And I mean skydiving. Risks are so much lower. The other three, everyone seems to have a story about an injury. In skydiving, everyone seems to know one dude at the drop zone that has a story of an injury.
Whenever I’m in there showering with my wife, it’s never fun, but it is important. Getting clean while discussing the impact of student loans on our budgets, worrying about politics, searching for hope, and drying off.
We come out better for it, but it’s nothing like what the movies suggest.
Was gonna say, my hubby and I shower together intending to get freaky but we end up talking about deep shit and bonding without a single sexual thing happening.
i've dated women who didn't want me to touch/kiss them ever outside of sex. it was weird. i can imagine that some people tolerate that behaviour and just have a partner who never touches them. i will say they all had massive control/anxiety issues in other areas of their life as well. I've also had partners who hated certain sex acts that seemed perfectly fun/normal to me.
a lot of people have very strict beliefs about the context in which touch should occur even with romantic partners. or consider touch to be 'dirty'
That's valid but also kind of sad. I've dated ace before so I get that some people just aren't wired for certain things. I but feel a little bad for people who can't even have nonsexual contact free of shame, but maybe there's a perspective I'm lacking. Just feels like shame should have no place in a relationship even if physical touch isn't present either.
I like being touched and touching, it's just horrible to try, or imagine trying, and then being rejected. What if I'm coming on too strong? What if they don't want to touch right now? What if they don't want to touch right now, or I'm actually smelly from a mild amount of sweat and they have to endure that because they don't want to tell me off but I haven't realized it, and now I'm subjecting them to unpleasantness that they feel obligated to endure?
Not all of that, but a whole lot of it is from being raised in... the American version of a Christian household.
These are the kind of parents who will spy on their kids, catch them masturbating, and then punish them harshly, tie it directly into their moral/spiritual validity as a person.
Puritanism is very much still alive and well.
It produces uptight, broken, neurotic people with those control and anxiety issues you mentioned.
I'm just curious if you know the answer: does the regulator attenuate the pressure downwards even if the overall pressure is below the target? Say the pressure at the spigot is 100 psi, but legally must be at 40psi, so the regulator attenuates it down to 40. If you divide it into the two shower heads, will the regulators simply attenuate it down to 40 psi, or cut it down to something like 20 psi?
Yeah, can anyone honestly claim they've never had lint from underwear in the crack? And I know after some heavy workouts I've needed to clean out sweaty flaked skin that's now become a gross film, just like you would on your neck or, as you said, the armpit.
My husband and I designed and (literally) built our own shower. It was a bitch, but worth it because it made us think about things like this. It's a nicely sized space split with a bath tub and shower. We've got a big waterfall shower head fixed at the center of the ceiling in the shower area, then a separate hosed shower head where one would normally place one. Then the other far end of the shower is slightly dryer with no direct water.
Kicks ass for having shower sex. Also great for just shower and/or bath time together to vent/chat in the middle of our work day.
My first time trying this it resulted in me holding her entire bodyweight up, spreadeagle in a corner of the glass shower frame while hammering away. We were both a tad concerned for the shower glass but continued anyway, and it was thankfully ok. 10/10 recommend.
Edit: lol the downvotes. Sorry, not everyone has such sad experiences in the shower with their partners.
Oh good, I get to be cold and horny and you get to wash yourself and tell me all about what your grandma told your mom over the weekend...imma get out and wait in the bed.
Dunno why, horniest GF I ever had, I can't keep up, but we get in the shower and it is purely platonic. We step out and WHAM, sexy times.
I guess I just don't get that. One of the primary things I do in the shower is step out of the stream so I can lather up and scrub. If the soap is constantly getting washed away, you're wasting the majority of it.
They is the dream, just a super dank shower and a on demand water heater slightly oversized. The rest of the place could be falling apart and smell like shit and I don't think I'd care.
92 Comments
ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 118 pts · 285d
the key is to wash each other, not just take turns showering yourselves….
although shower sex is a lot trickier and not worth it….
cRazi_man@europe.pub · 64 pts · 285d
The risk of falling and causing a serious head injury is the sexiest part though.
ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 16 pts · 285d
how do you do anything in life if you’re always afraid of such risks?
Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe · 10 pts · 285d
That's what makes it so much fun!
I mean, skydiving, base jumping, rock climbing skiing, etc, etc.
cRazi_man@europe.pub · 16 pts · 285d
I love base jumping sex! Gotta finish quick before we're too low to deploy parachutes!
P00ptart@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 285d
Get the squirrel suit!
fartographer@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 285d
They call that the "squirrel nut"
anomnom@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 284d
And the access is through the squirrel nut zipper.
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 284d
I watched some base jumpers. I gotta say, I know some folks can finish quick, but they're even beating bull riding times...
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 284d
One of those is not like the others :P
And I mean skydiving. Risks are so much lower. The other three, everyone seems to have a story about an injury. In skydiving, everyone seems to know one dude at the drop zone that has a story of an injury.
Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 157d
TachyonTele@piefed.social · 4 pts · 285d
Thanks. Now i have that fear too.
TimboSlice@discuss.online · 29 pts · 285d
Wet sex is dry sex
joelfromaus@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 284d
All I’ll say is; silicone based lubricant.
panda_abyss@lemmy.ca · 22 pts · 285d
It’s pretty fun until you water board yourself
NatakuNox@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 285d
Don't kink shame.
ButteryMonkey@piefed.social · 7 pts · 285d
It’s worth it if you have silicone lube.. sometimes..
BanMe@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 285d
For when you want to come out of the shower water repellent, also if that gets on the shower floor it's game over, someone's gonna break a spine
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 284d
Lol, I've sometimes wondered if my lube or my hair conditioner is more slippery. They both have caused some close calls in the shower.
ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 285d
well, i think being around the same height would help a lot….
Trainguyrom@reddthat.com · 3 pts · 284d
You're right about the first part, the trick for the second part is just to shift shower time to be foreplay
tanisnikana@lemmy.world · 85 pts · 285d
Whenever I’m in there showering with my wife, it’s never fun, but it is important. Getting clean while discussing the impact of student loans on our budgets, worrying about politics, searching for hope, and drying off.
We come out better for it, but it’s nothing like what the movies suggest.
UnculturedSwine@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 284d
Was gonna say, my hubby and I shower together intending to get freaky but we end up talking about deep shit and bonding without a single sexual thing happening.
sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz · 65 pts · 285d
Do ya'll not touch your partner? Wash they hair or sumthn. Jesus.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 42 pts · 285d
a lot of people don't.
i've dated women who didn't want me to touch/kiss them ever outside of sex. it was weird. i can imagine that some people tolerate that behaviour and just have a partner who never touches them. i will say they all had massive control/anxiety issues in other areas of their life as well. I've also had partners who hated certain sex acts that seemed perfectly fun/normal to me.
a lot of people have very strict beliefs about the context in which touch should occur even with romantic partners. or consider touch to be 'dirty'
sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz · 23 pts · 285d
That's valid but also kind of sad. I've dated ace before so I get that some people just aren't wired for certain things. I but feel a little bad for people who can't even have nonsexual contact free of shame, but maybe there's a perspective I'm lacking. Just feels like shame should have no place in a relationship even if physical touch isn't present either.
real_squids@sopuli.xyz · 25 pts · 285d
Some people just don't like being touched. Sometimes it's trauma, sometimes simple preference. It's not always about shame
dragonfucker@lemmy.nz · 9 pts · 285d
Sometimes it's autism. Touch is a lot of sensory.
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 284d
I like being touched and touching, it's just horrible to try, or imagine trying, and then being rejected. What if I'm coming on too strong? What if they don't want to touch right now? What if they don't want to touch right now, or I'm actually smelly from a mild amount of sweat and they have to endure that because they don't want to tell me off but I haven't realized it, and now I'm subjecting them to unpleasantness that they feel obligated to endure?
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 14 pts · 285d
Not all of that, but a whole lot of it is from being raised in... the American version of a Christian household.
These are the kind of parents who will spy on their kids, catch them masturbating, and then punish them harshly, tie it directly into their moral/spiritual validity as a person.
Puritanism is very much still alive and well.
It produces uptight, broken, neurotic people with those control and anxiety issues you mentioned.
kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 285d
Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world · 38 pts · 285d
Psythik@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 285d
Okay but how do you deal with your water pressure getting cut in half? Install a water heater pump?
Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 284d
Psythik@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 284d
Reason why I asked is because I've tried a dual showerhead before and it sucked ass. It was completely useless unless one of the nozzles was off.
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com · 1 pts · 284d
I'm just curious if you know the answer: does the regulator attenuate the pressure downwards even if the overall pressure is below the target? Say the pressure at the spigot is 100 psi, but legally must be at 40psi, so the regulator attenuates it down to 40. If you divide it into the two shower heads, will the regulators simply attenuate it down to 40 psi, or cut it down to something like 20 psi?
Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 284d
MonkRome@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 284d
The regulator and water pressure both impact flow rate. Though as they said, remove the regulator and it's unlikely to be an issue.
generic_computers@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 285d
My parents actually have this, or something like it! In the master bathroom shower, there were 2 shower heads with one on a hose!
Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 285d
RagingRobot@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 284d
How does this help you have sex?
Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 284d
JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 284d
titanicx@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 285d
I've wanted to do this for years, and could never find the right parts to name it work feasibley.
Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 284d
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 32 pts · 285d
saltnotsugar@lemmy.world · 29 pts · 285d
Mmmm yeah. Baby it’s like rubbing two wet balloons together.
MTK@lemmy.world · 26 pts · 285d
The other comments have stupid suggestions, the trick is that the one in the water pees on the other, that way no one stays cold.
garth@sh.itjust.works · 25 pts · 285d
Please look away for a moment while I wash my groin.
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 18 pts · 285d
My wife was horrified to discover I wash my ass crack with a face cloth.
How else do you get rid of the bits and pieces?
Montagge@lemmy.zip · 16 pts · 285d
A bidet
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 10 pts · 285d
I'm talking about the detritus that naturally builds up during the day.
notabot@piefed.social · 32 pts · 285d
That, especially combined with your username, paints a truely horrible mental image.
Now please excuse me while I find a spoon to physically remove the memory of that comment with.
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 15 pts · 285d
A good wash cloth works wonders.
TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 285d
I spread my ass and arch my back for water daddy
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 7 pts · 285d
Just remember that water daddy carved out the grand canyon.
ricecake@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 285d
I'll be honest, their comment didn't make me think shit nuggets and more dead skin cells, sweat and lint.
Even the cleanest butt isn't cleaner than an armpit.
Sidyctism2@discuss.tchncs.de · 2 pts · 284d
Words to live by
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 284d
Yeah, can anyone honestly claim they've never had lint from underwear in the crack? And I know after some heavy workouts I've needed to clean out sweaty flaked skin that's now become a gross film, just like you would on your neck or, as you said, the armpit.
OrganicMustard@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 285d
Trim your butt hair so it gets easily cleaned in the shower
kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 285d
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 3 pts · 285d
Not in my ass around my ass bud.
kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 284d
Montagge@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 285d
A bidet with good water pressure
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 6 pts · 285d
Pre-wash my ass before the shower?
Montagge@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 285d
Yes
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 5 pts · 285d
That's a poor use of water when a good scrub with the face cloth does wonders.
howrar@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 284d
I learned a new word today.
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raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 285d
Erm. You're in the shower. Use soap + your hands. Also there shouldn't be larger "bits" there if you wiped properly... Eww
redwattlebird@lemmings.world · 10 pts · 285d
Is the cloth's purpose only for your crack or is it a communal cloth? Like, was she using it as a face cloth before the discovery?
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world · 6 pts · 285d
After washing yes.
It's not like I have a dedicated crack cloth hanging from a nail in the bathroom it's one of the general service cloths.
redwattlebird@lemmings.world · 7 pts · 285d
I see...
absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz · 4 pts · 284d
This feels like a poop knife type situation.
moseschrute@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 284d
If you asked me yesterday what the opposite of using a bidet was, I would’ve said I have no idea. But now I know it’s whatever this person is doing
PrimeMinisterKeyes@leminal.space · 2 pts · 284d
I guessed your user name before I saw it.
TachyonTele@piefed.social · 2 pts · 285d
With her face.
ThePantser@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 285d
No, 🧐
sausager@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 285d
No, don't. In fact, wash it for me!
I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 285d
halfeatenpotato@sh.itjust.works · 24 pts · 284d
My husband and I designed and (literally) built our own shower. It was a bitch, but worth it because it made us think about things like this. It's a nicely sized space split with a bath tub and shower. We've got a big waterfall shower head fixed at the center of the ceiling in the shower area, then a separate hosed shower head where one would normally place one. Then the other far end of the shower is slightly dryer with no direct water.
Kicks ass for having shower sex. Also great for just shower and/or bath time together to vent/chat in the middle of our work day.
qarbone@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 284d
Nice work. I'd definitely have sex in your shower.
OldChicoAle@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 284d
That's super cool. Love the tile work.
Broadfern@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 285d
It’s the emotional intimacy, and sharing in something mundane together.
Not “sexy,” but can be comforting and special anyway.
Jojowski@sopuli.xyz · 16 pts · 285d
Wet skin fart noises galore
mushroommunk@lemmy.today · 12 pts · 285d
Y'all need a shower head with a detachable wand in the middle. Revolutionized showering together. We both get to shower at the same time
TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 285d
well someone is going to get pee'd on.
so you got that going for you..
FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 10 pts · 285d
Yeah, but that can happen anywhere at any time.
TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 285d
FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 8 pts · 285d
Alright babe, let me just finish this glass of water.
kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 9 pts · 285d
pulsewidth@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 284d
My first time trying this it resulted in me holding her entire bodyweight up, spreadeagle in a corner of the glass shower frame while hammering away. We were both a tad concerned for the shower glass but continued anyway, and it was thankfully ok. 10/10 recommend.
Edit: lol the downvotes. Sorry, not everyone has such sad experiences in the shower with their partners.
BallShapedMan@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 285d
If you get the chance go for the second shower head with a larger shower. We love ours even if it's just one of us using it.
Lupo@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 285d
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 285d
i've never had this issue when showering with another person. but then again i also am only showing with my partner for shower sex.
snooggums@piefed.world · 2 pts · 285d
Yeah, I have only had positive experiences with showering as a couple whether sex was involved or not.
Freefall@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 284d
Oh good, I get to be cold and horny and you get to wash yourself and tell me all about what your grandma told your mom over the weekend...imma get out and wait in the bed. Dunno why, horniest GF I ever had, I can't keep up, but we get in the shower and it is purely platonic. We step out and WHAM, sexy times.
shadowedcross@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 285d
The simple solution is to be rich enough that you can afford one of those shower room things that shower you from every possible angle.
Elgenzay@lemmy.ml · 7 pts · 285d
Ah yes, the answer to all my problems
Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 284d
I guess I just don't get that. One of the primary things I do in the shower is step out of the stream so I can lather up and scrub. If the soap is constantly getting washed away, you're wasting the majority of it.
ayyy@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 284d
If you can afford a shower room your soap budget is not an issue.
Madison420@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 285d
They is the dream, just a super dank shower and a on demand water heater slightly oversized. The rest of the place could be falling apart and smell like shit and I don't think I'd care.
Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 284d
Just get another shower wand attachment. Then you give one person the wand.