2 My family of origin is ethnic Chinese... very anti trans, bigoted af, they'll call me a "變態" ("pervert", "sick-minded person", or something like that)
I want be BORN as a girl, transitioning is dangerous af.
That's fair, that's part of the reason I kinda dislike memes like this. I'm sure some people have had an easy transition, but myself and a lot of trans people I know have had very difficult ones. I lost a parent over it, which resulted in some time spent very housing insecure in college. I've faced professional and personal discrimination. It's been hard.
And all that matters because it provides serious context to the statement that transitioning was the best decision I ever made. After years of struggling it was the necessary first piece to getting my life together, because it made me able to actually be present in my life and made me not too depressed to do things like study, apply for jobs, and form friendships with new people. It gave me a life worth living at a cost that was nebulous and felt insurmountable at the time I agreed to it.
I much prefer outreach in the form of pointing out that dysphoria doesn't go away without transitioning and by depicting the reality of happy trans people, even those of us who've been disowned.
Nah I like playing girls in games because they're cute and feminine but in real life I want to be a boy who is cute and fem. I don't want to be a girl.
It's actually a kind of a bummer most games don't let you play as a femboy where you look like a girl mostly but people refer to you as a boy in-game.
Link never struck me as a femboy, at least not in the games I played. Newest Zelda game I ever played was Skyward Sword and I didn't play it very much.
absolutely this, we need more femboy options in games! IMO character creators should start with androgynous as a default, and then you can add masc or fem characteristics from there.
I mean I would totally play as a girl IRL if it would be as easy as in videogames and without the negative consequences (thanks sexism and transmisia) ...
According to Wiktionary^[1]^:
"hatred/dislike".
It is used as an alternative to the suffix -phobia, which etymologically means fear (although -phobia is often used for hate/dislike)
that's interesting. though i do like phobia meaning both fear and hatred, as that makes it an opposite of philia, which means love, so can also be seen as acceptance and liking a lot
I think (at least in Germany not sure about English speaking countries) a phobia is an officially recognised psychological condition so using it for bigots (who are not ill, just awful) could be viewed kinda ableist.
Nah I only really play as girls to balance out getting seen as a "guy" so much IRL. Neither the "girl" build nor the "guy" build really have the kind of gameplay I'm looking for. What I really wanted to play as is something that makes people wonder which one I am. But when the random rolls in the character creator spit you out growing to 6'2" with a build like a fridge in a fursuit that build ain't something you can really respec into. So I'm stuck with "Giant Dad" basically.
Oh they absolutely are. No my problem is that I'm nonbinary and with my particular flavor I don't really want to be gendered as either. But with my build I feel like the only ways I really have a chance of being gendered are Bear Dad, Drag artist, and maybe a tall Soccer Mom depending on how well a hypothetical transition might go. None of those are bad, just as much as I don't identify with being male the same goes for fully being seen as female too.
So I figure at least for now if I'm gonna be uncomfortable I'll take the devil I know, then I'll affirm my identity in other ways that make me happy.
Getting gendered (at all sometimes) can feel like being stabbed with a fork dipped in sriracha. Worse when people reeeeally lean into it, for some god forsaken reason.
Video games can be a pleasant temporary escape from that.
Playing as a girl irl sucks pretty hard though. At least in games being a female character doesn’t often have major implications on how much you can do and how interactions play out.. it’s just a full-on 1-1 replacement that has no bearing on anything but aesthetics.
Why? The character on the screen is not me. I do not relate to them. I would never play myself.
I play tropes. Something that is different from what I know in real life. Like I would never pick human if there is an option. Because humans are boring.
Next playthrough it might be something completely different.
Yeah I have for Halloween several times, it’s fun but I’m as cis-het as they come. I play girls in games because I like the way they look, and I do mean sexually.
I sometimes play as a girl in videogames because if I'm going to be staring at someones ass for several hours it might as well be one I find attractive
Yeah, I always play characters who are not like me because I don’t want to watch my onscreen character sit at a desk for years and slowly wither into a bitter husk.
If I am gonna look at my character's ass for half the game, I'd like a lady bum please! The female form is more visually appealing in my opinion, and I love a good bad ass chick that can kick ass and take names but look divine on Saturday night.
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Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world · 87 pts · 184d
I like to play as a girl because i like to look at girls. I don't think that makes me trans.
Iheartcheese@lemmy.world · 35 pts · 184d
DupaCycki@lemmy.world · 27 pts · 184d
Become a girl and start carrying a mirror
FenrirIII@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 184d
But what if you're reeeeeaaally ugly?
Harvey656@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 184d
Girls can't be ugly silly.
TheDoctorDonna@piefed.ca · 4 pts · 183d
Don't have to remind me, thanks. The mirror does that.
Harvey656@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 183d
That's why I dont look in the mirror, problem solved!
(Don't look too much into that, definitely nothing wrong here. Nope, nada.)
yogurtwrong@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 183d
mirrors are getting paid by Rothschild to show me ugly
davidagain@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 183d
Friend of mine was a not handsome dude, but looked much better as a woman. MUCH. I would never have guessed.
friend_of_satan@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 183d
Plus, we don't all want to be the object of our fascination.
Fascinated with race car drivers? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with criminals? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with doctors? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with hitmen? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with serial killers? Have you tried actually being one?
Yeah, not the best ideas.
nutbutter@discuss.tchncs.de · 71 pts · 184d
madjo@piefed.social · 54 pts · 184d
Nah, that's not my reason for playing as a girl in video games. I just don't like hearing dudes grunt. And I prefer to look at a pretty girl kick ass.
Quokka@quokk.au · 24 pts · 184d
I used to play as female characters because the guys never had good customisation, "Oh I can be buzzcut Shepard or crewcut Shepard. Hmmmm".
BarrelAgedBoredom@lemmy.zip · 15 pts · 184d
Fem shep had a better voice actor too
dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 183d
Unfair.
Mark Meer is solid and I really enjoyed his performance(s) mostly in 2 and 3.
Jennifer Hale is a voice acting goddess.
mech@feddit.org · 47 pts · 184d
Bruh this character creator sucks worse than that from Oblivion.
hopesdead@startrek.website · 36 pts · 184d
Look, I played as a female in Cyberpunk 2077 because the female voice actor sounded better than the male.
RisingSwell@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 25 pts · 184d
I did it for long hair. When I played I couldn't have the hair I wanted so fuck it I'll play a woman.
If they want me to play a man, let me have my long hair. Fuckers.
Ziglin@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 183d
Why on earth is the hairstyle restricted by gender?
RisingSwell@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 9 pts · 183d
Because games do stupid shit sometimes. Thought it was weird CP77 did it though, given how otherwise inclusive the game appears.
LORDSMEGMA@sh.itjust.works · 13 pts · 184d
Also Judy
Damage@feddit.it · 14 pts · 184d
I would have played male if I knew I was locking myself out of romancing Panam.
SARGE@startrek.website · 7 pts · 184d
Retail4068@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 184d
Wanted that lesi car sex so bad lol
Hadriscus@jlai.lu · 5 pts · 184d
No way....? you can romance Panam as a dude ???
LORDSMEGMA@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 184d
Sounds like you need to play again!
Damage@feddit.it · 1 pts · 183d
I never even finished my first playthrough, got bored
Truscape@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 27 pts · 184d
budder dog
dog wit the buttah
buttur dog
dog wid da butter on 'em
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works · 23 pts · 183d
Problems with IRL:
2 My family of origin is ethnic Chinese... very anti trans, bigoted af, they'll call me a "變態" ("pervert", "sick-minded person", or something like that)
I want be BORN as a girl, transitioning is dangerous af.
avidamoeba@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 183d
Do it while on vacation in Montreal during pride. You don't have to transition to have some fun on occasion. 🤗
captainlezbian@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 182d
That's fair, that's part of the reason I kinda dislike memes like this. I'm sure some people have had an easy transition, but myself and a lot of trans people I know have had very difficult ones. I lost a parent over it, which resulted in some time spent very housing insecure in college. I've faced professional and personal discrimination. It's been hard.
And all that matters because it provides serious context to the statement that transitioning was the best decision I ever made. After years of struggling it was the necessary first piece to getting my life together, because it made me able to actually be present in my life and made me not too depressed to do things like study, apply for jobs, and form friendships with new people. It gave me a life worth living at a cost that was nebulous and felt insurmountable at the time I agreed to it.
I much prefer outreach in the form of pointing out that dysphoria doesn't go away without transitioning and by depicting the reality of happy trans people, even those of us who've been disowned.
Siethron@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 184d
I like playing as a dragon in video games. If only there was a drug that would let me grow wings and breathe fire in the estates of billionaires.
Focal@pawb.social · 17 pts · 184d
Well... There are drugs that'll let you THINK you're doing all that, and that's almost as good, right?
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works · 22 pts · 184d
Meh, in videogames I don't get periods...
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 7 pts · 184d
... do trans girls get periods nowadays?
carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 19 pts · 184d
if you’re on estrogen, you still get (some) period cramps and mood swings, but obviously there’s no blood since there’s (usually) no uterus
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 12 pts · 184d
Damn, TIL.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 183d
Yes, I get them. Aside from the lack of bleeding it's pretty similar.
PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca · 22 pts · 183d
Nah I like playing girls in games because they're cute and feminine but in real life I want to be a boy who is cute and fem. I don't want to be a girl.
It's actually a kind of a bummer most games don't let you play as a femboy where you look like a girl mostly but people refer to you as a boy in-game.
VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 183d
I felt this. Most games don't have any options for more slender, fem looking men at all. It's always hairy or muscly.
ThunderQueen@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 183d
PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca · 0 pts · 183d
Link never struck me as a femboy, at least not in the games I played. Newest Zelda game I ever played was Skyward Sword and I didn't play it very much.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 3 pts · 182d
He isn't exactly Astolfo, but he is definitely androgynous. IIRC that was intentional, too.
djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 182d
absolutely this, we need more femboy options in games! IMO character creators should start with androgynous as a default, and then you can add masc or fem characteristics from there.
jlow@discuss.tchncs.de · 19 pts · 184d
I mean I would totally play as a girl IRL if it would be as easy as in videogames and without the negative consequences (thanks sexism and transmisia) ...
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 184d
what's the -misia mean?
nya@ani.social · 13 pts · 184d
According to Wiktionary^[1]^: "hatred/dislike". It is used as an alternative to the suffix -phobia, which etymologically means fear (although -phobia is often used for hate/dislike)
[1] https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/-misia
festnt@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 184d
that's interesting. though i do like phobia meaning both fear and hatred, as that makes it an opposite of philia, which means love, so can also be seen as acceptance and liking a lot
jlow@discuss.tchncs.de · 3 pts · 183d
I think (at least in Germany not sure about English speaking countries) a phobia is an officially recognised psychological condition so using it for bigots (who are not ill, just awful) could be viewed kinda ableist.
Hadriscus@jlai.lu · 18 pts · 184d
I typically play as a girl when given the choice but I don't think that's anything to read into lol
Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone · 16 pts · 184d
Nah I only really play as girls to balance out getting seen as a "guy" so much IRL. Neither the "girl" build nor the "guy" build really have the kind of gameplay I'm looking for. What I really wanted to play as is something that makes people wonder which one I am. But when the random rolls in the character creator spit you out growing to 6'2" with a build like a fridge in a fursuit that build ain't something you can really respec into. So I'm stuck with "Giant Dad" basically.
magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 184d
Big bitches are real and valid, if your physical shape is all that keeps you back.
That being said there's a lotta ways to be happy, so long as you find one that doesn't hurt others that's whats important.
Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 183d
Oh they absolutely are. No my problem is that I'm nonbinary and with my particular flavor I don't really want to be gendered as either. But with my build I feel like the only ways I really have a chance of being gendered are Bear Dad, Drag artist, and maybe a tall Soccer Mom depending on how well a hypothetical transition might go. None of those are bad, just as much as I don't identify with being male the same goes for fully being seen as female too.
So I figure at least for now if I'm gonna be uncomfortable I'll take the devil I know, then I'll affirm my identity in other ways that make me happy.
magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 183d
Fair enough dawg, gender hurts.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 6 pts · 184d
Real.
Broadfern@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 183d
I feel that vibe so hard.
Getting gendered (at all sometimes) can feel like being stabbed with a fork dipped in sriracha. Worse when people reeeeally lean into it, for some god forsaken reason.
Video games can be a pleasant temporary escape from that.
GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 183d
Yeah, as a 6'3 skinny uterus haver, I'd love for an option to skip all the public restroom cutscenes irl, thanks!
ButteryMonkey@piefed.social · 16 pts · 184d
Playing as a girl irl sucks pretty hard though. At least in games being a female character doesn’t often have major implications on how much you can do and how interactions play out.. it’s just a full-on 1-1 replacement that has no bearing on anything but aesthetics.
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 183d
that's true but cyberpunk is an exception, that games story is amazing
ButteryMonkey@piefed.social · 2 pts · 183d
That’s fair, I haven’t played that one, or really any others where sex selection actually matters
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 15 pts · 184d
GOD DAMN IT ITS 2 AM AGAIN AAAAA
I'll see you in the morning
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 184d
i know I literally just said that but I found this guy and I think he's really funny looking
ANYWAYS definitely going to bed now mhm!!
ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com · 13 pts · 184d
Default Male 01
GR4CELESS@lemmy.zip · 15 pts · 183d
Instructions unclear, got my gender stuck in the toaster and now it's all burnt and useless
Honytawk@feddit.nl · 15 pts · 183d
Why? The character on the screen is not me. I do not relate to them. I would never play myself.
I play tropes. Something that is different from what I know in real life. Like I would never pick human if there is an option. Because humans are boring.
Next playthrough it might be something completely different.
iridebikes@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 182d
I like being a badass warrior chick weilding a huge two handed sword in full plate.
I do not want to be a woman.
Draconic_NEO@pawb.social · 14 pts · 183d
Playing as a girl IRL <<< Playing as a Dragon IRL
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 183d
username checks out lol
sparkles@piefed.zip · 14 pts · 184d
Retail4068@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 184d
Counter point: jiggle physics are much more enjoyable to stare at for 120 hours.
Ziglin@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 183d
Really good games should have it for butts too, everyone should get to enjoy it.
CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 183d
Yeah I have for Halloween several times, it’s fun but I’m as cis-het as they come. I play girls in games because I like the way they look, and I do mean sexually.
Xanthrax@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 183d
Hit box bro
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 183d
that was my excuse... for Minecraft
PrettyFlyForAFatGuy@feddit.uk · 11 pts · 183d
I sometimes play as a girl in videogames because if I'm going to be staring at someones ass for several hours it might as well be one I find attractive
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 11 pts · 183d
Yeah, I always play characters who are not like me because I don’t want to watch my onscreen character sit at a desk for years and slowly wither into a bitter husk.
AlexLost@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 183d
If I am gonna look at my character's ass for half the game, I'd like a lady bum please! The female form is more visually appealing in my opinion, and I love a good bad ass chick that can kick ass and take names but look divine on Saturday night.
petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 182d
I'm adding this not as a disagreement, I'm certainly not anti hot people, but I think it needs to be said more often:
I play as a girl in video games sometimes, not because I want to be one, not because they're fun to stare at, I just think that being cute can be fun.
SARGE@startrek.website · 9 pts · 184d
state_electrician@discuss.tchncs.de · 9 pts · 184d
lol no
sirico@feddit.uk · 8 pts · 184d
And lose my passive buffs?!
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 5 pts · 184d
+STR -CHA ... it's a choice
AllukaTheCutie7725@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 183d
I love playing as a girl even more in real life than in the games.
tiramichu@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 184d
This post deals me psychic damage
ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com · 7 pts · 184d
I actually play as both depending on how I imagine the character to be.
laserm@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 183d
How do I actually do that? I mean the becoming a girl part
WoodScientist@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 182d
HRT, laser, electro, wardrobe, makeup, voice training, surgeries of various sorts...
Gonzako@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 183d
Not for me! I'm fairly gender affirmed and confident on it. Tho, I'm the very definition vanilla, incredibly cishet.
dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 183d
Oh your god, that is a cute kitty!
rainbowbunny@slrpnk.net · 4 pts · 183d
So much objectification in these comments
Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 183d
I liked horizon. Im trans now.
DylanMc6@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 183d
Don't dream it, be it
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 183d
I dunno, I don't think Garrus Vakarian would jump my bones if I was a girl or guy irl.
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 183d
Clothes too small for me, any type 😓. But I play a woman outside anyways, it does not sit in the clothes or so I have decided.