I work with a guy like this. Lead his icebreaker with "I don't understand people so don't expect me to interact with you."
He's the most brilliant person I've ever worked with. His knowledge is encyclopedic. He will show you how what you're asking is idiotic in as few words as is necessary. He has no fear of manager or customer.
It helps if your field of fucks is barren and you've none left to give. I really love it. My boss told me if I wanna go up in the hierarchy I'll need some diplomacy training to speak to higher ups and I'm like "do you really think I say those things by accident?!" :,D
I run my own company (a one man operation) contracting technology services primarily to a single business with occasional short contracts to other businesses. My main contract has been the same company for several years. I've gained enough trust to say a lot of really blunt shit to C levels.
That's the thing. A lot of them want someone to be blunt to them from time to time. If they don't have that they become unmoored from reality.
Wouldn't quite call this "gigachad" behavior, but it's good and healthy to not jump on literally anyone who offers, even if you aren't particularly interested. I suspect anon sees this as "gigachad" because they're steeped in manosphere/incel ideology (unsurprising for a 4chan user).
Definitely autistic, possibly including the woman.
In my experience whether or not autistic folks understand individuals they're much better at being civil. Particularly on anonymous platforms with minimal consequences like right hmya. The antithesis of course being those who only treat others with respect when there'd be consequences to not do so.
Yeah I don't associate being rude to someone that is awkwardly expressing an interest in you, cool, or alpha, or whatever the fuck gigachad is, it's just a dick move, that will make that person expressing interest lose confidence to ask out the next person, which is a problem in today's society more than ever with online dating kind of poisoning the well.
There is a nice way to say no, and autism is no excuse for not being nice there.
We don't know whether the guy already tried saying 'no' in a nice way, though. Sometimes people just don't get the hint, especially if one or both people in the interaction are neurodiverse.
I suppose that's true, but I know many people think their hints are obvious, when they aren't to a great many of us, at least in the moment after the fact we might realize someone hinted at us. People are dense at times, not just autists either. So maybe they thought they had been clear in their rejection of their attention but it wasn't picked up on?
I mean I have been hit on by people I've no interest in, and I've never been so rude. I've also asked people out and had them rudely say no when a more polite way would have been appreciated, and they might have thought hints were clear, but they weren't to me at all. And I'm not alone in being slow to take the hints, men in general are slow to get such hints by woman they are rather known for it as I understand it.
If she asked if she was annoying, she knew on some level.
When I was younger, I used to get so annoyed at hinting disinterest rather than outright stating it, but I eventually realized that if someone is interested and doesn't have barriers to getting involved, they won't be coy about it. If they are busy but otherwise interested in a date when asked, they'll usually say more than "I have plans that day", like "but I'm free on x day" or "maybe another time?" or "I'd love to go on a date with you but can't that specific time".
If they are evasive at all about it, they are either not interested in general and are just trying to be polite (NOT really for your sake, so don't start about how you'd rather they be clear, it's to protect themselves from the pieces of shit that get aggressive when they realize they don't have a chance), or they have other shit going on that complicates any interest (like it's hard for them to schedule a date ahead of time because they are already in a relationship and need a good excuse to get away for a date).
It is. It refers to things being held in special regard in social arrangements, to an religious extent. The autism discourse, with all the memes and such, does more often than not include a cult-like adherence to beliefs around certain behaviours that anyone could display, shifting focus away from the developmental aspects of autism which are very much real and to diagnostic markers that are less than well defined but are used in clinical settings like: trouble at work/school/kindergarten [Y/N], and certain things the hiveminds of the world latch onto. There I think of people regarding dislike of the "big" light as being an indicator for autism(???).
That's a very informal, essentially slang usage of the word. It's so informal that it's pointless to argue about whether it's even correct. At any rate better word could certainly have been chosen.
There are also civil and secular religions, so it still applies. Think about the way we fetishize democracy, long covid or mold exposure. Really interesting topic.
My tip: don't argue with people who know not even the terms they are attempting to criticize the use of.
+also they seem to be using a sockpuppet account to upvote themselves and write comments
People treat words like divine tangible streams of meaning when they’re just sounds we make
Completely unrelated, seems like you have a bug up your butt about something else. Also I'm pretty sure nobody thinks that either, sorry a prescriptivist upset you but that has no relation to what I said.
Sometimes i tell my girlfriend stories about weird people in my life and she's like: yeah, she was into your autistic ass. Nonono, she was doing this and that... Oh honey.
I am also above average in heights and looks. A girl would follow me around in high school and harass and make fun of me all the time while still trying to be my friend. I couldn't stand her at the time but in retrospect she was definitely crushing on me.
I am over 7 feet tall and have won several male beauty pageants. Throngs of of overaged women would break into the store next door at night in order to smell the very toilet paper that I may one day use. At the time it seemed frightening, but in retrospect it was pretty flattering
I stand just shy of 300 feet tall and my beard is made of tentacles. I speak smoothly the lost language of R'lyeh and let me tell you- there's plenty of fish in the sea
I on the other hand am extremely small. One time this ant wouldn't leave me alone and I had to yell "leave me alone aunt Becky!". Now I'm not invited to family picnics anymore.
She's extroverted and has some damage going on. Not nominal to chase people down and ask them if you're annoying. He's introverted and is already exhausted by her.
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Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world · 255 pts · 181d
I work with a guy like this. Lead his icebreaker with "I don't understand people so don't expect me to interact with you."
He's the most brilliant person I've ever worked with. His knowledge is encyclopedic. He will show you how what you're asking is idiotic in as few words as is necessary. He has no fear of manager or customer.
He has my eternal allegiance.
Bombastic@sopuli.xyz · 67 pts · 180d
Oh to be such a brave man
fibojoly@sh.itjust.works · 34 pts · 180d
It helps if your field of fucks is barren and you've none left to give. I really love it. My boss told me if I wanna go up in the hierarchy I'll need some diplomacy training to speak to higher ups and I'm like "do you really think I say those things by accident?!" :,D
TexasDrunk@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 179d
I run my own company (a one man operation) contracting technology services primarily to a single business with occasional short contracts to other businesses. My main contract has been the same company for several years. I've gained enough trust to say a lot of really blunt shit to C levels.
That's the thing. A lot of them want someone to be blunt to them from time to time. If they don't have that they become unmoored from reality.
felixwhynot@lemmy.world · 41 pts · 181d
We stan
baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.de · 5 pts · 180d
looking at the lyrics of that song, i would not exactly stan
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org · 5 pts · 180d
There's a song about the word stan?
doenietzomoeilijk@discuss.tchncs.de · 8 pts · 180d
Yes, there is, it's actually the trope namer!
rapchee@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 179d
today's lucky 10000!
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org · 2 pts · 179d
Yay!!!
TexasDrunk@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 181d
I would follow that man into hell.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 127 pts · 181d
Wouldn't quite call this "gigachad" behavior, but it's good and healthy to not jump on literally anyone who offers, even if you aren't particularly interested. I suspect anon sees this as "gigachad" because they're steeped in manosphere/incel ideology (unsurprising for a 4chan user).
Definitely autistic, possibly including the woman.
nagaram@startrek.website · 85 pts · 181d
Everyone in this green text is autistic.
NoSpotOfGround@lemmy.world · 30 pts · 181d
On this blessed day.
TheBat@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 181d
felbane@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 180d
On my blessed day.
JackFrostNCola@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 178d
Dolt
MehBlah@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 181d
Everyone on lemmy is autistic.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 180d
That's what makes it great
qualia@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 180d
In my experience whether or not autistic folks understand individuals they're much better at being civil. Particularly on anonymous platforms with minimal consequences like right hmya. The antithesis of course being those who only treat others with respect when there'd be consequences to not do so.
PS As a matter of record I hate you all.
Siethron@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 180d
village604@adultswim.fan · 3 pts · 180d
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 181d
If this is true, then you're almost certainly right.
ruuster13@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 181d
thiseveryhector@lemmy.today · 6 pts · 180d
Yeah I don't associate being rude to someone that is awkwardly expressing an interest in you, cool, or alpha, or whatever the fuck gigachad is, it's just a dick move, that will make that person expressing interest lose confidence to ask out the next person, which is a problem in today's society more than ever with online dating kind of poisoning the well.
There is a nice way to say no, and autism is no excuse for not being nice there.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 12 pts · 180d
We don't know whether the guy already tried saying 'no' in a nice way, though. Sometimes people just don't get the hint, especially if one or both people in the interaction are neurodiverse.
hector@lemmy.today · 0 pts · 180d
I suppose that's true, but I know many people think their hints are obvious, when they aren't to a great many of us, at least in the moment after the fact we might realize someone hinted at us. People are dense at times, not just autists either. So maybe they thought they had been clear in their rejection of their attention but it wasn't picked up on?
I mean I have been hit on by people I've no interest in, and I've never been so rude. I've also asked people out and had them rudely say no when a more polite way would have been appreciated, and they might have thought hints were clear, but they weren't to me at all. And I'm not alone in being slow to take the hints, men in general are slow to get such hints by woman they are rather known for it as I understand it.
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 180d
If she asked if she was annoying, she knew on some level.
When I was younger, I used to get so annoyed at hinting disinterest rather than outright stating it, but I eventually realized that if someone is interested and doesn't have barriers to getting involved, they won't be coy about it. If they are busy but otherwise interested in a date when asked, they'll usually say more than "I have plans that day", like "but I'm free on x day" or "maybe another time?" or "I'd love to go on a date with you but can't that specific time".
If they are evasive at all about it, they are either not interested in general and are just trying to be polite (NOT really for your sake, so don't start about how you'd rather they be clear, it's to protect themselves from the pieces of shit that get aggressive when they realize they don't have a chance), or they have other shit going on that complicates any interest (like it's hard for them to schedule a date ahead of time because they are already in a relationship and need a good excuse to get away for a date).
GalacticSushi@piefed.blahaj.zone · 78 pts · 181d
First line reminds me of office space
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 54 pts · 181d
They are both autistic.
silverneedle@lemmy.ca · 58 pts · 180d
I love how autism has become this fetishized thing that you slap onto all people operating outside of expected parameters.
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 38 pts · 180d
That’s exactly what I’d expect an autistic person to say.
abbotsbury@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 180d
I don't think that's what fetishized means.
silverneedle@lemmy.ca · 19 pts · 180d
It is. It refers to things being held in special regard in social arrangements, to an religious extent. The autism discourse, with all the memes and such, does more often than not include a cult-like adherence to beliefs around certain behaviours that anyone could display, shifting focus away from the developmental aspects of autism which are very much real and to diagnostic markers that are less than well defined but are used in clinical settings like: trouble at work/school/kindergarten [Y/N], and certain things the hiveminds of the world latch onto. There I think of people regarding dislike of the "big" light as being an indicator for autism(???).
Darkenfolk@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 180d
Makes one wonder if vampires are autistic.
Sadbutdru@sopuli.xyz · 2 pts · 179d
No, vampires have rabies.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 180d
Autistim is the new 'touched by god'.
jerkface@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 180d
That's a very informal, essentially slang usage of the word. It's so informal that it's pointless to argue about whether it's even correct. At any rate better word could certainly have been chosen.
silverneedle@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 180d
Huh?
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/fetishism
Entry 1. and 3., I don't think you know what you are talking about.
QDgwZjQYdfbnMdMNQ@lemmy.cafe · 2 pts · 179d
I think they're saying it's an informal use of the word autistic, not an informal use of the word fetishized.
silverneedle@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 179d
Could be. I'm too autistic to parse hahah
abbotsbury@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 180d
yeah, I don't think that applies here
silverneedle@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 180d
There are also civil and secular religions, so it still applies. Think about the way we fetishize democracy, long covid or mold exposure. Really interesting topic.
CopLoverBillionairefan@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 180d
jerkface@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 180d
Either you're using "literally" in a non-literal fashion, or you're using it to make your statement even more incorrect.
CopLoverBillionairefan@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 180d
silverneedle@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 180d
My tip: don't argue with people who know not even the terms they are attempting to criticize the use of. +also they seem to be using a sockpuppet account to upvote themselves and write comments
sukhmel@programming.dev · -2 pts · 180d
Maybe, making it as incorrect as possible serves to prove a point which makes statement phrased correctly for the goal in mind?
abbotsbury@lemmy.world · -2 pts · 180d
Literally not
Completely unrelated, seems like you have a bug up your butt about something else. Also I'm pretty sure nobody thinks that either, sorry a prescriptivist upset you but that has no relation to what I said.
CopLoverBillionairefan@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 180d
Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 10 pts · 180d
Everything is an autistic trait when you go looking for autistic traits.
Psionicsickness@reddthat.com · 3 pts · 180d
Ding ding ding, we have a winner!
selokichtli@lemmy.ml · 42 pts · 180d
I don't tknow the coworker, but OP is obviously GAY.
Kellenved@sh.itjust.works · 17 pts · 180d
OP is the coworker following the guy around. And they thought we wouldn’t notice smh my head
selokichtli@lemmy.ml · 7 pts · 180d
Totally in love and heartbroken. Bmh my heart too.
LodeMike@lemmy.today · 35 pts · 181d
Fake: woman interested in man
Gay: anon is jealous
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 181d
Ungay: anon is a woman too.
Completlely flips the script, doesn't it?
Zozano@aussie.zone · 17 pts · 180d
No, it's just gay with extra steps
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 180d
You must show your working
Zozano@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 180d
It's gymnastics more than math.
needanke@feddit.org · 14 pts · 181d
Regay: anon is jealous of the guy, because she has a crush on the women following him.
chunes@lemmy.world · 25 pts · 180d
I've been in this literal exact situation. If it hadn't happened 20 years ago I'd be worried this anon is talking about me
FatVegan@leminal.space · 24 pts · 180d
Sometimes i tell my girlfriend stories about weird people in my life and she's like: yeah, she was into your autistic ass. Nonono, she was doing this and that... Oh honey.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 180d
As an autistic woman who's usually attracted to others on the spectrum, I am worried anon is talking about me
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 7 pts · 180d
Same, I'm such a dumb fuck! Nothing Gigachad about that.
damnthefilibuster@lemmy.world · 25 pts · 181d
Gigachads don’t shout, do they?
Goatboy@lemmy.today · 12 pts · 180d
Or they only shout. No in between
YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 4 pts · 180d
I'M SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. YOUR DAD WAS A GREAT GUY!!!
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 179d
THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION TO THIS MATTER
endless_nameless@lemmy.world · 24 pts · 180d
Autism/Chad horseshoe theory
stiffyGlitch@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 180d
he's GAY.
HE'S LITERALLY GAY
Soulg@ani.social · 7 pts · 180d
Or just not into that particular girl
ronl2k@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 180d
Sounds like a man who knows what he likes and doesn't want social involvement with people he doesn't like. Why does that behavior have to have a name?
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 9 pts · 179d
Could simply not be interested?
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 179d
fake and gay
daggermoon@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 180d
Is this situation plausible?
YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today · 10 pts · 180d
Yes. I'm tall and conventionally good looking. Had almost the same situation happen to me, except for the shouting "yes" part.
Psythik@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 180d
I am also above average in heights and looks. A girl would follow me around in high school and harass and make fun of me all the time while still trying to be my friend. I couldn't stand her at the time but in retrospect she was definitely crushing on me.
tetris11@feddit.uk · 12 pts · 179d
I am over 7 feet tall and have won several male beauty pageants. Throngs of of overaged women would break into the store next door at night in order to smell the very toilet paper that I may one day use. At the time it seemed frightening, but in retrospect it was pretty flattering
Hadriscus@jlai.lu · 19 pts · 179d
I stand just shy of 300 feet tall and my beard is made of tentacles. I speak smoothly the lost language of R'lyeh and let me tell you- there's plenty of fish in the sea
ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 179d
I'm 12 miles tall and eat planets for fun. This crazy chick has followed me across half the galaxy on a surfboard and wont leave me alone.
Restaldt@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 179d
I am the concept of height itsself.
Everyone is obsessed with me.
johnyreeferseed@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 179d
I on the other hand am extremely small. One time this ant wouldn't leave me alone and I had to yell "leave me alone aunt Becky!". Now I'm not invited to family picnics anymore.
rumba@lemmy.zip · 7 pts · 179d
Absolutely.
She's extroverted and has some damage going on. Not nominal to chase people down and ask them if you're annoying. He's introverted and is already exhausted by her.
I've known a couple of women like that.
daggermoon@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 179d
Is it a red flag if she's chasing you down like that?
rumba@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 179d
If she's asking if he thinks she's annoying, that's a red flag. The fact that she ran down to his car to ask him, double.
But hey, two people with that same energy prob work well together, just not stares at wall guy :)
daggermoon@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 178d
So it wouldn't be a red flag if we have the same energy?
rumba@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 178d
Red flags indicate one person is incompatible with the other. There's no room for judgment.
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 180d
As opposed to inaudibly shouting
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 6 pts · 180d
An autistic gigachad, obviously.
Agent641@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 180d
Gigautist
rumba@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 179d
He's Neo from The Matrix, dodging bullets.
Vile_port_aloo@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 178d
Possibly his support worker? Maybe new one hasn't been hired yet!