I would dress like a kid if they made the cool kids designs in large adult sizes. They have all the best shit. The mens section is a sea of drab, lifeless bullshit. How come we don't get head-to-toe Spongebob outfits? It's not fair.
I'm the exact opposite. Always have been. Everyone has always tried to get me to, "Find my style," bitch please! My style is nice and boring no design heather gray, solid black, forest green and gray t-shirts with a pocket, pain black relaxed fit wrangler jeans or cargo shorts that go below the knee for biking or to longer events that I don't want to feel the wind on my knees or exposed in.
Also, when you bike as a dude when you wear something like 6" to 8" inseam for shorts, you're gonna either be wearing something skin tight where your balls are up against the shorts and I've always wondered if there's a sports cup at play or feel like you're wearing boxers. Maybe that's just me. 10" inseam is the shortest I can go and yeah I know I have autism but I can't relax with anything shorter.
Then there's the whole crew vs quarter cut for men and if you wear ankle cut as a dude in the summer you have a sick obsession with enjoying blisters. Anytime really, like fuckin' shit ankle cut socks are SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quarter Cut Socks especially dickies are the fucking best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you wear crew cut socks in the summer with shorts you piss me off because I get the comfort at home but out in public, it looks so fuckin' stupid.
I've worn 5" inseam running shorts for mountain biking sometimes. It's not so bad bus sometimes you bounce your knee/thigh off the top tube and that can leave a bruise. I usually wear 7" inseam tho.
There are some cycling bibs that have better ball comfort, they will excentuate your package.
I wear colorful men's clothes. Fun designs on things like short sleeve button shirts in the summer (Hawaiian shirts and similar things), fun sweaters in the winter.
Even my office wear usually has a splash of personality, with the amount of subtlety appropriate for the setting: suits or jackets with interesting textures and weave patterns, neckties with interesting designs, a bright color on my socks. Some settings allow for a bit more expression, and other choices can be more adventurous if you prefer, including intentionally contrasting choices in glasses, watches, shoes, other accessories. Even a pair of headphones can be a fashion accessory, although it is true that women seem to be able to pull that off better.
I mean, SpongeBob's outfit is khaki shorts, a black belt, high white socks, a white short sleeve button down, and a tie. The men's section absolutely has all of that.
To clarify, I mean a Spongebob themed outfit. Graphic T, graphic pants, themed shoes and socks. I see a lot of these complete outfit sets in the kids section and I'm always kinda jealous.
Ah. There are few things I want to wear less than clothes with graphics on them. Gimme plain, practical clothes in solid colors all day every day. The duality of neurospicy man I suppose.
That's not true. You don't need to mimic the model you can buy the clothes, try them on and see if you like them on you. If you don't send them back. The best pair of shorts I have is modelled by an Asian dude and he's like an ordinary looking individual and then those pants are the same as I have and they're modelled by that guy.
Skin tone, height and body type is what you should be focusing on for a comparison. Trying to mimic a model, will always leave you feeling discouraged. Also if you know what already looks good on you, roll with that and do variations and shit. That's a style right there. I can do plain and boring but I can wear a button up and a slim cut pair of jeans with a regualr nice shirt.
I can wear anythig that I think looks good on me. That's not confidence (or autism), it's just I have a renewed sense of fuck it all in life and why the fuck should I care what anyone thinks about how I look? If it looks good to me, feels good to me and fits well, ☝🏻 while also not making people around me uncomfortable, then I'm gonna wear it. And you can do the same homie.
Oh I like the way I dress. I make an effort to look my best but Im saying that they use models to make the clothes as appealing as they can. It was mostly a self-depricating joke.
My mild take is that there's nothing wrong with that outfit.
You could probably do a non-tshirt top, like a breezy short sleeve button down or more relaxed top. Maybe non khaki colored shorts, but it's fine as is.
Browse through the summer look book of a designer you like. Ralph Lauren, or maybe Drakes are pretty inoffensive and safe bets for a classic look. Both are expensive brands, but you're only buying inspiration anyway.
My own personal advice, for what it's worth. Not inclusive of all social situations, but...
If they're long pants, they're linen. If they're short pants, shorter inseams look a little more fashionable than knee length cargo shorts.
If they're long sleeves, they're linen. If they're short sleeves, then something that has a collar.
Shoes are of the boat variety, or sandals.
My uncle says men should never show their bare legs or feet in public, though you should probably decide that for yourself.
I look at women and they're so well dressed in so many different and interesting styles. When i look at men they are dressed very plain usually "badly dressed" the ones the are well dressed rarely have an interesting style.
I am thinking more about clothes these days because I want a dress style that i find interesting and I struggle to find the mens equivalent what I see in womens clothing.
Ive never gone to a clothing store and seen wizard robes or anything cool. Never seen a cape, never seen a pirate shirt.
I live where we have 3 seasons of summer and about 1.5 months of hoodie weather. There was a freeze and actual snow! spouse took a hoodie, other ones were dirty. I took my wool blanket, folded it in half, and used 3 safety pins to hold it in my shoulders. It looked like this
But in dark gray with sweater, jeans, and my tan work boots. I felt damn cool and people were checking me out. Live your dreams!
It's an interesting phenomenon, because throughout most of human history it was men who wore (if they could) flamboyant outfits, while women tended to be more demurely dressed. Sexually dimorphic species (ducks, peacocks, etc.) are often similar, with males having vibrant colours. What changed, and why? I'm sure some sociologist has thought of an answer.
I think the reason is as simple as flamboyant outfits being easily available.
Two hundred years ago, a flamboyant outfit indicated you did minimum manual work. As that'd destroy the drip, and it was also quite expensive. While commoners would wear often brown/grey work outfits.
It's the same reasons for why it used to be in to be white/pale, as that indicated you'd stay inside all day rather than working the fields. Now it's in to be tan, as that indicates you're able to sunbath rather than work in an office all day long
I think there's also a factor of WW1 and 2, even well into the depression it wasn't too uncommon for men to wear somewhat colorful clothes but after WW2 it seems that the only folks using color were pimps and hippies. From there it was simply a matter of industrial clothing not really giving folks an option.
Wisdom Kaye is a male model and he does great videos exploring a more diverse perspective on men's fashion. It may not be exactly what I looking for, but it's definitely a fresh new perspective compared to what I see in day to day male fashion.
I'm not a fashionista or anything, but I think it's more about finding your style and finding your fit within your style. Feeling good about your look is more important than it working for you in my opinion. The easiest upgrade with the most impact is generally tshirt to some other kind of top, but his looks are often a little more involved than top+bottom. He does have the traditional model aesthetic of tall and thin, but I think his tips and general style could be incorporated by anyone.
Sure but like he said there's the whole availability aspect. You go to a kohls, or a Walmart, goodwill even, you'll see a load of different styles for women. Men get t shirts, shorts, and maybe a jacket
I'm not suggesting men and women have equal access to equivalent style variety, but it seems like they are saying in part that men don't have "interesting style" options. I recommended watching his stuff because he often wears skirts or dresses or womenswear cuts to get a shape less common in menswear that the commenter might like and be able to mimic. He does whole videos of thrifted fits too. Also lots of general styling tips for men to spice up an otherwise plain look.
I'm not disagreeing with him, just trying to help with the resources I know of. Not really sure what your comment is getting at because I didn't suggest anything other than a possible point of influence that it seems like you aren't familiar with.
I get a decent chunk of clothes in the women's section: shorts, pants, sweaters ... They have better shaping, though it takes some searching for good fottong stuff.
But also, a french tuck can really add life to a formless men's sweater or shirt.
No, its that person who can't read social signs or body language at all... :)
I think it's charming though. Everyone here has a right to be here and a right to be treated well by others. But that also means to tell autistic people how not to make others uncomfortable, if they don't know how.
88 Comments
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 106 pts · 27d
Men could look exactly like the left one if people just stopped crying about it.
protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 24 pts · 26d
vice versa
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 26d
Love me a woman who goes hiking with me
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 26d
BeMoreCareful@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 26d
It's going to get so hot, we may end up needing to rethink some things.
man_wtfhappenedtoyou@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 26d
You bring up a very good point.
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 26d
My ratios are pretty off to look exactly like the left. Body hair, too.
nonfuinoncuro@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 26d
psh just lacking effort bro beauty is pain
japemasterBrad@programming.dev · 1 pts · 25d
I reckon we all make a conserted effort, summer will be a breeze in that
riskiedingo@lemmy.world · 68 pts · 27d
NGL that’s a pretty cool shirt and cap tho
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 46 pts · 27d
I would dress like a kid if they made the cool kids designs in large adult sizes. They have all the best shit. The mens section is a sea of drab, lifeless bullshit. How come we don't get head-to-toe Spongebob outfits? It's not fair.
Colonel_Panic_@eviltoast.org · 21 pts · 26d
You showing up to work:
Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 26d
Wtf happen to his nose
StupidBrotherInLaw@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 26d
I own this and it has made me a better person.
Simulation6@sopuli.xyz · 2 pts · 25d
Just how bad were you before you bought it?
StupidBrotherInLaw@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 25d
Fair to middling, but now my friends tell me I'm fabulous.
Hueristic_Autistic@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 26d
I'm the exact opposite. Always have been. Everyone has always tried to get me to, "Find my style," bitch please! My style is nice and boring no design heather gray, solid black, forest green and gray t-shirts with a pocket, pain black relaxed fit wrangler jeans or cargo shorts that go below the knee for biking or to longer events that I don't want to feel the wind on my knees or exposed in.
Also, when you bike as a dude when you wear something like 6" to 8" inseam for shorts, you're gonna either be wearing something skin tight where your balls are up against the shorts and I've always wondered if there's a sports cup at play or feel like you're wearing boxers. Maybe that's just me. 10" inseam is the shortest I can go and yeah I know I have autism but I can't relax with anything shorter.
Then there's the whole crew vs quarter cut for men and if you wear ankle cut as a dude in the summer you have a sick obsession with enjoying blisters. Anytime really, like fuckin' shit ankle cut socks are SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quarter Cut Socks especially dickies are the fucking best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you wear crew cut socks in the summer with shorts you piss me off because I get the comfort at home but out in public, it looks so fuckin' stupid.
agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 25d
I dress like a background character in a cartoon. Less time thinking about my outfit means more time to do literally anything else.
boonhet@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 25d
I have ADHD and it comes with decision paralysis
Which is why all my t-shirts are black and all my socks the same.
The only decision to make is shorts vs jeans. That decision gets made twice a year, in April and October pretty much
greedytacothief@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 26d
I've worn 5" inseam running shorts for mountain biking sometimes. It's not so bad bus sometimes you bounce your knee/thigh off the top tube and that can leave a bruise. I usually wear 7" inseam tho.
There are some cycling bibs that have better ball comfort, they will excentuate your package.
TwodogsFighting@lemdro.id · 3 pts · 26d
if a cycling bib doesnt have good ball comfort, it's not one you should wear tbh.
Unless you're into that sort of thing.
Sidenote, come to scotland, the land of it being socially acceptable for men to wear whatever they want, including kilts, dresses and cones as hats.
exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 26d
I wear colorful men's clothes. Fun designs on things like short sleeve button shirts in the summer (Hawaiian shirts and similar things), fun sweaters in the winter.
Even my office wear usually has a splash of personality, with the amount of subtlety appropriate for the setting: suits or jackets with interesting textures and weave patterns, neckties with interesting designs, a bright color on my socks. Some settings allow for a bit more expression, and other choices can be more adventurous if you prefer, including intentionally contrasting choices in glasses, watches, shoes, other accessories. Even a pair of headphones can be a fashion accessory, although it is true that women seem to be able to pull that off better.
agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 25d
I mean, SpongeBob's outfit is khaki shorts, a black belt, high white socks, a white short sleeve button down, and a tie. The men's section absolutely has all of that.
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 2 pts · 25d
To clarify, I mean a Spongebob themed outfit. Graphic T, graphic pants, themed shoes and socks. I see a lot of these complete outfit sets in the kids section and I'm always kinda jealous.
agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 25d
Ah. There are few things I want to wear less than clothes with graphics on them. Gimme plain, practical clothes in solid colors all day every day. The duality of neurospicy man I suppose.
pewpew@feddit.it · 29 pts · 26d
I unironically want the Autism t-shirt
flambonkscious@sh.itjust.works · 24 pts · 27d
Its a shame the metallica logo is so good...
blarghly@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 27d
Question: what is a less autism summer outfit for a guy?
Inb4 "You can also wear a summer dress" - no. I don't want to.
StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works · 29 pts · 27d
Look up boardwalk casual
Hoimo@ani.social · 14 pts · 26d
What, a shirt and khaki shorts? Or are the beautiful blond curls part of the outfit?
Kanda@reddthat.com · 16 pts · 26d
Gotta comply with rule no.1 to do the outfit
MousePotatoDoesStuff@piefed.social · 6 pts · 26d
Never talk about [DATA EXPUNGED]?
Kanda@reddthat.com · 6 pts · 26d
Always be [REDACTED]
OS2Warp@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 26d
Don’t forgot about rule no.2 as well.
Zarobi@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 26d
Welcome to men's fashion. It all boils down to top + pants and how well they fit on you. There's a reason fashion games all feature female characters
MousePotatoDoesStuff@piefed.social · 1 pts · 26d
Maybe add some kind of wide brim hat too? Helps with the sun, too
Hueristic_Autistic@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 26d
I'm more like
PlaidBaron@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 26d
This requires good looks is the problem.
Hueristic_Autistic@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 26d
That's not true. You don't need to mimic the model you can buy the clothes, try them on and see if you like them on you. If you don't send them back. The best pair of shorts I have is modelled by an Asian dude and he's like an ordinary looking individual and then those pants are the same as I have and they're modelled by that guy.
Skin tone, height and body type is what you should be focusing on for a comparison. Trying to mimic a model, will always leave you feeling discouraged. Also if you know what already looks good on you, roll with that and do variations and shit. That's a style right there. I can do plain and boring but I can wear a button up and a slim cut pair of jeans with a regualr nice shirt.
I can wear anythig that I think looks good on me. That's not confidence (or autism), it's just I have a renewed sense of fuck it all in life and why the fuck should I care what anyone thinks about how I look? If it looks good to me, feels good to me and fits well, ☝🏻 while also not making people around me uncomfortable, then I'm gonna wear it. And you can do the same homie.
PlaidBaron@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 26d
Oh I like the way I dress. I make an effort to look my best but Im saying that they use models to make the clothes as appealing as they can. It was mostly a self-depricating joke.
Hueristic_Autistic@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 26d
That was missed on my end. Sorry about that.
RidderSport@feddit.org · 14 pts · 27d
Linen shirts and trousers
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com · 8 pts · 27d
My mild take is that there's nothing wrong with that outfit.
You could probably do a non-tshirt top, like a breezy short sleeve button down or more relaxed top. Maybe non khaki colored shorts, but it's fine as is.
Tikiporch@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 27d
Browse through the summer look book of a designer you like. Ralph Lauren, or maybe Drakes are pretty inoffensive and safe bets for a classic look. Both are expensive brands, but you're only buying inspiration anyway.
My own personal advice, for what it's worth. Not inclusive of all social situations, but...
If they're long pants, they're linen. If they're short pants, shorter inseams look a little more fashionable than knee length cargo shorts.
If they're long sleeves, they're linen. If they're short sleeves, then something that has a collar.
Shoes are of the boat variety, or sandals.
My uncle says men should never show their bare legs or feet in public, though you should probably decide that for yourself.
mr_satan@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 27d
Bold of you to assume I've heard of any designer or even know what a summer look book is supposed to be (I guess the name is quite self explanatory).
harambe69@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 16 pts · 27d
As a man, I like this arrangement better than the other way around.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 26d
eestileib@sh.itjust.works · 15 pts · 26d
Nothing stopping y'all from dressing like the person on the left.
Return_of_Chippy@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 26d
My frame and lack of utility in the outfit is
pitiable_sandwich540@feddit.org · 6 pts · 26d
Yeah, doesnt have a single pocket.
usernamefactory@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 25d
Throw a utility belt on top, it’ll still look great.
japemasterBrad@programming.dev · 2 pts · 25d
Just whack a holster on and this'll be a sport lil number for the unsuspecting masses, I say go for it OP
zaphod@sopuli.xyz · 8 pts · 25d
But I want to dress like the one on the right :'(
eestileib@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 25d
Rock on!
JackbyDev@programming.dev · 3 pts · 25d
Reading this with a passion flower in my hair on my way to a tiki party.
Fedizen@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 26d
Need that hat
explodicle@sh.itjust.works · 19 pts · 26d
BigBrownBeaver@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 26d
What is this? Germany in 2026?
Fizz@lemmy.nz · 14 pts · 27d
I look at women and they're so well dressed in so many different and interesting styles. When i look at men they are dressed very plain usually "badly dressed" the ones the are well dressed rarely have an interesting style.
I am thinking more about clothes these days because I want a dress style that i find interesting and I struggle to find the mens equivalent what I see in womens clothing.
Ive never gone to a clothing store and seen wizard robes or anything cool. Never seen a cape, never seen a pirate shirt.
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 25 pts · 27d
No one stopping you from wearing a dress
Anyway
Can we normalize capes again?, like cmon! This is so cool:
YellowParenti@lemmy.wtf · 5 pts · 26d
I live where we have 3 seasons of summer and about 1.5 months of hoodie weather. There was a freeze and actual snow! spouse took a hoodie, other ones were dirty. I took my wool blanket, folded it in half, and used 3 safety pins to hold it in my shoulders. It looked like this
But in dark gray with sweater, jeans, and my tan work boots. I felt damn cool and people were checking me out. Live your dreams!
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 4 pts · 26d
That damn cool!
I am also gonna save the video for future referemce thx :3
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 4 pts · 26d
I like this, but you can be spotted a mile away.
Always wear a gillie suit.
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 7 pts · 26d
Uh i mean more as a daily thing to wear not for war or such
BlaestEgnen@feddit.dk · 3 pts · 26d
A summer cape, a pair of undies and nothing else?
umbrella@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 26d
you could probably get away with ponchos.
Hapankaali@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 27d
It's an interesting phenomenon, because throughout most of human history it was men who wore (if they could) flamboyant outfits, while women tended to be more demurely dressed. Sexually dimorphic species (ducks, peacocks, etc.) are often similar, with males having vibrant colours. What changed, and why? I'm sure some sociologist has thought of an answer.
Signed, plainly dressed man.
Colonel_Panic_@eviltoast.org · 15 pts · 26d
Be the change you want to see in the world!
Fizz@lemmy.nz · 1 pts · 26d
If I step outside looking like that im getting bashed 100%.
crank0271@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 25d
By whom, the peasants? A curse upon their houses.
Colonel_Panic_@eviltoast.org · 2 pts · 25d
If thou dost bringeth thy flute, thee canst play a vicious mockery tune at them.
SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip · 11 pts · 26d
Yep: The Great Male Renunciation
BlaestEgnen@feddit.dk · 7 pts · 26d
I think the reason is as simple as flamboyant outfits being easily available.
Two hundred years ago, a flamboyant outfit indicated you did minimum manual work. As that'd destroy the drip, and it was also quite expensive. While commoners would wear often brown/grey work outfits.
It's the same reasons for why it used to be in to be white/pale, as that indicated you'd stay inside all day rather than working the fields. Now it's in to be tan, as that indicates you're able to sunbath rather than work in an office all day long
vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 26d
I think there's also a factor of WW1 and 2, even well into the depression it wasn't too uncommon for men to wear somewhat colorful clothes but after WW2 it seems that the only folks using color were pimps and hippies. From there it was simply a matter of industrial clothing not really giving folks an option.
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com · 4 pts · 27d
Wisdom Kaye is a male model and he does great videos exploring a more diverse perspective on men's fashion. It may not be exactly what I looking for, but it's definitely a fresh new perspective compared to what I see in day to day male fashion.
glups@piefed.social · 3 pts · 26d
Would any of his outfits work on the orc body-type? Cuz that's more or less what I'm working with
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com · 1 pts · 26d
I'm not a fashionista or anything, but I think it's more about finding your style and finding your fit within your style. Feeling good about your look is more important than it working for you in my opinion. The easiest upgrade with the most impact is generally tshirt to some other kind of top, but his looks are often a little more involved than top+bottom. He does have the traditional model aesthetic of tall and thin, but I think his tips and general style could be incorporated by anyone.
StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 27d
Sure but like he said there's the whole availability aspect. You go to a kohls, or a Walmart, goodwill even, you'll see a load of different styles for women. Men get t shirts, shorts, and maybe a jacket
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com · 5 pts · 27d
I'm not suggesting men and women have equal access to equivalent style variety, but it seems like they are saying in part that men don't have "interesting style" options. I recommended watching his stuff because he often wears skirts or dresses or womenswear cuts to get a shape less common in menswear that the commenter might like and be able to mimic. He does whole videos of thrifted fits too. Also lots of general styling tips for men to spice up an otherwise plain look.
I'm not disagreeing with him, just trying to help with the resources I know of. Not really sure what your comment is getting at because I didn't suggest anything other than a possible point of influence that it seems like you aren't familiar with.
RecitalMatchbox@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 25d
I get a decent chunk of clothes in the women's section: shorts, pants, sweaters ... They have better shaping, though it takes some searching for good fottong stuff. But also, a french tuck can really add life to a formless men's sweater or shirt.
vaionko@sopuli.xyz · 12 pts · 26d
I want that shirt not gonna lie
AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space · 12 pts · 27d
Autism is anything expressing non-normative personality or interests.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 26d
Gonzako@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 26d
I'm on shorts and shirt rn :(
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 26d
1984@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 26d
No, its that person who can't read social signs or body language at all... :)
I think it's charming though. Everyone here has a right to be here and a right to be treated well by others. But that also means to tell autistic people how not to make others uncomfortable, if they don't know how.
deacon@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 27d
I look good.
I mean, I’m not like fashionable or anything, but I’m certainly not goofy.
Then why did I reply? - is a question I will be pondering thoughtfully and humbly for a bit.
wador@lemmy.zip · 7 pts · 26d
Where did you get the picture of me and my wife!?
Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org · 7 pts · 27d
Brod is looking dope.
Bluewing@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 26d
The shorts should be cargo shorts, and he should be wearing sandals with socks too.
Tollana1234567@lemmy.today · 6 pts · 26d
a warcraft 3 peon.
PumpkinSkink@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 26d
Work work.
jnod4@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 26d
MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 26d