Remembering my aunts and uncles from my childhood, a lot of the older people today don't seem to have as much energy -- I come from the US.
I've noticed people can be erratic and easily agitated now. Almost everyone I know in their 40s and 50s is angry all the time. Heavy drinking. Not able to process new information very well.
My uncle had a kid at 50 and played with her non-stop. I don't know anyone capable of that now.
Am I the only one seeing this?
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Melobol@lemmy.ml · 74 pts · 4d
You are seeing the effects of late stage capitalism.
People working 2 jobs and still not have as much disposable income as they had with a single income in the past.
Not having money aside of the work, no time and mental load: it kills motivation, not wanting to be creative, and your health goes downhill also and you can't afford to treat it anyway.
If you ask a 50 something about how long they think have left, yo will have half the amount than 2 generations ago.
Everything is on fire ...
daggermoon@piefed.world · 7 pts · 4d
What's the solution?
Melobol@lemmy.ml · 28 pts · 4d
Eating the rich.
Honestly aside of the joke there is not much can be done. You can start building communities and building a strong social network in your neck of the woods. But the writing is on the wall.
The next financial reset is coming and it's not going to be pretty.
caseyweederman@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 4d
"joke"
Melobol@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 4d
They taste awful.
"Equal distribution" of wealth sounds way better.
umbrella@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 2d
but i'm hungwy for despots
jimd@lemmy.ca · 12 pts · 4d
class war
azimir@lemmy.ml · 10 pts · 4d
The labor class finally going to fight in the class war they're losing.
Socialism is the long term solution, but you don't get that without first dethroning the wealthy one way or the other.
bigmclargehuge@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 4d
Any solution would involve the wealthiest in society making slightly less money. Therefore, it won’t happen.
gandalf_der_13te@feddit.org · 3 pts · 4d
that's not true btw. if we get UBI, we can spend more and companies make more money
umbrella@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 2d
i see them discarding us much more readily once they don't need us for their work anymore
ComradePedro@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 3d
revolution!
ODuffer@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 4d
I'm 56, I can wobble though a sub 2 hour half marathon. You're spot on about money. We have no kids, and own our house now. So can afford to have time to train, have a good diet etc etc.
huquad@lemmy.ml · 67 pts · 4d
Goes outside, gestures at everything
Little1Lost@gehirneimer.de · 14 pts · 4d
during gesturing avoiding other people and cyclists because the sidewalk is to narrow for anything
Bonje@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 4d
Ooo look at you fancy pants having a sidewalk.
sobs in American
SourDragon@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 4d
They also didn't mention bike lanes, so it's probably safe to assume they either (a) don't exist where they live or (b) there are bike lanes but the cyclists are assholes who refuse to use them
consumptionone@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 4d
Do the bike lanes you mention happen to be little painted bikes on the other side of the white line next to the road with no actual protection from the giant trucks inches away? Cause those aren't bike lanes, and cyclists not riding there doesn't make them assholes.
procapra@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 2d
This. I'm not a cyclist but I am someone who walks frequently. People can't even wait to take a right turn while you're crossing the street at a stop light, they'll inch right up next to me to the point I can feel the heat from their radiator. If people are that inconsiderate to me at a fucking crosswalk, I don't trust them not to plow through a cyclist in a bike lane.
BucketBong@p.hobo.social · 59 pts · 4d
The fucking world is burning, Nazis are back, we're about to be eradicated by ai, food shortages, fuel prices rising, people can't afford to live, racism and bigotry is on the rise and seems to be protected, corporations are working us to death, governments are actively trying to remove our rights... There's a fuck tonne of reasons to be angry and tried now.
underscores@lemmy.zip · 22 pts · 4d
Just the cost of rent is enough to make me spiral
we are wage slaves and no one is watching out for us
Malica@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 4d
At this point I think some slaves had it better
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 3d
— Frederick Douglass
tias@discuss.tchncs.de · 3 pts · 4d
In the 60s the world was about to burn from nuclear holocaust
BucketBong@p.hobo.social · 5 pts · 4d
We are about to burn from a nuclear holocaust, wtf you on about.
AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 4d
Every generation has its challenges. The great depression, ww1, ww2, the cold war. Climate change with a heavy dose of techno-facism seems to be ours.
The only way to guarantee we lose is to do nothing. To claim defeat before the battle has even been fought. That's what he's on about my dude.
BucketBong@p.hobo.social · 2 pts · 4d
Yeah I'm aware of that, but currently we seem to be living through all of those combined ATM.
Well if that's what he was on about, shoulda probably expressed that a bit better.
AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 3d
I think they were just vaguely talking about the cold war. But yeah, could've been me specific. It's a challenge no doubt, I don't blame people for being pessimistic
BucketBong@p.hobo.social · 2 pts · 3d
I try to be as optimistic that it's gonna all settled down, but it's getting harder to keep that optimism up.
TheStaffmaster@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2d
but we also had regulations on the military industrial complex. Eisenhower was spot on.
robear@lemmy.zip · 37 pts · 4d
I think you underestimate the amount of alcohol consumed in the 70s and 80s.
MyBackHurtz@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 4d
And cocaine or Valium ...
eggpl4nt@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 4d
The cocaine probably helped with the "vibrancy."
bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works · 33 pts · 4d
Smartphones, social media and uncontrolled capitalism at work.
People today are boring as fuck and addicted to phones and being enraged at disinformation.
OhVenus_Baby@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 3d
This is the number one answer I don't understand why your not at the top.
bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 3d
I experience it all the time too. Hanging out with friends, all staring at their phones. Can't even have a conversation or wonder anything any more. The pull out their phone and ask grok the millisecond anything comes to question. Zero critical thinking.
Really hate that tech bros have commandeered their brains.
OhVenus_Baby@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 2d
Social media is the largest drain on humanity. It's disgusting how addicted people are to short form videos, social media validation. It's engrained in the subconscious I see it daily. Nothing to do = grab the phone and find something. No brain power, no thoughts or drive to do anything productive or physical. These companies should be charged for a crime against humanity.
I use AI don't get me wrong but it's not some new person I can't live without. I have family members that truly feel chatgpt is the friend they never had, genuinly love it, and consider it closer than other family members. Fucking insane behavior. I mean really tell it things and trust it like with their data and such. Thank it, and have their egos boosted/built by its output.
FluorideMind@lemmy.world · 29 pts · 4d
It just really feels like there is no future. Just grinding to live day by day. What's the point?
dsilverz@catodon.rocks · 22 pts · 4d
While most of the comments are correctly pointing out the late-stage capitalism as the main culprit, I must add something I didn't see mentioned: COVID-19 pandemic.
To me, a Zennial, it was the main once-in-a-generation disgrace event. I still clearly remember the days when I began reading about a "mysterious pneumonia-like disease noticed among the patients from an ophthalmologist in Wuhan", the first cases reported in South Korea, all the way to the outbreak in Italy, then World Health Organization finally declaring it a pandemic in March 11th 2020 (I can't forget this specific date, either).
COVID-19 left so many marks. Emotional, as millions died from it; biological, as many who survived lived or are still living with the "Long COVID-19 syndrome"; and also societal, as it fundamentally shaped society as we know it.
I feel like I was never the same after I first got COVID-19. It's as if my entire existence became split between "before 2020" and "after 2020".
Maybe, just maybe, one of the explanations would be that SARS-CoV-2 is known to affect more than the respiratory system, it can also affect the brain. SARS-CoV-2 or not, the pandemic truly messed up with our brains as a society, I became sort of traumatized by it and so were countless other people, especially from my generation, because we spend a significant part of our adulthood with a world struggling to fight a virus. It was also the first time we experienced the concept of quarantine/lockdown (I was already an introvert person who's accustomed with staying indoors, but the pandemic messed up with my graduation because I couldn't elaborate my thesis, let alone present it, until I ended up giving up of a bachelor degree).
So, if I were to guess, the disgraces that followed up to nowadays, including the late-stage capitalism, seem to be heavily tied to that pandemic six years ago (which I remember as if it were yesterday).
!asklemmy@lemmy.ml
Cheese_man@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 4d
It's entirely possible this is just attentional bias on your part. You noticed the more vibrant, active adults when you were younger because they were more interesting to you.
But generally, things are worse these days, too. I feel like people used to talk about the future optimistically when I was growing up. Maybe people still talk to kids that way now, but I don't. And I don't hear people doing it. So, maybe you're on to something here.
DegenerateSupreme@lemmy.zip · 21 pts · 4d
This has been dawning on me as well.
Aside from all the things people are mentioning, my take on it: culture, at least in the U.S., has stopped. If a person finds something to be excited about, they do so in spite of their government that should otherwise be helping them flourish. We try to find joy in spite of the profound inequitable conditions that are celebrated by the elite. We have to give up a third of our paychecks to fund pointless destruction and slaughter overseas, and lavish lifestyles for our feckless politicians and federally-subsidized billionaires at home.
What collective identity can we develop under these conditions? We only find an identity defined by anger. Hatred. Resentment. We must constantly experience these feelings in order to remain grounded in reality; they are the only way we can stay in touch with the truth of things.
I'm sure it's been articulated better elsewhere, but I'm starting to think that's a big part of fascism: the death of culture, the destruction of what we could otherwise draw hope from. Fascism says that everything people cherish and find self-actualization in is sinful and aberrant, but offers nothing to replace them except hollow parodies of culture. In the current moment, it's either Christian white nationalist parodies of culture (just look at literally any creative work they make; they are soulless and hollow) or AI-generated slop culture.
We're also living through something pretty unprecedented: corporate technofascism. History has never seen fascism breed with the kind of unchecked capitalist insanity that will come to define this era. There are a thousand digital barriers between you and real life, and you are told you should be happy and excited about such "innovation" when it's been 10 years since there was anything to be excited about.
That's my distilled diatribe on this idea.
DagwoodIII@piefed.social · 2 pts · 4d
This is more cultural than political.
For decades, variety shows were a staple of entertainment.
Vaudeville featured a dozen or more different acts. TV had Ed Sullivan and later Cher and Carol Burnett doing shows with an array of talent. Top 40 Radio brought Dolly Parton to the city folks and Aretha Franklin to the country folks.
Now people listen to and watch exactly what they want.
Joe Blow used to see opera singers on antenna TV, now his grandkids only see it if they decide to look for it, and they usually don't.
DagwoodIII@piefed.social · 19 pts · 4d
Look at the cars. You used to see a lot of brightly colored cars on the street. Even simple family cars and minivans were red, or bright green, or even purple. Now everything on the road is beige/dull silver.
4grams@awful.systems · 4 pts · 4d
I tried finding a nice color, but the deal I found on my grey vehicle was too good to pass up. So, I’m coving it with stickers instead.
Balldowern@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 2d
Wrap it in a fun color of your choice. It'll protect the paint.
4grams@awful.systems · 1 pts · 2d
myyass@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 3d
I mean it's simple.
Everyone is worried even if they don't say so.
Technology has been shoved down our throats. Now there's llms; this is referencing something simple like getting bot calls on a daily basis for a pretend "human" to get transferred to "John" with a thick Indian accent.
It's hot outside. I remember having to wear a jacket in the winter, and now I want to take my skin off.
Video games were fun or challenging; now they're pay to win.
Playing in the backyard isn't cool anymore because 'gotta keep up with the other kids on their phones and so forth.
Depends on where you're at; anger? High levels of CO2 cause that. The fun factor about global warming that isn't often discussed. Having parking lots of cars at stop lights makes this worse. It gets worse when stores cut back on AC and filtration.
The political spectrum is well on a spectrum; so the confidence is gone there.
All of these aspects exhaust people. Especially advertising on every corner.
umbrella@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 3d
i find it so crazy how people are conditioned to shove down very real worries to appeal to normality.
chunes@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 3d
Covid gives us brain damage. Brain damage is often subtle. It doesn't usually manifest as drooling in the corner. For instance, one of the most common signs of brain damage is fatigue.
JustPlainDave@lemmy.zip · 14 pts · 4d
We're fucking tired, man. We're in debt, behind on bills and having to work more than since the depression.
shiroininja@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 3d
I get things are expensive and hard. I just don’t understand the debt. I grew up really poor. Never had anything. Family didn’t have debt though. Now I’m Lower lower middle class. I moved up over my parents. Still struggling. Still no savings at 39. But no debt.
How do people acquire so much debt? Is it college (I was too poor to consider it because it would be 100% financed through loans, which ain’t happening), credit cards? I’ve never had one. I always thought those were for rich people. Home loans? Medical? Like everyone I know is in debt and I don’t get it.
Poor, I get. Hunger, I get. Homelessness, I get. I just don’t understand debt.
JustPlainDave@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 3d
My wife lost her job last year due to illness. Had to take a loan out against one of the cars. My income alone wasn't enough. Got behind on bills. Shit happens, man.
shiroininja@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 3d
I see. I’m sorry
sharps89@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 4d
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 11 pts · 4d
I promise to be more vibrant just as soon as I get a good night’s sleep.
schmorpel@slrpnk.net · 10 pts · 4d
I'm in my 40s and I feel very tired. My bones are rattling already, way too early. Migraine once a month. I used to think I'm depressed, but really I'm not, just tired. And soo many of the people I know feel the same! Some put it down to long Covid, some say it's the vaccines, some call it chronic fatigue, some call it other things. But many are tired. And angry, because when I was very young I fought against environmental destruction, grownups told me to stop or go to jail, and look where we are now, while the very same thing is still happening!
For me it's the polycrisis: the knowledge that things are most probably going to get worse for many people before they get better. Like some bad vibe in the background, while one still has to try to survive every day, which gets harder and harder. I'm earning half of what I used to while everything is twice as expensive, go figure. And I'm one of the lucky ones, with a setup that enables me to work less hours than average.
Also someone mentioned CO2 one of these days, and not to forget the heat - that might be why my brain really doesn't work very well anymore.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 4d
Yes, there are uneducated and/or evil people out there with literally dangerous ideas and we should be careful to avoid them. People like that are why measles is literally a concern again now for no good reason.
Which hits on another reason to be angry. The knowledge that stupid and evil people seem to get their way all the fucking time. Often at the expense of others' lives.
Revolutionary_Apples@lemmy.ml · 9 pts · 4d
No, you are not wrong. The USA is being punished for her crimes. Capitalism is failing, Democracy is rearing its ugly side, traditional values are proving empty, religion is falling flat, race has its ugly side displayed for all to see, patriots cant relate to their national identity anymore. The USA is cannibalising itself. This makes it to where people are losing their future, desperately trying to keep what is familiar, and overall reaching a state of hopelessness/powerlessness.
Jela@lemmy.today · 3 pts · 3d
Just moved from Seattle to Vancouver, BC and I can absolutely say this is correct. People are more relaxed here, friendlier, there's more resources, less stress... People in Canada aren't constantly in fight or flight mode like we are in the US.
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 4d
This is really obvious to me, but this is what happens to society when conservatives are actually in power.
There will always be people who try to be merry in hard times, but it actually crushes people everywhere.
whiteblacula@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 4d
Being dumb and drunk is not new to humanity
jumping_redditor@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 2d
Wouldn't be suprised if the borderline criminalization of being a child outside starting 10-30 years ago played a role in this.
Ferrous@lemmy.ml · 6 pts · 4d
I think all the appeals to preserve "whimsy" in recent years lends credence to your observation.
Malica@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 4d
Everyone is socially stunted because of internet addiction
boonhet@sopuli.xyz · 6 pts · 4d
It's the endless doom.
Whether you're doomscrolling here or getting your "news" from Facebook and Fox "News", all we get in our feeds is doom. Doom sells. Different doom for different folks.
TheStaffmaster@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 2d
I make my living off the evening news.
Just give me something, something I can use:
People love it when you lose, they love dirty laundry...
Well, I could've been an actor, but I wound up here; I just have to look good, I don't have to be clear.
Come and whisper in my ear, give us dirty laundry!
Kick 'em when they're up, kick 'em when they're down!
Kick 'em when they're up, kick 'em when they're down!
Kick 'em when they're up, kick 'em when they're down!
Kick 'em when they're up, kick 'em all around...
We got the bubble-headed bleached-blonde, comes on at 5; She can tell you 'bout the plane crash with a gleam in her eye.
It's interesting when people die, give us dirty laundry!
Can we film the operation? Is the head dead yet?
You know, the boys in the newsroom got a running bet!
"Get the widow on the set," we need dirty laundry...
You don't really need to find out what's goin' on.
You don't really wanna know just how far it's gone.
Just leave well enough alone, keep your dirty laundry...
Dirty little secrets, dirty little lies...
We got our dirty little fingers in everybody's pie.
We love to cut you down to size, we love dirty laundry!
We can do "The Innuendo," we can dance and sing; When it's said and done, we haven't told you a thing!
We all know that crap is king, give us dirty laundry.
-Don Henley, Dirty Laundry
zdhzm2pgp@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 4d
I know exactly how you feel. However, I have recently encountered a number of very young, highly intelligent people who are indeed vibrant and actually do give me some hope for the future (EDIT: both of whom, it turns out, are in the healthcare profession, so maybe there will actually be some people left to take care of me and Mrs. Erinaceus as we decline—dare to dream!) But otherwise, yeah, capitalism, late or otherwise, the aftermath of 2008, and the pandemic—many of these things are still slowly draining the life force out of older folks like me.
TheStaffmaster@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 2d
"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." wasn't normalizing toxicity, it was training us to be able to deal with assholes. I think the world has forgotten that.
Yggnar@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2d
Every person alive right now has about a credit cards worth of plastic in their brain.
ODuffer@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 4d