Enby here: I'm neither a transman nor a transwoman, but trans issues affect me.
"Trans" can be a pretty large umbrella. When you get into specifics, I'm not so sure that I'm trans. But I am part of the trans community. Not trans, but also trans. Schrodinger's trans person.
Consider someone who's agender. They'd be non-binary, but they also aren't transitioning to any gender. Ask the GOP which bathroom to use and you can watch their head explode.
The definition of transgender is anyone who identifies with a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth. It is therefore an umbrella term that includes nonbinary genders. Being transgender and transitioning are separate things.
That being said, when people are talking about "trans people" they often mean binary trans people (ie men and women), especially in the current political context.
It's also not unheard of for some nonbinary people to be uncomfortable with calling themselves trans, presumably for the associations with binary trans people.
Edit: i should clarify, by this I mean transgender definitionally in the abstract. When talking about a specific person's identity, it just comes down how they identify. If an enby doesn't identify as trans for any reason, don't call them trans.
That is decided by each individual non binary person. If they say their trans, that's valid. If they say they aren't, also valid. Trans is an intentionally broad community, but never one that requires membership.
Technically, identifying as a different gender from AGAB is the most widely accepted definition of transgender, and almost nobody was assigned non-binary at birth or never had their gender assessed before becoming sufficiently self-aware so just about all enbys are trans. However, AGAB is sensitive info and trans people can choose to not be "proudly trans" and this should extend to enbys. Especially since they might not share many typical characteristics of trans people, such as dysphoria or trying to pass. I like how @SincerityIsCool@lemmy.cadescribed it.
Trans man here, IMHO being nonbinary can be paired with being trans, but not necessarily, i.e. they are not inherently the same thing.
If they have dysphoria and want to transition to alleviate it (irrespective of whether they can), then yes, they are trans.
If the extent of a nonbinary person's journey is to go by they/them, or they/them + the pronouns associated with their AGAB, then I would not categorise them as trans. To be clear, I am not saying that this is not a valid stance - just that the experience is not the same as being trans, though there may be some overlap.
Obviously you cannot work this out without intimately knowing the person, and it isn't really anyone else's business anyway, but to answer the question explicitly, I would refer to them as a nonbinary person (in the absence of further information, and where the 'nonbinary' descriptor is relevant otherwise I would just say 'person'), not a trans person.
Disclaimer: I do not speak for other nonbinary people. The below is my personal opinion towards myself and does not extend to others.
This is the view I hold as well, about myself. I don't have dysphoria regarding aspects of my body, so I don't categorise myself as a trans person. I'm nonbinary, that's the term that resonates with me most clearly. I do not wish my body reflected my inner understanding of myself, because my body doesn't matter to me in that respect.
Idc what other people categorise themselves as; that's a personal, intimate, and inner journey we all walk when queer and I respect them and their wishes.
Yes but this is where certain qualifiers come in. I've known nonbinary people for whom all it is is a personal identity. When I talk about trans issues they're rarely a part of it, because those issues rarely impact them. Inversely I've known nonbinary people who've had to grapple with getting legal recognition, getting access to surgery and hormones, and all that other stuff. Of course they're included when I talk about trans issues. At the end of the day, both and everything in between falls under the umbrella, but not all discussions about the umbrella are about everyone under it, and it's not always worth creating words for different subcategories.
It's really based on self identification. But most nb or fluid people I know, including myself, wont consider themselves trans. As most of the times there's not that "transition".
But of course many other nb could identify as trans and feel like they are going or has gone through a transition.
Personally, as an enby, I don’t consider myself trans as such. I have never felt I’ve transitioned, just been whatever I came as. As in my physical and psychological reality matches my identity, though I admit I’m no expert here. My struggles are mostly paperwork, nothing more.
But trans issues, politically, are almost 1:1 same, whatever the real overlap, so there’s no real meaning in the distinction. I don’t want to muddy the waters by claiming to be trans, but whatever I am or am not is neither here or there, when, whatever the answer might be, the issues are almost all shared either way.
And the label doesn’t matter one way or the other. Whatever is most respectful to most everyone, is fine for me, and I don’t have strong feelings one way or the other. But fundamentally I have been blessed, deserved or not, with no need to ever really transition as such.
For the sake of clarity, it's best to reserve the term "trans" for people who are interested in altering their body and/or dressing very differently from their birth gender. So for NBs, it'll depend on your goals.
Nonbinary person here, and yes nb people are trans. You're transitioning from one gender to another.
Trying to assert otherwise, and playing semantic word games, especially when we're all being so heavily targeted right now, is reckless and stupid. Whether an individual non-binary person feels a strong connection of the word transgender is their business, but we should all be banding together and meeting the fucking moment. Not atomizing ourselves further
You might not have medically transitioned, but surely you socially transitioned in some way. Changed your name and/or pronouns? Altered the way you dress, perhaps?
In my experience, there can be very strong views on this question from people who identify as enby and/or trans. I always defer to what the enby person I am interacting with prefers identifies as, but know that what is good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. I'd always suggest asking the person you're referring to about how they personally identify, but I have had almost zero reason to ever ask. Pronouns are usually enough for day to day interactions and friends/family have always just volunteered without me asking (they'd give different responses to your question, by the way).
Edit: suggested to me that "prefer" sounds suggestive. How someone identifies isn't a preference but a fact. Crossed out in original to show what changed, and I was assured it's nitpicky but nice to not use prefer 😊
Technically, all non-cis are trans, but culturally I don't think non-binary really fits, I think it is conceptually different frim what most people understand trans to mean.
Not necessarily. If someone's intersex, for example, that could be a cis nonbinary person (if they identify as such).
Likewise you've got people who all their life haven't really felt particularly to the gender binary. Legal stuff might've still forced them into a box, though. A common definition is that of people whose gender identity doesn't overlap with the one assigned at birth.
I personally mostly use trans for people who identify as such; people who desire to change how they express their gender identity, for example. Others might have different ideas about when to use that term or not, but that's how I view it myself.
Also the trans community does include intersex and enbys. Also tends to be very accepting of GNCs, genderqueers, and genderfucks.
And if you got off your outrage high, you'd read the rest of that last sentence. You know, the bit where I literally said **"Self identity is the real authority" **
I get it. You love your purity politics. I don't. And on a personal note: Don't try and tell me what the Community wants. Because I've been a member of it a lot longer than you have. And that policing purity politicking bullshit is literally a psyop to try and fracture us.
Transgender is you still identifying by a gender and changing over to that other gender.
I'm not sure I agree.. many of my trans friends have said they didn't "change over" to the other gender, they were always that gender.
Non-Binary identifies OUTSIDE of genders, all and any.
Again, I think you missed the mark here.. nonbinary folks often do identify as a gender which is not part of the typical binary. I think you confused this for agender.
The definition of transgender is anyone who identifies with a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth. It is therefore an umbrella term that includes nonbinary genders.
I'm not trying to be antagonistic but wikipedia disagrees with you as well. This opening paragraph on the subject has citations from these publications:
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Bougie_Birdie@piefed.blahaj.zone · 63 pts · 97d
Enby here: I'm neither a transman nor a transwoman, but trans issues affect me.
"Trans" can be a pretty large umbrella. When you get into specifics, I'm not so sure that I'm trans. But I am part of the trans community. Not trans, but also trans. Schrodinger's trans person.
Consider someone who's agender. They'd be non-binary, but they also aren't transitioning to any gender. Ask the GOP which bathroom to use and you can watch their head explode.
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 97d
great response, thank you
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 96d
SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca · 34 pts · 97d
The definition of transgender is anyone who identifies with a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth. It is therefore an umbrella term that includes nonbinary genders. Being transgender and transitioning are separate things.
That being said, when people are talking about "trans people" they often mean binary trans people (ie men and women), especially in the current political context.
It's also not unheard of for some nonbinary people to be uncomfortable with calling themselves trans, presumably for the associations with binary trans people.
Edit: i should clarify, by this I mean transgender definitionally in the abstract. When talking about a specific person's identity, it just comes down how they identify. If an enby doesn't identify as trans for any reason, don't call them trans.
inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 97d
That is decided by each individual non binary person. If they say their trans, that's valid. If they say they aren't, also valid. Trans is an intentionally broad community, but never one that requires membership.
ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org · 1 pts · 96d
Technically, identifying as a different gender from AGAB is the most widely accepted definition of transgender, and almost nobody was assigned non-binary at birth or never had their gender assessed before becoming sufficiently self-aware so just about all enbys are trans. However, AGAB is sensitive info and trans people can choose to not be "proudly trans" and this should extend to enbys. Especially since they might not share many typical characteristics of trans people, such as dysphoria or trying to pass. I like how @SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca described it.
Skullgrid@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 97d
idk about trans, but they are gender nonconforming and part of GSM (gender and sexuality minorities).
TheMuffinMan@piefed.world · 8 pts · 97d
Trans man here, IMHO being nonbinary can be paired with being trans, but not necessarily, i.e. they are not inherently the same thing.
If they have dysphoria and want to transition to alleviate it (irrespective of whether they can), then yes, they are trans.
If the extent of a nonbinary person's journey is to go by they/them, or they/them + the pronouns associated with their AGAB, then I would not categorise them as trans. To be clear, I am not saying that this is not a valid stance - just that the experience is not the same as being trans, though there may be some overlap.
Obviously you cannot work this out without intimately knowing the person, and it isn't really anyone else's business anyway, but to answer the question explicitly, I would refer to them as a nonbinary person (in the absence of further information, and where the 'nonbinary' descriptor is relevant otherwise I would just say 'person'), not a trans person.
StudChud@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 97d
Disclaimer: I do not speak for other nonbinary people. The below is my personal opinion towards myself and does not extend to others.
This is the view I hold as well, about myself. I don't have dysphoria regarding aspects of my body, so I don't categorise myself as a trans person. I'm nonbinary, that's the term that resonates with me most clearly. I do not wish my body reflected my inner understanding of myself, because my body doesn't matter to me in that respect.
Idc what other people categorise themselves as; that's a personal, intimate, and inner journey we all walk when queer and I respect them and their wishes.
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 97d
Thanks for the insightful response
TheFresh16@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 96d
captainlezbian@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 96d
Yes but this is where certain qualifiers come in. I've known nonbinary people for whom all it is is a personal identity. When I talk about trans issues they're rarely a part of it, because those issues rarely impact them. Inversely I've known nonbinary people who've had to grapple with getting legal recognition, getting access to surgery and hormones, and all that other stuff. Of course they're included when I talk about trans issues. At the end of the day, both and everything in between falls under the umbrella, but not all discussions about the umbrella are about everyone under it, and it's not always worth creating words for different subcategories.
daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 96d
Complex question.
It's really based on self identification. But most nb or fluid people I know, including myself, wont consider themselves trans. As most of the times there's not that "transition".
But of course many other nb could identify as trans and feel like they are going or has gone through a transition.
orgrinrt@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 96d
Personally, as an enby, I don’t consider myself trans as such. I have never felt I’ve transitioned, just been whatever I came as. As in my physical and psychological reality matches my identity, though I admit I’m no expert here. My struggles are mostly paperwork, nothing more.
But trans issues, politically, are almost 1:1 same, whatever the real overlap, so there’s no real meaning in the distinction. I don’t want to muddy the waters by claiming to be trans, but whatever I am or am not is neither here or there, when, whatever the answer might be, the issues are almost all shared either way.
And the label doesn’t matter one way or the other. Whatever is most respectful to most everyone, is fine for me, and I don’t have strong feelings one way or the other. But fundamentally I have been blessed, deserved or not, with no need to ever really transition as such.
Witchfire@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 96d
That's why you often see gender nonconforming bundled with trans
DoubleDongle@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 96d
For the sake of clarity, it's best to reserve the term "trans" for people who are interested in altering their body and/or dressing very differently from their birth gender. So for NBs, it'll depend on your goals.
SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 96d
Nonbinary person here, and yes nb people are trans. You're transitioning from one gender to another.
Trying to assert otherwise, and playing semantic word games, especially when we're all being so heavily targeted right now, is reckless and stupid. Whether an individual non-binary person feels a strong connection of the word transgender is their business, but we should all be banding together and meeting the fucking moment. Not atomizing ourselves further
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 96d
Apytele@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 96d
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I got my tits hacked off but it was mostly for back pain
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 96d
Apytele@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 96d
sometimes I wonder if I'll miss them someday but then I saw an ad the other day for bras that was like our bras fit all shapes!
and for only $80 per bra!
I'm a little grateful they're gone after seeing that.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 96d
Apytele@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 96d
worse oversensitivity actually I think I need to try the TENS on them and see what happens. I have a neuropathic toe I've been meaning to do too.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 96d
SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 96d
You might not have medically transitioned, but surely you socially transitioned in some way. Changed your name and/or pronouns? Altered the way you dress, perhaps?
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 96d
forestbeasts@pawb.social · 4 pts · 97d
Only if they consider themselves trans.
I'm nonbinary and not trans! People have tried to declare to me that nonbinary people are inherently trans. No. I will bite them. :V
-- Frost
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 96d
Oh! Thank you for sharing!
forestbeasts@pawb.social · 1 pts · 96d
Yeah! And thank you for asking, and not just assuming! =^.^=
CombatWombat@feddit.online · 3 pts · 96d
I'm pretty sure no-one is assigned enby at birth.
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 96d
Thus?
CombatWombat@feddit.online · 3 pts · 96d
I think that's as far as my knowledge extends, unfortunately.
Aaron@lemmy.nz · 2 pts · 96d
In my experience, there can be very strong views on this question from people who identify as enby and/or trans. I always defer to what the enby person I am interacting with
prefersidentifies as, but know that what is good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. I'd always suggest asking the person you're referring to about how they personally identify, but I have had almost zero reason to ever ask. Pronouns are usually enough for day to day interactions and friends/family have always just volunteered without me asking (they'd give different responses to your question, by the way).Edit: suggested to me that "prefer" sounds suggestive. How someone identifies isn't a preference but a fact. Crossed out in original to show what changed, and I was assured it's nitpicky but nice to not use prefer 😊
Triasha@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 96d
Yes, but if they signal that they don't Identify as such I would stop for them.
Alvaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 96d
Technically, all non-cis are trans, but culturally I don't think non-binary really fits, I think it is conceptually different frim what most people understand trans to mean.
msokiovt@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 96d
It is a form of transgenderism, though not necessarily the case given the technicality.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 97d
Not necessarily. If someone's intersex, for example, that could be a cis nonbinary person (if they identify as such).
Likewise you've got people who all their life haven't really felt particularly to the gender binary. Legal stuff might've still forced them into a box, though. A common definition is that of people whose gender identity doesn't overlap with the one assigned at birth.
I personally mostly use trans for people who identify as such; people who desire to change how they express their gender identity, for example. Others might have different ideas about when to use that term or not, but that's how I view it myself.
Pyrixas@piefed.social · -1 pts · 96d
Taleya@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 96d
Trans as an affix doesn't just mean across though, it also means beyond. So outside genders you can also be transgender.
Moot point as self identity is the real authority here, but wordplay is fun
Pyrixas@piefed.social · -6 pts · 96d
Taleya@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 96d
literal definition of the affix. Look it up.
Also the trans community does include intersex and enbys. Also tends to be very accepting of GNCs, genderqueers, and genderfucks.
And if you got off your outrage high, you'd read the rest of that last sentence. You know, the bit where I literally said **"Self identity is the real authority" **
I get it. You love your purity politics. I don't. And on a personal note: Don't try and tell me what the Community wants. Because I've been a member of it a lot longer than you have. And that policing purity politicking bullshit is literally a psyop to try and fracture us.
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 96d
I'm not sure I agree.. many of my trans friends have said they didn't "change over" to the other gender, they were always that gender.
Again, I think you missed the mark here.. nonbinary folks often do identify as a gender which is not part of the typical binary. I think you confused this for agender.
AnalogHole@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 96d
Many consider the absence of gender a gender in and of itself.
ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org · 2 pts · 96d
Not to mention, agender ∈ enby but not every enby is agender... unless you only accept 2 genders
AskewLord@piefed.social · -4 pts · 97d
No.
They are two different things.
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 97d
why do you say that? other comments in this thread disagree with you so I'm curious to hear your perspective
AskewLord@piefed.social · 0 pts · 97d
they don't disagree. they are two different things. two words that mean different things.
a car and a truck are two different things.
just because hybrids combinations exist, doesn't mean cars and trucks aren't different things.
non binary and trans are two different things. some people are both, some are one, some are neither.
just like being italian and being scottish are two different things.
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 97d
How do you understand this take then?
AskewLord@piefed.social · -4 pts · 97d
that person is wrong. transgender isn't an umbrella term.
TractorDuffy@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 97d
I'm not trying to be antagonistic but wikipedia disagrees with you as well. This opening paragraph on the subject has citations from these publications:
https://books.google.com/books?id=NAjmBQAAQBAJ&pg=PA740#v=onepage&q=&f=false
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2018/09/ce-corner-glossary