Afaik, most ED is caused by being out of shape. The penis is basically a blood balloon, and your heart has to work hard to keep it inflated. If you aren't doing any sort of cardio, you can fall below that threshold. Luckily, that means with some cardio, most of the time it can be reversed
There are mental effects at play, too. Men can get too anxious or, as I find more probable in anon's case, too used to getting a lot of different visual stimulation
Not even just visual stimuli. It can be visual, sound, a vagina not gripping as hard as his hand, the fact that he always uses the exact same coconut scented nivea lotion vs finding out what actual girl sweat smells like, or even the proprioceptive difference between getting off leaning back in a computer chair supported semi-fowlers position vs actually prone on top of a partner–there are many more sensory inputs at play than one might think.
Someone has already said that it's the muscle you use to stop peeing midstream, but I wanted to add a few other points:
Once you've identified the muscle, you shouldn't do kegels while peeing, because this can lead to UTIs and an unhappy bladder
When you do kegels, you should try to only engage your pelvic floor muscles; try to avoid engaging other muscles in your thighs, buttocks or abdomen. Isolating your pelvic floor muscles can be tricky at first, but it gets easier
As well as improving aspects of sexual function, kegels also help with incontinence. If you practice them now, you'll be thankful for it as you age
It's probably a diet issue. Maybe they need more Vitamin D? Exercise would prove beneficial. Therapy wouldn't hurt but also wouldn't particularly assist unless it would. Maybe they should try to develop some new and different hobbies to grow as a person. Have they considered eating a higher volume of legumes?
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Voxel@programming.dev · 113 pts · 172d
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world · 67 pts · 172d
Afaik, most ED is caused by being out of shape. The penis is basically a blood balloon, and your heart has to work hard to keep it inflated. If you aren't doing any sort of cardio, you can fall below that threshold. Luckily, that means with some cardio, most of the time it can be reversed
ICastFist@programming.dev · 27 pts · 171d
There are mental effects at play, too. Men can get too anxious or, as I find more probable in anon's case, too used to getting a lot of different visual stimulation
Apytele@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 171d
Not even just visual stimuli. It can be visual, sound, a vagina not gripping as hard as his hand, the fact that he always uses the exact same coconut scented nivea lotion vs finding out what actual girl sweat smells like, or even the proprioceptive difference between getting off leaning back in a computer chair supported semi-fowlers position vs actually prone on top of a partner–there are many more sensory inputs at play than one might think.
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 171d
I'm interpreting your name as relevant
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world · 22 pts · 172d
And I think we can safely assume that anon isn't living the healthiest lifestyle
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 20 pts · 171d
I mean, that much masturbation should probably count as cardio ...
Atomic@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 171d
Also worth noting that lack of regular erection can cause shrinkage. Since the tissue can lose part of its elasticity.
It's normally not a problem at all even if you literally never masturbate, due to erections that occur during sleep.
TORFdot0@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 171d
“If you don’t use it, you lose it” was true?!??
Atomic@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 171d
No. That's not true. But it can shrink if you never get erections. But I wouldn't exactly call getting an erection during sleep "using it"
village604@adultswim.fan · 9 pts · 171d
Also, men should do kegel exercises too.
It helps increase erection strength and even size due to increased blood flow, can help with premature ejaculation, and can improve prostate health.
daggermoon@piefed.world · 5 pts · 171d
How does one do that?
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net · 14 pts · 171d
Someone has already said that it's the muscle you use to stop peeing midstream, but I wanted to add a few other points:
Once you've identified the muscle, you shouldn't do kegels while peeing, because this can lead to UTIs and an unhappy bladder
When you do kegels, you should try to only engage your pelvic floor muscles; try to avoid engaging other muscles in your thighs, buttocks or abdomen. Isolating your pelvic floor muscles can be tricky at first, but it gets easier
As well as improving aspects of sexual function, kegels also help with incontinence. If you practice them now, you'll be thankful for it as you age
daggermoon@piefed.world · 3 pts · 170d
Thank you for this wonderful advice. I shall attempt to practice it.
whoisearth@lemmy.ca · 8 pts · 171d
You know how you stop peeing mid pee? That's how. Clench. Hold it for a count of 10. Release and repeat. Do it in the morning and evening to start.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org · 42 pts · 172d
Sedentary lifestyle
ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml · 31 pts · 172d
A candle that burns twice as bright burns for half as long
chronicledmonocle@lemmy.world · 22 pts · 172d
Holy shit 12 times a day? How has your dick not fallen off?
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 171d
they use lube with vitamins, duh
kat_angstrom@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 172d
It's probably a diet issue. Maybe they need more Vitamin D? Exercise would prove beneficial. Therapy wouldn't hurt but also wouldn't particularly assist unless it would. Maybe they should try to develop some new and different hobbies to grow as a person. Have they considered eating a higher volume of legumes?
deathbird@mander.xyz · 14 pts · 171d
What does "ED at 23" even mean in this context? He can only bust 10 times a day now?
ICastFist@programming.dev · 15 pts · 171d
Anon probably discovered he can't get hard for actual sex during one lucky opportunity
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de · 6 pts · 171d
Erectile disfunction at age 23
daggermoon@piefed.world · 13 pts · 172d
Thank Ahura Mazda, It's not just me.
DragonAce@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 172d
Can you say desensitization?
finallymadeanaccount@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 171d
Ran outta juice, huh? Have you tried ... not being flaccid?
urheber@discuss.tchncs.de · 5 pts · 171d
Did you know its actually pronounced flaccid and not flaccid? Most people don't.
XaetaCore@lemmy.neondystopia.world · 11 pts · 172d
Anon broke pp
Evil_Shrubbery@thelemmy.club · 10 pts · 172d
12 times a day isn't enough to prevent erectile dysfunction.
SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org · 7 pts · 171d
Let's double those numbers. For science!
Ghostie@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 171d
yuriRO@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 172d
Drink more water
slaacaa@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 172d
I have a theory
GuyIncognito@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 171d
Two words: blue chew
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 170d
Youre probably having sex with the wrong gender. Go give the other team a try. Worked great for me. Dont need to get hard to bottom.
Martyy@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 169d
Blackmist@feddit.uk · 2 pts · 171d
You wanna pace yourself. You only get a bucket and half.
That's all I got...