I guess I'm an old man but I don't understand why people give strangers their phones to enter a number. Your phone has lots of really important shit on it, people. Don't give it to strangers pleaseeee
Unless you're an obnoxious dude at a bar. Then, give your phone to anyone who smiles at you!
Not that I'd give someone my phone, or ever send dick pics (I'm with Tom Cardy on this), but all my contacts are full names, including all my family members. They wouldn't be able to tell. In fact, the only people with nicknames are my online friends, several of which still have their nickname despite us visiting each other multiple times and definitely knowing our real names.
I have Tom Cardy songs I love because they're funny, and Tom Cardy songs I just straight up love and are on my regular Playlist. Transcendental Cha Cha Cha is the top of my love, play all the time list, along with Artificial Intelligence, Don't touch my Ladder, and Lo-fi.
I love a bunch of others too, too many to list, but some of those are comedy mood songs, while the above work for many more of my moods.
And my father. In fact, mother is in there with first name and her maiden name, despite being remarried. There was some logical reason I did it a while ago that I've forgotten. Either auto complete or audio dial or something.
Scams. If someone did get ahold of your phone and it was unlocked, it keeps them from texting "Mom" "hey, I'm stuck in [xx] and I need you to send me $1500. Send it to my friend's venmo, because mine is messed up right now."
The contacts app has a field for "first name" and one for "last name". I fill out the data that the forms give me. So yes, my parents are under their real names.
Yes since I sort my phonebook by lastname it keeps family members grouped. Also you can add what the relation of a contact with you is in your “My Card”. So you can still tell Siri to ”Call Mom” and it will pick the right number even though it’s not stored as “Mom”
I mean...if a girl says, "here, I'll type it in," I'm not going to be like, "don't touch my phone, just tell it to me." What's she going to do, run away with it? Stand there browsing through my documents for my social security number?
The "fake" part (editing contacts) is unrelated to TOP's complaint? People actually do handover their phone to add contacts. Even I've done it multiple times and I'm basically a recluse.
Bros if your talking to a girl and want to talk more some day its better to give her your number. It puts the ball on her court if she's interested and isn't imposing if she's not. More often then not you'll get a text by the next day if it went as well as you think.
It's very hit or miss. Couples are like a ying yang - they have to fit together
There's no one size fits all solution. You have to work out who is the pursuer and who is the pursued, and you have to keep it all in bounds where everyone is content with the process
This is so true. I always point out to people: think of all the couples you know. How did they meet? Personally I don't know any two couples that met the same way. It ranges from being housemates in college to finding out they lived in the same city from some internet forum.
You realise the exact same advice could be applied in reverse, right? If the relationship's gonna work, both people need to be interested in continuing it.
Im confused about your confusion. It does work both ways. The issue, per the meme, is that someone may not have wanted to engage further and not state that they do not want to. By giving them your contact info they can think about it and then decide that it is in fact mutual and not feel pressured by the moment, so it still works as advice in that social situation.
L take. You honestly expect someone to speak to a potential date in the same tone as to their own mother, and that there should be no risk of sending something that would be inappropriate or something that would otherwise be awkward if sent to the wrong person (especially to their mother)?
You do sound super cringe right now, so an example might help clarify what I think you're trying to say.
There is a huge space for conversation that is both very appropriate and not creepy for a potential person of interest which would make you embarrassed if your mother read it. Especially depending on your mother. Some people have mothers who would critique the writing, others have mothers who might tell them to find Jesus. There are many many many valid reasons to send something different to a woman you wanted to date vs your mother without just jumping straight to dick pics.
And on the flip side, this is super passive aggressive douchebag behavior from the woman. I'm aware that some women perceive danger any time they look at any man and can conceptually understand things like "I didn't feel comfortable not giving him some number in case he kills me" ... that's clearly not the case here. If I were afraid of a man, I would not attempt to do something that will only piss that man off. This is actively antagonizing someone you don't like, not the behavior of someone who is scared.
That having been said I don't actually get wtf is going on this meme and why Hitler is involved so maybe I'm missing something.
And on the flip side, this is super passive aggressive douchebag behavior from the woman.
Women don't get to the point of giving fake numbers (Or changing contact info in your phone) unless they have already declined / tried to get away and this guy isn't taking 'no' for an answer.
There are reasons to not want to give her number other than fear for her life. For example: "this guy strikes me as a douchebag that will send dick pics."
How is that any different from antagonizing someone because you don't like them? I guess you could call it antagonizing someone because you think you won't like them? Or because you think they might do something to make you not like them?
I never said not liking them was unjustified, just that the specific switch described isn't easily justifiable.
Regarding me sounding cringe, well, to each their own I guess.
As for the rest of what you said, yes, I agree with that, and that is indeed what I was thinking of. People have different mothers, and different relationships with their mothers.
Also, how fucking long does it take someone to put their number in a phone? Like, you open the add new contact screen and hand the phone over. They should make 10 taps for their phone number and maybe one tap to save it. 11 taps total. No one should be swiping through your phone just to add their number.
If you are in a social situation with conversations going on its really easy to get away with this kind of shit. Espicially if the others are inebriated.
I was the designated driver with my friends and 2 of them had the same phone. Without them noticing I swapped their phones, cases, and passwords. They didn't notice until they sobered up the next morning. It was hilarious.
I know several of my friends phones passwords. I even have face unlock set up for myself on one friends phone so when he's drunk he can just point his phone at my face
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humanamerican@lemmy.zip · 96 pts · 309d
I guess I'm an old man but I don't understand why people give strangers their phones to enter a number. Your phone has lots of really important shit on it, people. Don't give it to strangers pleaseeee
Unless you're an obnoxious dude at a bar. Then, give your phone to anyone who smiles at you!
chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 31 pts · 309d
Not that I'd give someone my phone, or ever send dick pics (I'm with Tom Cardy on this), but all my contacts are full names, including all my family members. They wouldn't be able to tell. In fact, the only people with nicknames are my online friends, several of which still have their nickname despite us visiting each other multiple times and definitely knowing our real names.
grue@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 309d
I love that top comment:
Of course, he has some awesome non-shitpost music, too. Namely, this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BLzxuIfD9rU
chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 309d
I have Tom Cardy songs I love because they're funny, and Tom Cardy songs I just straight up love and are on my regular Playlist. Transcendental Cha Cha Cha is the top of my love, play all the time list, along with Artificial Intelligence, Don't touch my Ladder, and Lo-fi.
I love a bunch of others too, too many to list, but some of those are comedy mood songs, while the above work for many more of my moods.
njm1314@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 309d
Like most people sure, full names I get it I'm with you. But your mother? You have her in your phone under her full name?
chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 13 pts · 309d
And my father. In fact, mother is in there with first name and her maiden name, despite being remarried. There was some logical reason I did it a while ago that I've forgotten. Either auto complete or audio dial or something.
Tower@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 309d
Scams. If someone did get ahold of your phone and it was unlocked, it keeps them from texting "Mom" "hey, I'm stuck in [xx] and I need you to send me $1500. Send it to my friend's venmo, because mine is messed up right now."
Zagorath@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 309d
The contacts app has a field for "first name" and one for "last name". I fill out the data that the forms give me. So yes, my parents are under their real names.
SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 308d
Yes since I sort my phonebook by lastname it keeps family members grouped. Also you can add what the relation of a contact with you is in your “My Card”. So you can still tell Siri to ”Call Mom” and it will pick the right number even though it’s not stored as “Mom”
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 308d
I mean...if a girl says, "here, I'll type it in," I'm not going to be like, "don't touch my phone, just tell it to me." What's she going to do, run away with it? Stand there browsing through my documents for my social security number?
Rooster326@programming.dev · 4 pts · 307d
Yes, and Yes. There are people who have had these exact things done to them.
Venmo themselves cash from the phone you just gave them.
People suck.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 307d
I think we might hang out at different bars idk.
ayyy@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 309d
Well, the good news for you is that this didn’t happen. It’s a fictional story for entertainment purposes.
qarbone@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 308d
What?
The "fake" part (editing contacts) is unrelated to TOP's complaint? People actually do handover their phone to add contacts. Even I've done it multiple times and I'm basically a recluse.
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 309d
Desperation, that's why.
InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world · 77 pts · 309d
Bros if your talking to a girl and want to talk more some day its better to give her your number. It puts the ball on her court if she's interested and isn't imposing if she's not. More often then not you'll get a text by the next day if it went as well as you think.
theneverfox@pawb.social · 20 pts · 309d
It's very hit or miss. Couples are like a ying yang - they have to fit together
There's no one size fits all solution. You have to work out who is the pursuer and who is the pursued, and you have to keep it all in bounds where everyone is content with the process
Donkter@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 308d
This is so true. I always point out to people: think of all the couples you know. How did they meet? Personally I don't know any two couples that met the same way. It ranges from being housemates in college to finding out they lived in the same city from some internet forum.
Zagorath@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 309d
You realise the exact same advice could be applied in reverse, right? If the relationship's gonna work, both people need to be interested in continuing it.
InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 309d
Yeah, what implies that it wouldn't?
Zagorath@aussie.zone · 0 pts · 309d
If the advice is "don't do this, let them do it", and the advice can go both ways, it kinda doesn't work as advice.
InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 309d
Im confused about your confusion. It does work both ways. The issue, per the meme, is that someone may not have wanted to engage further and not state that they do not want to. By giving them your contact info they can think about it and then decide that it is in fact mutual and not feel pressured by the moment, so it still works as advice in that social situation.
CileTheSane@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 309d
"if you are interested in taking to someone more, offer then your number instead of asking for theirs."
I don't see the problem here?
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 309d
Only if you equate men and women because of oversimplification or desire, idk. This is not learned behaviour but innate tendencies.
CileTheSane@lemmy.ca · 61 pts · 309d
Don't understand why this makes OP "like Hitler". The only way this is a problem for a guy is if he is a douchebag.
"Hi (name), I enjoyed talking to you last night. Would you like to go out for dinner sometime?"
"You texted the wrong number, this is your mom."
The horror!
fleton@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 309d
Proceeds to send dick pic anyway
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de · 1 pts · 308d
*continues to send
luciferofastora@feddit.org · 15 pts · 308d
You open the chat and see what's already there and realise the screw-up
Dremor@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 307d
I'd delete said chat, just to be sure he screw up.
smiletolerantly@awful.systems · 8 pts · 307d
But that actually is an asshole move then. Because a lot of emotional attachment and memories can be in a chat.
Dremor@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 307d
Sure, but if you make someone uncomfortable enough to do that, you clearly deserve a lesson worth remembering.
On another hand, if you don't backup your SMS, you'll eventually loose them anyway.
smiletolerantly@awful.systems · 1 pts · 307d
I have not opened my SMS app in years.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 308d
"Son, I thought you'd never ask. Dinner sounds lovely. We'll have some chicken, maybe some sex. Let's just see where it goes."
JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 307d
Dorothy Mantooth was a SAINT!
MourningDove@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 307d
Madison420@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 307d
Y'all are weird.
My opening move is always pictures of my gooch with no message like a man of true refinement.
Logical@lemmy.world · -11 pts · 308d
L take. You honestly expect someone to speak to a potential date in the same tone as to their own mother, and that there should be no risk of sending something that would be inappropriate or something that would otherwise be awkward if sent to the wrong person (especially to their mother)?
CileTheSane@lemmy.ca · 18 pts · 308d
If your first text to someone is inappropriate that explains why she gave the fake number.
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social · 4 pts · 308d
And why the plan would work
Logical@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 308d
I'm not talking about dick pics, and I'm not saying inappropriate generally. Just that you don't want to text your mom about it.
CileTheSane@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 307d
What is your perfectly acceptable first text to a woman that would be horrible if sent to your mother by mistake?
balance8873@lemmy.myserv.one · 3 pts · 307d
You do sound super cringe right now, so an example might help clarify what I think you're trying to say.
There is a huge space for conversation that is both very appropriate and not creepy for a potential person of interest which would make you embarrassed if your mother read it. Especially depending on your mother. Some people have mothers who would critique the writing, others have mothers who might tell them to find Jesus. There are many many many valid reasons to send something different to a woman you wanted to date vs your mother without just jumping straight to dick pics.
And on the flip side, this is super passive aggressive douchebag behavior from the woman. I'm aware that some women perceive danger any time they look at any man and can conceptually understand things like "I didn't feel comfortable not giving him some number in case he kills me" ... that's clearly not the case here. If I were afraid of a man, I would not attempt to do something that will only piss that man off. This is actively antagonizing someone you don't like, not the behavior of someone who is scared.
That having been said I don't actually get wtf is going on this meme and why Hitler is involved so maybe I'm missing something.
CileTheSane@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 307d
Women don't get to the point of giving fake numbers (Or changing contact info in your phone) unless they have already declined / tried to get away and this guy isn't taking 'no' for an answer.
balance8873@lemmy.myserv.one · 1 pts · 307d
I mean the rest of that paragraph conveys my opinion on that subject pretty well and this does nothing to counter that opinion.
CileTheSane@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 307d
There are reasons to not want to give her number other than fear for her life. For example: "this guy strikes me as a douchebag that will send dick pics."
balance8873@lemmy.myserv.one · 1 pts · 307d
How is that any different from antagonizing someone because you don't like them? I guess you could call it antagonizing someone because you think you won't like them? Or because you think they might do something to make you not like them?
I never said not liking them was unjustified, just that the specific switch described isn't easily justifiable.
CileTheSane@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 306d
I didn't say the switch was justified, I just don't understand how it makes her "worse than Hitler.'
Logical@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 307d
Regarding me sounding cringe, well, to each their own I guess.
As for the rest of what you said, yes, I agree with that, and that is indeed what I was thinking of. People have different mothers, and different relationships with their mothers.
chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world · 27 pts · 309d
Wouldn’t the guy see his chat history with his mom and be suspicious?
thelasttoot@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 309d
Also, how fucking long does it take someone to put their number in a phone? Like, you open the add new contact screen and hand the phone over. They should make 10 taps for their phone number and maybe one tap to save it. 11 taps total. No one should be swiping through your phone just to add their number.
Unlearned9545@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 309d
If you are in a social situation with conversations going on its really easy to get away with this kind of shit. Espicially if the others are inebriated.
I was the designated driver with my friends and 2 of them had the same phone. Without them noticing I swapped their phones, cases, and passwords. They didn't notice until they sobered up the next morning. It was hilarious.
Ziglin@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 308d
How did you know their passwords?
rocketpoweredredneck@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 307d
I know several of my friends phones passwords. I even have face unlock set up for myself on one friends phone so when he's drunk he can just point his phone at my face
Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 307d
They are his friends?
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 309d
Well it's a fictional caption on a cartoon, so make of it what you will.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world · 26 pts · 309d
The contact listed "mommy" almost certainly was not their genetic mother.
cycadophyta@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 307d
Who tf is up voting this dumb shit?
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 307d
I did, just to bother you. as a personal attack specifically towards you
MourningDove@lemmy.zip · 0 pts · 307d
YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 308d
"Am I the strange one?"
Behind strangely apparent that I am recently.