not being able to experience a full-body-orgasm is just another example of the sad male reality.

Imagine your Limbs are shaking while orgasming. This is a fullbodyorgasm.

As far as i understand male people can only experience it anally, but even that requires training. Because it is so difficult to achieve, it feels impossible.

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Zwiebel@feddit.org · 76 pts · 114d (12 replies)

Prostate orgasms are really good tho

PSA You don't have to stick anything up your butt, you can massage it from the outside

superduperenigma@lemmy.world · 47 pts · 114d (1 reply)

PSA You don't have to stick anything up your butt, you can massage it from the outside

Quit being cowards.

HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 114d

not everyone enjoys the sensation

Frikisada@lemmy.world · 26 pts · 114d

It's much easier sticking things up there tho

Fisch@discuss.tchncs.de · 15 pts · 114d (4 replies)

PSA You don't have to stick anything up your butt, you can massage it from the outside

Wait what? How does that work?

Passerby6497@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 114d (1 reply)

The closest I've gotten is pushing on my taint when I'm close to enhance the feeling as I bust.

Zwiebel@feddit.org · 2 pts · 110d

Getting to orgasm purely from prostate stimulation is pretty hard to impossible, what you say sounds like what people mean by prostate orgasm

Town@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 114d

In my experience it doesn't work from the outside.

ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 114d

There's a secret button above the taint. You'll know you found it if it makes you wanna pee

juergen@feddit.org · 8 pts · 114d (1 reply)

Yeah, i mean that by anal orgasms.

But am i right that those prostata orgasms come closer to a fullbodyorgasm?

Zwiebel@feddit.org · 2 pts · 110d

I think, but I don't know what women can feel either xD

jownz@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 113d (1 reply)

If you can seriously do that, you might have an enlarged prostate and you need to get checked right away!

FooBarrington@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 113d

Last time I went, the doctor just told me "sick prostate bro" and then booped it

FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org · 61 pts · 114d

TIL: I often have a full body orgasm and not an anxiety attack.

Billy_fuccboi@lemmy.world · 48 pts · 114d (4 replies)

You can give them. That's the next best thing

StillAlive@piefed.world · 22 pts · 114d (3 replies)

No one wants them from me lmao

Billy_fuccboi@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 114d (2 replies)

Same lmao. Don't lose hope. We're all going to make it

StillAlive@piefed.world · 20 pts · 114d (1 reply)

Username doesn't check out??

Billy_fuccboi@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 114d

Username is a venture bros reference... So not really.

Dasus@lemmy.world · 40 pts · 114d (2 replies)

As far as i understand male people can only experience it anally, but even that requires training. Because it is so difficult to achieve, it feels impossible.

msage@programming.dev · 2 pts · 112d (1 reply)

Skill issue

Dasus@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 110d

Jyek@sh.itjust.works · 35 pts · 114d (19 replies)

Just like, do it though... It's not gay to pleasure yourself anally. It's also really amazing to have a partner brave enough to do it for you. Normalize pleasure. Destigmatize exploring your body.

blargh513@sh.itjust.works · 13 pts · 114d (18 replies)

It's fun until it's over. Then, poop. I mean, u can rinse your butthole out before you do stuff, but kinda takes the fun out of it. "Babe, hang on, I gotta give my rectum a drink, swish and spit".

Poppers are pretty damn close. Big, fat, LONG ringing orgasms that just keep echoing and you're not quite sure when they end. Brain damage inducing orgasms. I always enjoy rubbing one out, but now I rarely do it without poppers. I can have a little bottle rocket nut or I can have one of those big fucking rockets that thumps your chest when it explodes and sets off car alarms. I prefer the latter.

Trainguyrom@reddthat.com · 8 pts · 114d

It’s fun until it’s over. Then, poop. I mean, u can rinse your butthole out before you do stuff, but kinda takes the fun out of it.

Condoms help a ton with this! Like yeah still poop but it's literally on the spent thing you're already throwing away so just roll that shiz up and toss it!

quips@slrpnk.net · 7 pts · 114d (16 replies)

Nitrous from poppers is really bad for you bro. You are causing brain damage.

blargh513@sh.itjust.works · 8 pts · 114d (15 replies)

It isn't even processed in the brain. The NO that is left over after metabolism is moved through smooth muscles, not the brain. Anything that is not absorbed by smooth muscles is excreted after being filtered by the renal system in urine.

The main risk is hypoxia because once a body's iron is low enough (consumed by the chemical processes) hemoglobin can no longer bind to oxygen. Pretty easy to avoid. Don't be a twat by huffing endlessly and eat some spinach.

Don't spread misinformation.

quips@slrpnk.net · 10 pts · 114d (14 replies)

Repeated hypoxia absolutely causes brain damage my guy

Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml · -1 pts · 113d (13 replies)

Ignoring the part where the hypoxia is easily avoidable, probably because that's the part that makes you look stupid

quips@slrpnk.net · -1 pts · 113d (12 replies)

Unless you are getting medical grade nitrous which contains oxygen this is just not true.

blargh513@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 113d

Inhaled nitrous oxide is NOT the same chemical at all. Alkly nitrites are formed as a liquid and the vapors are what is inhaled. These are two entirely separate things.

Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml · -2 pts · 113d

You are wrong, hypoxia is easily avoidable even when using pure nitrous oxide with no added oxygen, just don't continuously inhale an uninterrupted stream of it or use it in an unventilated area, fucking duh. It takes a prohibitively massive dose at once to actually die of asphyxiation, or months of consistent heavy use to achieve long-term nerve damage from oxygen deprivation, which is why actual cases of either are extremely rare compared to rates of recreational usage.

OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world · 33 pts · 114d (2 replies)

A cum and a sneeze does me juuuuust fine

NightmareQueenJune@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 114d

The good old Snorgasm

Burninator05@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 114d

One step away from being a modern day Roland the Farter.

fleebleneeble@reddthat.com · 26 pts · 113d (1 reply)

I thought so too until I finally had my prostate properly dealt with. Mind blowing.

ivanafterall@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 113d

Had a girl do this to me. I was still skeptical even as she was doing it. Then I guess I wasn't.

HeroicBillyBishop@lemmy.ca · 25 pts · 113d (5 replies)

it's in yer bum

PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 113d

Can confirm. I got a vibrating plug where the head hits the perfect spot and my vision has gone blurry with an orgasm before.

DisgruntledGorillaGang@reddthat.com · 5 pts · 113d (3 replies)

That's just a myth to get guys to stick stuff up their bums. I've spent ages trying to find this magical spot and I'm telling you, it doesn't exist.

Holytimes@sh.itjust.works · 13 pts · 113d (2 replies)

It does exist, countless men and science all say it exists. Prostate induced orgasms arnt some myth.

DisgruntledGorillaGang@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 113d (1 reply)

I'll believe it when I see it.

LycanGalen@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 113d

I appreciate your covert strategy to get people to play with your butt.

SpankyDoodle@eviltoast.org · 21 pts · 114d

Training? Happened the first time I was pegged.

normacenva@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 19 pts · 114d (5 replies)

Maybe try Estrogen? Works wonders for that.

HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 114d (2 replies)

Indeed, and they also fucking lied my libido is WAY stronger than before

Holytimes@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 113d

Its basically a 50/50 crap shoot. It either kills it entirely or doubles down on it and then some.

With the rare expections of no change.

QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 114d

mine is just gone. literally near absolutely nothing now 🤷‍♀️

Soulg@ani.social · 5 pts · 113d (1 reply)

That's the problem though we want it without having to transition if we aren't trans

normacenva@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 112d

I'm just saying, I used to lament my "sad male reality" all the time. Then I realized I wasn't stuck there

UnPassive@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 113d (1 reply)

When you're approaching the final moments before orgasm, relax your gooch/bridge/perineum. You'll feel your approach instantly slow, but if you achieve orgasm anyway, it'll be MUCH stronger and longer. It sort of slows the build up down, and results in a bigger O. Should only add around 30 seconds of delay - we're not trying to edge all day. Sometimes riding the edge feels great, so stay there as long as you can, but make sure you fall over, instead of losing the orgasm.

I used to wonder why my orgasms felt so different every time, but now they're always really good. You might have to dance a few perineum flexes in, to get over the hill, but try to avoid many. 100% practice while masturbating while laying down. It's super hard to have a fully relaxed perineum while thrusting. Also, try to make sure you're really hard before relaxing your P muscles. Softer orgasms always are weaker for me.

Advanced users may find there is a muscle you can flex in kinda in opposition to flexing your P muscles, but I'm finding it hard to explain... So start with the basics.

QuincyPeck@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 112d

This guy jorks.

tkk13909@sopuli.xyz · 17 pts · 114d (1 reply)

Discovering prostate stimulation was probably the best thing to happen to me sexually.

HulkSmashBurgers@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 113d

Same for me.

Tollana1234567@lemmy.today · 14 pts · 113d (5 replies)

you can get full body euphoria from scratching eczematized spots during a flare up.

Dozzi92@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 113d

I got poison ivy pretty bad one time, and discovered that very hot water in the shower directly on the rash is one of the best things I've ever felt. And it also completely stops the itch for like 12h.

shneancy@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 113d

or scratching the right spot in your ear when it's very itchy

Holytimes@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 113d

Can confirm this. Peeling the flakes and doing a scratch scratch is 10/10

flandish@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 113d (1 reply)

or vigorously rubbing your nose while in the shower, itching your inner sinus. you bleed for a day or two later but..

Tollana1234567@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 112d

i have that but its not as pleasant as a dermatitis rash.

HulkSmashBurgers@reddthat.com · 14 pts · 114d (4 replies)

Not true (supposedly).

nsfw: https://superomethod.com/what-is-a-super-o

QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 12 pts · 114d

JigglySackles@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 111d

That site is a damn mess. That aside though, that whole process seems a little...much? I'm not sure what word to use here. I want to say silly or dippy, but those aren't exactly it. It reads like the creation of a placebo effect for those willing to do all those fanciful steps. Not trying to be mean or offensive so hopefully this isn't taken that way. Everything about it is just very aloof.

IzzyScissor@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 113d (1 reply)

Holy fuck - I finally found someone else talking about them. I can ONLY have these when I have sex with other people - the typical orgasm just doesn't happen. (Also vice versa, never had one alone) I've always called them my internal orgasms and have to have a fucking brief with whoever I'm about to sleep with to give them basically this run-down.

HulkSmashBurgers@reddthat.com · 2 pts · 113d

I've actually never had one of theose mythical super-o's the link talks about (full body, non-ejuculatory). Though I have had orgasms where prostate stim was involved and that feels fuckin' amazing.

bizarroland@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 114d (6 replies)

There is a male G spot that is not anus-adjacent.

It's right on the frenulum, right where the shaft of the penis connects to the head, at the bottom.

If you stimulate that area with one finger very gently you can experience a full body orgasm. You just have to be patient with yourself because it is a different level of stimulation. And it definitely takes the right mindset.

a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 113d

You willingly deprive yourself of butt stuff?

Master@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 113d

This is the only full body i've experienced. It feels like a warm wave building up and crashing over your entire body.

kinther@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 114d (3 replies)

You should wait a week in between orgasms to make it more successful. At least I think you are talking about the perineum area. Maybe its just me.

bizarroland@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 114d (2 replies)

This is not the perineum, this is the shaft. If you are standing and looking down at your penis at the head of your penis, then on the bottom side, at the point where the skin connects to the head, that's where the spot is.

Sorry, this is not safe for work, I'm not exactly sure how to blur it out in the Raccoon for Lemmy app.

The spot that I'm talking about is labeled as the fossa of frenum in this image.

https://www.timesnownews.com/health/is-the-male-g-spot-real-study-points-to-hidden-nerve-rich-area-article-153960430

stray@pawb.social · 6 pts · 113d (1 reply)

meatus

Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 113d

The ultimate Primus cover band name

Madu@fedinsfw.app · 13 pts · 113d (5 replies)

I really think that it's possible for some men to have them, from my own experience as I uncontrollably tremble and shake my whole body sometimes, and that what many people see as full body orgasms have been skewed, as with many other things, via porn. I almost exclusively watch solo female having real orgasms for porn and you have to wade through so much fake bullshit, it was so popular for several years with cam girls who just spasmed like those fucking flailing tube man things. There are only a few, very few, videos of real orgasms like that and thousands upon thousands of fake "ooh, someone donated X amount so now I magically and immediately have a full body orgasm and spasm around like I'm being tasered".

a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 113d (4 replies)

No shade, but it may be hormones. I was pretty shocked to hear how the trans body changes when hormones are applied. It is really easy to assume that some of those changes are more permanent.

shneancy@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 113d (1 reply)

i'm ftm and my orgasms stayed pretty much the same

a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 113d

I'm not shocked if homonal changes have multiple expressions.

Madu@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 112d (1 reply)

I'm not trans though... No idea what have you that idea. I'm a supporter and go to many pro-lgbtq demonstrations, and if I could have chosen a biological gender I'd choose female but I have never taken hormones or done anything other than wearing make-up, nail polish, dresses abd skirts a few times. I'm fully comfortable with my body and gender.

a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 111d

I didn't say you are. I was suggesting you may have a different hormonal make up than others.

Many of us do. I wouldn't survive without additional hormones at this point.

lightnsfw@reddthat.com · 10 pts · 113d

I've definitely had ones like that and I didn't have to do any butt stuff to do it.

Wereduck@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 112d

Estrogen did fucking wonders there Orgasms now are fucking mind blowing And long And I can sometimes do it more than once And the come down isn't a cliff anymore, more of a gradual descent

howdy@lemmy.ml · 10 pts · 114d (3 replies)

try smoking meth

TrickDacy@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 114d

No.

CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 114d

Not for the orgasm just as general life advice

QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 114d

this is what the over exaggerated drug programs warned me about

texture@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 113d

male here, yes you can.

Kolanaki@pawb.social · 8 pts · 114d

Where the hell do you get that? Main reason I love getting off from prostate stimulation is because it rocks my whole body. And, FYI: You can stimulate the prostate externally via the the perineum. You do not have to go anally, though it is easier.

Samskara@sh.itjust.works · 7 pts · 113d

There’s lots of tantric techniques you can learn to experience more intense orgasms.

a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 113d

It took well into our thirties for my wife and I to come to this realization. Fucking worthless sex education.

Strangely, "what parts of your body do you orgasm with?” is just something we forgot to ask each other over the years.

Crackhappy@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 114d

I actually don't really like having full body ones. They are far too intense. I usually get them when my wife and I orgasm together and they go on for often more than a minute.

gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de · 5 pts · 112d (2 replies)

it really has nothing to do with whether you're male or female but more with your state of mind and whether you can relax deeply enough. which many men can't because they're in a perpetual mental state of being tersed up and not relaxing. but that's a social issue, not a biological one.

Flagstaff@programming.dev · 3 pts · 112d (1 reply)

So what you're really saying is... Pile on the weed! 🌿

gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de · 1 pts · 110d

yeah and find a partner that you can relax around.

Drewid@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 114d (2 replies)

I can sometimes get it when my partner massages strange parts of my body. Try it out!

Minizarbi@jlai.lu · 8 pts · 114d (1 reply)

Can you lend me your partner then?

QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 114d

I also choose that guys wife

SleeplessCityLights@programming.dev · 5 pts · 114d

Use a wand instead of your finger, you will melt like an ice cube in an oven.

jerebear39@slrpnk.net · 5 pts · 112d

Well op, you very much can, but you gotta be willing to explore your boo-tay....

hayvan@piefed.world · 4 pts · 114d

Imagine having orgasm.

SharkAttak@kbin.melroy.org · 3 pts · 114d

What about this jerk I know, he's really just a big dick.

Furbag@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 112d

Male here, you totally can. I've had events where I had multiple orgasms back to back with no refractory as well as events with full body orgasms that make all my muscles twitch.

I don't know what the secret sauce is, I just try and enjoy the moment and I appreciate when I do get those rare extreme orgasms.

5ha99y@lemmus.org · 2 pts · 79d

On the other hand males don't have periods.

Tigeroovy@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 113d

Eh, still feels good.

vga@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 112d (1 reply)
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ICastFist@programming.dev · 1 pts · 111d

Point us to the right direction

Obnomus@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 112d

I'm a male and I need to onow full details op.

ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org · -1 pts · 112d

Biological sex isn't binary. There are various markers, most of which exist on a scale, and they correlate with each other and gender, weakly (height) or strongly (genitalia size). Sexual arousal by stimulation and over time is one of them.

These markers can change over time or with medical intervention generally known as gender-affirming therapy, which helps people who feel their gender and biological characteristics don't correlate enough.

Still, we use labels like "biologicaly male" as a shorthand for "the sex markers considered decisive by me or my culture correlate(d) with the male gender (at birth)" and for legacy reasons (some legal forms and people still ask about binary biological sex but I'm looking forward to this being abolished). Yes, as an ex-Christian I used to have the outdated view of gender too and it took me a while to learn all this (and arguably, I still have things to learn) but thankfully, I'm open to becoming a more accepting person and there are great free resources online.

Your meme is a bit reductive but no big deal, it's on par with the format and you've demonstrated openness to the nuance in the body text. Just trying to prevent people from correcting you rudely.

Edit: thinking about if "legacy" is a good descriptor of many people's understandong of gender, turns out pretty good − much like IPv6 is the modern standard but "legacy" IPv4 is still in wide use. When someone asks "What's your IP address?", you can supply them with IPv6, which provides extra nuance but is not as supported as IPv4, which on the other hand cannot cover the needs of more than 4 billion people. Some people refuse to learn hexadecimal and will refuse to connect while others are stuck in legacy systems that will not allow them to implement IPv6 (although they may have some levels of compassion, and will be ready to communicate via tunnelling protocols). While IPv6 covers everything one expects from IPv4 and much more and is arguably inevitable, the legacy is so deeply rooted in how we talk that it's really hard to replace and some ISPs try to indefinitely postpone the update. If you choose to bottle up and say your IPv4 address though, you might be missing out on genuine connection options if the other side also supports IPv6. (This analogy works better with languages which don't differentiate between "sex" and "gender" in one word and asking for pronouns instead is uncommon and/or impractical, like Czech.)

(My Czech pronouns are on-ten/něho-toho/němu-tomu/něj-toho/×-ty/něm-tom/ním-tím btw and nobody has ever asked for them.)

pH3ra@lemmy.ml · -2 pts · 114d (1 reply)

That's what heroin is for

TrickDacy@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 114d

No.