is one other thing i have that other machine people love whenever i see them and it's this...
https://www.coffeehit.co.uk/products/rhino-shot-pitcher-dual-spout-3oz-80ml
https://scoutcoffee.co.uk/products/rhino-shot-glass-2-4oz-70ml-with-spout-and-handle
They have a little handle on and it pours from both sides. For me I know my shot is right by the measure. If there's too much/too little my machine or my beans are out of whack.
There are lots of cheap glasses but i have had these for about 7-8 years and they are solid, the glass is heavy and the handle helps with no burnt fingers, and just the right size for 2 shots. Bought mine from a coffee roasters and has been so worth it.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 42d
Ooooh nice thanks
gingersaffronapricat@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 43d
Where I am, there are a couple of coffee places that partner with smaller growers and have really good product. It’s a but pricey for me for a daily coffee. But it is what I would get for a gift. For my daily, I’ll see what the local food coop has that’s fair trade.
Coffee comes in various roasts - basically the level of toasted the beans are. Maybe ask your friend for advice on choosing a good roast level of coffee for you. Then use that information to choose the best roast for your friend.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 0 pts · 42d
Ooooh good tips thanks
gegil@sopuli.xyz · 9 pts · 43d
Private house. Simply the ability to get outdoors at any time i want. In an appartment its an entire journey instead: dress up appropriately, lock the door, get down on stairs or elevator. It is too invonvenient for a two minute outdoor break.
Cherry@piefed.social · 5 pts · 43d
I have neighbors. Whoever built my house is a genius because almost none of them look at a neighbors house (the utility room can see one of their walls). Its one of the oddest but underrated luxuries of my adult life.
idiomaddict@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 38d
For the same reason, a balcony. I haven’t moved in yet, but my next apartment has one and I’m so excited. I’ve had one before and it was lovely. This will be the first time I’ve had one without roommates (except for my husband), and it has dividers on both sides and faces a forest. I’m so looking forward to naked coffee on the balcony in the morning.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 9 pts · 44d
Tea.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 43d
ZDL can you please read the question properly before commenting? I said LUXURY. Tea is clearly an essential 😆
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 2 pts · 43d
Trust me. When I buy tea it's a luxury.
I don't mean a box of Yorkshire here.
Cherry@piefed.social · 2 pts · 42d
Chinese tea? I do love a good quality tea, I have to say the Singapore teh is the best! I love a yorkshire cuppa but the teh is top class stuff.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 1 pts · 42d
Well, living in China gives me access to a lot of tea straight from the source, thankfully. 😉
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 42d
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 43d
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 3 pts · 43d
I linked in response to LadyButterfly.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 42d
Nefara@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 43d
Chocolate, mangoes, warm showers and spices from around the world
Wren@lemmy.today · 6 pts · 43d
Grocery stores within walking distance.
Beth@piefed.social · 5 pts · 43d
My ability to bankroll living alone.
melsaskca@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 43d
Right now I guess food is a luxury, so, food.
neuracnu@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 43d
Private jet.
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 42d
I didn't realize Taylor Swift was on Lemmy!
NihilsineNefas@slrpnk.net · 3 pts · 41d
Having electricity and running water, a dry place to sleep and somewhere not permanently monitored by the panopticon.
Oop, sorry ladies didn't realise I was in the wrong spot, will delete if necessary, enjoy y'allselves otherwise
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 41d
HRT isn't a luxury, but a necessity I'd never give up. If not that, I'd want a uterus, but if also not that... enough money to cover my needs, some fun, and to build up a financial & medication support network for all gals and queers!