My wife and I threw a 40th birthday party for me and that’s it. That was nearly 5 years ago now and we’re probably never hosting a party ever again lmao.
The moments in between are usually comprised of dissociation and wishing I was anywhere else. The crowd has already sapped me of any energy I would’ve used to yell over the music while talking to yelling at friends.
Some people pay money to enjoy their lives, and savour every moment, even if it means cutting the crap a little short.
I don't smoke, as the risk/reward isn't worth it to me personally, but if it's what it takes for others to be happy, all the power to em. Knock themselves out. Literally heh.
I'd rather live 50-60yrs to their fullest, than live 80-90 mediocre years inside watching the latest Netflix crap or tv repeats (not to say there aren't times when I enjoy it).
I've found that, at least for me, I need to do social things, amazing things, and ceremony around it is also fine. Otherwise, I lose track of time and dark thoughts happen.
I encourage all to celebrate holidays or special events as much as you can, while you can. Every morning you wake up and can see and hear and smell and taste and feel and think. And if you're short somewhere in that list, you probably already understand what I'm talking about. Life is short and a lot of people want yours to be shitty. Don't let them win.
That being said, if you like playing videogames, don't let the people who don't appreciate that to make you feel like that isn't quality time.
The last time I went to a bar on New Year Eve, I paid 20 bucks to get in, bought my first drink and started goofy dancing to a song that came on the radio. Then I got thrown out for being intoxicated.
I'm working this year, but the wife lucked out hard. She got invited to a house party, then today her friend called and said everyone except the two people hosting are sick, so it'd just be the three of em.
I realized in my 20s that Nye is over hyped. I had a few years where I was underwhelmed with how my plans worked out and thus decided to just do small things and try to enjoy them but not have high hopes.
It works really well
Maybe this sounded too pessimistic. I always had plans for the best parties that ended short because I was too drunk or it just didn't turn out to be the best party.
Now I just make small plans and if big things happen that's great.
I walked to the bar. Accepted a free pour of sparkling wine. Counted down to midnight. Sang Auld Lang Syne. Drank my free wine. Hugged some strangers. Threw $5 in the tip jar. Walked home watching fireworks.
I made a tasty blueberry lavender cake, leek gratin with homemade bread and watched the stranger things finale. Ideally I’d go to sleep now but goddamn fireworks are scaring my dog.
Hang out with a dozen people from the neighborhood at someone’s house. Short travel, cheap drinks, nice food, neighbors will help me home, if I’m too wasted.
I usually get myself so distracted by something that I don't even realize the new year has started until about 30 minutes past midnight. I didn't know why I bother stay up any more.
I took two tabs of acid with 3 friends and laughed and danced my arse off for 8 hours at a music festival. It was a magic night. I'll grow up one day but not this year!
61 Comments
orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts · 49 pts · 231d
Staying home has been the way for me for years. I fucking hate overcrowded bars.
ladicius@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 231d
In my younger years I partied wild and even hosted parties with hundreds of guests (rented facilities).
Since my 40s I stay at home and go to bed at 10 pm latest.
sexy_peach@feddit.org · 6 pts · 231d
Especially on Nye you're not missing anything but drama and disappointment
Lemmyoutofhere@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 231d
This is the way.
orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts · 5 pts · 231d
My wife and I threw a 40th birthday party for me and that’s it. That was nearly 5 years ago now and we’re probably never hosting a party ever again lmao.
StickyDango@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 231d
I'm not 40 yet and I was in bed by 8PM. 😬
Buffalox@lemmy.world · 34 pts · 231d
Staying at home myself, but I think the trick is to enjoy the moments between those frames.
marcos@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 231d
If you don't enjoy the moments in those frames, don't go to some overcrowded place. There are no moments in between.
A lot of people enjoy it. I can't understand them, so I stick to small crowds.
orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts · 4 pts · 231d
The moments in between are usually comprised of dissociation and wishing I was anywhere else. The crowd has already sapped me of any energy I would’ve used to yell over the music while
talking toyelling at friends.CidVicious@sh.itjust.works · 31 pts · 231d
I mean, some people enjoy going out into energetic crowds.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world · -7 pts · 231d
Yup, and those are the people pressuring the 90% who don't to come out anyhow lol
Akasazh@feddit.nl · 11 pts · 231d
You could always not give a shit
TrickDacy@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 231d
I'm definitely there! I just remember the bad times I had a few times when I did succumb to that pressure.
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone · -9 pts · 231d
Some people enjoy pay all of their money to play cards, too.
And others pay money to gain cancer.
Like imagine getting cancer treatment in a hospital and looking out the window and seeing someone smoking. Two people doing the exact opposite things.
serpineslair@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 231d
Some people pay money to enjoy their lives, and savour every moment, even if it means cutting the crap a little short.
I don't smoke, as the risk/reward isn't worth it to me personally, but if it's what it takes for others to be happy, all the power to em. Knock themselves out. Literally heh.
I'd rather live 50-60yrs to their fullest, than live 80-90 mediocre years inside watching the latest Netflix crap or tv repeats (not to say there aren't times when I enjoy it).
higgsboson@piefed.social · 31 pts · 231d
My admittedly boring method:
stay home
do stuff, maybe video games
go to sleep whenever I feel like it
wake up at the normal time
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 231d
I've found that, at least for me, I need to do social things, amazing things, and ceremony around it is also fine. Otherwise, I lose track of time and dark thoughts happen.
I encourage all to celebrate holidays or special events as much as you can, while you can. Every morning you wake up and can see and hear and smell and taste and feel and think. And if you're short somewhere in that list, you probably already understand what I'm talking about. Life is short and a lot of people want yours to be shitty. Don't let them win.
That being said, if you like playing videogames, don't let the people who don't appreciate that to make you feel like that isn't quality time.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 231d
I used to stay up when I was younger just to witness the year changing, but now I'm old and just go to bed. It will be there in the morning.
Silar@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 231d
I’m with you
blinfabian@feddit.nl · 26 pts · 231d
this is the worst comic ive ever seen. 3 frames are literally just the same drawing
Bongles@lemmy.zip · 17 pts · 231d
Seriously, draw people getting into a place, draw them getting drinks, draw them waiting for Uber or some shit.
blinfabian@feddit.nl · 10 pts · 231d
they can even have a :( face while looking at $$$ labels on the drinks. instead theyre just expressionless
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 13 pts · 231d
It is a waste of a comic format. Would have been better as just text.
blinfabian@feddit.nl · 6 pts · 231d
true. not only is it the same drawing, it adds nothing, not even once 😭
Bamboodpanda@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 231d
I took that as being part of the point.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com · 21 pts · 231d
Nah, going to a friends house with drinks I bought at the grocery store.
QuandaleDingle@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 231d
Now THAT'S the way to do it!!! :D
Aljernon@lemmy.today · 20 pts · 231d
The last time I went to a bar on New Year Eve, I paid 20 bucks to get in, bought my first drink and started goofy dancing to a song that came on the radio. Then I got thrown out for being intoxicated.
Formfiller@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 231d
That’s actually a pretty funny story
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 230d
The bar was playing radio music??
Aljernon@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 230d
They had live music and between the sets they switched it to "whatever" on the radio so it wasn't quiet.
Flamekebab@piefed.social · 15 pts · 231d
Despite all the awfulness, it can be kinda nice to be amongst a lot of humans celebrating something.
I mean, I'm not doing it, but it's not all bad.
Sine_Fine_Belli@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 231d
Laughs in celebrating new year’s at home
Big_Boss_77@lemmynsfw.com · 12 pts · 231d
yakko@feddit.uk · 1 pts · 231d
The comic artist struggled to make more than one drawing
samus12345@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 231d
Have always stayed home, away from the drunk drivers. Will continue to do so.
ameancow@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 231d
TrickDacy@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 231d
I'm so glad that my partner and I just stay in and enjoy each other's company with some drinks. Going out on NYE is absolutely god awful.
Sharkticon@lemmy.zip · 9 pts · 231d
There comes a certain age where if someone invites you to a New Year's Eve party you're just furious with them.
racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml · 6 pts · 231d
I think small party is fine. What I can't stand is counting down in a plaza.
Sturgist@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 231d
I'm working this year, but the wife lucked out hard. She got invited to a house party, then today her friend called and said everyone except the two people hosting are sick, so it'd just be the three of em.
OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 231d
Why I will never understand or relate to extroverts.
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 230d
Seems like they spend a lot of excessive money being out & about doing all the things they do.
Boozilla@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 231d
frog_brawler@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 231d
brown567@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 231d
Yeah nah, imma be asleep 😴
sexy_peach@feddit.org · 4 pts · 231d
I realized in my 20s that Nye is over hyped. I had a few years where I was underwhelmed with how my plans worked out and thus decided to just do small things and try to enjoy them but not have high hopes. It works really well
titanicx@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 231d
Sucks to think that. Seriously, enjoy life, have fun. Visit with friends, family, etc. Find your people and do something.
sexy_peach@feddit.org · 1 pts · 230d
Maybe this sounded too pessimistic. I always had plans for the best parties that ended short because I was too drunk or it just didn't turn out to be the best party.
Now I just make small plans and if big things happen that's great.
titanicx@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 230d
Well the first half of your statement there is a big problem. The second half of your statement I can't speak to.
Boozilla@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 231d
confusedbytheBasics@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 230d
I walked to the bar. Accepted a free pour of sparkling wine. Counted down to midnight. Sang Auld Lang Syne. Drank my free wine. Hugged some strangers. Threw $5 in the tip jar. Walked home watching fireworks.
It's a pretty fun holiday if you do it like me.
tamal3@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 230d
Nice city!
Wrdlbrmpfd@feddit.org · 3 pts · 231d
Best way to enjoy: https://youtu.be/UlIydTzQCF0 (in German Language but you'd get the idea)
Longmactoppedup@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 231d
I stayed home, not by choice. Got the unwelcome xmas gift of covid.
sploder@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 231d
I made a tasty blueberry lavender cake, leek gratin with homemade bread and watched the stranger things finale. Ideally I’d go to sleep now but goddamn fireworks are scaring my dog.
hansolo@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 231d
Always surprising to me that people still do this. It's always a scam and everyone goes home just slightly pissed off.
Samskara@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 231d
Hang out with a dozen people from the neighborhood at someone’s house. Short travel, cheap drinks, nice food, neighbors will help me home, if I’m too wasted.
Snapz@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 230d
External validation!!!!
BradleyUffner@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 231d
I usually get myself so distracted by something that I don't even realize the new year has started until about 30 minutes past midnight. I didn't know why I bother stay up any more.
ArchBtw@ani.social · 1 pts · 230d
I watched anime at home. kissed my wife at midnight, then took my meds and went to sleep.
Sc00ter@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 231d
I accidentally taught my 4 year old flip cup.
They had a "noon-years eve" party which celebrated the new year at noon... then the adults went a step further
JcbAzPx@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 230d
I just sit by the windows and watch the local illegal fireworks shows.
Candice_the_elephant@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 230d
I took two tabs of acid with 3 friends and laughed and danced my arse off for 8 hours at a music festival. It was a magic night. I'll grow up one day but not this year!
FishFace@piefed.social · 0 pts · 231d
I've never been out on new year's, I've always been in my home or a friend's or family member's. Oh, tell a lie, on the millennium I was at church.