Your state's domestic violence coalition may be able to help you. They can provide a lot of guidance and services, and in some cases even secure transitional housing.
One possibility for long-term would be to rent a room from someone you trust (who understands the situation) and never specify this as your address on any form ever. Use a PO box for your official address instead. You can also look to see if the state you want to live in has an Address Confidentiality Program (ACP) which are for abuse survivors.
Other options include a high rise with a doorman (expensive, security level varies a lot from place to place), or a gated community (security is more optics than real security, but could be a deterrent).
I have a friend who moved to Mexico because he couldn't afford his medications in the US any longer. He has to return to a border town every 6 months to renew his visa, which is a PITA. But, something like that might be an option, too. It's unlikely he'd think to look for you in another country.
It's a little hard to explain without coming across as pedantic. The Wikipedia article on the "Dash" does a pretty good job of it. Compare en dash to em dash. Or just read the "Usage" sub-section under "Em dash". I used to use the em dash (occasionally) in my writing but now I try to avoid it, thanks to AI over-using it.
Very much so. I think it's the very long hangover from the "Protestant Work Ethic" which was always just a moralistic way for bosses to punch down on their worker-slaves. Things like "quiet quitting" and so on are a response to that, but you're right that it has permeated every aspect of American culture. It's a broad and deep problem.
The philosophy of Antinatalism makes a lot of logical sense to me. I find it difficult to argue against without appealing to nature, traditions, emotions, etc.
People really, really, really hate AN, though. It's not something I enjoy engaging about. I don't really care if other people subscribe to it or not. I'm not an AN evangelist.
Unfortunately, AN attracts a lot of weirdos, childfree types, and suicidal people. There are some brilliant folks who subscribe to it, too. But the signal to noise ratio is awful.
Yeah, "retroactive jealousy" is a very dumb trope that should seldom if ever be used in a story, IMO. Tropes aren't inherently bad, most stories are full of them. But some of them are weak sauce, and this is one of them. I tried to find an entry for it on tvropes.org and couldn't find one, which is surprising. It's a fairly common trope, and they have a lot of jealousy-themed tropes in their database. Could be a skill issue on my part and I just didn't find it.
Probably not. I was being sarcastic, but it seems like their dumb in-jokes tend to continue long after a normal expiration period. It's also funny to me that most of the IRL people I know still talking about reddit are middle aged or older. Not sure what their real demographics are, and probably wouldn't believe their self reported ones. They need the shareholders to believe the bots are engagement KPIs.
The dead-eyed smile is the giveaway. LTT is similar. Cult followings for charismatic narcissist douchebags is a frustratingly common and ancient phenomenon.
Travel is great if that's your thing. But I've always despised privileged entitled douchebags who use travel as a big flex, and a metric to judge others with.
A couple of book recommendations for people worried about this kind of thing.
"Bonk" by Mary Roach. She's a very good science communicator and is also quite funny. There's a lot of good info in here.
"A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships" by Sai Gaddam and Ogi Ogas. This book is not rigorous science, but it is no total junk. It is also informative and entertaining. A tidbit of generalized info: men tend to think about dicks and look at dicks way more than women do.
Some of us have moved on from atheism to post-theism. In part, because some atheists can be very annoying. (Thanks a lot, four horsemen of the dorkalypse).
To your point, I do sometimes miss the music, rituals, fellowship, and liturgy of my old church. It was a mostly wholesome experience, and many of the people were very good people. In particular I miss being a member of the choir.
It was interesting (and revealing) when I left the church to experience which of my old friends from that church were very accepting of my walking away, and which ones wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
Anyway, I have found that my table top gaming groups (mostly RPG games) have helped a lot with social needs. Not a full replacement for a church, of course. But it is an activity that creates interpersonal bonds and encourages folks to be vulnerable around each other at times. And, a little bit like churches and temples, the quality of the experience can vary greatly from one group to another.
Two of my favorite scenes of the whole series are Skyler scenes. The one where she tells Marie to shut up, and the one where she asks Walt when is it enough money.
Your state's domestic violence coalition may be able to help you. They can provide a lot of guidance and services, and in some cases even secure transitional housing.
One possibility for long-term would be to rent a room from someone you trust (who understands the situation) and never specify this as your address on any form ever. Use a PO box for your official address instead. You can also look to see if the state you want to live in has an Address Confidentiality Program (ACP) which are for abuse survivors.
Other options include a high rise with a doorman (expensive, security level varies a lot from place to place), or a gated community (security is more optics than real security, but could be a deterrent).
I have a friend who moved to Mexico because he couldn't afford his medications in the US any longer. He has to return to a border town every 6 months to renew his visa, which is a PITA. But, something like that might be an option, too. It's unlikely he'd think to look for you in another country.
It's a little hard to explain without coming across as pedantic. The Wikipedia article on the "Dash" does a pretty good job of it. Compare en dash to em dash. Or just read the "Usage" sub-section under "Em dash". I used to use the em dash (occasionally) in my writing but now I try to avoid it, thanks to AI over-using it.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dash#Em_dash
Very much so. I think it's the very long hangover from the "Protestant Work Ethic" which was always just a moralistic way for bosses to punch down on their worker-slaves. Things like "quiet quitting" and so on are a response to that, but you're right that it has permeated every aspect of American culture. It's a broad and deep problem.
The philosophy of Antinatalism makes a lot of logical sense to me. I find it difficult to argue against without appealing to nature, traditions, emotions, etc.
People really, really, really hate AN, though. It's not something I enjoy engaging about. I don't really care if other people subscribe to it or not. I'm not an AN evangelist.
Unfortunately, AN attracts a lot of weirdos, childfree types, and suicidal people. There are some brilliant folks who subscribe to it, too. But the signal to noise ratio is awful.
Yeah, "retroactive jealousy" is a very dumb trope that should seldom if ever be used in a story, IMO. Tropes aren't inherently bad, most stories are full of them. But some of them are weak sauce, and this is one of them. I tried to find an entry for it on tvropes.org and couldn't find one, which is surprising. It's a fairly common trope, and they have a lot of jealousy-themed tropes in their database. Could be a skill issue on my part and I just didn't find it.
Whoever came up with this has probably always used 'optics first, actual results last' in their shitty career so far.
Looks like Eminem, but far less constipated
https://youtu.be/40MvjFaTVzE
Probably not. I was being sarcastic, but it seems like their dumb in-jokes tend to continue long after a normal expiration period. It's also funny to me that most of the IRL people I know still talking about reddit are middle aged or older. Not sure what their real demographics are, and probably wouldn't believe their self reported ones. They need the shareholders to believe the bots are engagement KPIs.
One day in the not so distant future, every comment on reddit will be "bacon" or "this".
Anything else will get you banned.
I thought my screen was dusty.
The dead-eyed smile is the giveaway. LTT is similar. Cult followings for charismatic narcissist douchebags is a frustratingly common and ancient phenomenon.
One of those cool little character shaped erasers that look sort of like candy.
They aren't making new ones anymore, but you might enjoy the back catalog of the "Black Box Down" podcast. I think it had about 12 seasons.
Travel is great if that's your thing. But I've always despised privileged entitled douchebags who use travel as a big flex, and a metric to judge others with.
He's going to escalate by holding his breath and stamping his feet.
A couple of book recommendations for people worried about this kind of thing.
"Bonk" by Mary Roach. She's a very good science communicator and is also quite funny. There's a lot of good info in here.
"A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships" by Sai Gaddam and Ogi Ogas. This book is not rigorous science, but it is no total junk. It is also informative and entertaining. A tidbit of generalized info: men tend to think about dicks and look at dicks way more than women do.
Not really, but there is a pretty funny parody version out there.
Some of us have moved on from atheism to post-theism. In part, because some atheists can be very annoying. (Thanks a lot, four horsemen of the dorkalypse).
To your point, I do sometimes miss the music, rituals, fellowship, and liturgy of my old church. It was a mostly wholesome experience, and many of the people were very good people. In particular I miss being a member of the choir.
It was interesting (and revealing) when I left the church to experience which of my old friends from that church were very accepting of my walking away, and which ones wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
Anyway, I have found that my table top gaming groups (mostly RPG games) have helped a lot with social needs. Not a full replacement for a church, of course. But it is an activity that creates interpersonal bonds and encourages folks to be vulnerable around each other at times. And, a little bit like churches and temples, the quality of the experience can vary greatly from one group to another.
Two of my favorite scenes of the whole series are Skyler scenes. The one where she tells Marie to shut up, and the one where she asks Walt when is it enough money.