you know what i've been thinking? your brain doesn't actually misbehave, it does exactly what it's meant to do. just that society is talking bullshit expectations about your behavior. and your brain doesn't follow the bullshit.
I've been vegan for a year now, with 100% consistency and not really any struggle. And still, I know that on any given day there might just be a moment where I could find myself with a half-eaten ham sandwich in my hand because I forgot. It's so fucked up, how is anyone supposed to build any form of identity when significant parts of it are always at risk of dropping off and being forgotten for no good reason 😮💨
People are far too eager to identify under monolithic cults that demand perfection, instead of just, doing their best at what they feel is a good thing.
I find that not doing something is relatively easy (like don't eat meat or stop alcohol, both of which I succeeded in), but starting something or gaining a new "habit" is damn near impossible. Basically it's the OP's scenario. Get super excited and way into whatever thing (go to the gym, study, get up early) then 2 weeks later it falls apart.
Accidentally fall back into your system because you don’t actually have another, or really any backup plan whatsoever. Play it off like it was discipline. Share system with other NDs as if you have answers.
This is how I feel about work. I got a new job, I liked a lot of the tasks, they feel meaningful and it's a heckuva lot better than the one that I used to have!
Less than six months in and I'm like "Okay, this is no longer new to me. I've already peaked here. Sure it generates currency but I have to come back already?? "
I'm trying to remind myself I don't want a job that's consistently a new and novel challenge, because that will burn me out on choosing new and novel challenges for myself.
Still! Frustrating. If this was skilled work like the 2014-ish tech industry I could just jump in 6 more months and double my salary, but it's not. Lol
Oh but just you wait when you around to it the second or third time in life… all the experience you’ve gained, and hatred towards wasted time. You’ll devour planets!
26 Comments
MadMadBunny@lemmy.ca · 45 pts · 241d
Not because the excitement is gone, but really because your brain has spicy connectors that misbehave and misfire all the time…
Makes it even worse.
Rhaedas@fedia.io · 8 pts · 241d
I think there's some that go through that dwindling urge to keep going. But there are also the ones that you describe, the "oh, new shiny thing".
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de · 4 pts · 240d
you know what i've been thinking? your brain doesn't actually misbehave, it does exactly what it's meant to do. just that society is talking bullshit expectations about your behavior. and your brain doesn't follow the bullshit.
yum@lemmy.eco.br · 1 pts · 241d
Do elaborate
Evil_Shrubbery@thelemmy.club · 31 pts · 241d
At some random moment completely and utterly purge it from thought for a random amount of time (and then several months later going 'oh yeah, shit').
i_love_FFT@jlai.lu · 26 pts · 241d
Yup! It's not "abandoning" per se, it's more like "totally forgetting that I was trying a new life routine, so stopped doing it"
That's why it's so hard to take medication every day.
python@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 239d
I've been vegan for a year now, with 100% consistency and not really any struggle. And still, I know that on any given day there might just be a moment where I could find myself with a half-eaten ham sandwich in my hand because I forgot. It's so fucked up, how is anyone supposed to build any form of identity when significant parts of it are always at risk of dropping off and being forgotten for no good reason 😮💨
Szyler@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 237d
On the vegan part; you aren't less of a vegan if you accidentally eat meat. The identity is your intention, not your perfection.
MonkeMischief@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 235d
OMG, preach! Louder for the kids in the back!
People are far too eager to identify under monolithic cults that demand perfection, instead of just, doing their best at what they feel is a good thing.
mosspiglet@discuss.online · 1 pts · 179d
I find that not doing something is relatively easy (like don't eat meat or stop alcohol, both of which I succeeded in), but starting something or gaining a new "habit" is damn near impossible. Basically it's the OP's scenario. Get super excited and way into whatever thing (go to the gym, study, get up early) then 2 weeks later it falls apart.
dalekcaan@feddit.nl · 24 pts · 241d
Joke's on you, I don't even make it to step two!
wheezy@lemmy.ml · 15 pts · 241d
No kidding. Making the schedule is like 99% of the dopamine. Why actually do it for like 1%?
guy@piefed.social · 2 pts · 240d
"My life is gonna be so great 'when' I do this"
favoredponcho@lemmy.zip · 10 pts · 241d
FreddiesLantern@leminal.space · 3 pts · 240d
Plot twist, everyone has a teeny tiny little bit of adhd.
Just not the blinking in and out if existence- kind of crippling bullshit version of adhd.
Szyler@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 237d
Adhd symptoms are experienced by everyone, having then all the time and them causing problems in your life when untreated is Adhd.
sartalon@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 241d
I'm like this with RPG's too.
If I had the ability to restart my life over, I would probably never get past 5.
Septimaeus@infosec.pub · 5 pts · 240d
Accidentally fall back into your system because you don’t actually have another, or really any backup plan whatsoever. Play it off like it was discipline. Share system with other NDs as if you have answers.
sonic_veemo@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 240d
is this a persistent-storage thing that i’m too ram-focused to understand?
MonkeMischief@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 235d
This is how I feel about work. I got a new job, I liked a lot of the tasks, they feel meaningful and it's a heckuva lot better than the one that I used to have!
Less than six months in and I'm like "Okay, this is no longer new to me. I've already peaked here. Sure it generates currency but I have to come back already?? "
I'm trying to remind myself I don't want a job that's consistently a new and novel challenge, because that will burn me out on choosing new and novel challenges for myself.
Still! Frustrating. If this was skilled work like the 2014-ish tech industry I could just jump in 6 more months and double my salary, but it's not. Lol
FreddiesLantern@leminal.space · 2 pts · 240d
Oh but just you wait when you around to it the second or third time in life… all the experience you’ve gained, and hatred towards wasted time. You’ll devour planets!
For a while…
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de · 1 pts · 240d
That's why i only make routines that are easy to follow because they cost almost no energy.
artifex@piefed.social · -4 pts · 241d
Lumidaub@feddit.org · 28 pts · 241d
Very little is unique to neurodivergent people. Everybody pees but if you have to run to the loo every 5 minutes, you should see a doctor.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 241d
You know I remember this contest for a toilet that was a recliner and had an Xbox, laptop and tv attached. I lost that contest.
Lumidaub@feddit.org · 3 pts · 241d
Heart-wrenching 😢
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 240d
Bowel shaking as well
MagisterSieran@discuss.tchncs.de · 4 pts · 241d
What is this behaviour “unique to neurodivergent people” that everyone seems to think these communities should be about exclusively?