For me my two cats are my adopted children. And there is absolutely nothing I wouldn't do about them. Yes, they are not human, so what? I love them more than anything, more than myself, they are my everything.
Also, to clarify, I never said I value people more than pets. What I said is that I value my family more than anything. And my cats are my family.
I do miss my mom, but then I remember her doubling down on being a conservative despite her gay son having nearly been killed in 1999 for coming out in HS. You can't argue with stupid, and you can't indulge it either.
Both my wife’s and my fathers died within a year of each other. Christmas is just us and moms now and it’s… a lot better. Good food and no drama.
Column B for me. Yeah, when I think about it too much it stings but so much better than anxiously hoping things go well and consistently blowing up in my face.
Choose peace on the holidays. Set boundaries and walk away if boundaries are ignored.
Thanksgiving is generally me, husband, twin. Twin works on Thanksgiving (hopefully, cause it's extra pay) so I'll make a turkey, mashed taters, rolls. It's much calmer than the holidays we spend with mother and her new family.
I love to celebrate good food with the friends and family I care deeply about, and I love seeing them happy. There's people who arent worth it, like the OP no-contact can be the best choice and there's swaths of my family I don't talk to, but throwing the baby out with the bathwater here just makes life less full.
You don't have to make holidays into whatever that is. My holidays are relaxing opportunity to meet friends who aren't busy with work, that's basically it. I discovered you don't actually need to Buy Product (tm) to have a holiday.
48 Comments
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world · 110 pts · 8d
Good company > no company > bad company.
Thatuserguy@lemmy.world · 43 pts · 8d
BUT ALL OF THEM ARE POWERLESS AGAINST MY INVINCIBLE STAND, SHEER HEART ATTACK
ignotum@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 8d
Bad company and I won't deny
Bad, bad company 'til the day I die, oh, yeah
'Til the day I die
silver@das-eck.haus · 13 pts · 7d
But bad company was the best Battlefield
undefinedTruth@lemmy.zip · 12 pts · 7d
Cat company > good company > no company > bad company.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 7d
Only if you're scared of people and of developing actually deep and fulfilling connections. And I say that as a very satisfied "cat dad"!
undefinedTruth@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 7d
I don't, but if I was forced to choose I'd pick my cats every single time over any human on this planet.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 7d
Of course! Have you considered why?
undefinedTruth@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 6d
This is basically asking a parent why they pick their children over someone else. Is there anyone you'd value higher than your children?
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 6d
God. Just like I value people more than pets. Animals are not children, even if we talk about them in that way.
undefinedTruth@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 6d
For me my two cats are my adopted children. And there is absolutely nothing I wouldn't do about them. Yes, they are not human, so what? I love them more than anything, more than myself, they are my everything.
Also, to clarify, I never said I value people more than pets. What I said is that I value my family more than anything. And my cats are my family.
SippyCup@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 8d
You forgot >EZ company
jade52@lemmy.ca · 55 pts · 8d
Hell yeah. My husband and I have the best holidays because it's just us and our cats. No drama, no stress. Kinda like what a holiday should be.
PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 36 pts · 7d
I'm having my doubts...
jade52@lemmy.ca · 27 pts · 7d
Ok fine there is always a little cat drama but they figure it out much quicker than humans.
Princess_Donut_The_Queen_Anne_Chonk@pawb.social · 13 pts · 7d
WE CATS DO LOVE OUR DRAMA
OP MUST BE A NEW CAT OWNER, BECAUSE THAT'S CAT OWNERSHIP 101, JUST LIKE WITH CARL AND HIS PANCAKE FIASCO THAT ENDED WITH HIM IN THE HOSPITAL.
I'M STILL NOT SORRY ABOUT THAT BY THE WAY 💜
mojofrododojo@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 7d
goddamnit donut
AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space · 30 pts · 8d
If it’s Christmas, my cat gets reindeer.
BooBees@fedinsfw.app · 9 pts · 8d
Mine get grandma
SlightlyNormal@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 7d
Do you put bear traps on the roof or an AA turret?
QuentinCallaghan@sopuli.xyz · 26 pts · 8d
Can't help but agree with that, except I replace cats with my siblings. Cutting contact can be among the best things to do for one's metal health.
DeepDown@leminal.space · 7 pts · 8d
Sibling kinship can be pretty pretty based. They often know and agree what's up
bonsai@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 24 pts · 7d
Spend the holidays with family: valid
Spend the holidays
alonewith your cats: ALSO valid!Smaile@lemmy.ca · 9 pts · 7d
Or spend it with friends if you have somedethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 15 pts · 7d
I just realized I don’t give my cats turkey cat food on Thanksgiving OR Christmas.
I’m a monster!
bedwyr@piefed.ca · 4 pts · 7d
I feed my dog better than I eat half the time.
dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 6d
They deserve the best we can give them.
turtlesareneat@piefed.ca · 12 pts · 7d
I do miss my mom, but then I remember her doubling down on being a conservative despite her gay son having nearly been killed in 1999 for coming out in HS. You can't argue with stupid, and you can't indulge it either.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 8 pts · 7d
Aw shit you just cracked the ice on Mariah's prison
DeepDown@leminal.space · 5 pts · 7d
FUCK I DIDN'T MEAN IT. I'M SORRY
Simulation6@sopuli.xyz · 7 pts · 7d
The cat doesn’t look happy with the arrangement.
zaphod@sopuli.xyz · 13 pts · 7d
The cat is upset about the different food.
CrimeIsLegalNow@ani.social · 1 pts · 7d
The cat doesn't support colonialism or its holidays, unless it's cat colonialism.
SuiXi3D@fedia.io · 6 pts · 7d
Both my wife’s and my fathers died within a year of each other. Christmas is just us and moms now and it’s… a lot better. Good food and no drama.
comrademiao@piefed.social · 1 pts · 7d
Your wife’s what and your two fathers?
Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 7d
Column B for me. Yeah, when I think about it too much it stings but so much better than anxiously hoping things go well and consistently blowing up in my face.
Choose peace on the holidays. Set boundaries and walk away if boundaries are ignored.
Bristlecone@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 7d
Hell yee, get it! (And by "it" I mean mean self-reliance and mental health!)
criss_cross@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 7d
The food is at least better in the bottom pic that’s for sure.
RebekahWSD@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 7d
Thanksgiving is generally me, husband, twin. Twin works on Thanksgiving (hopefully, cause it's extra pay) so I'll make a turkey, mashed taters, rolls. It's much calmer than the holidays we spend with mother and her new family.
OozingPositron@feddit.cl · 2 pts · 6d
Couldn't be me, I would never eat turkey willingly.
AiricaFyresong@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 7d
Take the next step and remove yourself from holiday traditions. I only observe the solstice/equinox dates.
Soggy@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 7d
Why? It's fun to celebrate stuff.
AiricaFyresong@lemmy.blahaj.zone · -2 pts · 7d
Oh yes, I love to celebrate manufactured stress, commercial pressure, and exhausting social obligations. /s
Soggy@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 7d
I love to celebrate good food with the friends and family I care deeply about, and I love seeing them happy. There's people who arent worth it, like the OP no-contact can be the best choice and there's swaths of my family I don't talk to, but throwing the baby out with the bathwater here just makes life less full.
Nalivai@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 6d
You don't have to make holidays into whatever that is. My holidays are relaxing opportunity to meet friends who aren't busy with work, that's basically it. I discovered you don't actually need to Buy Product (tm) to have a holiday.
LittleBorat3@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 7d
More affordable, less yelling 😄
Stolas@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 7d
It's easier that way. Much, much easier.
fluckx@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 7d
I feel like the cat his name should either be mister meowsers or mister mousers.
But not mowsers. This angered me more than it should. Like people deliberately spelling names in a special way just to be unique >.>