I listened to a podcast about aging and statistics. Your highest survival chance is just when you hit puberty. After that your risk only keeps going up. There's no evolution benefits with age.
What I think is funny (and oddly satisfying mathematically) is that life expectancy goes up as you get older. Like, at birth your life expectancy may be 75, but those who make it to 70 are predicted to live, on average to 80, and if you make it to 80, you are predicted to make it to 85 and so on (I don't remember the exact numbers).
Also funny how he assumes she’s American. Just did some research 🧐 and she’s Australian. In Australia you get into a uni based on grades, not with a dog and pony show like in the US. So DEI doesn’t even apply.
I had been wondering where the other hand was in that little exchange. Guy should put a monocle on for his fucking bio pic. What an absolute douchebag.
More than once we've had a shit day with weather, or something breaking in the house, or dogs being sick, etc etc... And we'll turn to each other and say "Imagine we also had kids?"
Some people just aren't interested in having kids. I've had countless great moments in my life I will always remember fondly. There isn't a single one of those moments I think would've been better if I had a kid lol. I don't think my life would be worse, just different.
There's been tons of moments I've shared with friends who have kids who I've seen and experienced with and literally thought "that must feel amazing".
Then I go home to a quiet house, feed my farm animals, and just... Quit life for a few hours. Nothing else to worry about. I'm sure there is a ton of emotional and rewarding moments having children, but I appreciate the rest of the time where I just don't ever have to worry about them.
Incorrect. My mother never let me forget that she regretted not following through with aborting me. She always imagined how much better life would have been without me.
For me that is so mind-boggling to hear.
I am really sorry for you, and that bitch did not deserve you.
I became a father quite late, and had/have a good life before and after. Just very different lives. Less time for my hobbies, friends, projects, but spending time with someone who loves Legos, drawing, making loud noises for the heck of it fills me with joy.
My own parents while loving never really made feel like I was a priority. So I never miss a chance telling my son that I so happy it was him I got, and how much I love him.
I hope you are in better place now, because you deserve it.
Imagine thinking of all the money we need to spend on a farm through a single income household while also imagining we needed to spend it on other humans.
We're barely getting by as is. Now add a tiny human or two to that. Everyone is miserable and nothing gets done. Two Neurodivergent humans who barely function on a good day dealing with all the chaos of modern life and financial restrictions... "but think of the good moments".
I have that with my dog. He jumps up on me every day I come home from work.
The one who past last May did. We're back up to two but there's still a soul missing from the house. But our newest seems to have absorbed some of his personality with how she acts. It's not the same, it never will be, but it's somehow familiar.
I'm glad to hear your coping. I'm on the opposite end. I don't do pets and I do have a child. At the end of the day it's whatever keeps you happy given the circumstances. Everybody is different.
Sorry in advance, unexpected brain dump inbound. Sadly, evolution doesn't factor in happiness or anything apart the ability to procreate and survival of a species. We are living in a time where we way outlive our need to be here. No wonder suicide rates are higher after "mid life" and crazy biological processes happen like menopause. Survival in later life is irrelevant from an evolutionary point of view. But here we are.
Child or no child. Dog or no dog. Let's all do what we can to be happy and support those who we can support on the way.
No apologies needed. Be good and do good. In the end that's what is important. It doesn't matter how you go through life, how you procreate, who you fuck, or what you do. As long as you leave the world at the end of the day better for those behind you. Spread love to those you love and those who don't love you because they need it.
Imagine thinking of bearing children into a less habitable world because of climate change, and its resulting ecological decline and social and economic strife.
I get what where you are coming from, I'd like to have children some day, but is it fair to have children in a clearly becoming bleak future? Never mind wars and economic recessions, because human society always recover from it. But climate change? It is a different beast than hunger or wars because it renders the entire planet inhospitable. Modern human society is not able to tackle or evolve from the rapid environmental changes caused by us.
Pushing 50 and no kids, no regrets. It randomly came up talking with friends last week and my husband literally barked with laughter "i fuckin' sank that ship 20 years ago looool"
I actually thought it was just a rhetorical joke setup. Like, there is no other hand.
But no, he actually blames the woman herself.
On the one hand, men in glass houses have no business throwing stones.
He was wrong for that & should've known better.
On the other, he can't post nudes online as his meal ticket the way you can.
Beauty privilege is as real as financial privilege; partly earned, mostly inherited. As an OF creator, your body is capital.
On top of that, for the past several decades, government rigged hiring & university enrollment in your favor, excluding & impoverishing heterosexual white men in particular.
You are, to some extent, to blame for his poverty, & now you're dunking on a homeless man from a position of historically unprecedented privilege because of a mild barb. You reveal more of your inner ugliness than you likely intend.
for the past several decades, government rigged hiring & university enrollment in your favor, excluding & impoverishing heterosexual white men in particular.
tbf university specifically doesn't turn out to actually be financially rewarding today; lots of people have degrees but it doesn't really help them on the labor market.
and i even argue that DEI hiring does not happen so much because it's government mandated but because companies prefer the cheaper labor that they get from women, because they often do comparable labor but get lower wages, so the company saves some money. DEI is just an excuse the company brings forward to justify it in front of their male employees, so the management doesn't get hated for replacing the workforce with other, cheaper workforce. at least that's my guess if i had to make one.
Bro it’s 2026. Almost every woman with children in my close circle who is of my generation had their first kid in their thirties. Like raising a kid is much easier when you have a stable financial foundation.
I have a friend who had his first at 18, I had my first at 36. We honestly cant work out who had/has it easier.
He had to scrimp and stretch every penny he could get his hands on. But he was young, had energy and his parents were young enough to help alot.
I'm financially secure (enough and for now) but I'm always tired as fuck, short on time and the grandparents probably consume as much time as they save.
You know.. I was going to write a joke that 'you can't fool me, you all only exist on my phone.'
Then I thought there probably will be AI-run forums running just for one user, and responding to their posts and comments with positivity and praise to stroke their egos, and I made myself sigh.
And now you have to read my deluded thoughts - which is dragging me back to reality, yep.. this is the internet.
Autistic people sometimes process humor differently than neurotypical people. But autism is a spectrum so to say "all autistic people don't understand jokes" would be an overstatement.
Here is a site if you'd like to read up more on it.
early 40s and I don't feel old at all. Yet my younger zoomer coworkers behave like life is over at 24-26. Last time I asked my parents (boomers), they told me they started feeling old in their early 30s. Might be a generational thing.
Yeah idk, I'm 35 and I've felt like a teenager trapped in a slowly decaying meat prison since I was like... 17 maybe? Even as I graduated, got a job, got married, started a family... Every step it was just like "Surely this is where I finally start to feel like a real Grown-Up," and every time it just doesn't change. I still feel like a stupid teenager pretending to be an adult. One that does an alright job pretending mind you, but I still feel like I'm just pretending even after this long.
I finally feel like an adult but I think that's less to do with my age and far more to do with my family, career and financial status. Physically I'm in far better shape now than I was a decade ago, so I've got that going for me at least!
if her body is her capital, men sell their body to make money through physical means. if anything, men should be more ashamed that they have more in common with whores than camgirls.
(not that anyone should feel ashamed for how they provide for themselves or their family, but people who throw stones should live in glass houses and all that)
I don't understand this at all, but I think they are two ordinary people trying to diminish each other because of their choices in life, or something. This is why I don't like Twitter, Meta networks and Reddit. Good luck to these people.
Your stupid comment is not at any level worthy of “murdered by words”.
Your iq is lower than your shoe size if you thought you were being clever by making a dig at someone’s appearance. It has nothing to do with my feelings.
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hOrni@lemmy.world · 110 pts · 186d
I kinda feel she described herself as an "older woman" just for the rage bait.
wander1236@sh.itjust.works · 112 pts · 186d
It's a joke
ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com · 59 pts · 186d
Not to leonardo dicaprio
Kanda@reddthat.com · 3 pts · 185d
Once you pass 18 you're officially old, and there's no turning back
Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.uk · 1 pts · 185d
I listened to a podcast about aging and statistics. Your highest survival chance is just when you hit puberty. After that your risk only keeps going up. There's no evolution benefits with age.
RBWells@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 185d
What I think is funny (and oddly satisfying mathematically) is that life expectancy goes up as you get older. Like, at birth your life expectancy may be 75, but those who make it to 70 are predicted to live, on average to 80, and if you make it to 80, you are predicted to make it to 85 and so on (I don't remember the exact numbers).
Kanda@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 185d
Peaked at 14. I always knew this deep down
Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.uk · 1 pts · 185d
That's about the same time my "troubles" started.
TheYojimbo@lemmy.world · 87 pts · 186d
You excluded the part where the guy literally said she was to blame for his poverty... Because DEI I guess. Lmfao two very deranged men.
SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world · 25 pts · 186d
Also funny how he assumes she’s American. Just did some research 🧐 and she’s Australian. In Australia you get into a uni based on grades, not with a dog and pony show like in the US. So DEI doesn’t even apply.
RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 186d
Merit is the worst kind of DEI.
calliope@retrolemmy.com · 13 pts · 186d
Thanks for pointing this out! The full text is unhinged.
ech@lemmy.ca · 7 pts · 186d
https://files.catbox.moe/2m3n5s.jpg
buddascrayon@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 185d
I had been wondering where the other hand was in that little exchange. Guy should put a monocle on for his fucking bio pic. What an absolute douchebag.
bytesonbike@discuss.online · 5 pts · 186d
Well the guy lives on Twitter. It's par for the course.
blackris@discuss.tchncs.de · 77 pts · 186d
Being on Twitter in 2026 is crazy. Seemingly paying for that shit even more.
Pushing 40 with no kids and couldn't be happier about that.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 27 pts · 186d
I'm 39. Partner is 40. Married over 8 years.
More than once we've had a shit day with weather, or something breaking in the house, or dogs being sick, etc etc... And we'll turn to each other and say "Imagine we also had kids?"
Fuck. All. Of. That.
TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 185d
I'm single and I am thinking "I can barely clean after and cook for myself. Imagine if I have kids."
Frostbeard@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 185d
You have The clarity to recognize that you would need to step up if the situation arose.
I think you would do good
Eheran@lemmy.world · -12 pts · 186d
Imagine thinking the same about all the good moments instead of only focusing on the bad stuff.
DrSteveBrule@mander.xyz · 12 pts · 185d
Some people just aren't interested in having kids. I've had countless great moments in my life I will always remember fondly. There isn't a single one of those moments I think would've been better if I had a kid lol. I don't think my life would be worse, just different.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 185d
There's been tons of moments I've shared with friends who have kids who I've seen and experienced with and literally thought "that must feel amazing".
Then I go home to a quiet house, feed my farm animals, and just... Quit life for a few hours. Nothing else to worry about. I'm sure there is a ton of emotional and rewarding moments having children, but I appreciate the rest of the time where I just don't ever have to worry about them.
Frostbeard@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 185d
Kids are a blessing you don't miss if you don't have them, and can't imagine living without when you do
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net · 10 pts · 185d
Incorrect. My mother never let me forget that she regretted not following through with aborting me. She always imagined how much better life would have been without me.
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de · 4 pts · 185d
you're not alone with that :)
Frostbeard@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 184d
For me that is so mind-boggling to hear. I am really sorry for you, and that bitch did not deserve you.
I became a father quite late, and had/have a good life before and after. Just very different lives. Less time for my hobbies, friends, projects, but spending time with someone who loves Legos, drawing, making loud noises for the heck of it fills me with joy.
My own parents while loving never really made feel like I was a priority. So I never miss a chance telling my son that I so happy it was him I got, and how much I love him.
I hope you are in better place now, because you deserve it.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 186d
Imagine thinking of all the money we need to spend on a farm through a single income household while also imagining we needed to spend it on other humans.
We're barely getting by as is. Now add a tiny human or two to that. Everyone is miserable and nothing gets done. Two Neurodivergent humans who barely function on a good day dealing with all the chaos of modern life and financial restrictions... "but think of the good moments".
I have that with my dog. He jumps up on me every day I come home from work.
Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.uk · 3 pts · 185d
That dog is going to leave a massive void once it expires by the sound of things.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 185d
The one who past last May did. We're back up to two but there's still a soul missing from the house. But our newest seems to have absorbed some of his personality with how she acts. It's not the same, it never will be, but it's somehow familiar.
Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.uk · 4 pts · 185d
I'm glad to hear your coping. I'm on the opposite end. I don't do pets and I do have a child. At the end of the day it's whatever keeps you happy given the circumstances. Everybody is different.
Sorry in advance, unexpected brain dump inbound. Sadly, evolution doesn't factor in happiness or anything apart the ability to procreate and survival of a species. We are living in a time where we way outlive our need to be here. No wonder suicide rates are higher after "mid life" and crazy biological processes happen like menopause. Survival in later life is irrelevant from an evolutionary point of view. But here we are.
Child or no child. Dog or no dog. Let's all do what we can to be happy and support those who we can support on the way.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 185d
No apologies needed. Be good and do good. In the end that's what is important. It doesn't matter how you go through life, how you procreate, who you fuck, or what you do. As long as you leave the world at the end of the day better for those behind you. Spread love to those you love and those who don't love you because they need it.
Be the change you want to see.
TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 185d
Imagine thinking of bearing children into a less habitable world because of climate change, and its resulting ecological decline and social and economic strife.
I get what where you are coming from, I'd like to have children some day, but is it fair to have children in a clearly becoming bleak future? Never mind wars and economic recessions, because human society always recover from it. But climate change? It is a different beast than hunger or wars because it renders the entire planet inhospitable. Modern human society is not able to tackle or evolve from the rapid environmental changes caused by us.
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 185d
Taleya@aussie.zone · 11 pts · 186d
Pushing 50 and no kids, no regrets. It randomly came up talking with friends last week and my husband literally barked with laughter "i fuckin' sank that ship 20 years ago looool"
Garbagio@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 185d
deacon@lemmy.world · 62 pts · 186d
what is on the other hand???
ClipperDefiance@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 186d
The link in the description has the full comment. OP said that they cropped the original image to keep it from being super long.
calliope@retrolemmy.com · 49 pts · 186d
I actually thought it was just a rhetorical joke setup. Like, there is no other hand.
But no, he actually blames the woman herself.
Lmao “It’s everyone else’s fault I suck!”
treesapx@lemmy.world · 34 pts · 186d
Dudes blaming the patriarchy in the most patriarchal way imaginable.
calliope@retrolemmy.com · 2 pts · 185d
I honestly even forgot the “roughin’ it for clout” guy started the whole thing by saying
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 185d
Lol fucking what?
calliope@retrolemmy.com · 3 pts · 185d
Keep in mind, she’s to blame for a man’s “poverty” who, unprovoked, said “Pushing 30 in 2026 with no kids is Crazy.”
The whole thing is accidental performance art.
deacon@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 186d
Wow. But I can almost guarantee he would unironically wax principled about the importance of personal responsibility.
Sense may be common, but self-awareness seems elusive to many.
Bombastic@sopuli.xyz · 5 pts · 186d
A homeless man that pays for the blue twitter checkmark, mind you
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de · 3 pts · 185d
tbf university specifically doesn't turn out to actually be financially rewarding today; lots of people have degrees but it doesn't really help them on the labor market.
and i even argue that DEI hiring does not happen so much because it's government mandated but because companies prefer the cheaper labor that they get from women, because they often do comparable labor but get lower wages, so the company saves some money. DEI is just an excuse the company brings forward to justify it in front of their male employees, so the management doesn't get hated for replacing the workforce with other, cheaper workforce. at least that's my guess if i had to make one.
Twofacetony@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 186d
A stone
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 186d
And broken house glass everywhere. Now you're homeless. Like the dude in the comment chain.
Taleya@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 185d
On the other hand it's funny watching a shithead dig their own grave
Fizz@lemmy.nz · 3 pts · 186d
A man with a stone throwing business
mcqtom@lemmy.world · 51 pts · 186d
My car is also a beautiful moving.
gAlienLifeform@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 186d
I had a beautiful moving in the bathroom this morning after a few cups of coffee
SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world · 45 pts · 186d
Bro it’s 2026. Almost every woman with children in my close circle who is of my generation had their first kid in their thirties. Like raising a kid is much easier when you have a stable financial foundation.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com · 16 pts · 186d
All the ones in my circle who had kids in their 20s are miserable. The rest are childless and much happier (at least given the times we're living in).
Delphia@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 185d
I have a friend who had his first at 18, I had my first at 36. We honestly cant work out who had/has it easier.
He had to scrimp and stretch every penny he could get his hands on. But he was young, had energy and his parents were young enough to help alot.
I'm financially secure (enough and for now) but I'm always tired as fuck, short on time and the grandparents probably consume as much time as they save.
expr@programming.dev · 4 pts · 185d
The average age for first childbirth is 29.6 years old. It's absolutely the norm to have kids at an older age.
flamingleg@lemmy.ml · 41 pts · 186d
not having kids is one of the few things i am utterly, truly grateful for.
OopsOverbombing@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 186d
#childfree baby! So glad I got a vasectomy.
ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca · 38 pts · 185d
Older women 28????
SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml · 17 pts · 185d
Young people seem to think that turning 30 is the same as dying, and I just don't get it
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 185d
Eh, I'm approaching mid 30s, I kinda feel like I'm dying. I get it.
BigDanishGuy@sh.itjust.works · 14 pts · 185d
Cheer up kid, it gets alot worse
NikkiDimes@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 183d
Yaaaay...
mika_mika@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 185d
Just started my 30s; please put me in a coffin.
vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 184d
I'm 26 and feel like I'm dying already, can I just die with a chunk of iron in my lungs and the blood of a fed on my hands already.
Xyphius@lemmy.ca · 17 pts · 185d
I always thought "older women" meant mid 40's and up.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 185d
I had the same reaction.
Twitter is a deeply cursed place.
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social · 2 pts · 184d
They're joking...
hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 33 pts · 186d
Since when was 28 "older women"?
I feel like super old and I'm only in mid-30s
pulsewidth@lemmy.world · 71 pts · 186d
The original post was a tongue in cheek joke by the girl, she does not really think 28 is an older woman.
Can people just not parse jokes or read nuance anymore?
SARGE@startrek.website · 28 pts · 186d
pulsewidth@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 186d
You know.. I was going to write a joke that 'you can't fool me, you all only exist on my phone.'
Then I thought there probably will be AI-run forums running just for one user, and responding to their posts and comments with positivity and praise to stroke their egos, and I made myself sigh.
And now you have to read my deluded thoughts - which is dragging me back to reality, yep.. this is the internet.
gAlienLifeform@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 186d
Don't catch you clickin now
ech@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 186d
Ah fuck, now I want a Donald Glover/Bo Burnham collab on this.
gustofwind@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 186d
Literacy has basically never been worse
teft@piefed.social · 12 pts · 186d
A good number of us on the fediverse are autistic so nuance doesn’t alway get parsed properly.
pulsewidth@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 186d
Completely fair, I didn't consider that.
TachyonTele@piefed.social · -3 pts · 186d
They don't know what jokes are?
teft@piefed.social · 7 pts · 186d
Autistic people sometimes process humor differently than neurotypical people. But autism is a spectrum so to say "all autistic people don't understand jokes" would be an overstatement.
Here is a site if you'd like to read up more on it.
https://www.autismworks.com/blog/understandinghumor
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de · 1 pts · 184d
"a joke is to lie for other people's entertainment" - most autists
PapaStevesy@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 186d
Yeah, took me awhile to adjust from reddit where the default is sarcasm. You gotta remember where you are, neurodivergency abounds on the Fediverse.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 186d
I'm pretty new here personally and I feel way more comfortable in two weeks than I did in 12 years on Reddit.
pulsewidth@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 186d
I feel much the same way and have been here quite a while now. And just in case you haven't read it yet: welcome to Lemmy.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 185d
Thank you! ☺️
Zozano@aussie.zone · 10 pts · 186d
Since Leonardo Decaprio
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 6 pts · 186d
He’s dating a twenty-seven year old right now because his PR team told him to.
hushable@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 186d
early 40s and I don't feel old at all. Yet my younger zoomer coworkers behave like life is over at 24-26. Last time I asked my parents (boomers), they told me they started feeling old in their early 30s. Might be a generational thing.
Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 186d
Yeah idk, I'm 35 and I've felt like a teenager trapped in a slowly decaying meat prison since I was like... 17 maybe? Even as I graduated, got a job, got married, started a family... Every step it was just like "Surely this is where I finally start to feel like a real Grown-Up," and every time it just doesn't change. I still feel like a stupid teenager pretending to be an adult. One that does an alright job pretending mind you, but I still feel like I'm just pretending even after this long.
Trainguyrom@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 186d
I finally feel like an adult but I think that's less to do with my age and far more to do with my family, career and financial status. Physically I'm in far better shape now than I was a decade ago, so I've got that going for me at least!
Andy_R@feddit.uk · 13 pts · 185d
Straight up murked.
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 184d
He might be homeless, but women are living in his head rent free.
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 185d
same vibe as
if her body is her capital, men sell their body to make money through physical means. if anything, men should be more ashamed that they have more in common with whores than camgirls.
(not that anyone should feel ashamed for how they provide for themselves or their family, but people who throw stones should live in glass houses and all that)
selokichtli@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 185d
I don't understand this at all, but I think they are two ordinary people trying to diminish each other because of their choices in life, or something. This is why I don't like Twitter, Meta networks and Reddit. Good luck to these people.
Sam_Bass@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 185d
Plexiglas is fine though
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 186d
Eh, if I was still thinking about dating, I'd maybe date her, even if she is a bit young for an older woman.
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today · -21 pts · 185d
That chin of hers is 28 inches long
madjo@feddit.nl · 12 pts · 185d
Go back to reddit with that mentality
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today · -8 pts · 185d
Aw, you didn’t like the words i used in MurderedByWords?
If a comment got to you here, that’s kinda on you
madjo@feddit.nl · 1 pts · 183d
Your stupid comment is not at any level worthy of “murdered by words”.
Your iq is lower than your shoe size if you thought you were being clever by making a dig at someone’s appearance. It has nothing to do with my feelings.
Valorie12@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 185d
About 27 inches longer than your penis, I suspect.
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today · -12 pts · 185d
I suspect.your coochie’s so roomy they’re thinking of turning it into lowincome housing....cheap af, hella spacious, and already has a lot of traffic.
Honytawk@feddit.nl · 4 pts · 184d
Unlike your penis. Which is quite obvious with the way you comment.
Stop blaming women for your own problems caused by your own misogynist mindset. You are your own worst enemy, not women.