Stilgar (because he kinda resembles Javier Bardem’s Stilgar)
Boom boom house (because they have those obnoxious subwoofers in their car and you can hear them coming from a mile away)
Barn house (because the paint color of their house makes it look like a barn)
Young couple (they look like our age and have no kids, although I think we’re pretty much older than them)
Karen (no explanation needed. We all have the neighborhood Karen. Thankfully she’s several streets away and we only feel her presence in the neighborhood group chat)
I agree so much. Sadly it's hard to reach out with how entire neighborhoods are designed. They're designed like solitary domiciles that only exist because employees need a place to be stored when not in use.
Ours is designed where cars just disappear into garages and only people walking dogs and delivery drivers (or solicitors) use the front door. So everyone hides behind those stupid ring cameras.
"whaa but my neighbors are all assholes"
I'll admit: Not all of them!
Peoples' average temperament indeed seems set on being the "leave me alone miserable and lonely" default though.
... Or they're psychos. I live in a particularly transient city though, people move all the time, most rent, and you barely can tell there's completely different people next door one day.
I deleted all the details to avoid a wall of text, but we've lived through a couple neighborhoods where everyone knew each other, and now it's barred windows and cameras that shout "YOU'RE BEING FILMED" when you're 50 feet away.
I notice a common toxicity factor seems to be those "Muh property" NIMBYs that see a house as a "real estate investment" instead of a home. The ones who sic the HOA on people they've never met and are mad about everything. (They're probably also on Nextdoor posting about answering their door "with Smith & Wesson." Trolls.)
I randomly met a really cool neighbor on a bike ride though. He happened to have his garage open! Sadly we don't text a whole ton but he's pretty cool.
People tend to be pretty alright if you encounter them in the wild but nobody's opening their door to say hi anymore, and I also find that we're under so much immense pressure that just stopping for a chat feels like it eats a chunk out of a day. This is also not healthy...
I want community, and local friends and all that. But I dunno, I think everybody is just burned out and vulnerability is especially scary these days, especially with the violent polarization of our politics of late.
But I agree, people would be much less likely to vote to harm and oppress their neighbors if they knew more of them personally...
I don't know why you seem to think that extroversion versus introversion is the same thing as having emotional intelligence or not. I would consider myself to be a very sociable introvert and have no problem with empathic listening, but it drains my energy pool so I can only engage it for so long. People who are extroverts do not have this problem as much because interacting with other people recharges their energy pool and being alone drains it.
(I also have an additional problem that I have a very weird variant of bipolar that can cause me to get incredibly euphoric when talking to someone but then crash into a dysphoria afterward, which is extremely draining; this kind of thing is very unusual, though.)
Perhaps you should consider applying the same supposed listening and empathy skills to people on internet forums that you supposedly do to people in real life? Or would that interfere too much with your lecturing?
Speak for yourself. I am not hiding inside so I can be miserable and lonely; I just find social interactions to be energy draining, so I need a lot of time in solitude to recharge.
This is more like my son telling me his legs hurt all the time, but he just got back from running around like a maniac, and he's about to go run around like a maniac. And I'm not even suggesting the pain isn't real, but sometimes you gotta push through.
And to bring it back to the example at hand, developing a community is hugely important. I know all of my neighbors and we all hang out and know each other. Half the time, I don't want to, but sometimes I just do it. Sometimes it's not great, but sometimes it is. But when we need a hand, I have a pool of people to pick from, and I know I'm in their pool.
Dehumanizing the morons on the internet forum you frequent is bad, but dehumanizing your neighbors is really bad. The door swings both ways, community is important. Make an effort. I'm sorry it's hard.
Is this the kind of thing that you also say to the people in your neighborhood when trying to build a community, and if so, how do people usually respond to it?
Funny how you go on and on about the importance of connecting with the people around you, but then when someone shows up who is different from you and talks about how they are different, you stop trying to connect and turn incredibly hostile instead.
I have helped my neighbor across the halls kid with his gaming PC.
Couldn't tell ya her name, but the dog below me with a heart problem is named Sophie, the neighbors down the hall have cats named Mink and Stink, and a few buildings down there's a lady with two huskies one named Pogs and the other Skips (Skips has 3 legs)
Because we were working in the garage and she came over. Dressed in tight, revealing clothing with her breasts pushed up, she asks us a few times if we want to buy any sugar. We were certain she wasn't talking about baking, but we weren't sure if she was a sex worker or offering booger sugar. So henceforth, she became Sugar. We're pretty gay, but not sure if she read that. So maybe it was the latter?
I have lived in my house long enough that people around have changed and until I meet them and know their real names they are assigned the last persons name and a version number.
There's a family a couple of blocks from me that could be called this although I don't think it's intentional on their part. They operate more or less a free range cat colony and the cats keep getting run over because it's a busy neighborhood with narrow streets and cars parked all along them. I drive very slowly here (there are also lots of kids around) but most people don't.
Long time ago I had one of those "single property renovator man" types move in to replace the nice neighbor girl next door. You know, instantly they freshen up the backyard and put a dozen cameras all over the place.
We let my kitten out back at night for a little exploring. Walled back yard. Within a span of a few minutes found her dead by our sliding glass door with a head wound. We didn't know what happened at the time. Too shocking to think straight.
But a few days later, the asshole is plinking beer cans in his backyard with some family members or something. Errant rounds are pinging off our windows and leaving rust stains in our pool.
We call the police because someone is discharging dangerous projectiles within city limits, at our house, and the lone, bothered, podgy lawman gives us the "Jus' sum good ol' boys, I asked them to take it easy." routine.
I'm glad I never got this man's actual name. I'm afraid of what I'd do with it now that we don't live there anymore. I figure there's nothing worse I could do to him than the pathetic existence he leads on his way to hell anyway.
My father’s neighbor has always been “Ms Waldi” to me. 10 years after my mom and I moved out from his house, my dad told me when I was visiting that that’s not her real name.
That lady used to have a dachshund. “Waldi” is a common German name for them (or dogs in general), so my mom used to call her that. My dad copied my mom and I my dad. I still don’t know that woman’s real name.
Oh, and my dad’s new one also calls her by that name.
Do you live in Media, PA by any chance? This sounds like the exact description of a woman that runs through my neighborhood and has to be in her 70s at least. It's not even running, it's more of this asymmetrical skip-hopping motion. I've never seen anyone or anything look less healthy.
I've got the crazy Germans, the I do yard work and just blow it in the street, the mysterious door dash only guy who might have a harem in his basement, and the fat polite guy who asks if he can park in front of my house so the time.
I work IT a fortune 500 company with like 60k-100k employees. Moved in last month and what do ya know, two houses down is a manager for an application I support. What're the chances.
Gonna suck when he comes knocking or giving me evil eyes for issues I didn't cause.
I have yet to meet "gorilla-looking dude who yells at his step-son and his lawnmower in public" who lives across the street, or even made eye contact with him. And no, this is not some variant of racism on my part -- gorilla-looking dude is white but looks much more like a gorilla than any black dude I've ever seen.
I'm sure they have nicknames for us, but I think of them as houses before people. "House with loud dog" "The Name House" "The First Name House" "proselytizer house"
First name house and name house are not those families anymore. Those people either died or moved out.
The woman in the apartment nextdoor is called The Slug. She drinks like a waterfall, smokes like a chimney and screams like a cow. Looking like one doesn't stop her from finding men to bring over and bang though.
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thoughtfuldragon@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 71 pts · 358d
I hope my neighbors know me as the slut across the street.
JackbyDev@programming.dev · 38 pts · 358d
Thanks ThotDragon, to me you're now the slut from across the fediverse. 🩵
thoughtfuldragon@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 23 pts · 358d
Poggers!
clungebob_cumpants@piefed.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 356d
What nickname would you give to me?
JackbyDev@programming.dev · 2 pts · 356d
What do you want to be called?
clungebob_cumpants@piefed.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 355d
good girlclungebob cumpants is fineouthouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 358d
Life goals.
Deathray5@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 357d
Saame
SpookyLights@lemmy.ca · 52 pts · 358d
scytale@piefed.zip · 34 pts · 358d
Yep. We call some of our neighbors:
Cenzorrll@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 356d
My neighbor is named Karen. She's absolutely a Karen, but she's my Karen.
She's actually pretty nice and takes care of her neighbors, but she is all up in the neighborhood's business sometimes.
eezeebee@lemmy.ca · 28 pts · 358d
Yes. Most of them are "fentanyl zombie" followed by a number.
Theoriginalthon@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 358d
So do you reuse the number or keep counting up
eezeebee@lemmy.ca · 12 pts · 358d
Number keeps going up
Tikiporch@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 358d
Use their house number for accuracy. You don't want to be spreading gossip about the wrong fentanyl zombie.
MintyFresh@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 358d
They're mostly interchangeable
ameancow@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 357d
MonkeMischief@lemmy.today · 7 pts · 357d
I agree so much. Sadly it's hard to reach out with how entire neighborhoods are designed. They're designed like solitary domiciles that only exist because employees need a place to be stored when not in use.
Ours is designed where cars just disappear into garages and only people walking dogs and delivery drivers (or solicitors) use the front door. So everyone hides behind those stupid ring cameras.
I'll admit: Not all of them!
Peoples' average temperament indeed seems set on being the "leave me alone miserable and lonely" default though.
... Or they're psychos. I live in a particularly transient city though, people move all the time, most rent, and you barely can tell there's completely different people next door one day.
I deleted all the details to avoid a wall of text, but we've lived through a couple neighborhoods where everyone knew each other, and now it's barred windows and cameras that shout "YOU'RE BEING FILMED" when you're 50 feet away.
I notice a common toxicity factor seems to be those "Muh property" NIMBYs that see a house as a "real estate investment" instead of a home. The ones who sic the HOA on people they've never met and are mad about everything. (They're probably also on Nextdoor posting about answering their door "with Smith & Wesson." Trolls.)
I randomly met a really cool neighbor on a bike ride though. He happened to have his garage open! Sadly we don't text a whole ton but he's pretty cool.
People tend to be pretty alright if you encounter them in the wild but nobody's opening their door to say hi anymore, and I also find that we're under so much immense pressure that just stopping for a chat feels like it eats a chunk out of a day. This is also not healthy...
I want community, and local friends and all that. But I dunno, I think everybody is just burned out and vulnerability is especially scary these days, especially with the violent polarization of our politics of late.
But I agree, people would be much less likely to vote to harm and oppress their neighbors if they knew more of them personally...
ameancow@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 357d
bitcrafter@programming.dev · 0 pts · 357d
I don't know why you seem to think that extroversion versus introversion is the same thing as having emotional intelligence or not. I would consider myself to be a very sociable introvert and have no problem with empathic listening, but it drains my energy pool so I can only engage it for so long. People who are extroverts do not have this problem as much because interacting with other people recharges their energy pool and being alone drains it.
(I also have an additional problem that I have a very weird variant of bipolar that can cause me to get incredibly euphoric when talking to someone but then crash into a dysphoria afterward, which is extremely draining; this kind of thing is very unusual, though.)
Perhaps you should consider applying the same supposed listening and empathy skills to people on internet forums that you supposedly do to people in real life? Or would that interfere too much with your lecturing?
bitcrafter@programming.dev · 0 pts · 357d
Speak for yourself. I am not hiding inside so I can be miserable and lonely; I just find social interactions to be energy draining, so I need a lot of time in solitude to recharge.
ameancow@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 357d
bitcrafter@programming.dev · 1 pts · 357d
It isn't quite clear to me how burning myself out helps anyone.
ameancow@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 357d
bitcrafter@programming.dev · 1 pts · 357d
"Oww! Oww! Oww! My broken arm still hurts!"
"Stop whining and keep doing those pushups, and you'll eventually get strong enough that those bones will knit themselves!"
Dozzi92@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 357d
This is more like my son telling me his legs hurt all the time, but he just got back from running around like a maniac, and he's about to go run around like a maniac. And I'm not even suggesting the pain isn't real, but sometimes you gotta push through.
And to bring it back to the example at hand, developing a community is hugely important. I know all of my neighbors and we all hang out and know each other. Half the time, I don't want to, but sometimes I just do it. Sometimes it's not great, but sometimes it is. But when we need a hand, I have a pool of people to pick from, and I know I'm in their pool.
Dehumanizing the morons on the internet forum you frequent is bad, but dehumanizing your neighbors is really bad. The door swings both ways, community is important. Make an effort. I'm sorry it's hard.
bitcrafter@programming.dev · 0 pts · 357d
Is this the kind of thing that you also say to the people in your neighborhood when trying to build a community, and if so, how do people usually respond to it?
ameancow@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 357d
bitcrafter@programming.dev · 2 pts · 357d
Funny how you go on and on about the importance of connecting with the people around you, but then when someone shows up who is different from you and talks about how they are different, you stop trying to connect and turn incredibly hostile instead.
So much for empathy.
wildflower@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 358d
I can't remember all my neighbours names (thou I often greet them), but I know their dogs name :-)
W3dd1e@lemmy.zip · 18 pts · 358d
This is me too. All my neighbors names are “Sunny’s Mom” or “Legolas and Gimli’s Dad”
Also, Gimli is a Corgi and I love their owners so much for this.
pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 358d
We all love their owners, now. That is delightful.
nagaram@startrek.website · 5 pts · 358d
I have helped my neighbor across the halls kid with his gaming PC.
Couldn't tell ya her name, but the dog below me with a heart problem is named Sophie, the neighbors down the hall have cats named Mink and Stink, and a few buildings down there's a lady with two huskies one named Pogs and the other Skips (Skips has 3 legs)
jordanlund@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 358d
One of my neighbors is Lucrezia and she offered to spell it for me and I was like "It's cool, I got this, everyone knows the Borgias..."
I couldn't tell if she was impressed or horrified.
trublu@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 14 pts · 358d
"Sugar"
Because we were working in the garage and she came over. Dressed in tight, revealing clothing with her breasts pushed up, she asks us a few times if we want to buy any sugar. We were certain she wasn't talking about baking, but we weren't sure if she was a sex worker or offering booger sugar. So henceforth, she became Sugar. We're pretty gay, but not sure if she read that. So maybe it was the latter?
rc__buggy@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 357d
Have you tried being gayer?
dubyakay@lemmy.ca · 14 pts · 358d
I have
Johnny Derp - looks like as if Depp was a recovering meth-head
Thicc Ass - the girl that always lets her poodle out in the back yard to shit
Karen - close enough to her real name but sure acts like it
London bros - they are hicks with no etiquette of living in a community. Also they are actually from Guelph, I think...
Frenchman - he's actually from France and works at a Fromagerie
The Thief - old dude who picks the berries and tomatoes in the alley
beejboytyson@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 358d
I'd like to meet thick ass
tehWrapper@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 358d
I have lived in my house long enough that people around have changed and until I meet them and know their real names they are assigned the last persons name and a version number.
Like Mr. Wilson 2.0
Stamets@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 358d
pelespirit@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 358d
Hopefully, they just look like people that would be the type to kill cats. Otherwise, they live by psychos.
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 357d
There's a family a couple of blocks from me that could be called this although I don't think it's intentional on their part. They operate more or less a free range cat colony and the cats keep getting run over because it's a busy neighborhood with narrow streets and cars parked all along them. I drive very slowly here (there are also lots of kids around) but most people don't.
pelespirit@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 357d
Cat hoarders do no one any good.
MonkeMischief@lemmy.today · 3 pts · 357d
Long time ago I had one of those "single property renovator man" types move in to replace the nice neighbor girl next door. You know, instantly they freshen up the backyard and put a dozen cameras all over the place.
We let my kitten out back at night for a little exploring. Walled back yard. Within a span of a few minutes found her dead by our sliding glass door with a head wound. We didn't know what happened at the time. Too shocking to think straight.
But a few days later, the asshole is plinking beer cans in his backyard with some family members or something. Errant rounds are pinging off our windows and leaving rust stains in our pool.
We call the police because someone is discharging dangerous projectiles within city limits, at our house, and the lone, bothered, podgy lawman gives us the "Jus' sum good ol' boys, I asked them to take it easy." routine.
I'm glad I never got this man's actual name. I'm afraid of what I'd do with it now that we don't live there anymore. I figure there's nothing worse I could do to him than the pathetic existence he leads on his way to hell anyway.
rc__buggy@sh.itjust.works · 12 pts · 358d
What's that lady across the streets number?
Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 11 pts · 358d
69
JackbyDev@programming.dev · 6 pts · 358d
Nice
Pumafred9@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 358d
Niiiice
spykee@lemmings.world · 5 pts · 358d
Niiiiice!
MonkeMischief@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 357d
(Air guitar riff)
SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca · 10 pts · 357d
Guy obviously having an affair, wine mom, right wing boomer #42, right wing boomer #43...
I know the names of all their dogs.
bleistift2@sopuli.xyz · 9 pts · 358d
My father’s neighbor has always been “Ms Waldi” to me. 10 years after my mom and I moved out from his house, my dad told me when I was visiting that that’s not her real name.
That lady used to have a dachshund. “Waldi” is a common German name for them (or dogs in general), so my mom used to call her that. My dad copied my mom and I my dad. I still don’t know that woman’s real name.
Oh, and my dad’s new one also calls her by that name.
BanMe@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 358d
There's rabbit girl, who is this anorexic as fuck lady who runs about 20 miles a day, looks just like a sinewy, starved rabbit hop hop hopping along
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 357d
Do you live in Media, PA by any chance? This sounds like the exact description of a woman that runs through my neighborhood and has to be in her 70s at least. It's not even running, it's more of this asymmetrical skip-hopping motion. I've never seen anyone or anything look less healthy.
db2@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 358d
I'm assuming by the whimsical look on her face that the grandma is a redhead with no plants.
Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 358d
Granny Firecrotch makes the best ginger snaps
P00ptart@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 358d
40 year old child. -seen his dad have to come by and teach his kid how to run a lawnmower.
Lumina guy - at one point had 3 Chevy lumina's
Blue meanie- built like the blue meanies from yellow submarine
Guy fieri- haven't talked to this guy yet, cause I have no interest in going to flavortown with him.
_stranger_@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 357d
I have killed a bottle of tequila with my neighbor and still don't know his name. Labels are like, just suggestions anyway man.
brem@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 357d
I like the "quotes" sometimes, but this trend of screenshots of people looking around distracts me.
...I mean, at least look towards where the quote is gonna be.
WhyIHateTheInternet@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 358d
I've got the crazy Germans, the I do yard work and just blow it in the street, the mysterious door dash only guy who might have a harem in his basement, and the fat polite guy who asks if he can park in front of my house so the time.
Caffeinated_Sloth@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 357d
Tractor man, stupid dogs, horse people, fast truck, guy who waves, people across the way.
Yeah, I’m rural
hark@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 357d
I don't even know my neighbors enough to assign them labels like that. I just like keeping to myself.
ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 357d
Jan 6er has a for sale sign up up and Carehome's been rather quiet.
eletes@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 357d
I work IT a fortune 500 company with like 60k-100k employees. Moved in last month and what do ya know, two houses down is a manager for an application I support. What're the chances.
Gonna suck when he comes knocking or giving me evil eyes for issues I didn't cause.
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 357d
I have yet to meet "gorilla-looking dude who yells at his step-son and his lawnmower in public" who lives across the street, or even made eye contact with him. And no, this is not some variant of racism on my part -- gorilla-looking dude is white but looks much more like a gorilla than any black dude I've ever seen.
dumbass@leminal.space · 5 pts · 358d
The junkie cunts across the road.
daggermoon@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 356d
No, but I'm a cashier and I have nicknames for my customers.
Evotech@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 357d
Being friends with your neighbours is OP
Just walking next door for your next game night or drinking and chilling? Fuck yeah
ThePantser@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 358d
Just the one "asshole on the corner"
RebekahWSD@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 358d
I'm sure they have nicknames for us, but I think of them as houses before people. "House with loud dog" "The Name House" "The First Name House" "proselytizer house"
First name house and name house are not those families anymore. Those people either died or moved out.
NichEherVielleicht@feddit.org · 4 pts · 356d
Sure thing 'Lady with glasses who never says a thing'.
sunbytes@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 356d
We remember the names of their dogs, and use those.
So it's "Rex's Mum" and "Fido's sister"
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 358d
Say... Can you introduce me to your neighbors?
Tattorack@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 357d
I don't even know what my neighbours look like.
SoulKaribou@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 356d
We use
"Shit neighbours" "The ones with the baby" "Remember, where the British couple lived before"
MisterD@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 358d
Big lady who must wear mumus all the time = moo
Lady with tonnes of kids = baby making machine
Lady who took her kids for ice cream all the time = ice cream mom
Blackmist@feddit.uk · 3 pts · 358d
The family across the street are Pugsley and Fred West.
ssroxnak@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 358d
This ain't no meme
Justas@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 357d
The woman in the apartment nextdoor is called The Slug. She drinks like a waterfall, smokes like a chimney and screams like a cow. Looking like one doesn't stop her from finding men to bring over and bang though.
the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 356d
I'd like to know more about "the slut across the street" they sound friendly.
renegadespork@lemmy.jelliefrontier.net · 2 pts · 352d
Meanwhile I keep a spreadsheet of all their names, relations, jobs, etc so I don't forget when I talk to them... <_<
beejboytyson@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 358d
...... fuck mine are called cat killers.
RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 358d
Every block has one. And if your's doesn't, then it's you.
kamen@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 356d
How does she know the colour of the bush?