I don’t understand this mentality, acting like a toddler just makes you look really bad and makes people not like you… it’s ok to be annoyed by it but changing your behavior to look like an asshole will never make sense to me
From what I understand it’s like robbing someone of their agency. Now they are doing the thing at the behest of another’s intent instead of their own free will. It’s a perfectly cromulent feeling for one to have. How it gets handled is another thing.
This guy gets it. Being asked to do something and doing it immediately creates this "hi, I'll do stuff immediately when asked" thingy.
If you've been taken advantage of because of inability to say no to random shit and being a pushover then it really feels like you're regressing when doing a task immediately.
Another situation where it's just supremely annoying is when it's a pretty obvious next step like when you're cleaning the bathroom mirror and a person asks you to clean the toilet. I'd literally tell a flatmate I didn't feel like it even though I was seconds away from doing it.
If you don't want to do something, do you have to do it anyway unless you have an adult-sounding explanation for why? If people telling you to do things makes you not want to do them, does that make your feelings not valid?
Like Jesus people just STFU and let me fix it. I don't need to be on a 4 hour conference call about how to fix it with everybody in the company telling me the wrong thing to do...I need five minutes to concentrate and just fucking fix it.
The way I usually do it for people doing that to me is to do a loud confirmation like “Okay, you want me to do X on Y, I’m doing this based on your confirmation, which you gave after I shared my concerns.” Usually they’ll say yes, then I’ll do it and it’ll inevitably blows up on them and they stop bothering me.
Rinse and repeat for every new guy that wants to do that.
The teaser on Malcolm in the Middle where Hal gets home and the hall light is burned out. He gets a new lightbulb out of a closet and finds that the shelf it's on is loose. He gets a screwdriver to fix the shelf, and the drawer the screwdriver is in squeaks. To fix the squeak he goes to the garage for a can of WD40, but it's empty. He starts to go to the store for more WD40 but the car won't start. Lois leans into the garage and asks if he changed the bulb. Now with a major car repair in progress he says, "What does it look like I'm doing???"
I like it better when they know as well as I do that I don't know off the top of my head and need to check the exact same source of information that they could have
Autism has Pathological Demand Avoidance as a theorized category of symptoms. Being asked to do something, regardless of willingness, generates anxiety and a desire to avoid the request.
When I comment on a very specific detail of a post or a comment, and people go off on their hot-button topic and act like I was implying I'm against them. Like if I mention somebody's shoe is untied and I get accused of hating shoes, or socks, or get lectured on the history of knots and why I shouldn't hate knots. I mean jeez, do people actually read the material or just scan for trigger words?
Me: repairing the roof before it pisses it down, but despairing at things not going my way.
The wife: "You're tired. Leave it until tomorrow."
Me trying not to be sarcastic or angry: "It's goingggg to pisssss it down. It needs to be fixed today."
Wife: "Yeah, you are tired"
Me internally: BOOM
I know when I am tired. 98 times out of a 100 I'm the one who calls it quits when I've had enough.
Continually stating the obvious when I'm pissed off AND tired doesn't make the things that need to be finished magically go better. It just pisses me off even more.
There needs to be an idiom for this so you can to tell people to fuck off quickly in this situation. Like "mind your horse", or "said the fool to the tiller" or something
I used to think this same thing when I was younger. I would do a stupid thing, and then be told to, "grow up". and I would be like, "yeah, I'm doing that".
Order them around very bossily. Order them to do things they're already doing, already about to do, or have already been told by their actual boss to do.
Use responsibly, of course. Only on people who deserve to be fucked with.
IDK, I might have some kind of misphonia because the sound of people talking grates on my nerves. But like, a whole crowd of people not 1 on 1. That low roar murmur is agitating and I used to have nightmares where someone comes up to me and starts speaking, but all that comes out of their mouth is the sound of a large croud all talking at once.
I write a lot, and I can't stand passive voice (I'll fly to your house, ring the bell and kick you in the nuts), refering to something as 'the Project', and text that is not justified.
When somebody says something that is semantically meaningless or completely meaningless in context, I become so unimaginably angry and I will remember it for the rest of my life.
I still remember I was about 15 and a lady was walking her dog in the same sidewalk, and as she saw me she screamed "Come the otherway!" Like I was a threat.
I wasn't offended but just by the fact that this phrase makes no sense, and especially in that context, even if she meant "go the otherway" that still doesn't make sense. That just made me so angry that I wish I could just dropkick her right there.
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Ep1cFac3pa1m@lemmy.world · 116 pts · 65d
Worse: when I’m literally seconds away from doing it.
RustyShackleford@piefed.social · 23 pts · 65d
CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world · -45 pts · 65d
I don’t understand this mentality, acting like a toddler just makes you look really bad and makes people not like you… it’s ok to be annoyed by it but changing your behavior to look like an asshole will never make sense to me
Vegan_Joe@anarchist.nexus · 21 pts · 65d
Pretty sure they were being facetious
CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world · -14 pts · 65d
Except I know tons of people actually like this?
PancakesCantKillMe@lemmy.world · 42 pts · 65d
From what I understand it’s like robbing someone of their agency. Now they are doing the thing at the behest of another’s intent instead of their own free will. It’s a perfectly cromulent feeling for one to have. How it gets handled is another thing.
olafurp@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 65d
This guy gets it. Being asked to do something and doing it immediately creates this "hi, I'll do stuff immediately when asked" thingy.
If you've been taken advantage of because of inability to say no to random shit and being a pushover then it really feels like you're regressing when doing a task immediately.
Another situation where it's just supremely annoying is when it's a pretty obvious next step like when you're cleaning the bathroom mirror and a person asks you to clean the toilet. I'd literally tell a flatmate I didn't feel like it even though I was seconds away from doing it.
diabetic_porcupine@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 62d
Cromulent
Tonava@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 64d
slowmolaggins@thelemmy.club · 8 pts · 65d
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 65d
If you don't want to do something, do you have to do it anyway unless you have an adult-sounding explanation for why? If people telling you to do things makes you not want to do them, does that make your feelings not valid?
JasonDJ@lemmy.zip · 36 pts · 65d
Me on every fucking outage call at work.
Like Jesus people just STFU and let me fix it. I don't need to be on a 4 hour conference call about how to fix it with everybody in the company telling me the wrong thing to do...I need five minutes to concentrate and just fucking fix it.
sheogorath@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 65d
The way I usually do it for people doing that to me is to do a loud confirmation like “Okay, you want me to do X on Y, I’m doing this based on your confirmation, which you gave after I shared my concerns.” Usually they’ll say yes, then I’ll do it and it’ll inevitably blows up on them and they stop bothering me.
Rinse and repeat for every new guy that wants to do that.
LovableSidekick@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 65d
The teaser on Malcolm in the Middle where Hal gets home and the hall light is burned out. He gets a new lightbulb out of a closet and finds that the shelf it's on is loose. He gets a screwdriver to fix the shelf, and the drawer the screwdriver is in squeaks. To fix the squeak he goes to the garage for a can of WD40, but it's empty. He starts to go to the store for more WD40 but the car won't start. Lois leans into the garage and asks if he changed the bulb. Now with a major car repair in progress he says, "What does it look like I'm doing???"
Adulated_Aspersion@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 64d
This entire bit lives rent-free in my head. I literally think of it once per month or more.
Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 65d
Not weird to be angry about that.
But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 65d
Here’s one my supervisor does often, bitching at me about something from two weeks ago that’s already done and over.
“This hasn’t been done!”
“Yeah it has, go look”
“Well it wasn’t done two weeks ago when I checked”
“Wtf”
Landless2029@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 65d
Boss: Is X done yet?
Me: Did you check the ticket?
Boss: don't you know?
Me: Update would be in the ticket.
Boss: well check and let me know
Spoiler: it was done and noted as such two days prior.
mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 65d
I like it better when they know as well as I do that I don't know off the top of my head and need to check the exact same source of information that they could have
HorikBrun@kbin.earth · 13 pts · 65d
I will stop, drop, and walk away slowly, all while maintaining eye contact.
chuckleslord@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 65d
Autism has Pathological Demand Avoidance as a theorized category of symptoms. Being asked to do something, regardless of willingness, generates anxiety and a desire to avoid the request.
LovableSidekick@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 65d
When I comment on a very specific detail of a post or a comment, and people go off on their hot-button topic and act like I was implying I'm against them. Like if I mention somebody's shoe is untied and I get accused of hating shoes, or socks, or get lectured on the history of knots and why I shouldn't hate knots. I mean jeez, do people actually read the material or just scan for trigger words?
D_C@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 65d
Me: repairing the roof before it pisses it down, but despairing at things not going my way.
The wife: "You're tired. Leave it until tomorrow."
Me trying not to be sarcastic or angry: "It's goingggg to pisssss it down. It needs to be fixed today."
Wife: "Yeah, you are tired"
Me internally: BOOM
I know when I am tired. 98 times out of a 100 I'm the one who calls it quits when I've had enough.
Continually stating the obvious when I'm pissed off AND tired doesn't make the things that need to be finished magically go better. It just pisses me off even more.
RadioEthiopiate@lemmy.zip · 7 pts · 64d
Missus: Have you done the litters?
Me standing over the litterbox with a garbage bag in my hand: ...
_lilith@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 65d
There needs to be an idiom for this so you can to tell people to fuck off quickly in this situation. Like "mind your horse", or "said the fool to the tiller" or something
smeenz@lemmy.nz · 7 pts · 65d
A gorilla in the hand is worth two horses.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 64d
"Don't stick your finger in another man's beans."
GiveOver@feddit.uk · 1 pts · 64d
Don't whip a horse that's already sprinting
HotDog7@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 65d
It has a name: Reactance
dismay3915@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 65d
If I'm having a heated debate/talk witg someone and someone just chimes in, I literally become a raging gorilla.
solidheron@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 65d
That's weird? I thought people were being annoying when they do that
SarahValentine@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 65d
Hey, you. Read these comments.
Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 65d
No! You can't make me! Wait... Damn!
Aceticon@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 65d
Trillioniares!
FanciestPants@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 65d
I used to think this same thing when I was younger. I would do a stupid thing, and then be told to, "grow up". and I would be like, "yeah, I'm doing that".
OwOarchist@pawb.social · 3 pts · 65d
Great way to fuck with people, though.
Order them around very bossily. Order them to do things they're already doing, already about to do, or have already been told by their actual boss to do.
Use responsibly, of course. Only on people who deserve to be fucked with.
LovableSidekick@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 65d
This of course requires people to appoint themselves as the judge of who deserves to be fucked with, which automatically puts oneself in that group.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 64d
Now you're doing it.
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 3 pts · 65d
IDK, I might have some kind of misphonia because the sound of people talking grates on my nerves. But like, a whole crowd of people not 1 on 1. That low roar murmur is agitating and I used to have nightmares where someone comes up to me and starts speaking, but all that comes out of their mouth is the sound of a large croud all talking at once.
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 65d
I don't get it. They didn't have an answer, so they just gave a completely normal thing that makes them angry, instead?
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 65d
Normalist Thing
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 65d
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 65d
I write a lot, and I can't stand passive voice (I'll fly to your house, ring the bell and kick you in the nuts), refering to something as 'the Project', and text that is not justified.
dismay3915@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 65d
When somebody says something that is semantically meaningless or completely meaningless in context, I become so unimaginably angry and I will remember it for the rest of my life.
I still remember I was about 15 and a lady was walking her dog in the same sidewalk, and as she saw me she screamed "Come the otherway!" Like I was a threat. I wasn't offended but just by the fact that this phrase makes no sense, and especially in that context, even if she meant "go the otherway" that still doesn't make sense. That just made me so angry that I wish I could just dropkick her right there.
Jarix@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 65d
Absolutely not weird in any way whatsoever