Example of bi-eraser on reddit the title said soul mate dont mean lover. Like bloody fucking hell they were indeed lovers. Freddie Mercury was Bisexual

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OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world · 103 pts · 75d (7 replies)

BandanaBug@piefed.social · 9 pts · 75d

Saving this, thanks

galaxy_nova@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 74d (1 reply)

W98BSoD@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 74d

aburrito@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 74d

But, enough to leave a comment?

quips@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 74d (2 replies)

Then move on? There are people that do

Unstoppable_Flop@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 74d (1 reply)

But I must let everyone know how much I don't care!

jaggedrobotpubes@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 74d

Going three comments deep to tell you all to get lives and let things go and move on you don't always have to reply.

Don't forget to like and subscribe.

i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca · 88 pts · 75d (2 replies)

Erasure. A bi eraser is the one with a different colour on each end.

Jarix@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 75d (1 reply)

I've got a black one

Lemminary@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 75d

I like the ironic ones with the bi colors on them

ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net · 40 pts · 75d (1 reply)

Actually, he was zoroastrian.

zarathustrad@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 74d

Well, too bad his people thought he was a "vaēpiia", but that actually means sorcerer poet, not a derogatory term for sodomite. Maybe things could have been different, if only the "traditional" religious interpreters actually listened to the prophet, and not the closed minded folks that came after.

He was an inspired, frenzied poet, one whose emotions, feelings, and poetry resonate with a vibration, swinging rhythm, and frenzy, after all.

BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today · 39 pts · 74d (6 replies)

He could have been hetero-romantic, and sexually gay. Or it's also possible that she was the only woman he loved.

Sexuality is weird. Anything goes. People get crazy about it when they try to control it. It's sex. It's uncontrollable. Just get out of the way of it, and everyone will be a lot happier.

BleatingZombie@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 74d (4 replies)

I don't know much about Freddy Mercury (or even sexuality), but couldn't it also be possible that he STRONGLY admired her, just not in a sexual or romantic way?

Like, could he be saying something like "if I were into women, I would have married you in a heartbeat"?

I'm a straight guy and I have friends that I feel similar about

selokichtli@lemmy.ml · 10 pts · 74d

He really, absolutely loved her, and she did love him profoundly back. After this, it gets complicated. Maybe she couldn't bear knowing he was having sex relationships with men. Maybe the issue was the AIDS wave from one or both of their perspectives; Freddy wouldn't risk her or she wouldn't risk herself. Maybe she demanded monogamy and he couldn't give her that. It's complicated.

wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz · -5 pts · 74d (2 replies)

I'm a straight guy and I have friends that I feel similar about

...rrriiiggghhhttt, cause that's something that someone who's not even a little bit bi in any way would say, okay...

zarathustrad@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 74d (1 reply)

You saying a straight person has to be Bi to love an opposite gender person in a non romantic way?

wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 74d

No, I'm saying that straight people with 0% repressed bisexuality typically don't think about whether or not they would marry their same-sex mates if they were only a little more gay...

Unstoppable_Flop@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 74d

Or get in the way, if that's your thing

Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world · 26 pts · 75d (15 replies)

Ok......but what made things different? I'm confused on the context.

Also, I'm sure bisexuality would have been considered obscene in the 80s, but today it's so natural that I don't think anyone would be offended that he was bi.

bearoftheisle@europe.pub · 33 pts · 74d (1 reply)

Oh there are plenty of people offended that bi people exist. Some of them being plain old homophobes ("bi people are just as bad"), some of them being lgbt+ people who think bi people are just indecisive and can't choose a side/are traitors to the rest of the lgbt+ community (as ridiculous as it sounds).

Virtvirt588@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 74d

There are minorities or even majorities where hypocrisy is what they prefer. Its downright stupid how inclusiveness is advertised, yet moral gate keeping is what occurs.

Cypher@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 74d (9 replies)

Ok......but what made things different?

The dying of AIDs instead of living???

grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 5 pts · 74d (8 replies)

My reading was that if he wasn't only attracted to men, but I was assuming he was gay. I still don't know tbh, since I'm just going off this one picture

Cypher@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 74d (7 replies)

Freddy was bi there is no doubt about it.

grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 3 pts · 74d (6 replies)

Well there we have it I guess. I haven't even watched a documentary on it so I'll take your word for it.

In my mind it's more romantic if the people in the picture had a platonic bond, so that's my bias, but the world doesn't revolve around my aesthetic preferences, fortunately.

Cypher@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 74d (5 replies)

He was involved with her for years, left a love letter, his entire fortune and properties to her out of all his lovers and you think it was platonic?

Bi-erasure is real and entirely disgusting.

grrgyle@slrpnk.net · 6 pts · 74d

My folk, I'm bi

I'm just a spoony asexual

CannonFodder@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 74d (3 replies)

He loved her, clearly. But he actually left her because he was gay and needed to pursue physical relationships with other men.
He presumably was able to get it up with her when they were together so high was likely a bit bi (aren't we all?), but that he left her while he lover her to be gay makes me think he was much more gay than bi.

SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 74d

Aren't we all a bit bi?

Nope! Only bi people are bi, there are plenty of people with genuinely no attraction to men or no attraction to women.

TheWilliamist@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 74d (2 replies)

Are you thinking of the 1880’s???

Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 74d (1 reply)

In the 1990s, ellen degeneres had a hit sitcom on ABC. Then she came out as gay. Pepsi, among other advertisers threatened to pull all advertising from ABC.

So ABC cancelled a show with decent ratings purely because she was gay.

Now, today we know that ellen is a piece of shit for OTHER reasons, but that wasn't known in 1996. This was a move based purely on Pepsi and others not wanting to be assosiated with a gay person on their tv.

Now for the kicker. Ellen had some support, but it was not a majority. The majority of people at that time celebrated ellen getting removed from tv.

If that happened today? A beloved tv star being removed from tv because they were gay? I think it would have even bigger backlash than CBS is facing right now over Colbert, and 60 Minutes. Back then? America gave the thumbs up.

Ironically enough, I think being bi would have been MORE accepted in the 1880s.

TheWilliamist@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 73d

Yes, but that’s Ellen. The show was aimed directly at a “clean” segment of the market that rebelled once it went off the beaten path of white bread situation comedy. Folks knew Queen and Mercury from the 70’s, which were hedonistic as fuck. Not an apples to apples comparison. 🤷🏽‍♂️

aburrito@sh.itjust.works · 20 pts · 74d

This may be true, but a shitposting community is not the right audience for discourse; hence a lot of these comments being a bit yikes

Gonzako@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 74d (6 replies)

If every sexual ecounter you had hasn't been a threesome you ain't bi, just gayfluid

botbot@feddit.org · 6 pts · 74d (1 reply)
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Gonzako@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 74d

Never been invited to one so I must assume those don't exist

ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net · 4 pts · 74d (2 replies)

This is my favorite comment today. You win 5 lemmy dollars. Where should I make the transfer?

MehBlah@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 74d

Don't you know You put those in the square hole.

Gonzako@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 74d

Just give em to your mom, i'll come pick her up later

EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 74d

gayfluid

That's an interesting word

Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 75d (5 replies)

That reads to me more like "if I was attracted to women, you would be my wife"

SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 38 pts · 75d (4 replies)

Could it be "if I wasn't dying and writing this will, we would have gotten married and lived happily ever after"?

Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 75d

Especially with AIDS in those days when it was a death sentence and there was no PrEP for partners

Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 75d (1 reply)

Could be, although you can get married pretty quickly if you're not worried about a big wedding etc.

postman@literature.cafe · 8 pts · 74d

They met in 1969. I don't think rushing for time was the problem here.

Taleya@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 74d

Except that would have been Jim Hutton

NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io · 9 pts · 75d (2 replies)

Yeah the "mate" in "soulmate" refers to a checkmate, as in chess.

Siegfried@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 74d (1 reply)

And the "soul" part refers to the music genre. "soulmate" is when you win a soul competition.

EffortlessEffluvium@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 74d

For every soul winner there's a soul loser

wesker@lemmy.sdf.org · 5 pts · 75d (1 reply)

bi-erasure

No comment, just that that sink in.

VexingVixen69@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 75d

No I don't want to, I suspect it may be a vampire.