It’s not even necessarily a negative thing. My parents were quite functional caregivers and role models despite this fact. They held each other in only the highest respect.
oof. Glad I dodged that bullet. She broke up with me less than a year after I proposed. After time and separation, I realized how fucking bad that relationship was
the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they're incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you're locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it's a nightmare. REALLY don't have kids with people you haven't lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life, also, you can't out run, out think, or recognize your truama, you are you, and you can't not you. therapy early and often.
well if anything else, please care about yourself. it's deeply important if you want to have any shot at a relationship that actuality involves love and trust.
It gets even worse when sometimes you see a really really good porn. The kind you like so much that you eventually watch all 40 minutes of at different times. And the guy in the porn kinda looks like a jacked version of you. And the characters first name is the same as your name. And you take note of what the womans name is.
Then years later you see a different porn with the same woman, but a different guy. And you're like "WHAT ARE YOU DOING, ASHLEY??? YOU'RE MARRIED TO RICHARD!!!! WHO IS THIS???? YOU LOVE DICK, ASHLEY!!!! DIIIIIIIIICK!!!!!!"
I'll use your comment to piggyback. Some of the HOTTEST I've seen are from actual partners where it's an actual understanding of each other, where there's real affection. Or taking a step back and watching them discuss their kinks and bedroom play casually
God. So incredibly sexy when it's real attraction. Plus one of my strongest kinks is seeing people in pleasure. So, even greater that attraction when they also romantically enjoy giving each other pleasure.
Solution: make up some original characters with designs one likes, make up some lore that they have some cutesy loving relationship, and draw or write some for yourself with whatever vibe you want it to have. Also lets one turn horny feelings into motivation to practice creative expression which can then make for something of a hobby.
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Ariselas@piefed.ca · 57 pts · 57d
meh ... lots of married people don't love each other either.
henfredemars@infosec.pub · 17 pts · 57d
It’s not even necessarily a negative thing. My parents were quite functional caregivers and role models despite this fact. They held each other in only the highest respect.
Snowclone@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 57d
married 17 years, can confirm.
rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 56d
oof. Glad I dodged that bullet. She broke up with me less than a year after I proposed. After time and separation, I realized how fucking bad that relationship was
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 55d
But...why?
Snowclone@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 53d
the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they're incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you're locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it's a nightmare. REALLY don't have kids with people you haven't lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life, also, you can't out run, out think, or recognize your truama, you are you, and you can't not you. therapy early and often.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 53d
Sorry, I guess you do what you have to do until they are 18.
No, I cannot do therapy, simply not feasible atm at all. Not time-wise, not economy wise, I'd get fired for that here.
Snowclone@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 19d
well if anything else, please care about yourself. it's deeply important if you want to have any shot at a relationship that actuality involves love and trust.
dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 55d
I'm married, I know a bunch of married people, and I honestly don't love even MOST of them.
MeatPilot@sh.itjust.works · 48 pts · 56d
Wait so those old VHS tapes I used to jerk off to? Those meant my parents didn't love each other.
BigBrainBrett2517@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 56d
Hahaha You had me in the first half and then I laughed. Nice one
aldhissla@piefed.world · 2 pts · 56d
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 56d
We all figured the divorce 20 years ago would've clued you in.
MeatPilot@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 56d
I always thought my stepdad was just giving my dad pointers, because dad sometimes just sat in the corner watching.
Anyways I think they are all still good friends, because I find them eating breakfast together.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 56d
Ew. I am officially yucking your yum.
How many of us have that shared experience of finding their parents self-porn? Is that a 90s thing? I can't imagine it happens in the digital age.
kossa@feddit.org · 12 pts · 56d
In the 90s you found it on the attic, today you find it on the internet.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 55d
Good thing I won't be a parent.
MantisToboggon@lemmy.world · 41 pts · 57d
Hey champ I happen to know for a fact, all those guys loved your mom very much.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 56d
Thoroughly, you might say.
Skyrmir@lemmy.world · 39 pts · 56d
Most of them aren't even step siblings.
CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 56d
Most?
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 56d
So you're saying there's a chance...
JackTea@piefed.world · 4 pts · 56d
I... Uh... I'm gonna cry in a corner
Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de · 7 pts · 56d
I am afraid... most
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 4 pts · 56d
Most of them aren't even step siblings: 😀
Most of them aren't even step siblings: 😶🌫️
I don't remember the meme name so bear with the cringe emoji thing
SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 54d
And it's not actually possible to get stuck under a bed or in a dryer.
rottenmummy@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 56d
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world · 31 pts · 57d
It gets even worse when sometimes you see a really really good porn. The kind you like so much that you eventually watch all 40 minutes of at different times. And the guy in the porn kinda looks like a jacked version of you. And the characters first name is the same as your name. And you take note of what the womans name is.
Then years later you see a different porn with the same woman, but a different guy. And you're like "WHAT ARE YOU DOING, ASHLEY??? YOU'RE MARRIED TO RICHARD!!!! WHO IS THIS???? YOU LOVE DICK, ASHLEY!!!! DIIIIIIIIICK!!!!!!"
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 10 pts · 56d
... are... you are shipping... porn actors?
You've made a porno fancanon universe?
... ok. I don't even know what to say to that, I'm mostly just astounded.
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 23 pts · 56d
What?! Fuckin hell man, everything's fake these days :( at least we still got wrestling
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 4 pts · 55d
Yeah, wrestling is where they really start loving each other.
Homo_Erectus@lemmy.zip · 19 pts · 57d
What now ? You gonna say they are not married ?
OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 57d
Sometimes the cumshot isnt even real 😢
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 56d
OP said they don't love each other. Obviously they're married or they wouldn't be having sex.
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 57d
Sex without love is just dirty.
So dirty.
sundray@lemmus.org · 16 pts · 56d
decolo@piefed.social · 18 pts · 56d
Step-husband what are you doing
OtakuAllTheWay@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 57d
Plenty of irl couples in porn.
tpyo@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 56d
I'll use your comment to piggyback. Some of the HOTTEST I've seen are from actual partners where it's an actual understanding of each other, where there's real affection. Or taking a step back and watching them discuss their kinks and bedroom play casually
nforminvasion@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 56d
God. So incredibly sexy when it's real attraction. Plus one of my strongest kinks is seeing people in pleasure. So, even greater that attraction when they also romantically enjoy giving each other pleasure.
Maxxus@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 56d
Sometimes step-siblings just don’t have the time to form that kind of bond if they’re older when their parents get married.
VitoRobles@lemmy.today · 7 pts · 56d
Isn't there a category for adult content where they... 🥺 ️👉👈 ?
dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 55d
You can't get on the list that easily can you?
VitoRobles@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 55d
I'm trying. Throwing everything out there to be part of that list!
HotsauceHurricane@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 57d
Idk why this is making me chuckle so much 😄 His fuckin face is killing me.
cockmushroom@reddthat.com · 3 pts · 55d
Recently been seeing early 2000s stuff again and they kiss way less often than they do now. I find it more consistently exciting now though tbh
all that said, this comment is cursed tbh
CarbonIceDragon@pawb.social · 3 pts · 57d
Solution: make up some original characters with designs one likes, make up some lore that they have some cutesy loving relationship, and draw or write some for yourself with whatever vibe you want it to have. Also lets one turn horny feelings into motivation to practice creative expression which can then make for something of a hobby.
SethTaylor@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 56d
That makes sense. I knew being in polyamorous relationships was not that common
666dollarfootlong@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 55d
The viewer does
Ramsesder13te@feddit.org · 1 pts · 55d
This post feels wrong on so many Levels...
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 55d
Imagine if your co-workers are fucking with you, except it's literally.
You don't even find the person attractive, and you are basically asexual now.
But your CV has nothing but years of fucking.
programmer_belch@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 0 pts · 57d
Start reading better porn? Just get a yuri manga, like "Love My Boss [Wife]"